FabSwingers.com forum: Single guys in clubs

By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We would like to know what people think about single guys in clubs ????. Before we start we would like to say, we don't have a problem with guys and we have plenty who have become good friends. Xxx

This is the situations we are referring to....

Should clubs have more restrictions on single guys ????

We have seen this in many clubs up and down the country. Some single guys come into a club, grab a drink and a towel, then head straight off to the play areas and wait for couples or girls to come along , if the want to go to a room they have to run the gauntlet of single guys to get there and then turn around to find the room filling up with guys behind them, none of them making an effort to even talk. We see this so many times and it makes people choose to find a private room to get away from them.

Should clubs have rules where the guys are restricted in the play areas, or should the have set rooms where the guys have to go, and if couples or girls want the guys then they go to that room, ???? Guys can go in other rooms if people invited them along but the crowds of guys have to wait outside ????

What are people's thoughts, we would like to hear from everyone including single guys xxx

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By *earlyNipsCouple
over a year ago

St Neots

What club are you referring to?

We normally go to the Vanilla Alternative. While we've never yet been to a night with single guys, we may do so in the future (not for the guys, just timing) and as far as I know, they restrict their numbers to 10 or so, and vet them before they attend.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I personally go to clubs to meet and shag single men, the more the merrier. If a room I went into filled up with single guys I'd be very happy indeed.

If a club restricts or prevents single blokes from attending, I am unlikely to visit that club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't like the sound of the club you go to. I've been to a fair few and never experienced this. Most single men ive come across in clubs have been polite but then again if they aren't I have a voice and I'm not scared to say when people are out of order.

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We are referring to all clubs. We see behaviour like this everywhere, but we are not tarring all guys with the same brush, there are good guys out there, but it can get where a couple go in a room with a couple of guys and while they are busy do get surrounded by guys who think it's there right to join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are referring to all clubs. We see behaviour like this everywhere, but we are not tarring all guys with the same brush, there are good guys out there, but it can get where a couple go in a room with a couple of guys and while they are busy do get surrounded by guys who think it's there right to join in."

If you don't want single guys go on couple only nights.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If you don't want single guys go on couple only nights."

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

what about the husbands/partners, do they roam

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Wyrdwoman good for you girl xxxx what we are trying to understand is, would it be better if clubs had set areas for what you like to do , rather than guys filling all rooms and putting people off. Club need a good mix of coupled and singles to be successful but we know a lot of people who would not go to a club because they are afraid of getting swapped by single guys.

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

But if you want single guys but only one or two of them ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deanandjulie, the first time we met you guys we had indeed 'run the gauntlet'

we do only visit on couples nights now to dodge the single male assault course

maybe if there was a bit more of an invite only area or even an area purely for playing and not just watching, lots of the single guys are great blokes with good manners, but an odd few do generally put folk off at times, K&R X

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By *issBanterWoman
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I too go to clubs for he single guys, though most places I have been tend to have open play areas, rooms for couples an invited single guys only, and also private lockable rooms, so something for everyone, I am guessing as single guys tend to be paying more to get in, they are going to be looking harder for fun, its just the nature of swinging, most clubs have nights for couples only if they don't like all the single guys, like lady above said, for me more single guys the merrier,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had our first experience of a 'mixed' session. On the whole went really well and we certainly weren't hassled which I think is a concern for many.

Think we were both surprised that so many guys think closely 'hanging around' whilst wanking is likely to be what many couples will respond favourably too. Guessing it may work but mostly be a real turn off. Too much to expect an attempt at chat outside of the playrooms? Would it be any less risky to attempt a well placed observation while you're watching a couple play?

We imagine even those who get off on a wanking audience (yep, that would be us) don't want stony silence.

Our tip? If you're one of many guys it might be worth being the one with some social skills.

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

What if you want to attend a club and the only night you are able to go is singles night, say due to work or family ristrictions. But having to run the gauntlet is what's putting you off.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"What if you want to attend a club and the only night you are able to go is singles night, say due to work or family ristrictions. But having to run the gauntlet is what's putting you off. "

just report any bad behaviour.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I've seen of single guys in clubs, some work the room, mingle and flirt. Others do just as Dean and Julie said: Come in, strip off, wait upstairs.

