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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we were at a club last Saturday lovely club welcomes all shapes and sizes everyone had made the effort, except one guy jeans ( which is fine by me they can look smart ) trainers and a scruffy polo. He looked like he had just walked out of b&q I never saw him get any attention all night. What is up with some fellas ?

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By *eritageMan
over a year ago

weston super mare

he was an idiot then, i always make the effort.

he would be sort of bloke that then moaned about club saying its a waist of money

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By *orneyloverMan
over a year ago

Boston

He probably told his wife he was helping a mate fix his car. Sounds like a right tosser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people's standards are higher than others, some have cleaner houses some wear cleaner clothes that's just how life is

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"we were at a club last Saturday lovely club welcomes all shapes and sizes everyone had made the effort, except one guy jeans ( which is fine by me they can look smart ) trainers and a scruffy polo. He looked like he had just walked out of b&q I never saw him get any attention all night. What is up with some fellas ?"

Some people like a bit of rough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we were at a club last Saturday lovely club welcomes all shapes and sizes everyone had made the effort, except one guy jeans ( which is fine by me they can look smart ) trainers and a scruffy polo. He looked like he had just walked out of b&q I never saw him get any attention all night. What is up with some fellas ?"

I agree that not everyone makes an effort...shame really...

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By *pice of life 79Man
over a year ago

lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham


"we were at a club last Saturday lovely club welcomes all shapes and sizes everyone had made the effort, except one guy jeans ( which is fine by me they can look smart ) trainers and a scruffy polo. He looked like he had just walked out of b&q I never saw him get any attention all night. What is up with some fellas ?

You get back what effort you put in

I always like to dress smart for a club

I agree that not everyone makes an effort...shame really... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He probably told his wife he was helping a mate fix his car. Sounds like a right tosser.

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Libs is a couples only club so I assume his wife was there?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we were at a club last Saturday lovely club welcomes all shapes and sizes everyone had made the effort, except one guy jeans ( which is fine by me they can look smart ) trainers and a scruffy polo. He looked like he had just walked out of b&q I never saw him get any attention all night. What is up with some fellas ?

I agree that not everyone makes an effort...shame really... "

Well we saw you there and you had made the effort

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He probably told his wife he was helping a mate fix his car. Sounds like a right tosser.

Libs is a couples only club so I assume his wife was there?!"

It wasn't libs but he did have a lady with him but I believe they were fb's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would make the effort but don't we all end up naked with a towel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should all make an effort if it's dress down or not, be male or female, it's about standards and respect of yourself,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He probably told his wife he was helping a mate fix his car. Sounds like a right tosser.

"

Bit of a sweeping statement

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

I always make an effort, even in a dressdown on entry club, you never know who youll meet as your going into the club. You never get a second chance to make a good first impression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an aside, I'd really love to go to a swinging club that allowed trainers and jeans - for both men and women.

That's how I'm comfortable and I like men and women who wear those clothes.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West


"Should all make an effort if it's dress down or not, be male or female, it's about standards and respect of yourself, "

Absolutely. If they can't make an effort to look half presentable... What is going on underneath the clothes? A guy sat near us in Chams one day in his towel and to his credit he raised his glass and said cheers...... But the fingernails ....,,, OMG.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As an aside, I'd really love to go to a swinging club that allowed trainers and jeans - for both men and women.

That's how I'm comfortable and I like men and women who wear those clothes."

Go to the PHUKT night at Xtasia.

It's clubbing wear friendly, so you can wear trainers, jeans, T's etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we were at a club last Saturday lovely club welcomes all shapes and sizes everyone had made the effort, except one guy jeans ( which is fine by me they can look smart ) trainers and a scruffy polo. He looked like he had just walked out of b&q I never saw him get any attention all night. What is up with some fellas ?"

Lets turn this..

Some clubs require you to dress down. If he was in a towel or boxers, what would have made him any different from others to not get "action".

Sometimes it's the person you are, not what your wear (or dont) that can get you mixing it up with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would as well turn up in traniers and nike outfit, nothing wrong with it lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have to admit the last FFFF at xtasia i was in jeans a top and heels lol

i did change eventually but if i can wear jeans why cant a man?

