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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So just wondering on people thoughts....

If a couple are playing in an open space and a single guy, who has been chatting and is invited to watch, is stood watching and being respectful of the couples boundaries.. Why do other single guys think it's ok to just barge in and spoil things? Or think that as another guy is watching they are immediately ok to join in!?

As a single guy I often want to tell the other idiot singles (and some times cpls) to piss off! however I've always felt I couldn't as just another single guy!!

Do any other single guys have this issue or do you all see it as "push in and get first to the front" is acceptable behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are disrespectful idiots.

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

If a couple is playing in an open space it is often seen as an invitation to join in. When we play in an open room that's what it means.

If the couple only wanted you alone, and just to watch, then they might be better taking you to a private room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a couple is playing in an open space it is often seen as an invitation to join in. When we play in an open room that's what it means.

If the couple only wanted you alone, and just to watch, then they might be better taking you to a private room. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a couple is playing in an open space it is often seen as an invitation to join in. When we play in an open room that's what it means.

If the couple only wanted you alone, and just to watch, then they might be better taking you to a private room. "

Agreed that's a best bet but I'm just amazed how many single guys just steam in and upset the couple or ruin the atmosphere in some sort of " me first" attempt to what must seem to them as "queue jumping" more couples would enjoy that sort of thing I am sure if they could be confident that some idiot would not just spoil it for all??

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i know what you mean... it does feel like people are out for their own means regardless of what it means for the other single guys in a club......

in a way they don't owe you anything... however their actions can make it more difficult for the next person.......

my basic rules can be summed up in 4 words.... don't be an arse.... but it seems that it is a hard one for some people to work out.....

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"If a couple is playing in an open space it is often seen as an invitation to join in. When we play in an open room that's what it means.

If the couple only wanted you alone, and just to watch, then they might be better taking you to a private room.

Agreed that's a best bet but I'm just amazed how many single guys just steam in and upset the couple or ruin the atmosphere in some sort of " me first" attempt to what must seem to them as "queue jumping" more couples would enjoy that sort of thing I am sure if they could be confident that some idiot would not just spoil it for all?? "

I don't think, generally, the concept of a queue applies. People choose those who appeal to join them. Excluding areas designated as free-for-alls, anyone should keep their hands off, keep their distance and wait to be invited.

I would want nothing at all to do with anyone, male or female, that dived in uninvited and I'd make that clear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a couple is playing in an open space it is often seen as an invitation to join in. When we play in an open room that's what it means.

If the couple only wanted you alone, and just to watch, then they might be better taking you to a private room.

Agreed that's a best bet but I'm just amazed how many single guys just steam in and upset the couple or ruin the atmosphere in some sort of " me first" attempt to what must seem to them as "queue jumping" more couples would enjoy that sort of thing I am sure if they could be confident that some idiot would not just spoil it for all??

I don't think, generally, the concept of a queue applies. People choose those who appeal to join them. Excluding areas designated as free-for-alls, anyone should keep their hands off, keep their distance and wait to be invited.

I would want nothing at all to do with anyone, male or female, that dived in uninvited and I'd make that clear."

Thats exactly my point its NOT a queue and if some thing is happening its not the signal for every guy to try and "get in" as i hear some of the idiots saying to each other usually in groups like fools!! And as you say it mainly just drives the couple to stop and leave!!

Shame all of us single guys are then seen as the same and makes everyones fun go down the tubes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit this type of "queue jumping " is starting to piss me off too - makes a real mockery of standing back respectfully until properly invited to play only for some heathens to barge in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow do these things actually happen, mind you I have not attended a swinging club so I wouldn't know. But I can imagine idiots getting excited and ruining the experience for everyone else. I think this similar problems lays within the site aswell, as some idiots have ruined an opportunity for most of us, which is very stupid.

Interestingly though, I've met a few who have explicitly stated no single males, guess I was lucky.

I just cannot see my self in a club acting like an idiot or just join and engage in sex uninvited. Its like joining a couple in a normal club kissing etc. YOU JUST DONT DO THAT

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By *ightDiversionMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

It does stagger me sometime as to how people behave.

On several occasions I have been with a couple in a fairly open room just starting to slowly move towards play, after chat and socialising, to be suddenly surrounded by guys cock in hand waiting to pounce. Sometimes its fine as the couple suggest a room, sometimes the lady is interested in multiple guys at once but also quite often the couple think sod this and bugger of to a private room on their own. To be fair that’s the name of the game at clubs and the guys have just been watching – can’t blame them for that.

There have also been occasions in mid play, I have been trying to perfect my tongue technique, and my nose is scratched by some guy desperately trying to ‘cop a feel’ regardless of the ladies desires or those of anyone else. I feel as the single guy that it’s not my place to say ‘FUCK OFF’ and I usually make my excuses at that point and leave.

It never ceases to amaze me that some blokes ever get any fun at clubs as they seem to be so self absorbed as to their own needs and just jump at the first sign of any action but I guess it takes all sorts…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because your in an open area doesn't mean you want to have sex with everyone ! We "invite"people to play and do not expect anyone to "cop " a feel .

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