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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have long since been keen to explore the club scene and discussed it with ex partners however have never been. I was underv the impression the scene is not pushy and is welcoming and relaxed. However I have just seen a thread regarding etiquette and discovered some instances of inappropriate behaviour have been apparent.

As a single female this makes me feel a little uneasy about talking the plunge. So I'd like to know how others have got on during their early days.

Did you try as singles or couples? Which clubs did you go to? How did you find the atmosphere and etiquette? Etc etc

All advice and stories appreciated x

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By *ewexperience83Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Hi we're fairly new and the first club we went to was townhouse in Birkenhead,

I (J) was petrified when we finely picked up the courag. And I need'nt of felt like that because it was incredibly relaxed and no pressure atmosphere. The ettiquette was brilliant. No means no

Townhouse is very welcoming and the staff are amazing x

Partners I found was abit seedy and the night we went a guy was thrown out for inappropriate behaviour and I said no at one point and the fella didn't listen till hubby said f£&ok off mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Which area are you in? I'm a North West lass so very interested in closer clubs but glad to hear all experiences so I can hopefully find the confidence to have some amazing fun after wanting to for so long

Thanks for sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which area are you in? I'm a North West lass so very interested in closer clubs but glad to hear all experiences so I can hopefully find the confidence to have some amazing fun after wanting to for so long

Thanks for sharing

I'm in the NW. PM me if you are interested in trying Cupids tomorrow night. No pressure hun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately people will all too readily share their bad stories but the ok or good stories get neglected. I wouldn't take these to be the representative experience of everyone attending a club.

When people ask me about La Chambre, I generally tell them they have to try it for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No3 is really good as they limit the amount of single guys and are really friendly. They have a social night on a Thursday and no one plays unless they stay after 10pm and if you decide to leave then you don't pay a penny, although single ladies are free anyway. Hubby and I are going on Friday night, it's in the Forums. If you fancy someone to go in with let us know. And we wont abandon you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No3 is really good as they limit the amount of single guys and are really friendly. They have a social night on a Thursday and no one plays unless they stay after 10pm and if you decide to leave then you don't pay a penny, although single ladies are free anyway. Hubby and I are going on Friday night, it's in the Forums. If you fancy someone to go in with let us know. And we wont abandon you "

Thank you kindly for the offer but I have 'real life' plans already but have heard good things about No3 definitely on my to check out list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unfortunately people will all too readily share their bad stories but the ok or good stories get neglected. I wouldn't take these to be the representative experience of everyone attending a club.

When people ask me about La Chambre, I generally tell them they have to try it for themselves "

Hence why I'd like to hear the good too

Where is La Chambre?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately people will all too readily share their bad stories but the ok or good stories get neglected. I wouldn't take these to be the representative experience of everyone attending a club.

When people ask me about La Chambre, I generally tell them they have to try it for themselves

Hence why I'd like to hear the good too

Where is La Chambre?"

Sheffield

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I went with the boyfriend to Kestrels on a quiet day for my first club visit. We played with a few single guys (who all asked first and were both polite and enthusiastic) and I had a lovely time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first experience with others was at V.A on our first visit....we loved it and have been back many times !

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By *ewexperience83Couple
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Thanks for sharing

I'm northwest too, I live near Chester x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went with the boyfriend to Kestrels on a quiet day for my first club visit. We played with a few single guys (who all asked first and were both polite and enthusiastic) and I had a lovely time!"

Thanks for sharing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our first experience with others was at V.A on our first visit....we loved it and have been back many times ! "

Ta much

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By *leepyangelCouple
over a year ago

over the hill and far away

Hi curvy. Read angels secrets by angel Alexandra. It's about the swinging scene in north west of England.

Seriously though, you live in Preston and No3 could be your best option. Mary and glen would make you very comfortable and welcome.

They are great hosts and the place is spotless x

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

In my experience it's only very very occasions where a guy has behaved inappropriately and even then the club staff have handled the situation well.

I mean you still get your lurkers and patrollers but in actuality they are usually harmless and just lack the confidence to strike up a conversation

Just go, be friendly and enjoy is my advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went bottled it , didn't play

but you live and learn I know what to expect now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went bottled it , didn't play

but you live and learn I know what to expect now "

Maybe it's better not too play for a first visit and just getting used to the environment until you're comfortable and just meeting people and talking to them about the scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In my experience it's only very very occasions where a guy has behaved inappropriately and even then the club staff have handled the situation well.

I mean you still get your lurkers and patrollers but in actuality they are usually harmless and just lack the confidence to strike up a conversation

Just go, be friendly and enjoy is my advice"

Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi curvy. Read angels secrets by angel Alexandra. It's about the swinging scene in north west of England.