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!


"I always make an effort, even in a dressdown on entry club, you never know who youll meet as your going into the club. You never get a second chance to make a good first impression"

Me too! I`ve been to Chams and even when staying in one of their rooms, got changed into my nice clothes just for the very short walk from the room to the club!

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!


"i have to admit the last FFFF at xtasia i was in jeans a top and heels lol

i did change eventually but if i can wear jeans why cant a man?"

As has already been said, there`s jeans and there`s smart denim and whole difference between them. I remember when Levis were dearer than good quality trousers but they were still "jeans"!

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"i have to admit the last FFFF at xtasia i was in jeans a top and heels lol

i did change eventually but if i can wear jeans why cant a man?"

Totally it's horses for courses besides ones dress albeit can be a differentiator is a shallow way to look at the overall package. I know of fems who wear just leggings and a jumper to meets.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"...I remember when Levis were dearer than good quality trousers but they were still "jeans"!"

'were dearer'? I've just bought some new Levis & they still are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Won't catch this guy in a suit. No siree fuckin' bob. Hate suits. Feel uncomfortable in them and they're just not 'me'. Nothing worse than seeing someone in something and you know they don't want to be in it. That to me is more off putting than someone dressed casual with confidence.

I'll wear jeans n boots, jeans n trainers, shirts, t shirts, whatever.

As long as it clean 'n' smartish Im happy.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange why go to a club dressed like that, it costs a small fortune to get in as a single so why not make an effort to look nice to maybe attract someone to meet with you. Oh well his major loss there then.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"I always make an effort, even in a dressdown on entry club, you never know who youll meet as your going into the club. You never get a second chance to make a good first impression

Me too! I`ve been to Chams and even when staying in one of their rooms, got changed into my nice clothes just for the very short walk from the room to the club! "
. Well said . I love the tractor pictures on your profile . Great background to them .

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By *ltraglideCouple
over a year ago

mansfield

Been to clubs where people have obviously made no effort at all, be it smart or casual. And that goes for men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just men that don't make an effort, when at a club we once saw a lady in leggings a top and a big wooly cardigan, to us that's not an effort but others may feel differently, it was obviously what she was comfortable in and I suppose that's all that really matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange why go to a club dressed like that, it costs a small fortune to get in as a single so why not make an effort to look nice to maybe attract someone to meet with you. Oh well his major loss there then. "

Because people have different ideas of what looks 'nice'? And if they dress up and pretend to be something they're not, they might not attract the kinds of people that they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he was an idiot then, i always make the effort.

he would be sort of bloke that then moaned about club saying its a waist of money"

Wonder if he has a profile here....with similar effort...and 57 posts about his lack of success because "the site is crap"?

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"Strange why go to a club dressed like that, it costs a small fortune to get in as a single so why not make an effort to look nice to maybe attract someone to meet with you. Oh well his major loss there then. "

Look nice... Some people don't even make an effort to smell nice....

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By *ushandkittyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Like others have said it's not just guys, on our first visit to one club we spotted a fem in sweatshirt, joggers and uggs!

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

Perfectly get most of the reasoning above.

It's not too difficult to shower, freshen up and be presentable.

But for me (apart from the hygiene / cleanliness side)

That is why I prefer dress down club's.

Then I am judging the person on their merits not making assumptions just on how they are dressed.

Any individual had their own reasons why they are dressed as they are.

Dressing down is a great leveller and for me, when I am naked chatting away in the sauna or Jacuzzi.. It's all about that social interaction.

I am not going to think...

She walked in wearing that outfit, better not talk to her / them.

But maybe it's just me being old fashioned.

Don't get me wrong though...

Not making an effort cleanliness wise, is a different matter all together.

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By *eavensent78Couple
over a year ago

west mids

We often see the sentence on here single guys need to make them self stand out from the rest sounds like he did that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Effort is important, bath shave, and ladies effort but i have to say i have seen some woman turn up in jeans and T shirts too.

It cant be very sexy for the blokes too

Her

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