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By *issLiss OP   Couple
over a year ago

south east

I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations??

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

no i have been to la chambre twice and not played and also to isis quite a few times and there hasnt been any single guys there

x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

none whatsoever.... but you get the "well I have paid my money I demand sex" people in the shape both couples and single blokes......

normally the ones who do complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had hassle from single guys. Thankfully not too much. No means no especially when said assertively. If they don't get that then I find fuck off usually works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had hassle from single guys. Thankfully not too much. No means no especially when said assertively. If they don't get that then I find fuck off usually works. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to some clubs (not saying how many or sounds slutty), but find that in the better clubs the guys tend to behave politer and accept a "no".

But problem is always there and some think just because they paid to get in they can do what ever... shame as gives the nice guys a hard time

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

When I go to a club I dont expect anything. Im there for my own amusement and have been lucky so far with guys being respectful.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Never in a million years expect sex. I'm there to socialise, use the jacuzzi and have a giggle. If anything else happens, it a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are going to our first club on the 30th May. (Phukt up in west Brom) so reading this feed is really helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We DO go with expectations - a relaxing time, good company and some good chat. NEVER go expecting any play as to us if anything does happen its a very fun welcome bonus.

Saying that we do know people both singles (of both sexes) and couple who expect to play and are the ones that moan if they don't play, often saying its a shit night cause no ones playing but its more likely their attitude puts people off at times.

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

I never go to a club with any expectations. I go for a look round and to chat to people and make new friends. And like purring pussy said, if I get to play it's a bonus, a bloody good bonus but a bonus all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have any expectations, you'll just come off as a desperate idiot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had hassle from single guys. Thankfully not too much. No means no especially when said assertively. If they don't get that then I find fuck off usually works. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that I'm saying I agree with that mentality in anyway, but do you think the high entrance fees for single men give them that expectation?

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Ive had hassle from single guys. Thankfully not too much. No means no especially when said assertively. If they don't get that then I find fuck off usually works. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a club always play by the girls rules and the guys should respect that and no means no. I love the social aspect of clubs. If they bother you then report it to the management.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Of course people expect sex at clubs, that's why they go there. If they just wanted a laugh with their mates they'd go down the pub.

When people go to clubs they expect scantily clothed or naked people that might want to have sex with them. The fact that there is a social element to clubs is part of the package I'll agree.

That's like saying do you expect to see animals when you go to the zoo lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"In a club always play by the girls rules and the guys should respect that and no means no. I love the social aspect of clubs. If they bother you then report it to the management."

Play by everyone's rules and if anyone says no it means no. I know men who have had issues with women and couples before.

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

When I go to a club I expect nothing and I am rarely disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took a clump to the side of the head on my first party visit ( nothing I couldn't handle) but from that day on, I knew just how it could be.

Her

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By *ucykockoffskiCouple
over a year ago

Rochdale

When you enter a club whether couple , single guy or single fem tv/cd you should be respected and it's your night your body and above all your mind , minorities let the side down on a whole id say most swingies have same mind set golden rule no means no !!

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We are regulars at our local club and sometimes we play, sometimes not. We have never had any pressure or hassle. Equally we never expect anything from anyone else.

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By *obbie65Man
over a year ago

kildare

Do you expect sex at clubs??

Only when they are Golf clubs.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

ive had this and when i told the woman to leave me alone she punched me in the face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one and only time I've ever been to a club I had no expectations but was put off as the owners let in a visibly intoxicated single man who spent most of the night feeling me up and not taking the hint. Obviously they were just after the money and it doesn't say much about how they run things. Saying that within 5 minutes of a tour of the place the owner had his tongue down my throat and I wasn't exactly asking for it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I'm saying I agree with that mentality in anyway, but do you think the high entrance fees for single men give them that expectation?"

I really disagree with single guys having to pay more. I think it does give some guys false expectations. It should be the same price for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I go to a club eg my club eureka's I go with the expectation to play,and 2 examples below of recent visits

1) I was let down so eureka's was my back up plan why should I suffer because a couple let me down 3 hours before a meet.i arrived at 2pm and stayed till 11.30 played once in afternoon and once in evening with people I fancied and connected with. I was alone alot of time chatting and having a laugh with people. That day I pealed 3 lots of hands of my body and said no . single men dont push it with ne im firm lol

2) a normal planned day I arranged to meet fb's or people I have connected with here so always play

I dont see the point of me going if dont play, im lucky as always play at least once.and if it wasnt for single men being there it be very dull lol at least im honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

What did you say to the guys that wouldn't leave you alone? Did you complain to the club staff?

Don't let it put you off. Not all men/ clubs are like that. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol they do it cos men have to pay entrance fee, thats why I dont go to clubs .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I'm saying I agree with that mentality in anyway, but do you think the high entrance fees for single men give them that expectation?

