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By *atasha_David OP   Couple
over a year ago

Slough

On another thread crystal wrote


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I would love clubs to have stricter rules in place. I would love a no wanking rule, no entering a zone or area where someone is already playing unless verbally invited, no directing unless in a specific directing area or verbally invited to do so, no disturbing play in progress (banging on locked doors, calling out for attention), the only people to disrupt play are staff or security.

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On the last two occasions we have indulged in play in the dungeon area of our favourite club, our play has been disrupted by people standing within feet of us gossiping and chatting, paying no attention to our play which their strident chatter was disrupting.

We have been heckled mid play, had somebody provide a running commentary to others on more than one occasion and on one memorable occasion a d*unken female even tried to grab the tawse from my hand and hit N with it.

A significant number of people in swing clubs appear to not have any respect for others play, especially if it is not their sort of play.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I find that a 'Can you please shut the fuck up, some of us are trying to play here' usually does the trick....other people are then quite happy to tell the buggers to be quiet if they think that you are going to stop what you are doing

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

That just sounds plain rude.

Shame, it's people really. I really wouldn't know what to suggest.....

I would hope my first time at a club would be enjoyable and an eye opener, but experience with life in general means the more I do it, the more I would notice things I didn't like.

But I can say the same about my local pub.. work.. drivers..

Ultimately, I would just keep on doing what I'm doing, making it safe and fun and within the rules set out, and standing up for myself when I see otherwise. (Whilst cursing the offenders when they have been shown the error of their ways.. then carrying on with my fun)

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

I'm not sure I agree with everything in the op from fthe other thread, however being interrupted during play is my number 1 pet hate with clubs.

Twice now when Kate has been playing with more than 1 guy another male has decided to make a comment for a cheap laugh. I personally think it's rude the same as those talking about the football or other crap right next to you while playing.

On the flip side, we're happy with guys wanking if they want to. If we want privacy we go in a locked room.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

oops - that 'sounds plain rude' comment was aimed at the OP, not your post Jez

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"oops - that 'sounds plain rude' comment was aimed at the OP, not your post Jez "

Good save there

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By *atasha_David OP   Couple
over a year ago

Slough


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Twice now when Kate has been playing with more than 1 guy another male has decided to make a comment for a cheap laugh. I personally think it's rude the same as those talking about the football or other crap right next to you while playing.

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I generally put such behavior down to the fact that their trying to deny the fact your having a damn sight more fun than they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess you can avoid the unwanted attention by going to the private rooms or you want attention playing in open areas but then you can't control everyone, can you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I crack a 6ft bullwhip and ask if people can stand back as they might loose an eye

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I agree with most of the OP except the no wanking rule. Single guys pay a lot to get in and are told (quite rightly) that doesn't entitle them to sex. If they aren't even allowed to wank either then it seems almost pointless in them attending if all they can do is watch from a distance whilst sitting on their hands - surely they should be allowed to get SOMETHING out of the experience? I would say no close quarters wanking without invitation though - nothing worse than playing whilst some bellend is being waggled in your ear. Most distracting.

I agree 100% about the rude people who carry on inane conversations in close proximity to people playing. We were playing in a room once where a mmf was in progress. We were just heating up when they finished. They then proceeded to talk loudly about contact lenses of all things! It completely ruined the mood for us. I've also heard people talking about the Sunday dinner they were going to have the next day. I mean, really?? Unfathomably bad mannered!

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"I agree with most of the OP except the no wanking rule. Single guys pay a lot to get in and are told (quite rightly) that doesn't entitle them to sex. If they aren't even allowed to wank either then it seems almost pointless in them attending if all they can do is watch from a distance whilst sitting on their hands - surely they should be allowed to get SOMETHING out of the experience? I would say no close quarters wanking without invitation though - nothing worse than playing whilst some bellend is being waggled in your ear. Most distracting.

I agree 100% about the rude people who carry on inane conversations in close proximity to people playing. We were playing in a room once where a mmf was in progress. We were just heating up when they finished. They then proceeded to talk loudly about contact lenses of all things! It completely ruined the mood for us. I've also heard people talking about the Sunday dinner they were going to have the next day. I mean, really?? Unfathomably bad mannered! "

Very much agree with this last point - they need to get back to the bar and leave those of us in the throes of passion in peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very bad manners for people to discuss topics in the ear shot of people playing ..I remember being at a club midpplay with a few others and the people watching were chatting about some poor person having cancer !!!!...I just turned round and said "really! ..can you take the conversation out of the room "...They did apologise ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our biggest bug bear is when were having fun with a guy or two watching all the other guys think its open house and crowd around us, when the numbers get to many we stop as we like to put on a show for one or two selected guys not the whole club

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By *ittykate84Woman
over a year ago

CHESTER

Have to say in Townhouse everyone seems to be very respectful during play etc and I played with the guy who I was with at the time whilst 4 guys watched and they did not utter a single word nor try and come in.

Only one person knocked on a private door whilst we were there and I believe they had to leave because of behavior like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with most of the OP except the no wanking rule. Single guys pay a lot to get in and are told (quite rightly) that doesn't entitle them to sex. If they aren't even allowed to wank either then it seems almost pointless in them attending if all they can do is watch from a distance whilst sitting on their hands - surely they should be allowed to get SOMETHING out of the experience? I would say no close quarters wanking without invitation though - nothing worse than playing whilst some bellend is being waggled in your ear. Most distracting.

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire


"I would say no close quarters wanking without invitation though - nothing worse than playing whilst some bellend is being waggled in your ear. Most distracting. "

I can't stand someone standing rubbing one out just in my peripheral vision, especially when they are slyly shuffling closer and closer...

Most distracting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very bad manners for people to discuss topics in the ear shot of people playing ..I remember being at a club midpplay with a few others and the people watching were chatting about some poor person having cancer !!!!...I just turned round and said "really! ..can you take the conversation out of the room "...They did apologise .."

I've done this at parties...on one occasion, they got a bit huffy when I informed them that fascinating as their conversation about weightwatchers and their kids was, I was trying to fuck...I had a cock in one hand and was wrist deep in a female playmate at the time...they'd even perched on the edge of the sofa we were playing on...

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