FabSwingers.com forum: Anyone want to partner up tonight?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for a lady to accompany me for my first ever swinging club experience (Manchester)... I'll pay the entrance fee and buy drinks!

Message me if you're interested!

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Looking for a lady to accompany me for my first ever swinging club experience (Manchester)... I'll pay the entrance fee and buy drinks!

Message me if you're interested!"
go on your own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Firstly, that's expensive. Secondly, I don't want to end up sitting on my own feeling like a lemon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i would be insulted if you asked me just to save yourself a few quid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly, that's expensive. Secondly, I don't want to end up sitting on my own feeling like a lemon!"

So you want a woman to use as some sort of money off voucher? Lovely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol that's not what I meant! I just don't want to go along and end up sitting on my own all evening!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol that's not what I meant! I just don't want to go along and end up sitting on my own all evening!"

and some woman agrees to go with you. You see someone else you want to play with and ditch your 'partner' Think you need to wake up and smell the coffee fella. (or dig deeper in your pocket and pay for an escort)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol that's not what I meant! I just don't want to go along and end up sitting on my own all evening!"
as you've never been to a club before, what makes you think you'll be sat alone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wouldn't dump then once in the club FFS, what sort of man do you think I am?

I simply want to find someone to experience it with. I certainly didn't expect a load of abuse!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been told that single men are not allowed to approach anyone. They have to sit at the bar and wait to be invited to join in?

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"I've been told that single men are not allowed to approach anyone. They have to sit at the bar and wait to be invited to join in?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been told that single men are not allowed to approach anyone. They have to sit at the bar and wait to be invited to join in?"

Not true. We recently visited a club and the guys there were very friendly and respectful. Just chat to people like you would in a pub. If you are friendly and not pervy someone may ask you to join them.

Maybe try a social night if you've never been to a club before.

Your earlier comments were a bit

hence the responses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well maybe I didn't express myself very well, but I certainly didn't expect that type of abuse. Some of the women on here are up their own backsides and need to chill out a bit! I simply meant I didn't want to pay £50 to sit on my own at the fucking bar all evening! Think Might leave this site, the women on here all think far too much of themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well maybe I didn't express myself very well, but I certainly didn't expect that type of abuse. Some of the women on here are up their own backsides and need to chill out a bit! I simply meant I didn't want to pay £50 to sit on my own at the fucking bar all evening! Think Might leave this site, the women on here all think far too much of themselves!"

None of the replies were abusive at all.

What would you expect for your £50 paid to get into a club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just sick of being seen as a groupon ticket. Man up and go alone. Tho you do sound like you have unrealistic expectations. If you are that amazing you will be successful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well it's ok for you women, you get free entry. But you know what? Go screw yourself. I've never been made to feel so unwelcome in my live. I'm out of here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did dums. Just because nobody would go with you. wow you would be such a hit in clubs with that attitude. Truely our loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me thinks with your attitude you may be stuck at the bar on your own anyway.

Lighten up by all means connect with a woman first rather than advertise for a complete stranger to be used as a money of coupon.

Socials first meet someone then go club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go yourself, buy a lady a drink at the club, get chatting and see if they find you attractive enougb to play with. Just like here sell yourself there. Im sure theyd be more friendly there to a newbie if you told them you were a newbie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it's ok for you women, you get free entry. But you know what? Go screw yourself. I've never been made to feel so unwelcome in my live. I'm out of here. "
free entry? I think not !

Your approach and attitude is uncalled for and as you so rightly pointed out, it's not welcomed either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP in my experience it's not like you've been lead to believe in clubs. Never been to one where guys single guys have to sit in the bar & have to wait to be invited anywhere.

In my experience at the very least they can wander round, view what's going on, use the jacuzzi/sauna/steam rooms if the club has them. Chat to people and generally have a chilled out evening.

I think your offer was genuine but not quite pitched in the right way to be attractive to anyone on here. You didn't make it clear what you expected from the girl that went with you....what if she got there and then didn't want to "play" with you? What is she was approached & went off with someone in there?

You're honestly better trying it out for yourself and when you've hot some experience of clubs then try and find a partner to join you. Look in the social events section and go along on one of the social nights where it's cheaper for guys & membership isn't needed.

The one thing you can't do on this site or in this lifestyle is react the way you did when things don't go your way....it's a fatal error on FAB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP in my experience it's not like you've been lead to believe in clubs. Never been to one where guys single guys have to sit in the bar & have to wait to be invited anywhere.

In my experience at the very least they can wander round, view what's going on, use the jacuzzi/sauna/steam rooms if the club has them. Chat to people and generally have a chilled out evening.