I really disagree with single guys having to pay more. I think it does give some guys false expectations. It should be the same price for everyone. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never expect anything when we go to a club. We went to la chambre and didn't get harassed by guys though some were staring a lot but I was with hubby I did get approached when he went to the loo lol

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

We never expect anything. We go on the footing of a good social night out with like minded people. When we do have sex its never planned and that works for us. Its much more enjoyable.

No means no. We have been in the same situation and had to repeatedly say no. Its annoying but now and again it happens. x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We never expect anything when we go to a club other than to have few drinks and meet people for a chat. The single guys are normally polite and a simple no is all that is required. xx

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Never expect anything.... If we just play together then fab... Any more is a bonus.

Agree with others that you should have complained if you were being pestered.

I don't like single guys getting a bashing as the majority we have met have been respectful and a good addition to a club

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

most go with expectations but it doesn't mean you have to have sex with another person because your at a club and they ask for it, you choose who you have sex with , if any guys bother you tell them firmly or report to staff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope lol...never expect

normally I'm lucky though

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By *ity Slickers PartiesCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Brighton & Hove

The only thing I would expect when entering a club, it would have to be finding other like-minded true swingers, but unfortunately this is not always the case.

There is a lot to be said in imposing some kind of selection criteria in order to avoid seediness associated with traditional ‘scene’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go with an open mind but first and foremost it's to have a great night, with or without sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always go with an open mind but first and foremost it's to have a great night, with or without sex "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

I've been to a couple of clubs and had to total opposite experience, although to be fare you are much more attractive then me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always expect sex - if not with others, with each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect sex....I demand it!

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By *issLiss OP   Couple
over a year ago

south east


"The only thing I would expect when entering a club, it would have to be finding other like-minded true swingers, but unfortunately this is not always the case.

There is a lot to be said in imposing some kind of selection criteria in order to avoid seediness associated with traditional ‘scene’.

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Your parties Carlo are much more up my street

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have expect ions !! I always go for a giggle and that's what I tell people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing I would expect when entering a club, it would have to be finding other like-minded true swingers, but unfortunately this is not always the case.

There is a lot to be said in imposing some kind of selection criteria in order to avoid seediness associated with traditional ‘scene’.

Your parties Carlo are much more up my street "

if your going I'm paying 1million to come!..I will expect to get my monies worth though

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By *issLiss OP   Couple
over a year ago

south east


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most go with expectations but it doesn't mean you have to have sex with another person because your at a club and they ask for it, you choose who you have sex with , if any guys bother you tell them firmly or report to staff"

This is the thing, we were very clear that we weren't going to sleep with any of them but they still followed us around all night, didn't really want to talk except for the odd question and then saying "ready to play?" ??!!! Now if they acted with a bit more class, relaxed and had a laugh they would have stood a much better chance!! I ended up talking about my ex most of the night and saying how I'm only interested in women and still wouldn't let up

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By *IANnG1Couple
over a year ago

local


"Not that I'm saying I agree with that mentality in anyway, but do you think the high entrance fees for single men give them that expectation?"
well if they do expect sex and pay a high price go to the nearest street corner and see wot you get for a fiver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear you've had a bad experience, we've met some great single blokes at clubs and have also come across the classic conga line of single men following women/couples around.

It happens pretty much everywhere and it's not just single men. Couples and women can be just as bad. Unfortunately not everybody understands proper respect and etiquette at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been to a club, probably never will but this sounds a bit scary for a first visit. If I was to ever go it would be with no expectations of anything. just curiosity if I'm honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As naive as this sounds, I've been to clubs to simply make friends.

I talk to people, men and women, and it's normally the woman who'll take me back to hers and it's no more than a one night stand.

I don't expect anything now, other than that. I prefer pubs to be honest. A much friendlier and less excessive atmosphere.

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By *ark NoirMan
over a year ago

London

I never expect anything from attending a club, I go more in hope of making connections, really pisses me off some of the behaviour I see from guys and as its been mentioned the entrance fee irks me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely its common decency you respect the word no its a social meeting point for like minded peaple to enjoy themselfs !!!

If you want gaurenteed sex then go to a massorgy event or something !!!

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

We always expect sex if we go to a swingers club - why would we pay money to go to somewhere just to chat and drink? - that's what pubs are for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had hassle from single guys. Thankfully not too much. No means no especially when said assertively. If they don't get that then I find fuck off usually works. "

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By *agicfingers86Man
over a year ago

Gold Coast

I don't expect anything when I go to a club. Actually, thats a lie, I expect to see a few naked bodies, but that's because I like nudist clubs

Unfortunately, I think alot of single guys somehow think that it's ok to be pushy/ a dick. Once or twice I've seen a damsel in distress and had to dust off my knight in shining armour outfit and tell the muppets to fuck off. Always been handsomely rewarded tho

I can see why you were mobbed tho. A smoking hot piece of ass like you should have a handsome escort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always expect sex if we go to a swingers club - why would we pay money to go to somewhere just to chat and drink? - that's what pubs are for."

and what if people arent interested in you or you them?- dont u still enjoy fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always expect sex if we go to a swingers club - why would we pay money to go to somewhere just to chat and drink? - that's what pubs are for."
Go to a knocking shop then.