I think hanging around outside playrooms could be seen as a little predatory, even if you are there for the single guys. I can imagine it would be off putting for new members, guys and girls, being shown round the place and seeing these men waiting.

If I ran my own club, I'd open the bar area for an hour before I opened the play areas. That way at least some time has been dedicated to socialising, although you would struggle to force people to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What if you want to attend a club and the only night you are able to go is singles night, say due to work or family ristrictions. But having to run the gauntlet is what's putting you off. "

We only attend on a sat and the whole being followed round like the pied piper has put us off of attending on a mixed night, we know that the single guys bring a lot of revenue to clubs, and its not fair to expect the guys to sit in the bar untill invited to play, maybe put more 'usher' type staff on to help the rules?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about it some more, I think the real problem you'll encounter is that, much like you cannot force anyone to play, you cannot force people to chat. Unless its some kind of swinger speed dating event!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been to our fair share of single guy nights and apart from a wandering hand had no problems. Yes you get the odd crowd around you when you start to play but as were not giving off the signal for them to join they soon lost interest. What did annoy me was if you got up to use the bar the guys would then swoop in and try their luck when the lady was on her own even though it was obvious we were a couple as they were watching from the start. Saddos

I think if the club is well run and has people making sure that everybody including couples play by the rules then you can't go far wrong.

Such a shame Libs don't do the single nights anymore as they were brilliant and very well run.

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By *easehotelCouple
over a year ago

huntingdon,Cambridgeshire

On Saturdays We have a guest list of 5 vetted guys who are only allowed down to the playrooms if invited by a couple It works really well.

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We visited a club in the midlands and right from the off we where followed around by some single guys, this did not bother us as we can handle ourselves but other people find it hard. Now if the club had and area for single guys then you can choose what you want, but we would assume the guys would get upset about being restricted despite the fact they are upsetting the couples ???

A recent incident the we witnessed was a single guy brushing past a lady and touching her, this upset the couple as the guy had not made any attempt to talk with them, he assumed because they was in a sex club, then that is what they where there for and he did not see that he had done anything wrong ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking about it some more, I think the real problem you'll encounter is that, much like you cannot force anyone to play, you cannot force people to chat. Unless its some kind of swinger speed dating event! "

Don't think it's about forcing anyone to chat, or do anything else. It's about suggesting what is a really poor style of interaction and highlighting what might be more successful. Better experience for all, as I'm sure at times couples would actually welcome a single male but are put off by the behaviour.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" Now if the club had and area for single guys then you can choose what you want, but we would assume the guys would get upset about being restricted despite the fact they are upsetting the couples ???

sorry if I am misreading that, but single guys would all stand in this area and the couples/females would take their pick of who they fancy ???

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We know a couple who love to have single guys, that's what there are into more than couples, but they get so pissed off with guys who think they are an easy shag, if the guys do not make an effort to at least introduce themselves and have a little chat, then the couple are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were in a club as a couple I would be very vocal about what I wanted. I'm not into giving subtle hints or signals. I'd have to open my mouth and say it's not a gang bang. I probably wouldn't be very liked in clubs

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By *heffieldbikerMan
over a year ago

sheffield

As a single guy I've often seen herds of men following couples around when it is clear that's not what they want. When this happens usually no single men get to play with them. I usually find that by backing off and chatting to couples away from the play rooms gives you a better chance of enjoying some playtime. But some men will never learn that respect and manners go a long way. They will just barge in and then complain when they go home disapointed.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

One club I've been to has a couples only room that single guys can go in if they have been invited by the couple, the other was open to all and I didn't notice any problems there, I have heard of a few clubs where it's like the OP says though and I would find it off putting, however like word woman says some wouldn't, if the club has enough play areas having one or two restricting single guys and the others open to all should keep everyone happy.

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

There are some good points in this thread. We don't just want to go to clubs on couples nights and we have had encounters (threesomes) with single guys without arranging a meet but I find that, say in an open area, I can't concentrate on having fun in a group of people we have brought together for a moresome if there is also a group of single men standing at arms length wanking under towels. I think it is a male thing as I feel I have to be defensive while my OH doesn't mind being watched.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry if I am misreading that, but single guys would all stand in this area and the couples/females would take their pick of who they fancy ???"

