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By *athfinders OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hull

One of the things we love most about the site is the ability to read the reviews about the various swinging clubs.

This in turn makes us want to go or avoid certain clubs. We have been trying out a few new clubs recently and been bitterly disappointed. Our disappointment lies in the fact people are stating how busy the club is and there are so many couples.

Now we can believe this to be the case but what is disappointing is the fact we see reviews from people who claimed to be at the same club the night we were there saying it was rammed and full of people!

Are our expectations of the word rammed and full of people too high as on a number of occasions now we have been and there has been a max of 5 or 6 couples there all just chatting to the bar staff etc.

We have been to many a theme night at LC and found there to be in excess of 70+ couples. We would class that as rammed and not half a dozen couples.

Its such a shame when people don't write a true and fair review of a club. Maybe that or our expectations for numbers are way off the mark. We understand theme nights are always busy but it it is annoying when people are reviewing saying it was rammed on a friday when in reality there were a handful of people there!

Is it just us with too high an expectation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not unrealistic to hope for true accurate reviews on any club. However it has been spoken about many times in the forum about regulars of this club or that club either bigging up their favourite one or on the flip side slating clubs that rival the one they favour.

There are some good honest reviewers for a lot of clubs, just a few that seem to make it a minefield to navigate at times when trying to decide which clubs to visit away from your favoured one.

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

The clubs use "flirty fishing" to get guys there and pay for membership. This usually takes the form of a message from an attractive looking girl who messages you a few times, drawing you in, then tells you she "only meets in clubs" and will you join her there for sex please!

Once your wallet has been emptied you won't see her for dust.

Also clubs advertise on the "meet me today" by putting up a meet by a pretty girl saying "I am going to ----- club today, who is going to join me?"

Cynical, wrong, and spoils this site for everybody.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"One of the things we love most about the site is the ability to read the reviews about the various swinging clubs.

This in turn makes us want to go or avoid certain clubs. We have been trying out a few new clubs recently and been bitterly disappointed. Our disappointment lies in the fact people are stating how busy the club is and there are so many couples.

Now we can believe this to be the case but what is disappointing is the fact we see reviews from people who claimed to be at the same club the night we were there saying it was rammed and full of people!

Are our expectations of the word rammed and full of people too high as on a number of occasions now we have been and there has been a max of 5 or 6 couples there all just chatting to the bar staff etc.

We have been to many a theme night at LC and found there to be in excess of 70+ couples. We would class that as rammed and not half a dozen couples.

Its such a shame when people don't write a true and fair review of a club. Maybe that or our expectations for numbers are way off the mark. We understand theme nights are always busy but it it is annoying when people are reviewing saying it was rammed on a friday when in reality there were a handful of people there!

Is it just us with too high an expectation?

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What I would say with most clubs is that it is the people who make a good night at a club and not the number that go on any given night.....

some nights at clubs may be busier than others, so it is frustrating when people ask for actual numbers... for example, a theme night may be busier, but the week either side may not be so..... doesn't mean they are not good nights!

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By *athfinders OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hull


"One of the things we love most about the site is the ability to read the reviews about the various swinging clubs.

This in turn makes us want to go or avoid certain clubs. We have been trying out a few new clubs recently and been bitterly disappointed. Our disappointment lies in the fact people are stating how busy the club is and there are so many couples.

Now we can believe this to be the case but what is disappointing is the fact we see reviews from people who claimed to be at the same club the night we were there saying it was rammed and full of people!

Are our expectations of the word rammed and full of people too high as on a number of occasions now we have been and there has been a max of 5 or 6 couples there all just chatting to the bar staff etc.

We have been to many a theme night at LC and found there to be in excess of 70+ couples. We would class that as rammed and not half a dozen couples.

Its such a shame when people don't write a true and fair review of a club. Maybe that or our expectations for numbers are way off the mark. We understand theme nights are always busy but it it is annoying when people are reviewing saying it was rammed on a friday when in reality there were a handful of people there!

Is it just us with too high an expectation?

What I would say with most clubs is that it is the people who make a good night at a club and not the number that go on any given night.....

some nights at clubs may be busier than others, so it is frustrating when people ask for actual numbers... for example, a theme night may be busier, but the week either side may not be so..... doesn't mean they are not good nights!"

You have missed the point. There was no dispute with the quality of people going. The problem is that there will be 6 couples there and people are reviewing saying it is heaving on the same night in reviews!

Is 6 couples really heaving or is it just rubbish? In our opinion it is just rubbish that 6 couples is busy!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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You have missed the point. There was no dispute with the quality of people going. The problem is that there will be 6 couples there and people are reviewing saying it is heaving on the same night in reviews!

Is 6 couples really heaving or is it just rubbish? In our opinion it is just rubbish that 6 couples is busy! "

no... you have missed my point...

just because it may not be busy on the night YOU went, it doesn't necessarily it would wasn't busy the day/week before you went..... or it won't be busy the day/week after you go...

besides as was alluded to... "busy" is a subjective term... what you make consider to be busy may not be the same for other people...

again... people seem to be so "number" focused and that is what makes a good night...

i could be at a clubs with 5 people and have a good time... conversely I could back at a club with 100 of the most shitty arseholes and have a crap time

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew what you meant Fabio, and I tend to agree. As you know Dave and I spent some brilliant nights at Clubf over the years and a night is what you make it.