Seriously though, you live in Preston and No3 could be your best option. Mary and glen would make you very comfortable and welcome.

They are great hosts and the place is spotless x"

Only heard good things about no3 which is reassuring think I'd like that to be my first club. And thanks I'll check out that book

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

"In my experience it's only very very occasions where a guy has behaved inappropriately and even then the club staff have handled the situation well.

I mean you still get your lurkers and patrollers but in actuality they are usually harmless and just lack the confidence to strike up a conversation

Just go, be friendly and enjoy is my advice

Thanks for the advice

and if you want someone to hold your hand so to speak then you know where I am

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By *icurguycovMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I had been to a few sex parties before my first visit to a club so I was already comfortable in public. I went to Partners with a FB and within minutes we were fucking in the pool being watched a another couple. It certainly turned them on! Also discovered hat quite a few guys secretly like cock.

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By *ussgbrMan
over a year ago

Burton

I went quite recently to my first club, The Attic in Derby. Was absolutely shitting myself to be honest and nearly jumped back on the car! So glad I didn't though, everyone was so friendly, and after around 3 hours had some fun with a couple and another guy, then just as I was about to leave, another couple invited me to join them. As I went as a single guy I didn't expect anything other than a social night out, and as such anything else was a bonus. Oh boy what a bonus too lol. I didn't see any inappropriate behaviour but I know from what others have said, if there was it would be sorted quickly. I'd say go for it, enjoy, and you will be hooked !

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By *--Cinders---Couple
over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

"I have long since been keen to explore the club scene and discussed it with ex partners however have never been. I was underv the impression the scene is not pushy and is welcoming and relaxed. However I have just seen a thread regarding etiquette and discovered some instances of inappropriate behaviour have been apparent.

As a single female this makes me feel a little uneasy about talking the plunge. So I'd like to know how others have got on during their early days.

Did you try as singles or couples? Which clubs did you go to? How did you find the atmosphere and etiquette? Etc etc

All advice and stories appreciated x

The first club I ever attended was Infusions in Blackpool, I went with a male friend as I don't think I wud of had the guts to go on my own...The atmosphere was fantastic and was no pressure from any single guys, the guys were polite and respectful, guess single guys get just as nervous and there on their own, I was nervous and I was with someone..I still go to Infusions every week as its a club I feel relaxed in...

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

I think you need to put things into context. For example, there are over 2,500 club reviews for West Midlands alone. Most as favourable.

Yes there is always the possibility of a bad experience, same as tgere is of bring hit by a bus, having a car accident etching. Read the reviews of the clubs your short listing and try and get pm a few people who've reviewed them etc.

Obviously try and find the club that suits you best, don't be afraid to have a voice, IF you feel uncomfortable at all.

All in all clubs are great, safe, friendly fun places.

and 99% of oeople want to keep it tgat wSy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a club with membership they usually only charge a minimal amount infusions is a fiver it means single men are more careful about how they behave never seen any problems at infusion. They limit the amount of males on a Fri and couples nights on a sat so only singles are lone females. If there is a limit it means clubs are there for people to enjoy and they want to keep the mix of single men to women at a healthy level. In my experience its the clubs that don't have a limit that pack behaviour becomes a problem if you wanted a huge amount of single men go to a greedy girls gang bang is my thought I tried to message you privately but am outside your age range to give a bit of advice I would not want to put on here. If you sent me a short message I could then reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your thoughts and experiences. Have been reassured that these inappropriate instances are just that, few and far between. And for all those who've offered a hand of support an extra Thank you. Can't wait to try it out. I'll most likely bump into a few members wherever i end up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi ive been to a few in lancs/manchester but prefare to go with someone if youd like a chat id be happy with advice or maybe could look at going with each other ?

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By *ot4ujoWoman
over a year ago

Eccles

I've been to quiet a few clubs both on my own and with other people each club is different in there own way I like everyone have my favorites and ones I avoid the only way to find out is to vist them

All clubs have the same basic rule no means no and they are a safe place ,from my experience were ever I've been all clubs are very welcoming to a woman

I'd say just go chat enjoy and don't expect to have sex but relax and have fun meeting people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been to quiet a few clubs both on my own and with other people each club is different in there own way I like everyone have my favorites and ones I avoid the only way to find out is to vist them

All clubs have the same basic rule no means no and they are a safe place ,from my experience were ever I've been all clubs are very welcoming to a woman

I'd say just go chat enjoy and don't expect to have sex but relax and have fun meeting people x"

I agree each clubs different and offers different enviroments

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I was going to go to a club by myself. But ended up going with another lady via the forums. It was a quiet night. We were shown around, introduced to some regulars, played pool and didn't play. Had a few offers, but people were very nice when I explained it was my first time and I was just looking around tonight.