Imagine being the last to get picked or even not at all. Be like being back at school when you pick your side for football.

Would do wonders for your self esteem.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sorry if I am misreading that, but single guys would all stand in this area and the couples/females would take their pick of who they fancy ???

Imagine being the last to get picked or even not at all. Be like being back at school when you pick your side for football.

Would do wonders for your self esteem. "

I was thinking ancient Rome and selecting the slaves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of the variety of what people want, I think it's difficult for clubs as businesses to see who and how they should place restrictions / extra guidance upon.

Totally selfish people, not just single men, or really poor social skills do kill the mood a bit / put others off a little though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very true. But how readily would single guys accept this? Only they ask for profile advice all the time and never actually implement the improvements.

You can lead a horse to water...

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Why should it be down to the guys to go and chat? Why can't couples approach men to talk to? I don't often play with single men, but will often be seen chatting to them

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

give them ticket and use a tannoy system, could male number 15 step forward and lift his scrotum up.

please go back to your spot number 15, you have not been selected.

step forward number 14... pull your hair hard to ensure no toupee wearing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol fun how op didn't mention single women there, but yes I don't go to club, to expensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are happy with the single guys we have filtered out at clubs but have to say many have been scruffy looking unkempt and without social skills like holding a conversation.

Restricting numbers could be an answer but single guys don't do themselves any favours. Try chatting to ladies or couples first.

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By *teed99Man
over a year ago

Kettering

"What club are you referring to?

Having attended Vanilla Alternative almost every Friday night for the past couple of years, when single guys can visit, I can confirm that no more than 10 are booked in and often less than that actually turn up.

The bar and lounge areas, and later the massive hot tub, provide good opportunities for single guys to talk with couples and singles (of both sexes), before the serious play begins. There are a few of us regular male visitors who lead by example which new visitors seem to follow without any problem. I think that most couples that have been to VA's on a Friday night would say that the single guys are generally very respectful. Of course, there is very occasionally an exception but that is vary rare and often someone that has never been in a swinging club previously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should it be down to the guys to go and chat? Why can't couples approach men to talk to? I don't often play with single men, but will often be seen chatting to them"

As already pointed out in this thread, its the few single guys that try to mug anything without a penis that put a few ladies off, no one expects guys to stand to attention like puppets, but the few without manners do ruin it for the majority that behave, just like on here really, theres nowt worse than trying to speak to someone decent and being interrupted by ignorant folk

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Couldn't be bothered to read the whole thread - sorry - so this may have been said.

Many clubs have lockable private rooms where a couple can take guys they choose without being 'swamped'.

Many have couples only rooms.

Most have public play areas open to all.

Most have mixed nights and couples only nights.

Pretty sure the solutions to the problem of being followed or claims of 'too many guys' are already there in most venues should you choose to use them!

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"Couldn't be bothered to read the whole thread - sorry - so this may have been said.

Many clubs have lockable private rooms where a couple can take guys they choose without being 'swamped'.

Many have couples only rooms.

Most have public play areas open to all.

Most have mixed nights and couples only nights.

Pretty sure the solutions to the problem of being followed or claims of 'too many guys' are already there in most venues should you choose to use them!

too easy though A!

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By *now white1000Woman
over a year ago

York

I think part of the problem is down to simple etiquette, not so much the numbers of guys, but some guys simply being too pushy and expecting sex.

I had one guy recently jump on me and have his cock in my mouth before i could pre warn him that i still had an 'extra bit' between my legs, needless to say he soon jumped off and moved onto the lady next to me and he was most pissed off when that lady said no penetration

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its a toughie... because I think you run the risk of stigmatising and making 2nd class people of the good single guys who do go by saying... "oh you can go there.... but you can't go there" and to be honest.... a couples only playroom is fine.... a couples only social areas runs against everything I like because of the stigma!

but yes I have seen it in clubs where the men do hunt in semi-packs to the point where i think "that's intimidating!!!!"

and then you wonder why people so into couples only areas!!!

part of it is that people don't socialising and wander round patrolling the play areas like lost mute lambs!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other guys have put me off going to clubs.

