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By *aydeesclub OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Hi we point out to single guys at our club what are does and don'ts but we would like to know other points that we might be missing when advising single guys on how to behave.

We have a list..

no means no,

if any one says no then walk away and don't take offence.

shower and smell nice, not drowned in aftershave to cover up.

Smoking smells sticks to you.

Always talk to both of the couple, the male and female.

Don't get d*unk for Dutch courage, d*unk people can turn into horrible people.

Are we missing anything ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This could apply to single fems and couples also. Thought i would point that out

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I would make that a general list for all customers. Its not just single men who pester, smell, and/or get falling down d*unk.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

stand with self respect as you have every right to be there.

don't be intimidated to play with just anyone

don't allow d*unk women to paw you without asking

and clean up after you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi we point out to single guys at our club what are does and don'ts but we would like to know other points that we might be missing when advising single guys on how to behave.

We have a list..

no means no,

if any one says no then walk away and don't take offence.

shower and smell nice, not drowned in aftershave to cover up.

Smoking smells sticks to you.

Always talk to both of the couple, the male and female.

Don't get d*unk for Dutch courage, d*unk people can turn into horrible people.

Are we missing anything ??? "

All of that you've listed should be applied to single females and couples as well! We have encountered more d*unk single Fems and couples than we have single males.

I would probably just add clean up after yourself and not leave it for others to do

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By *aydeesclub OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

hmmmmm you could all be right it could be towards everyone as some single ladies can act badly too. and some couples get blind d*unk. Maybe we should make our list for everyone who comes along

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By *aydeesclub OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

We will put these list around reminding everyone how to behave then not just single guys.

no means no,

if any one says no then walk away and don't take offence.

shower and smell nice, not drowned in aftershave to cover up.

Smoking smells sticks to you.

Always talk to both of the couple, the male and female.

Don't get d*unk for Dutch courage, d*unk people can turn into horrible people

Don't be intimidated into playing.

Don't allow anyone to grope, touch of slap you.

Clean up after yourselves.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"We will put these list around reminding everyone how to behave then not just single guys.

no means no,

if any one says no then walk away and don't take offence.

shower and smell nice, not drowned in aftershave to cover up.

Smoking smells sticks to you.

Always talk to both of the couple, the male and female.

Don't get d*unk for Dutch courage, d*unk people can turn into horrible people

Don't be intimidated into playing.

Don't allow anyone to grope, touch of slap you.

Clean up after yourselves.

"

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We will put these list around reminding everyone how to behave then not just single guys.

no means no,

if any one says no then walk away and don't take offence.

shower and smell nice, not drowned in aftershave to cover up.

Or perfume

Smoking smells sticks to you.

Always talk to both of the couple, the male and female.

Don't get d*unk for Dutch courage, d*unk people can turn into horrible people

Don't be intimidated into playing.

Don't allow anyone to grope, touch of slap you.

Clean up after yourselves.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same rules applies to couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same rules applies to couples "

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"...

Are we missing anything ??? "

Smile when making conversation. But I don't think one legislate for that

Dress sensibly. Jeans, T-shirts and trainers can be off-putting but a Tuxedo is impractical; Who wants to sit over there in semi-darkness trying to undo his bow-tie?

Bring condoms (unless the club supplies or atleast sells these on the premises)

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"hmmmmm you could all be right it could be towards everyone as some single ladies can act badly too. and some couples get blind d*unk. Maybe we should make our list for everyone who comes along

"

that is probably a much better idea then in effect stigmatising one set of people.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't allow anyone to grope, touch of slap you...." without both players making it clear that is allowed.

Most single guy's are EXTREMELY well behaved on the scene, but there is some couples who just do not like the presence of single men in a club.

Over my years of going to clubs I see more couples being favoured above single guys, knowing the club owners will always take the side of the couple in any situation over that of the disposable single male whereas they are always more tolerant of a d*unk and abusive female or couple, which seem to be all too common on the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This could apply to single fems and couples also. Thought i would point that out "

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


""Don't allow anyone to grope, touch of slap you...." without both players making it clear that is allowed.

Most single guy's are EXTREMELY well behaved on the scene, but there is some couples who just do not like the presence of single men in a club.

Over my years of going to clubs I see more couples being favoured above single guys, knowing the club owners will always take the side of the couple in any situation over that of the disposable single male whereas they are always more tolerant of a d*unk and abusive female or couple, which seem to be all too common on the scene."

