FabSwingers.com forum: Chams on a Monday if you're not bi

By *ue care and attention OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Just read a review on Chams from Monday night guests who say if you're not bi you shouldn't be there.

Now I'm not bi but am very bi friendly. I love the relaxed atmosphere on a Monday night and quite enjoy seeing two men or two women playing so why shouldn't I be there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly referring to straight guys. I've been there when there were guys being quite abrupt about not wanting touched and to keep a distance, some of them seem to want to over-compensate in case they catch the bi bug. It really puts a downer on the atmosphere.

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By *ue care and attention OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

I guess I can understand that. Maybe it should be themed bi friendly night. I'm pretty sure the staff remind non regular visitors when they enter that it's bi night so they enter at their peril

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah bugger it. Go of you want to go

We've been on bi nights and I rather enjoyed it and dabbled in the lady lurve but i didn't feel I had too or pressured too

Everyone there has always been so relaxed and lovely that the opinions of one wouldn't deter me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Possibly referring to straight guys. I've been there when there were guys being quite abrupt about not wanting touched and to keep a distance, some of them seem to want to over-compensate in case they catch the bi bug. It really puts a downer on the atmosphere."

I would think they mean the straight guys.

Even though it's a bi night it doesn't mean that people have to play. Surely a straight (but bi friendly) female would be welcome- who'd know she was straight, or just not wanting to play that night?

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By *ue care and attention OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Oh I would go and I'd enjoy it. I have many bi friends so a Monday night is often a really good social night too.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's aimed at the people who complain about man on man action in open rooms - it's bad enough when they behave like that on other nights, but on bi night it's appalling behaviour.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

As a bi couple we only go to Chams on a mon....the problem is where do you stop allowing straight people to attend? before long it would be like any other day and no longer a bi day.

Mrs Dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In case anyone thinks I'm being negative, despite the actions of one guy in particular, the times I've visited Chams on a Monday have been some of the most amazing nights of sex I've ever had. I only wish it were a few hundred miles closer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a bi couple we only go to Chams on a mon....the problem is where do you stop allowing straight people to attend? before long it would be like any other day and no longer a bi day.

Mrs Dirty "

I don't think you can stop straight people attending. How would you gather whether they were straight or not? Anyone can tell you they are bi and there's not really a way of proving it , not that I'd ever disbelieve someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just prooves that the whole concept of sex and sexuality have been corrupted by religion and society. Ancient Greece egypt and Rome had no such taboo. people who choose to define sexuality and divide it are the real bigots

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By *ove bi guysWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"As a bi couple we only go to Chams on a mon....the problem is where do you stop allowing straight people to attend? before long it would be like any other day and no longer a bi day.

Mrs Dirty

You can refuse admission though.... Monday is bi night if you are not bi or very bi friendly and your actions / behaviour are in not in keeping with the evening you will be asked not to come again on a Monday.

I have seen this happen - and very happy with that. Monday is the one night of the week M on M play is open and encouraged, straight / non bi friendly folk have every other day of the week.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"It's aimed at the people who complain about man on man action in open rooms - it's bad enough when they behave like that on other nights, but on bi night it's appalling behaviour.

People complain about man on man? That's awful. Homophobia alive and well even in swinging community, it seems

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By *ue care and attention OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Hmm man on man fun. No complaints here

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I think they have clamped down on straight men attending on bi night as a lot were using it just to get cheap membership as they offer bi night only membership to bi men on Mondays, or they did.

Straight men would then get such a membership but never play with any bi men.

Personally I think it's awful when bi women.are welcomed and often encouraged any night bit bi men need a special night.

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By *ue care and attention OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

"I think they have clamped down on straight men attending on bi night as a lot were using it just to get cheap membership as they offer bi night only membership to bi men on Mondays, or they did.

Straight men would then get such a membership but never play with any bi men.

Personally I think it's awful when bi women.are welcomed and often encouraged any night bit bi men need a special night. "

I agree with you on that but think (in the swinging world) no one bats an eye lid at two women playing as it's become very much the norm. Two men playing is still distasteful to many. I accept there should be a night when bi folks (what about gay?) should feel relaxed in front of others

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have attended on bi nigjt desperately hopingto see m on m action. Sod the closed room thing! I wanna watch x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just read a review on Chams from Monday night guests who say if you're not bi you shouldn't be there.

Now I'm not bi but am very bi friendly. I love the relaxed atmosphere on a Monday night and quite enjoy seeing two men or two women playing so why shouldn't I be there?"

we used to go .my wife is very bi. we had many a good night .but this one time we was asked time and time again when we was paying to get in if I was bi.

told the staff my wife is I am not.that was the last time we went on a Monday and will not go again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go Tuesday! Sorted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also what about bi men on 'normal' nights not sure what the definition is of normal LOL but just thoughts

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

"also what about bi men on 'normal' nights not sure what the definition is of normal LOL but just thoughts"

Presumably the Bi men on 'normal' nights play straight as they have that option. Surely straight guys (that's actually straight not Fabs "straight"

) going on a specifically Bi night should expect to see MM action and at the very least be expected to not make any negative comments and if they do should be banned, just as anyone behaving badly should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a bi couple we only go to Chams on a mon....the problem is where do you stop allowing straight people to attend? before long it would be like any other day and no longer a bi day.