Some of the pushy ones seem to have more luck, which isn't my style. If you are polite and try to start a conversation with some couples, I generally get a polite no thanks from the off.

And there is nothing more soul destroying than have some ego barge past you...

I can understand why couples avoid clubs that are bloke heavy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very true. But how readily would single guys accept this? Only they ask for profile advice all the time and never actually implement the improvements.

You can lead a horse to water..."

Fair point. Think many will keep doing what they're doing and moan about the results. Good many of those horses won't be getting anywhere near the water and just watching someone else have a drink. I think I might be stretching that analogy to breaking point

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Why should it be down to the guys to go and chat? Why can't couples approach men to talk to? I don't often play with single men, but will often be seen chatting to them

We had this the one and only time we visited our favorite club on a night that allowed single guys. Only we were a little past the speaking stage.

Fair one we thought, learnt our lesson, we won't go on those nights again. Only the last time we visited it was the male half of a couple that weren't getting any fun that decided to dive in... Literally.

I guess it comes down to manners of the individual but there are an awful lot of guys that don't do themselves any favors. We really like the idea of guys having to be invited into the play areas. As we did notice that a lot of space was taken by guys in the play areas just 'hoping' for some fun rather than actually having any. Which ment others that did actually want to play then couldn't.

Wont stop us persevering for those nights that are worth it

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By *reybearMan
over a year ago

medway

I find the single guys very entertaining, my wife and i were in a private room at eurekas with an invited guest. On finding the door locked one guy kept rattling the handle and knocking until I opened the door to tell him to do one... at which he went outside the building and climbed up to the window to ask again!

We actually took pity on him and let him watch, but only as it was hailing outside and we thought that showed commitment!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Why should it be down to the guys to go and chat? Why can't couples approach men to talk to? I don't often play with single men, but will often be seen chatting to them"

and this is a point i do make to couples as well.... i will hapilly talk to anyone in a club and there is no M.O behind it at all.... chat...leave.... or chat, chat a bit more

not every conversation is some sort of opening gambit to get into someones knickers... a general conversation is just that... nothing more....

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Some fantastic responses here guys, this is great. The main point here is to get peoples points of _iews about clubs and what they want. It is difficult for clubs to accom everyone's wants / needs, and what works in one club might not work in another.

We would like to hear from more single guys and there _iews

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Don't like the sound of the club you go to. I've been to a fair few and never experienced this. Most single men ive come across in clubs have been polite but then again if they aren't I have a voice and I'm not scared to say when people are out of order."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy who has been to clubs and parties I do think that people spend too much time looking to tar single men about one thing or another

If you don't want single men go on a couples only night ( there are no single men there )

Tell them that your not interested

If they persist inform a member of staff or host

Don't go to clubs

stop whinging as us single guys are just as annoyed about this as you are about us

Swinging is about fun variety exploration and oh yes fun !!!!!

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By *g99Couple
over a year ago

We've had this problem.

Most single guys are respectful. However there is nothing more annoying that wondering hands. People who think they can just touch you because of the surroundings.

Also guys who sit and wait for the male half to go to the bar or loo and they jump straight in trying to chat or sometimes just stair at you from a closer distance.

We sometimes can only attend mixed nights.

So we think the best idea on mixed nights would be a wristband system.

If you aren't there to play with single guys you have a colored wristband which shows no matter how much they touch, wank in your face or stare at. They aren't getting anywhere

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

"As a single guy who has been to clubs and parties I do think that people spend too much time looking to tar single men about one thing or another

If you don't want single men go on a couples only night ( there are no single men there )

Tell them that your not interested

If they persist inform a member of staff or host

Don't go to clubs

stop whinging as us single guys are just as annoyed about this as you are about us

Swinging is about fun variety exploration and oh yes fun !!!!!