We had 3 new couples attend our place not so long back, it was a quiet night with a handful of regulars and 2 out of the 3 couples had a brilliant night, the 3rd couple were miserable sods despite encouragement to include themselves in the socialising. Point being, one persons perception will always differ from the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the underlying point the OP is making is the way the review section for the clubs are used by some people to make out some clubs have better attendances than others. Making the reviews sometimes misleading. They did say someone had posted a review of a club they attended on the same night, referring to the night as being busy night.

I do agree its the people that make the night not the numbers but using the review section to give an inflated impression of numbers is misleading to people which are looking to attend somewhere with loads of people there.

Personally for me i would agree that 6 or so couples would constitute a quiet night. Especially if they all know each other as this can sometimes be a little intimidating to some who maybe aren't as outgoing as what others maybe.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"The clubs use "flirty fishing" to get guys there and pay for membership. This usually takes the form of a message from an attractive looking girl who messages you a few times, drawing you in, then tells you she "only meets in clubs" and will you join her there for sex please!

Once your wallet has been emptied you won't see her for dust.

Also clubs advertise on the "meet me today" by putting up a meet by a pretty girl saying "I am going to ----- club today, who is going to join me?"

Cynical, wrong, and spoils this site for everybody. "

I only meet in clubs and if I am asking for somebody to join me (which I tend to do), then I'm wanting to go in as a couple, socialise and play as a couple

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I agree that misleading club reviews hurts not only the people being misled, but the club too as people think 'oh I won't bother going there. Its always so busy'.

Some of my best nights have been when its not so busy so they might be doing more harm than good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen such reviews where either a person is "slamming" a club or they were overstating how many people were in the club.

Even if you report such a review nothing happens - we reported one about a review in which is guy was slamming the club as dirty unfriendly people and nasty staff.. strange enough it was couples and girls only night no single guys on that night and the joke of it as it was a quiet night only 4 couples and 1 single girl in... the guy writing the review was no were to be seen.

However for the same night he wrote a review for a different club in Manchester saying what a brilliant night there..

Reviews are all to be treated with a pinch of salt

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By *athfinders OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hull


"I think the underlying point the OP is making is the way the review section for the clubs are used by some people to make out some clubs have better attendances than others. Making the reviews sometimes misleading. They did say someone had posted a review of a club they attended on the same night, referring to the night as being busy night.

I do agree its the people that make the night not the numbers but using the review section to give an inflated impression of numbers is misleading to people which are looking to attend somewhere with loads of people there.

Personally for me i would agree that 6 or so couples would constitute a quiet night. Especially if they all know each other as this can sometimes be a little intimidating to some who maybe aren't as outgoing as what others maybe."

Thank you. Finally someone understands our point!

The night is what you make it but you go through expectation that the club will be busy based on previous feedback! Yet the feedback is wrong as we attend the same night as other peoples reviews and they say the place is heaving when clearly it is not!!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Do you post on the threads to state the real case? I don't mean in a contentious way, just a "It was a good night but a shame there weren't more that 6 couples there" sort of thing.

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By *athfinders OP   Couple
over a year ago

Hull


"Do you post on the threads to state the real case? I don't mean in a contentious way, just a "It was a good night but a shame there weren't more that 6 couples there" sort of thing."

Yes we give a full account of the evening

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Well always give a completely accurate depiction of any night we go to any given club and always try and give an idea of numbers.

We're aware that club regulars inflate numbers in their repetitive reviews on a regular basis, which ultimately does nobody any favors. While you don't always need a club packed to the rafters with people to have a good time, claiming your venue regular venue is packed out all the time when in fact the total opposite is the case is actually not good for business in the long run and creates a sense of false expectation, as seems to have happened to the OP.

The scene has also proven to varied in the extreme when it comes to numbers, but there's normally some nights you can always guarantee are busy.

The party closest to Christmas, New Years Eve, The Party closest to Valentines Day, and the weekends before bank holiday Monday are generally a good bet.

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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Please don't under estimate the importance of the venue size in this debate either. We tend to suffer from reviews saying it was quiet, when infact we had in more guests than many clubs could cope with. 70 couples in here can still feel "empty", where as 70 couples in many clubs around the UK would be capacity or beyond easily. Equally clubs reviews that state "packed" really need to be considered against the size of the building, we know some clubs where a lounge and a playroom make up the club, and 10 couples in makes for a crowd!

Totally agree with the main point lots are making though, often, our better, more intimate nights, are the quieter ones!!

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

This is something that annoys us too, a couple of times we have been to a club then the following week gone to put a review on and there are people saying it was packed! Must have been a different club to the one we were at! Agree 100% with _tasias comment about size versus numbers, Xstasia is massive compared with some clubs, 10 couples and a few singles at some clubs would make it very busy but at Xtasia or Chams etc if there were that many in you could think you were the only people there! So club size Versus numbers is very relevant really but no real way of telling unless you know the clubs. As others have said big party nights near Xmas New Years etc are usually a good bet but clubs try and push every weekend as some kind of party night so still hard to gauge. No one ever said this swinging lark was going to be easy!

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