Agree on this - we were just going to point out that groping can be acceptible when both parties accept it. Not sure about your other points, we haven't had any issues at clubs. So far everyone has been totally cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This could apply to single fems and couples also. Thought i would point that out "

Indeed

By associating bad behaviour with just men you are unfairly stigmatising them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preperatiin is key and a bit of homework

pet hate is cockblockers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preperatiin is key and a bit of homework

pet hate is cockblockers lol

"

What's a cockblocker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preperatiin is key and a bit of homework

pet hate is cockblockers lol

What's a cockblocker?"
haha a guy who wont share ...a hogger..... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not try to penetrate anyone without a condom on your penis.

When changing from one partner to another discard the used condom in a bin and,after wiping your hands and groin with a wipe,put on a new condom.

Frequently shower during the evening,especially after a particularly energetic exercise.

Wash hands in between finger penetration with different women.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

When changing from one partner to another discard the used condom in a bin and,after wiping your hands and groin with a wipe,put on a new condom.

Frequently shower during the evening,especially after a particularly energetic exercise.

Wash hands in between finger penetration with different women.

"

those are very good suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

When changing from one partner to another discard the used condom in a bin and,after wiping your hands and groin with a wipe,put on a new condom.

Frequently shower during the evening,especially after a particularly energetic exercise.

Wash hands in between finger penetration with different women.

those are very good suggestions "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preperatiin is key and a bit of homework

pet hate is cockblockers lol

What's a cockblocker?haha a guy who wont share ...a hogger..... Lol

"

I guess that depends somewhat on perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Preperatiin is key and a bit of homework

pet hate is cockblockers lol

"

Some guys do hog and others expect to be able to just jump into a situation.

If people are playing and they let you watch, don't pull your cock out and start wanking off hoping that there is a queue. learn to play it cool and you might just get an invite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think you're entitled to a shag just because you've turned up

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Don't follow couples around.

Don't lurk outside doors.

Couples -to deter men from lurking outside doors don't encourage the activity. If you want to find a single man look for a respectful one behaving himself in the lounge or wherever.

Everyone DONT MAKE A NUISANCE OF YOURSELF by knocking on the doors of locked playrooms, messing with the doorhandles etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can i just point out that you can have too many rules.. Takes away some of the fun and spoils it a little for me.. I want it to be natural.. Not for everyone to be scared to breath in case it offends someone.. I agree there should be rules but most clubs i visit the people have known how to conduct themselves.. It is defiantly the cleaning up that people seem to struggle with and the amount who don't have condoms.. In a swingers club.. Come on!! The point about changing condoms in between defiantly needs to be one.. Myself and my partner in crime are always having to remind them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep any drinking under control. Don't serve anyone that looks under the influence if you have a licence, or ask them to leave or refuse entry if they are already under the influence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mouthwash....after oral kissing etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am new to this world an i have yet to visit my first club i would never want to go in a club feeling dirty who likes sex and what not feeling like a scruff, i like to feel sweaty and dirty after sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing I can think of that would only apply to single males is don't follow people around if they have already made it clear they aren't interested and don't gang up with groups of single men to hunt in packs very intimidating at times especially in larger clubs with a lot of dark areas

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By *aydeesclub OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

We will put these list around reminding everyone how to behave then not just single guys.

no means no,

if any one says no then walk away and don't take offence.

shower and smell nice, not drowned in aftershave or perfume to cover up.

Smoking smells sticks to you.

Always talk to both of the couple, the male and female.

Don't get d*unk for Dutch courage, d*unk people can turn into horrible people

Don't be intimidated into playing.

Don't allow anyone to grope, touch of slap you.

Clean up after yourselves.

Don't follow people around.

Don't stand outside rooms knocking and trying handle.

Please do not expect to play just because you have turned up.

Do not contact people after you have had fun together unless, you all agree to.

Do not expect to play again, just because you did the first time.

Do not sit wanking thinking its

your turn next, wait around watching in the hope of being invited to play.

Discard condoms after use, do not keep it on and use it again on the next person.

wash your hands after each play.

Use mouth wash after oral etc.

Wow the list gets longer, I never thought that people would do things such as keeping condoms on, that is so bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We will put these list around reminding everyone how to behave then not just single guys.

no means no,

if any one says no then walk away and don't take offence.

shower and smell nice, not drowned in aftershave or perfume to cover up.

Smoking smells sticks to you.

Always talk to both of the couple, the male and female.

Don't get d*unk for Dutch courage, d*unk people can turn into horrible people

Don't be intimidated into playing.

Don't allow anyone to grope, touch of slap you.

Clean up after yourselves.

Don't follow people around.

Don't stand outside rooms knocking and trying handle.

Please do not expect to play just because you have turned up.

Do not contact people after you have had fun together unless, you all agree to.