We hear what your says but as a single guy, how would you deal with this problem ??? What rules / rooms should a club have to accom everyone's taste ????. Telling people not to go to a club on single guy night is not right, this may be the only night they can attend a club ??? And may be they want a single guy just not a crowd of guys trying to muscle in on the action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also its very interesting getting unwanted attention to a female thats attending with you....from a cpl that are not in her 'likes'.......

the couple will also pretend to like you(me)..until the next time when you are on your own(myself),and your suddenly not even interesting enough to chat to...

guys wanking in clubs..in an open playroom!!!!!!!!...not even touching the players..its within the rules, leave them be....use a room that is for couples only.

problem solved..stop moaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy who has been to clubs and parties I do think that people spend too much time looking to tar single men about one thing or another

If you don't want single men go on a couples only night ( there are no single men there )

Tell them that your not interested

If they persist inform a member of staff or host

Don't go to clubs

stop whinging as us single guys are just as annoyed about this as you are about us

Swinging is about fun variety exploration and oh yes fun !!!!!

As a single guy we don't have the option of any other nights

As to what to do I've already stated that you can say no

Report them

Clubs generally want our money and couples benefit by that but don't want to take responsibility after that

If men are not acting in a respectful manner then they should be asked to leave but this should and is generally the rule for everyone that attends

As for playroom rules

Each club is different but generally have the same etiquette

Men women and couples have watched while I play some couples have been as bad as single men some women are touchy feely some husbands are d*unk and obnoxious but most are true swingers having fun

The secret is if we are not happy walk away there are plenty of nice people to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

Also rude behaviour in clubs certainly isn't confined to single men! A single fem walked into a private room I was in at a club this weekend and ordered one of the two guys I was with to leave with her as she wanted to play! She was very rude when he declined!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

Xx"

was she hot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

was she hot?

Clearly not as hot as me or he'd have walked with her methinks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

was she hot?

Clearly not as hot as me or he'd have walked with her methinks!

hahaha..I thought she had wanted to play with U! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

was she hot?

Clearly not as hot as me or he'd have walked with her methinks!

Actually that's not nice of me! She was attractive actually - but probably too accustomed to gettibg who and what she wants!

The 'women are always in charge' ethos can create huge egos in the clubs just as it can on fab profiles - and it aint pretty! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single bloke ive been to a few clubs and find what you say is right and nothin wrong with a guest list providing its not always the same blokes bookin it up i wait to be invited to join in a play ill wait in the lounge area and chat to people dont often get a play but do enjoy the social side but to be honest id rather find someone to go with and go on a cpls night as not for it being cheeper but ive got someone to talk to and feel more comfortable i would not go to a club on a mixed night as seen what youve said but not in all clubs if fewer men where in clubs people may socialise more and maybe talk to someone they would not normally talk to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

was she hot?

Clearly not as hot as me or he'd have walked with her methinks!

Actually that's not nice of me! She was attractive actually - but probably too accustomed to gettibg who and what she wants!

The 'women are always in charge' ethos can create huge egos in the clubs just as it can on fab profiles - and it aint pretty! Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

was she hot?

Clearly not as hot as me or he'd have walked with her methinks!

Actually that's not nice of me! She was attractive actually - but probably too accustomed to gettibg who and what she wants!

The 'women are always in charge' ethos can create huge egos in the clubs just as it can on fab profiles - and it aint pretty! Xx"

I've just looked at your profile and pics

if she saw them she might have been more polite

Also I doubt she was hotter as you really are hot

I can't pm as I have no photos showing but would love to chat so of you would like to chat send me a pm and I'll send you a photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

Xx"

How rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

How rude! "

My sentiments exactly !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife and I play in quite a few clubs. Only every had one issue with one guy. He looked really embarrassed when the Tgirl in the pink micro skirt and heels pinned him to a wall.

Other than that we have had no issues with single guys and if they weren't there we wouldn't go. We're not there to play with couples, although we have with some really special ones.