The one thing you can't do on this site or in this lifestyle is react the way you did when things don't go your way....it's a fatal error on FAB."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's incentive whatsoever fir a woman partnering up with a stranger, man up and go on your own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's incentive whatsoever fir a woman partnering up with a stranger, man up and go on your own"

No incentive * ffs

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By *heRainManMan
over a year ago

Warrington & Glasgow

"I simply meant I didn't want to pay £50 to sit on my own at the fucking bar all evening!"
I'm sure with the charm you've displayed in this thread, you won't be on your own for long! There'll be lots of other single blokes to chat to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I simply meant I didn't want to pay £50 to sit on my own at the fucking bar all evening!I'm sure with the charm you've displayed in this thread, you won't be on your own for long! There'll be lots of other single blokes to chat to!"

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

As an offer it wasn't a bad one.

To have a meet outside the club (even with an offer of a lift) and then the money he would have spent as a single to be spent on a mutually supportive adventure with a few drinks along the way.

His marketing was a little shoddy and his personality a touch. .... prickly.

Its something I might be doing soon but I hope to make it more appetising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't see what's in it for the single lady, I can understand it if you've met and get in well, but other than that doesn't seem like it's a very appealing offer

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"There's incentive whatsoever fir a woman partnering up with a stranger, man up and go on your own"

Except he was going to pay entry and drinks so free night out really.

OP I don't think your request was unreasonable and you didn't say you expected sex frim the.person you were taking in with you. If a female had started this thread some of the replies would have been different. No one would have suggested you hire an escorts for starters!

Perhaps concentrate on meeting someone outside of the club situation with a view to building a relationship whereby they could accompany you in the future.

In my single days I would often go to clubs with guys so they could getting cheaper. Sometimes we'd stick together and sometimes we'd go our separate ways, whatever worked for us.

I never felt like a Groupon ticket, I think that says more about the females mindset than your own!

I haven't checked your profile out but I'd say from a safety point of view not many women would be willing to go to a club with a guy with no profile picture and who they haven't seen or met before which is why I suggested the option above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As an offer it wasn't a bad one.

To have a meet outside the club (even with an offer of a lift) and then the money he would have spent as a single to be spent on a mutually supportive adventure with a few drinks along the way.

His marketing was a little shoddy and his personality a touch. .... prickly.

Its something I might be doing soon but I hope to make it more appetising.

Nothing in it for the woman at all! Women get in free or cheaper anyhow as the OP had eloquently put. The trouble then is you are seen as a couple. Everything he says and does is reflected on the female. He acts like he has on the thread and people see it as' their behaviour' not 'his behaviour.' I'd rather pay a few quid for my own diet than be branded a knob because of some strangers behaviour. Men don't always see it like that.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

ive seen ladies asking for club buddies on here without this catty aggressive response .. its the numbers game on here and in clubs again . i wont go to a club without a partner exactly because i dont want to sit alone ...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Well it's ok for you women, you get free entry. But you know what? Go screw yourself. I've never been made to feel so unwelcome in my live. I'm out of here. free entry? I think not !

Your approach and attitude is uncalled for and as you so rightly pointed out, it's not welcomed either!"

Some clubs it's free, others it's severely reduced. Chams is £8 for single females with no membership fee and £33 for guys with a £70 membership fee payable on your first time whether you want to go back or not.

How would you react if you were told to go hire an escort just for asking if anyone wanted to go with you? I'd be a bit pissed off if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was in the same position I might well ask for someone to accompany me too. Some people dont have the confidence to walk into the unknown on their own.

Perhaps going with someone this time will give him the confidence to go on his own next time.

No need for the bitchy comments though..not really necessary to turn on him for asking in what I thought was quite a reasonable request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it's ok for you women, you get free entry. But you know what? Go screw yourself. I've never been made to feel so unwelcome in my live. I'm out of here. "

Bye.....with that attitude you are not likely to be missed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it's ok for you women, you get free entry. But you know what? Go screw yourself. I've never been made to feel so unwelcome in my live. I'm out of here.

Bye.....with that attitude you are not likely to be missed!"

Think he was kind of provoked into saying that..and I probably would have reacted the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that thread made good reading

I was going to ask for a shag don't think I will

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"ive seen ladies asking for club buddies on here without this catty aggressive response .. its the numbers game on here and in clubs again . i wont go to a club without a partner exactly because i dont want to sit alone ... "

but then I would say that if you are not socialable enough to talk to people in clubs... then maybe they aren't for you anyway...

as a single guy who is "adult" enough to go step thru those doors by myself.... and "adult" enough to chat with people, it confuses me as to why having a complete stranger on your arm is going to give you some sort of "super confidence"......

I think it is more about how they think "others" will perceive you if you wander in as a couple.... and its about how they see other single guys (one upping them)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, if it had been a woman posting this thread there would have been a totally different attitude, though the OP did get pissy and throw the toys quite a bit too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree, if it had been a woman posting this thread there would have been a totally different attitude, though the OP did get pissy and throw the toys quite a bit too

funnily enough, a similar thread in swingers chat isn't getting anywhere near this kind of reaction and I'd say the OP on that one is even more upfront about his motives...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but then I would say that if you are not socialable enough to talk to people in clubs... then maybe they aren't for you anyway...