Most men don't follow you around. Lots wait for you to make the first move.

The unknown was what made me nervous. Once I had that first visit, I had no problems going by myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great advice and stories everyone. Can't wait for my first visit now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first swinging club that I ever went to was in Berlin in 2008.

I took the opportunity of being in a foreign country to go and see what it was all about. I took the train and got off at the appropriate stop close to the airport. After locating the club, the entrance was located just off a main road down a darkened side street, I had a look about and walked past a couple of times, feeling that the eyes of all those around were looking at me and knowing exactly what I was going to do. Newbies paranoia!

After watching a few people go in I decided that I couldn't walk up to the entrance and go in....without first getting some Dutch courage so I walked a short distance to a quiet pub. Inside were a few locales and a friendly barmaid that made me feel like I was back home in a typical Black Country pub, except for the TV! If you think our Saturday night TV is shockingly bad sometimes then the program I was watching was just weird. I don't speak German so here I was in a German pub watching hand puppets doing god knows what with a game show host whilst I built up the nerve to go to a club and experience goodness knows what, surreal! After three quick German beers, in very large glasses, I waved goodbye to my new friends in the pub and headed once again for the club. With beer now in my blood stream I joined the cue and somehow found myself in the club, after being swept along in a crowd of people, without paying! I still don't know how that happened. So no I was in my first swingers club and it was quite an experience.

All I will to those thinking about going is this, its a lot of nerves before hand but once you're in you'll wonder why you worried so much because its great fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to try a club, but as a single guy I'm terrified of going on my own. I can understand some clubs being a bit anti single guys with their high membership and entrance fees, and the thought of going into a totally unknown environment really scares the crap out of me! It would be different if I had someone to go with though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great advice and stories everyone. Can't wait for my first visit now

I'm the same! I'm guessing the nerves and anticipation are normal! I'm going to abfabs in a couple of weeks and can't wait! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great advice and stories everyone. Can't wait for my first visit now

I'm the same! I'm guessing the nerves and anticipation are normal! I'm going to abfabs in a couple of weeks and can't wait! X"

Ooh if you wouldn't mind letting me know how it goes

here or via inbox id much appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great advice and stories everyone. Can't wait for my first visit now

I'm the same! I'm guessing the nerves and anticipation are normal! I'm going to abfabs in a couple of weeks and can't wait! X

Ooh if you wouldn't mind letting me know how it goes

here or via inbox id much appreciate it

I'll send you a friend request so I remember! We can share first time nerves! X

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By *oonshadowsCouple
over a year ago

Lytham St Annes

Why don't you try the social at No3 on a Thursday for a first visit? Not too far away and no play till after 10 x you also don't have to dress down unless you want to x

These days we love Cupids during the day but, when I played as a single female, I found Townhouse the least scary to go to on my own x If you're ok with travelling it's the most relaxed club and feels more like a bar without the hassle if d*unken guys hitting on you - you choose them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why don't you try the social at No3 on a Thursday for a first visit? Not too far away and no play till after 10 x you also don't have to dress down unless you want to x

xx"

Thanks great advice. Whew is townhouse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very new to this but very intreeged where should I start for the first time and should I go alone any advise plz

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By *oonshadowsCouple
over a year ago

Lytham St Annes

"Why don't you try the social at No3 on a Thursday for a first visit? Not too far away and no play till after 10 x you also don't have to dress down unless you want to x

Thanks great advice. Whew is townhouse? "

It's in Birkenhead so a fair drive but they can sometimes offer accommodation and the staff are very supportive. The staff at Cupids are wonderful too but you have to dress down to go in and Friday/Saturday nights can be a bit full on - have a look at the club reviews page for the northwest for more comments about the different clubs x

I can't message you but am happy to chat if you want to message me x Nina xx

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By *arteeneWoman
over a year ago

aylesbury

"Why don't you try the social at No3 on a Thursday for a first visit? Not too far away and no play till after 10 x you also don't have to dress down unless you want to x

Thanks great advice. Whew is townhouse?

I can't message you but am happy to chat if you want to message me x Nina xx"

I am going to my first club for swingers on Saturday night I do go to TGirl clubs and parties but this will be my first time at a swingers club I am very nervous And not sure how I will be taken I do know the owners who have invited me so I should be ok just hope I am

Not left on my own all night xx

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

Connections in blackpool is having a bbw and party night on the 21st, guaranteed to be a friendly social night, would be great to see you there xx

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By *iccardaTV/TS
over a year ago

Wallasey

i started going to Townhouse on the fetish nights found the people really friendly so started going on the swinging nights. The club limits the number of single guys on Fridays and Saturdays which actually makes it easier for single guys to get a play plus there is a far more relaxed atmosphere. Have to say sometimes i just go to chill out and use the hot tub

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