FabSwingers.com forum: Limited single guy nights

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just an observation, why would guys attend a club on a night that allows limited single guys, surely these nights would attract couples that are mainly looking for couples, wouldn't the chaps be better attending truly mixed nights ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd imagine the couples are looking for single guys but don't want to be inundated with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haven't found this in our experience most couples who attend these nights tend to be looking for couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If these nights are in lieu of a dedicated couples only night I can see why the couples would pick that night to attend, lesser of two evils so to speak.

As for the guys, maybe they think there's less competition or maybe less pressure? Might be reassuring to know you'll be one of 10 at most rather than one of 50 plus

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I can see that but we've been to a couple of clubs like this and the guys don't seem to have much luck, just think they would have more luck on a true mixed night

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By *teed99Man
over a year ago

Kettering

At Vanilla Alternative, the only night that single guys can attend is Friday but even then, numbers are limited to a maximum of 10. Couples attending on a Friday know single guys will be there but often just want to play by themselves or with other couples. Generally the single guys respect this. Some other couples and single ladies attend because of the single guys, so everyone is happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wasn't thinking so much of va as they have a true couples night other clubs have mixed nights and couples and limited single guys was thinking more of these

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Just an observation, why would guys attend a club on a night that allows limited single guys, surely these nights would attract couples that are mainly looking for couples, wouldn't the chaps be better attending truly mixed nights ?"

I go to one of these nights... the reason I go is that they tend to be much more socialable than the true mixed nights....

not so much about the sex, more the getting to know people and if I find people that i am compatible with, thats a bonus

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

We have started allowing a few single guys in on Saturdays. Alot of the couples that come don't mind a smaller amount of guys in but don't want to be around too many.Its been working pretty well for the guys and couples.Some guys tend to just come just for the social and to chill as _abio said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't attend a club.. its wayyyyyyyyyy to expensive lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did attend a couples night at a club once but i felt out of place and not really that welcome by a lot of the people there. It felt quite clickie So don't think i would attend a couples night again as a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have started allowing a few single guys in on Saturdays. Alot of the couples that come don't mind a smaller amount of guys in but don't want to be around too many.Its been working pretty well for the guys and couples.Some guys tend to just come just for the social and to chill as _abio said. "

I must admit despite loving Tease this puts us off coming now. We'll try it at some point but we go clubbing to meet couples and the presence of singlemen undeniably changes the dynamic of a club night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I go to one of these nights... the reason I go is that they tend to be much more socialable than the true mixed nights....

not so much about the sex, more the getting to know people and if I find people that i am compatible with, thats a bonus"

From my observations you would be the exception to the rule, I've seen one or two guys do ok but a majority stand around with a bottle of water near play areas waiting for action that hardly ever happens just think a mixed night would be better for these guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haven't found this in our experience most couples who attend these nights tend to be looking for couples "

Hmm maybe it's those couples who are there on the wrong nights and not the guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the real question is why the club are allowing single guys to attend a couples night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haven't found this in our experience most couples who attend these nights tend to be looking for couples

Hmm maybe it's those couples who are there on the wrong nights and not the guys?

I'm talking about clubs that don't have couples only nights they have mixed nights and limited single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys want to attend because its limited numbers so less competition for those looking for them I thought that would be obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't been to a club where thus happens so have no idea how the social dynamic works in a club environment. We do however attend private parties that use this as a format and it works brilliantly, everyone has a great time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guys want to attend because its limited numbers so less competition for those looking for them I thought that would be obvious."

But as I have said from my experience and on more than one occasion I have seen all of the single guys get no luck at all, this is not a single guy bashing thread at all, just trying to understand the logic behind it, why not attend a night where a majority of the the couples are seeking the attention of single guys compared to a night where they are not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be quite happy going to a limited night. A couple of the ones we have been to the balance has been perfect when numbers were limited.

when they had a night which had no limit we could not get any peace to play even though we were in the areas where you were meant to be left to play alone unless invited to join in. The men there ruined it for themselves as we would have been quiet happy to invite people given the chance.

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

On our Fridays singles nights we get a lot of couples too so we limit the guys to 16 . we were running Saturdays as couples only but people just stopped coming it was either introduce something different or lose the whole Saturday night to something else ie.fetish ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find Saturday night at Tease II a perfect mix of mainly couples and a few single males, always a great night and works really well, well we always have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I appreciate the same model does not work for all clubs we go in mixed and couples evenings, if I were a single male I would attend on a true mixed evening when a majority of the couples were looking for single guys

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

"I appreciate the same model does not work for all clubs we go in mixed and couples evenings, if I were a single male I would attend on a true mixed evening when a majority of the couples were looking for single guys "

Most definately me too ...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

and that is the one thing my local club tells guys.... if you are going to do the above, then that specific night is not for you..... it tends to be for people who are socialable, and they will only suggest it if they think you would like it.....

I have seen many a guy come on the mixed night and then then the limited single guy night is the same, and the thing that is stressed is that they are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On our Fridays singles nights we get a lot of couples too so we limit the guys to 16 . we were running Saturdays as couples only but people just stopped coming it was either introduce something different or lose the whole Saturday night to something else ie.fetish .. "

Personally I think there would be significant demand for a weekend fet event. the current fet events are barely promoted on the kink scene and the catchment area is huge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a club running a "greedy girls" night?

I know the Lodge do every month...by invite only - check out horny porny profile for info....

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Find a club running a "greedy girls" night?

I know the Lodge do every month...by invite only - check out horny porny profile for info....