Single guys are what we seek and the more the merrier. Straight or bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm now wondering how single women feel in this environment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm now wondering how single women feel in this environment "

Surrounded by horny men? ........ Lucky?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Never had any problems with single men; most are polite and respectful. In fact we stopped going to Liberty Elite when they restricted entry to couples and single women only. La Chambre copes with overenthusiastic single men by having "invitation only" rooms. This work well and the restriction is always respected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather go to a club with single guys cause I don't want to do couples and im not bi so won't play with women. So that's why I don't really like going to clubs. X

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Never had any problems with single men; most are polite and respectful. In fact we stopped going to Liberty Elite when they restricted entry to couples and single women only. La Chambre copes with overenthusiastic single men by having "invitation only" rooms. This work well and the restriction is always respected. "

Having some 'invitation only' rooms is the ideal answer, than everyone is happy and has options. Personally we prefer the dark room in Isis (which is open to all), we have never had any problems with single guys and we invite guys who are in there to play with 'A'. But we don't mind how many are in there, or how many want to watch or touch. The more the merrier!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would like to know what people think about single guys in clubs ????. Before we start we would like to say, we don't have a problem with guys and we have plenty who have become good friends. Xxx

This is the situations we are referring to....

Should clubs have more restrictions on single guys ????

What are people's thoughts, we would like to hear from everyone including single guys xxx"

Never been to club on account of this very scenario but Surely there are 100s of couples who enjoy anonymous "fuck'n'go" type guys and who enjoy the exhibitionism and attention of this sort of situation.

With respect - why should they be excluded to please someone else?

From what we read most clubs have couples only nights don't they?

Everyone can have what they want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience of clubs I think that men do follow the action, some are polite and some aren't, but whenever I move I have a trail of guys behind me....most off putting especially if you just need the little girls room lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different floors or rooms may be a good answer. As some people do enjoy different experiences on the same night but that doesn't mean to say they want 10 men banging on their door whilst enjoying a couple fir example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy who has been to clubs and parties I do think that people spend too much time looking to tar single men about one thing or another

If you don't want single men go on a couples only night ( there are no single men there )

Tell them that your not interested

If they persist inform a member of staff or host

Don't go to clubs

stop whinging as us single guys are just as annoyed about this as you are about us

Swinging is about fun variety exploration and oh yes fun !!!!!

The whole issue isnt about issues with single men its about men who cant behave correctly.

We like to play with couples and single men so prefer mixed nights but we do get put off by the male hunting packs that run from room to room as soon as a female or couple enter,no sooner we get on the bed they surround us towels whipped open cocks out ready so we just get up and leave,if we lock the door of a private room no one can enter.

If guys were more polite and just stand and watch and let the fun begin maybe as the couple become aroused they may get an invite but to jump straight in at the start is so off putting

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over a year ago

our one and only visit to a club lasted 2 hours.if j went to the empty sauna it soon filled,if she went to the spa it filled up,she couldnt even go for a widdle without being followed.And to cap it all off a cpl were having a 3some in one of the rooms and a fight broke out because one bloke was hogging the window and wouldnt let anybody watch.it was very off putting and it will a long time before we would consider it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy who has been to clubs and parties I do think that people spend too much time looking to tar single men about one thing or another

If you don't want single men go on a couples only night ( there are no single men there )

Tell them that your not interested

If they persist inform a member of staff or host

Don't go to clubs

stop whinging as us single guys are just as annoyed about this as you are about us

Swinging is about fun variety exploration and oh yes fun !!!!!

The whole issue isnt about issues with single men its about men who cant behave correctly.

If guys were more polite and just stand and watch and let the fun begin maybe as the couple become aroused they may get an invite but to jump straight in at the start is so off putting"

I totally agree

unfortunately there will always be rude people whether they are single men women or couples and we will meet them in all walks of life

Best to either be straight and sometimes blunt !!! Report them or avoid them

As for clubs !! They can only do so much and ultimately there not for everyone but the nice people make up the majority

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By *eanandJulie OP Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We think some people are not understanding this thread, we DONT have any problems with single guys, ( you could ask the two we treated on Sunday night to confirm this lol ) , and yes clubs do have private rooms and invite rooms. But one of the things we are trying to point out is that when guys are hanging round rooms or trying to join in uninvited this is cause people to use said rooms and therefore the guys are causing there own problem and ending up with no one to play with or watch.

From the responses we get here we are hoping to help everyone get the best out of a club on a mixed night. This is not just aimed at single guys, couples and ladies have just as much responcability here too. It is all about communication between everyone

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

I have been keeping an eye on this thread - you nailed it at the end Julie and Dean, it's all about communication.