Mrs Dirty

I have seen this happen - and very happy with that. Monday is the one night of the week M on M play is open and encouraged, straight / non bi friendly folk have every other day of the week."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's pretty easy to spot a straight guy on a bi night. They are clearly uncomfortable whenever any guys come near them. A few manage to get in and are clearly just trying it on with the ladies.

Chams are happy for bi tolerant ladies but try to a avoid letting straight guys in.

It's the one night of the week where you may see a guy laid on the bar with everyone licking food off his body

It's a very relaxed night and there is a lot of mm action all over the place.

Brilliant night. Brilliant club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty easy to spot a straight guy on a bi night. They are clearly uncomfortable whenever any guys come near them. A few manage to get in and are clearly just trying it on with the ladies.

Chams are happy for bi tolerant ladies but try to a avoid letting straight guys in.

It's the one night of the week where you may see a guy laid on the bar with everyone licking food off his body

It's a very relaxed night and there is a lot of mm action all over the place.

Brilliant night. Brilliant club.

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As a couple new to " the scene" we as yet haven't defined our boundaries completely. Bi nights at chams and xtasia do appeal to us if only to come along and maybe watch a bit. Both of us being curious and not ruling anything out we feel it would perhaps be a good introduction. Have no doubts we'd be the incredibly nervous "stand out" couple but very much like the term "bi friendly" with a view to visiting on a bi night. Think if it's advertised as such, visitors are informed at door and visitor understands there are no grounds to complain once inside. Hope we get to experience it for ourselves sometime soon. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty easy to spot a straight guy on a bi night. They are clearly uncomfortable whenever any guys come near them. A few manage to get in and are clearly just trying it on with the ladies.

Chams are happy for bi tolerant ladies but try to a avoid letting straight guys in.

It's the one night of the week where you may see a guy laid on the bar with everyone licking food off his body

It's a very relaxed night and there is a lot of mm action all over the place.

Brilliant night. Brilliant club.

As a couple new to " the scene" we as yet haven't defined our boundaries completely. Bi nights at chams and xtasia do appeal to us if only to come along and maybe watch a bit. Both of us being curious and not ruling anything out we feel it would perhaps be a good introduction. Have no doubts we'd be the incredibly nervous "stand out" couple but very much like the term "bi friendly" with a view to visiting on a bi night. Think if it's advertised as such, visitors are informed at door and visitor understands there are no grounds to complain once inside. Hope we get to experience it for ourselves sometime soon. X"

I went with my wife to chams bi night as our first swinging experience.

I was asked if I was bi at the door. I blushed and said I might be.

Our nerves soon melted away and at the very end of the night I sucked my first.

Chams is such a friendly place. Tell the staff you're new and nervous and they'll do their best to look after you.

We love it there so much we both have chameleons tattoos now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty easy to spot a straight guy on a bi night. They are clearly uncomfortable whenever any guys come near them. A few manage to get in and are clearly just trying it on with the ladies.

Chams are happy for bi tolerant ladies but try to a avoid letting straight guys in.

It's the one night of the week where you may see a guy laid on the bar with everyone licking food off his body

It's a very relaxed night and there is a lot of mm action all over the place.

Brilliant night. Brilliant club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"also what about bi men on 'normal' nights not sure what the definition is of normal LOL but just thoughts

Presumably the Bi men on 'normal' nights play straight as they have that option. Surely straight guys (that's actually straight not Fabs "straight"

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

I don't think they should refuse straight guys admission, at the end of the play isn't guaranteed on a non bi day and guys haven't got any rights to expect with anyone else on those days, therefore non bi guys or women shouldn't be 'expected' to play on a Monday

What does need to be clear, and enforced, is that if you attend on a Monday there will be MM, FF etc activity going on and in public, and you may be approached by someone of the same sex and if you can't politely say no or cope with seeing bi action then you shouldn't go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think they should refuse straight guys admission, at the end of the play isn't guaranteed on a non bi day and guys haven't got any rights to expect with anyone else on those days, therefore non bi guys or women shouldn't be 'expected' to play on a Monday

Ooh very good point! I've changed my mind, I agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh very good point! I've changed my mind, I agree with you. "

No one is ever expected to play. The reasoning behind them trying to discourage straight guys is to avoid the 'sorry I'm straight mate' embarrassment.

It's not easy for a newly emerging bi guy to make an approach in the first place and straight guys have been known to be quite aggressive when saying no because they are straight.

It just makes for a much more relaxed evening by taking out the is he or isn't he.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh very good point! I've changed my mind, I agree with you.

No one is ever expected to play. The reasoning behind them trying to discourage straight guys is to avoid the 'sorry I'm straight mate' embarrassment.

It's not easy for a newly emerging bi guy to make an approach in the first place and straight guys have been known to be quite aggressive when saying no because they are straight.

It just makes for a much more relaxed evening by taking out the is he or isn't he.

Also a very good point!!

Very true. x

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