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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Me and my wife often talk about another man joining us for some bedroom fun it's something that really turns us on in the heat of the moment. With it being our first time we don't really want to do a hotel meet we would rather pluck up the courage and visit a swingers club. Now here is where my problem lies, when we are all horny and on the moment there is nothing more I would like than to see another man fuck my wife but when that moment has passed my wife still loves the thought of it whereas I not so much. I'm sure if we were to do it It would be a completely different story and I would get lost in the moment and really enjoy it. Has anyone got any advice on how to go about our first threesome and I would be interested to hear people's previous experience of their first time. Thanks guys.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West


"Me and my wife often talk about another man joining us for some bedroom fun it's something that really turns us on in the heat of the moment. With it being our first time we don't really want to do a hotel meet we would rather pluck up the courage and visit a swingers club. Now here is where my problem lies, when we are all horny and on the moment there is nothing more I would like than to see another man fuck my wife but when that moment has passed my wife still loves the thought of it whereas I not so much. I'm sure if we were to do it It would be a completely different story and I would get lost in the moment and really enjoy it. Has anyone got any advice on how to go about our first threesome and I would be interested to hear people's previous experience of their first time. Thanks guys. "

Sounds like you need to think things through a little more. Losing your mojo as soon as you have cum might make you behave inappropriately if your wife is still enjoying herself. There is no room for that kind of emotion in swinging and jealousy like that can lead to aggression. Not cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Head to a club, talk to folk, get comfortable and relaxed, find someone to play with it you feel it, don't if you don't

There should be no pressure to play if you're not feeling it, the only thing you have to loose by trying is the regret of not trying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a couples profile

(seeing your late 20's) unless you wife wants older guys from a swing club, your best best would be to find someone younger whilst on a regular night out, flirt, dance, be social and take it back to a hotel.

You have to like the guy enough (socially) to enjoy him joining you pleasuring your wife.

3somes have to work for all involved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We did make a couples profile but she asked me to remove it as she has a quite important job and didn't want to risk anyone from our home town seeing us or even more importantly her on here that's where we would visit a swingers club in a different town. She wants to play woth a older guy as I'm 29 and she is 43....quite the cougar.

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By *teed99Man
over a year ago

Kettering

If and when you are ready, visiting a swingers club can be a good way of mixing with like minded people without the pressure that a hotel or home meet may present.

At my usual club, Vanilla Alternative, some people may spend all evening just in the bar and lounge areas having a drink and chatting to others. For others, watching or just being watched may be all they want at that time. For those that may want to go further, there is never any pressure and visitors do their own thing in their own time.

Swingers clubs are not for everyone and especially if one half of a couple is not happy in that environment. On the other hand, thousands of people every week visit the wide range of swingers clubs in the UK and generally have a wonderful time socialising and playing with like minded in a safe place.

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By *urboTongue21Man
over a year ago

Walsall


"We did make a couples profile but she asked me to remove it as she has a quite important job and didn't want to risk anyone from our home town seeing us or even more importantly her on here that's where we would visit a swingers club in a different town. She wants to play woth a older guy as I'm 29 and she is 43....quite the cougar. "

Come up to the West Mids; you could visit Chameleons which would give you the opportunity to play on your own or with someone else in private as well as offering the social side of swinging; the alternative is making private arrangements with someone as you say for a hotel or house meet. I find that it is best for the lady to have the other guy first because then you are still in the mood/zone yourself and emotionally you are the endgame for her. Works for me, particularly visually and hearing the pleasure of the lady.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

I remember this feeling well! We have been on the scene for a decade now and I was the same..what if I just don't feel like it when I get there? I've got myself all dolled up and ready to roll, but then lose my mojo once in the club.

It took a while to figure this out for myself, despite people chatting to me about it. Basically, I treated my time in clubs like a night out. Where else could I sit in my skimpies around a bar with likeminded people, talking about stuff you couldn't do in your local. Once I took the pressure off myself and enjoyed the scene for the amazing social aspect it has, the 'horn' emerged and there was no stopping me.

Also if you treat your visit as a social, you won't be disappointed if you don't meet someone you like.

We became quite the exhibitionists and loved to play in front of others...this in itself can be very erotic and will do wonders for your confidence.

Baby steps is the way forward, communication at all times and remember that this is about the 2 of you, not anybody else...only play if you both want to.

Somebody earlier mentioned about the situation where you come too soon and then the moment is lost a little? Well again, we had this issue at first. We usually have a play before the club visit and I will make sure Jim has come before we leave...he is more likely to shag like a duracell bunny then without the fear of coming too soon!

You will love the scene as long as you both want it and talk at all times.

Good luck guys!

PS you have a fab club by you called The Lodge. Lovely people. I know you said you wanted to go out of the area, but an awful lot of people think the same! We have met more people that we know away from our area, than at local clubs!!! lol x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"We did make a couples profile but she asked me to remove it as she has a quite important job and didn't want to risk anyone from our home town seeing us or even more importantly her on here that's where we would visit a swingers club in a different town. She wants to play woth a older guy as I'm 29 and she is 43....quite the cougar. "

Don't put identifying pics up.

Don't meet people from your local area.

Simple.

Many couples have 'important jobs' and value privacy - yet manage to run a couples profile with no issues.

A profile that reads as a single will be viewed with suspicion and most likely ignored.

A

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I remember this feeling well! We have been on the scene for a decade now and I was the same..what if I just don't feel like it when I get there? I've got myself all dolled up and ready to roll, but then lose my mojo once in the club.

It took a while to figure this out for myself, despite people chatting to me about it. Basically, I treated my time in clubs like a night out. Where else could I sit in my skimpies around a bar with likeminded people, talking about stuff you couldn't do in your local. Once I took the pressure off myself and enjoyed the scene for the amazing social aspect it has, the 'horn' emerged and there was no stopping me.

Also if you treat your visit as a social, you won't be disappointed if you don't meet someone you like.

We became quite the exhibitionists and loved to play in front of others...this in itself can be very erotic and will do wonders for your confidence.

Baby steps is the way forward, communication at all times and remember that this is about the 2 of you, not anybody else...only play if you both want to.

Somebody earlier mentioned about the situation where you come too soon and then the moment is lost a little? Well again, we had this issue at first. We usually have a play before the club visit and I will make sure Jim has come before we leave...he is more likely to shag like a duracell bunny then without the fear of coming too soon!

You will love the scene as long as you both want it and talk at all times.

Good luck guys!

PS you have a fab club by you called The Lodge. Lovely people. I know you said you wanted to go out of the area, but an awful lot of people think the same! We have met more people that we know away from our area, than at local clubs!!! lol x"

Excellent advice. A club is definitely the way to go, you are not under any pressure to do anything you don't want to, and you can just leave without any hassle if you don't want to take things further.

Don't rush into anything, just enjoy the sexy atmosphere, maybe flirt a little, and see how things go.

Have fun

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