I have done a few tours around LC's with a few newbies - I can't stress enough that is so important to actually chat to other people - this does not mean you are committed to play - just breaks the ice and makes you more confident to chat to others. If I did play with single guys (personally I prefer the ladies - lol) - I would not entertain the guys who made no effort to at least chat. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wanting to go to a club as a single guy. Will prob be pleasures as that is where I used to go as a couple but am really put off . Don't like the sound of loads of guys fighting to get a shag. Is that what it's like at clubs? I love sex but not sure it's worth the battle as think it could be quite a turn off

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Single guys get slated a lot which is a pity cause 99% are ok xx its the same as single girls too x x if we not intrested we just say no x x if you not want to be watched closed room but we love to be watched x x

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over a year ago

"I'm wanting to go to a club as a single guy. Will prob be pleasures as that is where I used to go as a couple but am really put off . Don't like the sound of loads of guys fighting to get a shag. Is that what it's like at clubs? I love sex but not sure it's worth the battle as think it could be quite a turn off"

Its not that there's loads fighting to get a shag, the discussion of tho thread was more that some dont put the work in beforehand by chatting to people, they just march straight to the play areas and hope to get involved

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

I've seen this at several clubs i have been to. It happened the last time i went to a club last year, and was part of the reason i haven't been back since. There were groups of male friends who came together and they followed the couples everywhere they went around the playrooms. I overheard some couples saying it had put them off and gives the decent single guys a bad name, especially the ones who are new to clubs or that club.

That said, it can be very hard work chatting to some couples at clubs, as even if you are prepared to engage in small talk, it's always the single guys who have to make the effort to chat. I've chatted and played with some really nice couples, but it can get disheartening when you try to make an effort to chat, and the couples body language is saying go away.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Just had our first experience of a 'mixed' session. On the whole went really well and we certainly weren't hassled which I think is a concern for many.

We imagine even those who get off on a wanking audience (yep, that would be us) don't want stony silence.

Our tip? If you're one of many guys it might be worth being the one with some social skills. "

Noted.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"What if you want to attend a club and the only night you are able to go is singles night, say due to work or family ristrictions. But having to run the gauntlet is what's putting you off. "

I think that puts you a slightly better position than if you are a single guy and want to attend a club but the only night you can make is a couples and single fems night. !!

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"From what I've seen of single guys in clubs, some work the room, mingle and flirt. Others do just as Dean and Julie said: Come in, strip off, wait upstairs.

Some do do that.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Can we remember most single guys are lovely and clubs would shut down very quickly without the substantial amount they pay to enter?

was she hot?

Clearly not as hot as me or he'd have walked with her methinks!

Not if you are actually the nicer person. And you're definitely pretty hot to. I've had a similar situation when I was the guy.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I like to think I'm a reasonably confident sort of guy and that I'm reasonably polite and at least reasonably good looking.

All that being said I've been to a number of clubs in London and round the North West. Some nights have been great but others have not. One club I went to I just got completely blanked by every couple I tried to talk to. And, at the time, it was quite soul destroying. I don't go to clubs with the expectation of anything but there is a reason why I'm going to the club and we all know well before hand what that is.

I know there are many bad mannered guys (not sure if you took the percentage there would really be that many more than bad mannered couples or single fems).

I personally don't see how it could work any different from the way it does. If I went to a club and there were whole sections I was not allowed to enter I simply would not go back there again (I don't mind private rooms and even an area for couples and invites only but not a whole floor or vast area).

Also the more rules you make the less spontaneous and exciting the whole experience is for every one. And it's the spontaneity and excitement that is the main attraction for me and I would guess many others including single fems and couples.

That's my £2 worth for what it's worth.

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over a year ago

"What if you want to attend a club and the only night you are able to go is singles night, say due to work or family ristrictions. But having to run the gauntlet is what's putting you off.

just report any bad behaviour....."

All rules of the club I use are made plain when new guys come in, the choice of joining in with couples is up to the Cole, if you are not ask then don't touch, if you only want a few guys, then choose who and shut the door?? This works well in bournemouth and seldom are people asked to leave. The locals even assist in stopping any mass or door hangers

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