I think it is more about how they think "others" will perceive you if you wander in as a couple.... and its about how they see other single guys (one upping them)

I can see your point..as a woman I am confident enough to talk to anyone..however, to go to a swingers club on my own..nope wouldn't step through those doors if I'd never been to one before..its the fear of the unknown for some and no one should be 'put down' and made to feel inferior for not being confident enough to deal with this situation.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

is it fear of the unknown... or going on a perception of what you think...

no... everyone is not watching everyone arrive...

no... everyone is not going to prey on you like you are some sort of fresh meat or virgin conquest

I think so many people have the wrong perception of what a club is like that it can reflect in the attitudes of some...

the best clubs I have been to have been akin to racy pubs.... socialable and friendly, places where you can let your hair down, and if you play, you play..... but its not the be all and end all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As an offer it wasn't a bad one.

To have a meet outside the club (even with an offer of a lift) and then the money he would have spent as a single to be spent on a mutually supportive adventure with a few drinks along the way.

His marketing was a little shoddy and his personality a touch. .... prickly.

Its something I might be doing soon but I hope to make it more appetising.

Where are we going? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See the op has hid his profile

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By *moSexGeeksCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

He may have made some valid points although didn't present them well. As a newbie who has never been I can say, if I was a single male I wouldn't have the money or confidence to dish out around £110 that for all I know might be me getting shot down and not enjoying my self.

I would say on this one, there was no need to lash out at him like some high school bullies, Just because his propersition was a little too forward. I believe it took a lot of confidence to even consider this proposal. But I'm in no position to give any valid opinion as I have never been before.

Thanks for reading

J & S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is it fear of the unknown... or going on a perception of what you think...

no... everyone is not watching everyone arrive...

no... everyone is not going to prey on you like you are some sort of fresh meat or virgin conquest

I think so many people have the wrong perception of what a club is like that it can reflect in the attitudes of some...

the best clubs I have been to have been akin to racy pubs.... socialable and friendly, places where you can let your hair down, and if you play, you play..... but its not the be all and end all"

So yes fear of the unknown for people that have never stepped over that door. Second time wouldn't be a problem and its very easy for regular club goers to give their opinion and say its not a problem. I dont think for one moment that I will get mobbed from the door lurkers waiting for fresh prey but I do feel uncomfortable in unknown places until I get my bearings. Nothing sinister and nothing psychological to read in to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What fun

Poor OP has taken a beating and just for asking if a lady would like to accompany him to a club, how he worded it is inconsequential and again people just jump on the negatives, fact is we should be supporting the OP

I will be honest I now never go on my own to clubs always withanother as I've felt like a 2nd class citizen on my own, attitudes and approachability change somewhat when your a couple, btw there are many girls hawking on here for men to accompany them to clubs, giving them lifts etc, I can put you in touch with a few lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I posted earlier, I think the OP offer was genuine & I don't think he should have been villified in the way he was. I did have a couple of questions on his offer but other then that there wasn't much wrong with it.

I can also see why he reacted the way he did.

I'm someone that only meets at clubs now, I do prefer to go as a single & meet people there but I also know it is disproportionally more expensive for single guys and accept some may want to "couple up" for cheaper entry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree, if it had been a woman posting this thread there would have been a totally different attitude, though the OP did get pissy and throw the toys quite a bit too

funnily enough, a similar thread in swingers chat isn't getting anywhere near this kind of reaction and I'd say the OP on that one is even more upfront about his motives...

Depends on how the question is asked I think. Being upfront and honest is good.

No need for someone to get uppity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found the other thread. It got exactly the same reaction as this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I didn't think anything wrong with his offer, if I was closer I'd be happy to chat and discuss any details like lifts, going off with others etc,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell!!!! £110 for a maiden visit to a club? That's ridiculous

I mean what do you get as a welcome pack then? A dodgy cardboard laminated membership card? I don't think I would be going to a club anytime soon LoL

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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Not all clubs charge that price. I was always going into clubs on my own as it didn't bother me 1 bit. But met someone last week who suggested to me that we go together this weekend as it would save me money...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The main reason I prefer not to couple up with a guy to go to a club is because most clubs assume that, if you go as a couple, you are a couple. The guy also might expect me to stay with him all night and not go off and play alone, which is why I want to be there.

I feel the OP was given a bit of a rough ride for just asking for a club buddy. However most women would object to being used as a way to get into a club cheaply just to have to sit with the same guy all night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been told that single men are not allowed to approach anyone. They have to sit at the bar and wait to be invited to join in?"

Single guys can approach couples and single ladies....

And they don't have to sit at the bar to be invited to join in, you can wander round club.

If you do approach a couple or lady and they say no then it means no.

Whoever has told you that is either pulling your leg or they have never been to a club themselves.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

The poor man only asked for someone to go with him, if you don't like what he is asking for why not just avoid the thread altogether.

To the OP...if you re post your thread hopefully someone who is interested will comment.

To anyone else, if he does post again please leave the thread alone.

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