FabSwingers.com forum: groups of guys new to clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Me and 3 of my mates were talking about visiting a club together and I thought id just come on here to get a sense of what the reaction would be we were thinking of going to the lodge Gloucester x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggest you contact the club & ask them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some clubs would have restrictions on groups of guys gong in ...

A lot also would expect you to have an introduction evening too

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Why do you all want to go together? If you all have sex with each other fair enough but if you just want to oggle people having sex then just get some porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you all want to go together? If you all have sex with each other fair enough but if you just want to oggle people having sex then just get some porn.

jumping to conclusions? Pre-judging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you all want to go together? If you all have sex with each other fair enough but if you just want to oggle people having sex then just get some porn.

loads of people just go to ogle others having sex, lots of people go cause they like to be watched

I often just watch, why would I watch porn when I can see it live

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Why do you all want to go together? If you all have sex with each other fair enough but if you just want to oggle people having sex then just get some porn.

jumping to conclusions? Pre-judging? "

Not at all? I asked a question and then offered some thoughts. I like watching people have sex. However, four men who know each other out for a night watching me have sex would be off-putting. A whole group of men who don't know each other is fine with me.

Given that a lot of clubs restrict the numbers of single men anyway a group of four need to consider what they will get out of going and look at whether it's even possible.

Of course the obvious thing to do is to all book in separately, stagger their arrival and then meet each other in the club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you all want to go together? If you all have sex with each other fair enough but if you just want to oggle people having sex then just get some porn.

jumping to conclusions? Pre-judging?

Given that a lot of clubs restrict the numbers of single men anyway a group of four need to consider what they will get out of going and look at whether it's even possible.

Of course the obvious thing to do is to all book in separately, stagger their arrival and then meet each other in the club.

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were all interested in going and meeting people in a social night to begin with not into having sex with eachother just its nice to know people and us all being close friends and all being interested why not go together maybe staggering our arrival would be a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think before you can attend the Lodge on a club night you have to attend a midweek social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually think attending in a group of 3 or 4 would be counter-productive. You will be less inclined to socialise and people may well be reluctant to approach a larger group.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I actually think attending in a group of 3 or 4 would be counter-productive. You will be less inclined to socialise and people may well be reluctant to approach a larger group. "

Unless they can all "perform" with each other in which case it will be a ready made gangbang.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to attend the social on Wednesday nights first

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

"Why do you all want to go together? If you all have sex with each other fair enough but if you just want to oggle people having sex then just get some porn.

jumping to conclusions? Pre-judging?

Given that a lot of clubs restrict the numbers of single men anyway a group of four need to consider what they will get out of going and look at whether it's even possible.

Of course the obvious thing to do is to all book in separately, stagger their arrival and then meet each other in the club.

would feel a bit like a pack hunt to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are going with a view to socialise then why not go to a social outside of a club environment ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just get impressions of a group of half pissed mates being loud and finding it all a 'bit of a laugh', all boys together style.

Pointing, following, here john come n look at this ....

I do think a swingers social away from a club would be the best ice breaker for you, your mates and the swingers of the south west.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just get impressions of a group of half pissed mates being loud and finding it all a 'bit of a laugh', all boys together style.

Pointing, following, here john come n look at this ....

I do think a swingers social away from a club would be the best ice breaker for you, your mates and the swingers of the south west."
maybe ill go on my own first

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

I can see it would be good support for each other.

As long as respect is there then there shouldn't be a problem in any club that allows single men.

Fem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can see it would be good support for each other.

As long as respect is there then there shouldn't be a problem in any club that allows single men.

Fem"
thankyou

I think ill end up going on my own the first time I just get nervous of someone I know seeing me as my family are dead set against swinging (prudes) how is it up sheffield im there Thursday

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

"I can see it would be good support for each other.

As long as respect is there then there shouldn't be a problem in any club that allows single men.

Fem thankyou

I think ill end up going on my own the first time I just get nervous of someone I know seeing me as my family are dead set against swinging (prudes) how is it up sheffield im there Thursday"

I wouldn't know my families view on swinging. I dare not ask... lol!

Sheffield is same old same.

Would prefer to be sunning ourselves somewhere nice and hot instead...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I can see it would be good support for each other.

As long as respect is there then there shouldn't be a problem in any club that allows single men.

Fem thankyou

I think ill end up going on my own the first time I just get nervous of someone I know seeing me as my family are dead set against swinging (prudes) how is it up sheffield im there Thursday"

If you go with friends you are guaranteed to be seen by people you know and for chatter to go around your circle. It is difficult to go on your own but socials really help to break the ice and get to know people. Enjoy.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Go on your tod, be yourself, talk to people. Don't think of it as a swinging club, think of it as just a normal night out.

I go to a fair few places on my own and I've always found people to be friendly. Granted having huge boobies probably helps me, but then I'll take every silver lining in life

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

I once went to a sun,sex and somethin else night at my local night club,it wasn't a swingers club or anything but because i didn't notice the word ibiza and me bein very naive i went with just a tea towel on over my privates. . . .well when i say went i mean i walked outside to the taxi and it pulled away without me ..i guess i best read a book or somethin next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can see it would be good support for each other.

