FabSwingers.com forum: advice about going to swinging clubs/partys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I found this written by Rebecca Dakin, author, dating coach and intimacy expert.I thought you would find this interesting as we see alot of people asking about partys and clubs going for there first time.What other advice would you give? I think this sums it up what do you think?

Its mainly about couples true couples/fb couples, some does apply to singles too (im one so should know as I go to alot clubs/partys)

8 Tips for Couples Considering Sex Parties

1) Discuss what it is you both are seeking from sex parties, and see if firstly there still is a need and desire to bring in a third party

2) Don’t put pressure on your other half to go or engage at a sex party, there are no expectations at the party to be involved

3) Make sure you have mutual trust and respect for each other

4) Discuss and agree boundaries (which are open to change if both agree)

5) Agree that either party can change their mind before or during the event without the other person feeling resentment (sometimes the reality of the situation may not hit until you are in the middle of things!)

6) Have a safe word/phrase that you can use for a ‘get out’

7) Be aware at all times of how your partner is feeling based not on their words but their body language and be sensitive to those feelings

8) Don’t be selfish if your partner feels uncomfortable, respect them and give them a discreet opportunity to leave

Avoid Sex Parties If:

1) You’re a jealous person

2) You have a controlling nature

3) You’re insecure

4) You feel you are the lucky one in the relationship

5) You feel unattractive

6) You are self conscious of any parts of your body

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

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"I found this written by Rebecca Dakin, author, dating coach and intimacy expert.I thought you would find this interesting as we see alot of people asking about partys and clubs going for there first time.What other advice would you give? I think this sums it up what do you think?

Its mainly about couples true couples/fb couples, some does apply to singles too (im one so should know as I go to alot clubs/partys)

8 Tips for Couples Considering Sex Parties

1) Discuss what it is you both are seeking from sex parties, and see if firstly there still is a need and desire to bring in a third party

2) Don’t put pressure on your other half to go or engage at a sex party, there are no expectations at the party to be involved

3) Make sure you have mutual trust and respect for each other

4) Discuss and agree boundaries (which are open to change if both agree)

6) Have a safe word/phrase that you can use for a ‘get out’

7) Be aware at all times of how your partner is feeling based not on their words but their body language and be sensitive to those feelings

8) Don’t be selfish if your partner feels uncomfortable, respect them and give them a discreet opportunity to leave

Avoid Sex Parties If:

1) You’re a jealous person

2) You have a controlling nature

3) You’re insecure

4) You feel you are the lucky one in the relationship

5) You feel unattractive

6) You are self conscious of any parts of your body

hmmmmm, Avoid parties - No_6...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 and 6 are interesting as many women and men who feel that way often feel empowered after visiting a club or party and often say it's a massive boost to their self confidence.

I would ask how much experience the author has of the scene and parties?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hmmmmm, Avoid parties - No_6...

Not from where I was just looking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"5 and 6 are interesting as many women and men who feel that way often feel empowered after visiting a club or party and often say it's a massive boost to their self confidence.

I would ask how much experience the author has of the scene and parties?"

I find that I took a new club buddy to eureka last summer, she had no confidence at all, never been naked infront of others.she nervously took her towel of and went in the pool.after few times became more relaxed.

I havent a clue how much a expert however she does say what alot of people tend to say here

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