Good luck"

How is that relevant to this thread ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If single guys are just hanging around play areas all night then maybe they should consider a bit of socializing first......a bit of chat and rapport can go a long way rather than just wafting their hampton around hoping for a quick bit of fun......

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't agree with limited single male nights if there is already a couples only night at the club. However I do agree that men would be better off at a mixed night, as even single females can struggle to get interested couples on a couples night.

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

" From my observations you would be the exception to the rule, I've seen one or two guys do ok but a majority stand around with a bottle of water near play areas waiting for action that hardly ever happens just think a mixed night would be better for these guys

Yeah, can see that being a problem .We only let them in the bar and they can only go to play areas if invited .. Im guessing knowing that,that they more likely come for the social and just see it as a bonus if they play ..

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Having been to both couples only, mixed and limited single guy nights I don't see the problem with any of them.

On mixed nights everyone knows the make up of the clientele and that there will be a fair few single guys, couples and single females.

On limited single guy nights there will obviously be less, but the main difference is that there won't be groups of guys milling about, the common problem of gawpers, followers and guys randomly strolling around. Those couples that want to chat/play with them have the option - those that don't won't find it hard to avoid them.

On couples nights I've often seen both the males and females separating for large parts of the evening and almost becoming 'singles'.

If you know the set up of the night and aren't happy with the fact there will be a small proportion of single guys? Then either don't go on that night or go to a couples only club. Clubs aren't always just thinking with their eyes on the bank balance - it's about offering choice, as some couples may not be able to make it to dedicated couples only nights (often Saturdays) as may be the case for singles with Fridays.

As crystal. (or Wheels !) said - I'd like to see some clubs bucking the trend of marginalising other events to Sundays or mid-week. Fet nights and bi nights in particular - as these are often held on 'School nights' making it difficult for attendees.

Everyone has a choice. The club AND the clientele. Nobody has to attend and if the presence of a handful of guys offends that much , they're too hard to avoid and the mere fact they're in the building impedes on your fun - then is the problem really theirs or yours?

('Yours' is a generic term and not aimed at any specific poster)

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

Personally I think there would be significant demand for a weekend fet event. the current fet events are barely promoted on the kink scene and the catchment area is huge"

Do you mean a Fet event in a swing venue open to Swingers and Fetsters simultaneously?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think there would be significant demand for a weekend fet event. the current fet events are barely promoted on the kink scene and the catchment area is huge

Do you mean a Fet event in a swing venue open to Swingers and Fetsters simultaneously? "

Yes exactly that. But on a weekend rather than on a school night. And as obi said bi nights too. effectively turning Saturday night in to another Friday seems short sighted.

Similarly I fail to see why almost all clubs admit single men in a Friday but not a saturday. Why not vary it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to one of these nights... the reason I go is that they tend to be much more socialable than the true mixed nights....

not so much about the sex, more the getting to know people and if I find people that i am compatible with, thats a bonus"

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

As to your first point, I know this has, admittedly on a Sunday, been tried before and the crowds didn't sit well together. However public attitudes to kink have shifted.

It would require the clubs to provide the equipment and specialist staff necessary and they are unlikely to do so without guaranteed extra attendees especially as they would lose some of their existing trade.

Perhaps the answer is a one off crossover event to prove the market?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think there would be significant demand for a weekend fet event. the current fet events are barely promoted on the kink scene and the catchment area is huge

Do you mean a Fet event in a swing venue open to Swingers and Fetsters simultaneously? "

There is one now at the attic on the 3rd Saturday of every month... It is trying to open the barriers between the two lifestyles as many do have feet in both camps.

First one has just been and was very good..with staff and equipment available x

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Personally I think there would be significant demand for a weekend fet event. the current fet events are barely promoted on the kink scene and the catchment area is huge

Do you mean a Fet event in a swing venue open to Swingers and Fetsters simultaneously?

Yes exactly that. But on a weekend rather than on a school night. And as obi said bi nights too. effectively turning Saturday night in to another Friday seems short sighted.

Similarly I fail to see why almost all clubs admit single men in a Friday but not a saturday. Why not vary it?"

Speaking as a single guy most clubs only seem to allow single guys in on friday nights, but my prefered night of the week to visit a club is saturday night. Most clubs only seem to be couples only on saturdays and i really don't like being told "Couple up" so you can get in. I'm a single guy so prefer to attend as a single. I agree with you it would be better if clubs mixed it up a bit and had some fridays as couples only and then some saturdays as mixed nights where singles are allowed. I have found a couple of clubs now where single guys are allowed on saturdays and it will be these clubs that will get my custom in the future.

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

Personally I think there would be significant demand for a weekend fet event. the current fet events are barely promoted on the kink scene and the catchment area is huge

Do you mean a Fet event in a swing venue open to Swingers and Fetsters simultaneously?

Yes exactly that. But on a weekend rather than on a school night. And as obi said bi nights too. effectively turning Saturday night in to another Friday seems short sighted.

Similarly I fail to see why almost all clubs admit single men in a Friday but not a saturday. Why not vary it?"

We are hosting a fet swingnight Bank holiday sunday 10pm - 5am cambs beds border at the club. inbox for details

Raewyn x

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

we only go to mixed nights, we find selected singles nights are mainly couples and the choice of singles is limited. Fridays are usually mixed at a lot of clubs but saturdays couples only so we have to find those that are mixed. I would have thought that if there are a couple of clubs in 1 area, Birmingham, Stoke, Manchester for example one should run couples on a friday and mixed on a Saturday and the other club run the other way round instead of competeing... Just a thought.

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