Do not expect to play again, just because you did the first time.

Do not sit wanking thinking its

your turn next, wait around watching in the hope of being invited to play.

Discard condoms after use, do not keep it on and use it again on the next person.

wash your hands after each play.

Use mouth wash after oral etc.

Wow the list gets longer, I never thought that people would do things such as keeping condoms on, that is so bad. "

That's an awful long list, maybe a bit too long? Some of that is surely common sense. I would just stick to maybe 5 major points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would make that a general list for all customers. Its not just single men who pester, smell, and/or get falling down d*unk."

i would say a good 99% of pissed up people I have seen in clubs are women

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By *itten-xxxWoman
over a year ago

North West

I'm finding at the moment that guys are not carrying condoms both in clubs and private. Both parties should always be prepared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would make that a general list for all customers. Its not just single men who pester, smell, and/or get falling down d*unk.

i would say a good 99% of pissed up people I have seen in clubs are women"

I've seen both sexes d*unk but would have to agree seen a lot more d*unk women than men

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"I would make that a general list for all customers. Its not just single men who pester, smell, and/or get falling down d*unk.

i would say a good 99% of pissed up people I have seen in clubs are women"

I have to agree with you there, most blokes have been no trouble, and the occasional one or 2 that needs to be told are the new and over excited ones. But it's the women who get d*unk, gobby and grabby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would make that a general list for all customers. Its not just single men who pester, smell, and/or get falling down d*unk.

i would say a good 99% of pissed up people I have seen in clubs are women

I have to agree with you there, most blokes have been no trouble, and the occasional one or 2 that needs to be told are the new and over excited ones. But it's the women who get d*unk, gobby and grabby "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PMA.....HELPS

as well as the common sense

you cant buy it though ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about don't mistake friendliness as being interested in you sexually ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hmmmmm you could all be right it could be towards everyone as some single ladies can act badly too. and some couples get blind d*unk. Maybe we should make our list for everyone who comes along

"

Totally agree with what everyone has said, a wee bit unfair to single out the guys as women and couples can act disrespectful and do all that's been originally pointed out.

I would also say don't touch unless invited.

Xx

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By *ranthamThroatMan
over a year ago

Grantham.


"Hi we point out to single guys at our club what are does and don'ts but we would like to know other points that we might be missing when advising single guys on how to behave.

We have a list..

no means no,

if any one says no then walk away and don't take offence.

shower and smell nice, not drowned in aftershave to cover up.

Smoking smells sticks to you.

Always talk to both of the couple, the male and female.

Don't get d*unk for Dutch courage, d*unk people can turn into horrible people.

Are we missing anything ??? "

Would just saying to everyone, give respect and be responsible work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about don't mistake friendliness as being interested in you sexually ?"

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Come to a club to have a great time, socialise and enjoy

No following anyone around and no sence of entitlement, a fun night be it what it may be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always respect people's boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To many silly rules. Where I agree most of them shouid be common sense. Can I ask this rule poster going to be pinned up on door before we enter put our nerves more on edge !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This could apply to single fems and couples also. Thought i would point that out "

Agreed.

I also question the point of this attack on single males. It's couples I've had the most problems from but I've yet to rant about them on a forum.

Just delete and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree ..... in our experience couples can be just as bad or worse !

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By *ogloomMan
over a year ago

Levens

Goggles and ear defence should be worn at all times when on site.

'Safety gloves' are one use only and recommended.

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

Fuck me this is encouraging

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"This could apply to single fems and couples also. Thought i would point that out

Agreed.

I also question the point of this attack on single males. It's couples I've had the most problems from but I've yet to rant about them on a forum.

Just delete and move on."

have to say it is more disappointing those _iews were being expressed by the actual club owners, before everyone pointed out it should apply to everyone and they climbed back....

but yes... to be honest on my trips south... it has gone down the list of clubs i would try.... sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This could apply to single fems and couples also. Thought i would point that out

Agreed.

I also question the point of this attack on single males. It's couples I've had the most problems from but I've yet to rant about them on a forum.

Just delete and move on.

have to say it is more disappointing those _iews were being expressed by the actual club owners, before everyone pointed out it should apply to everyone and they climbed back....

but yes... to be honest on my trips south... it has gone down the list of clubs i would try.... sorry"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy yourself have fun and be respectful to all who enter ... simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Enjoy yourself have fun and be respectful to all who enter ... simples."

All who you enter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't just sit looking bored waiting to be snapped up; talk to people and be friendly.

Oh and, take off your socks!

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By *ogloomMan
over a year ago

Levens

Isn't it simpler to have everyone come in sandals no socks?

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