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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone, I am looking for a club but I am being quite specific. I want a club that has some kind of identification that I don't want to play like a sticker/wristband. Are there any or is it just me thinking I read about one before? As a newbie I dread the thought of having to say no every time someone asks as my 1st time would be purely to watch so I can get a good idea of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think there are clubs in the UK that do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Townhouse

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By *exyFunWantedMan
over a year ago

Blackpool/Backburn

Great idea though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Townhouse "

They don't have that do they?? It looks a very nice club but I would still have to say no to people I find that the most daunting part of going to a club for the 1st time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great idea though!"

I think so too, would make life a lot easier for newbies. Maybe I should open my own club lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say just go for it, if you don't like the. Look of someone don't make eye contact and when chatting to people say In a jokey way oh it's my first time no play for me, you'll have to say no to people eventually, why not go with a friend to help you?? Xx

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Just go along and enjoy yourself. Nobody is allowed to touch you without your permission and if anyone propositions you, just say 'no thanks - I'm just here to socialise this evening' - sorted! They won't push it because people generally know the most fundamental rule in a swinging club - no means no. If anyone crosses that line they're out on their ear with the chance they won't ever be allowed back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone, I am looking for a club but I am being quite specific. I want a club that has some kind of identification that I don't want to play like a sticker/wristband. Are there any or is it just me thinking I read about one before? As a newbie I dread the thought of having to say no every time someone asks as my 1st time would be purely to watch so I can get a good idea of it all. "

You best bet would be to find a friend to take you under their wing. The first time I went to chams is was a Friday night and was a real eye opener but I went with a lovely female friend who. Showed we where everything was and told the guys thanks but no thanks.

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

There are plenty of friendly clubs - suggest you read a lot of reviews. By "friendly" I mean in particular where reviewers have talked about the welcome they received from hosts. Perhaps ring one or two clubs. If you can't go with a friend consider which night you want to go eg a night with couples and single females only (for a first visit ). Personally I think a club is safer than a pub - and much more exciting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Townhouse

They don't have that do they?? It looks a very nice club but I would still have to say no to people I find that the most daunting part of going to a club for the 1st time."

You are reading far too much into this , understandably I guess , as you have never been .

As has been suggested , go with a friend who can do the rejecting thing you seem so worried about .

What exactly are you wanting to get a feel for though ?

The kind of people there ?

The cleanliness ?

The majority of folk attending clubs have a fair idea of why they are there , and everyone started as you are now .

Stop over thinking and do it , you may be surprised how friendly swingers can be

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I went to my first club on Friday. It was daytime so not that busy but it was lovely; the staff were really welcoming and I only did what I was comfortable with doing. I was apprehensive before going in and had to take a deep breath but it was actually really chilled and there was no pressure to do anything I wasn't ready for.

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By *ocmulletMan
over a year ago

Colchester

Keep yer cacks on and tell em yer on the blocks ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Create your own btw your absolutely stunning!

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By *arton BlueMan
over a year ago

Preston

Come up north for your first club visit. Can't speak for other clubs as I've only been to one, once. Adam & Eve's just outside Manchester. As an ex burtonite myself. I'd be happy to be your wingman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Townhouse

They don't have that do they?? It looks a very nice club but I would still have to say no to people I find that the most daunting part of going to a club for the 1st time."

Townhouse actually have coloured brackets for people who are looking to play or not play etc.

If I remember rightly red is for no play, pink women only etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our place for fun doesn't have a colour coding system but it does have a white line around all of the areas that no single guys can go past without being invited - that may help?

Its also really friendly and laid back there

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By *hilanluCouple
over a year ago

Bedford

If you go to VA on a sat night, you can just be yourself...no single guys..none will grab you etc...

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"Townhouse

They don't have that do they?? It looks a very nice club but I would still have to say no to people I find that the most daunting part of going to a club for the 1st time.

Townhouse actually have coloured brackets for people who are looking to play or not play etc.

If I remember rightly red is for no play, pink women only etc

"

"bracelets" ?

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