As long as respect is there then there shouldn't be a problem in any club that allows single men.

Fem thankyou

I think ill end up going on my own the first time I just get nervous of someone I know seeing me as my family are dead set against swinging (prudes) how is it up sheffield im there Thursday

I wouldn't know my families view on swinging. I dare not ask... lol!

Sheffield is same old same.

Would prefer to be sunning ourselves somewhere nice and hot instead...

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dont we all! Thankyou for your replies guys and tina my god u do have a big pair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought, why don't all you lads get good profiles on here and then look around locally for arranged gangbangs and parties? It would allow you play both separately and as a group.

To be blunt (because thats the mood I'm in today) you will quickly find that single guys are treated with a certain measure of distance and suspicion at clubs (as you may have gathered from some of the responses above) because the behaviour of a few have tarnished the reputation of all (until you get yourself known as someone who is respectful etc). Going in as a group will amplify the negative perceptions.

Its not right, nor is it fair but sadly this is a game whereby it takes time to build your reputation as an individual rather than a stereotype.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

would feel a bit like a pack hunt to me"

this... this... this.... and to be honest I can't think of many things worse in a club atmosphere...

and to be honest, it can be very intimidating as well.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on a Wednesday social but only if you are sociable do you stand any chance of anything happening though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and yet, I wonder - What would the reaction and perception be to 3 or 4 women looking to go asd a group to a club?

Im guessing that replies would be along the lines of 'a fantastic idea to support each other' and far less 'pack-hunt mentality'.

Could guys ever be considered for the former? I mean of one of them starts acting out, having his three mates there to pull him back in line sounds far more effective that a random stranger trying to do it and ending up getting punched.

Just a alternative view of the situation.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"...and yet, I wonder - What would the reaction and perception be to 3 or 4 women looking to go asd a group to a club?

Im guessing that replies would be along the lines of 'a fantastic idea to support each other' and far less 'pack-hunt mentality'.

Just a alternative view of the situation.

I would say exactly the same thing.....

you end up creating a little bubble around yourself where it makes it almost impossible for people to approach and just chat

thats why i say to couples its all well and good going in a group of 2 or 3... but in effect you are doing exactly the same thing!

creating a bubble around yourselves...

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Generally single guys don't turn up as a posse.... unless they are secretly looking to size up their mate's wang.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...and yet, I wonder - What would the reaction and perception be to 3 or 4 women looking to go asd a group to a club?

Im guessing that replies would be along the lines of 'a fantastic ideasdto support each other' and far less 'pack-hunt mentality'.

Just a alternative view of the situation.

I would say exactly the same thing.....

you end up creating a little bubble around yourself where it makes it almost impossible for people to approach and just chat

thats why i say to couples its all well and good going in a group of 2 or 3... but in effect you are doing exactly the same thing!

creating a bubble around yourselves..."

Exactly what I was aluding to when I said it would be counter productive attending in a group

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"...and yet, I wonder - What would the reaction and perception be to 3 or 4 women looking to go asd a group to a club?

I fucking hate it!

They often turn into a bunch of cackling retards (over doing the Lambrini) or suddenly feel overly brave and think the world owes them a grovelling audience.

Gangs, whatever the gender, alter the mood and feel.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'd be happy to break in a group of men, but I do agree it would change the dynamic of the evening, especially at a small club.

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By *ScotsmanMan
over a year ago

ayrshire

They could also dress up like a lady and would probably all get royally fucked senseless

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"...and yet, I wonder - What would the reaction and perception be to 3 or 4 women looking to go asd a group to a club?

I fucking hate it!

They often turn into a bunch of cackling retards (over doing the Lambrini) or suddenly feel overly brave and think the world owes them a grovelling audience.

Gangs, whatever the gender, alter the mood and feel.

I agree 100% with this. There's a group of women who've formed a sort of 'club within a club' where we go. EVERYTHING is 'hilarious' and met with loud guffaws and they generally take over every space they're in, almost demanding attention from every guy who passes. If you're not 'in' with that group then you're 'out'. Sorry but I can't think of anything worse than being associated with a mob of crass, vulgar, half-pissed women. Whenever I go to our regular club I now find myself praying they won't be there. Nope - gangs of either sex in a club setting just doesn't do it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd be annoyed if we couldn't get into any of the play rooms because the entrance was blocked by groups of any gender just watching. The rooms just arn't big enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Generally single guys don't turn up as a posse.... unless they are secretly looking to size up their mate's wang."

Now you've let the secret out!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"They could also dress up like a lady and would probably all get royally fucked senseless

Well....

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

would feel a bit like a pack hunt to me

this... this... this.... and to be honest I can't think of many things worse in a club atmosphere...

and to be honest, it can be very intimidating as well.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ill just go alone any couples going?

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By *lipperyWhenWet!Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

"Ill just go alone any couples going?"

Now you are being smart.

Go with a couple and you will be welcome most places! (It's just more difficult to arrange! LOL)

Good luck.

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By *ardybumsCouple
over a year ago

peekin under duvet is it safe?

we like the attention of the single males for a bit of fun but a group of lads who know each other is just so wrong on so many levels

in that enviorement,cant think of anything worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go one your own there would be less single males= more chance of getting some fun!

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