Her

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford


"We always expect sex if we go to a swingers club - why would we pay money to go to somewhere just to chat and drink? - that's what pubs are for.

and what if people arent interested in you or you them?- dont u still enjoy fun?"

Then our expectations won't be met and we will be disappointed.

The idea that you go to a club with no expectation of sex seems very strange and appears to have developed over the last 10 years with the rise of 'internet swinging'.

Clubs used to be somewhere to go and have sex with strangers, unfortunately they are turning into places where you can have a drink and chat with strangers wearing lingerie.

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By *p4fun65Couple
over a year ago

chester

We use to go to a club in Manchester and found that the single men never left you alone to the point where we had to tell them and the hosts to F off we won't go to clubs now unless it's a couples or very limited single male meet.

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Depends which club I go to. If I go to Chams, then the answer is yes - I don't travel for an hour, pay the entry (as a couple) and not expect at least some action I am , however, still choosy - as I would generally hope anyone to be.

If I go to a club more locally then not always would be the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always expect sex if we go to a swingers club - why would we pay money to go to somewhere just to chat and drink? - that's what pubs are for.

and what if people arent interested in you or you them?- dont u still enjoy fun?

Then our expectations won't be met and we will be disappointed.

The idea that you go to a club with no expectation of sex seems very strange and appears to have developed over the last 10 years with the rise of 'internet swinging'.

Clubs used to be somewhere to go and have sex with strangers, unfortunately they are turning into places where you can have a drink and chat with strangers wearing lingerie.

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now if a single guy came out with that....

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Oh - and I only tend to go (whether as a couple or as a single fem) hoping for a good number of single guys. If I wanted to just chat to people I'd go to a regular bar or club

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We always expect sex if we go to a swingers club - why would we pay money to go to somewhere just to chat and drink? - that's what pubs are for.

and what if people arent interested in you or you them?- dont u still enjoy fun?

Then our expectations won't be met and we will be disappointed.

The idea that you go to a club with no expectation of sex seems very strange and appears to have developed over the last 10 years with the rise of 'internet swinging'.

Clubs used to be somewhere to go and have sex with strangers, unfortunately they are turning into places where you can have a drink and chat with strangers wearing lingerie.

now if a single guy came out with that.... "

Ahh - realistically I would have thought the majority (which only means 51%....) of single guys attend clubs for sex And I'm not complaining, personally!

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

If guys paid the same

There would be abt a 40/1 ratio

Something like on here, agree its a lot of money but any other way they would end up in a cock fest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive had this and when i told the woman to leave me alone she punched me in the face!"

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If guys paid the same

There would be abt a 40/1 ratio

Something like on here, agree its a lot of money but any other way they would end up in a cock fest "

They could just but a limit on number of males allowed. But of course they earn far more as it is so it won't change

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By *avindaWoman
over a year ago

North Wales


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

I go to clubs to meet up with friends in a relaxing and safe atmosphere. I could not do that alone in a pub.

I get to meet new people and anything else is a bonus.

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By *ogue78Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

going to a club is definitely on my list for this year, now the etiquette seems straight forward.

no play unless she say.....yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No a club is more a social thing for me.

For not much more I can book a hotel and have guaranteed sex and not have to worry about getting home.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations??

I go to clubs to meet up with friends in a relaxing and safe atmosphere. I could not do that alone in a pub.

I get to meet new people and anything else is a bonus. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations??

I go to clubs to meet up with friends in a relaxing and safe atmosphere. I could not do that alone in a pub.

I get to meet new people and anything else is a bonus. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a swingers club you are going to get hit on and people are going to want to have sex with you surly that side of it is only to be expected? At the end of the day a simple polite no thank you is all it takes.

We never go to a club expecting sex from someone who doesn't want it.

But when we go to a swingers club we always go hoping to get lucky.

Occasionally we meet new couples socialy but would still always understand what type of club it is and expect to get hit on and would go on how the mood takes us.

If we simply just wanted to social it would be a pub.

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We were at a club last night and was having a great time. There was one guy (blue top semi shaved head, hope you are reading you sad idiot). He thought he could grab every girl he passed. It was soooo desperate. The way he was accidentally grabbing people or just going for the grab, Some people do think that just cause you are at a club it is ok to just touch people. So many people were getting uncomfortable but others were happy to let him carry on, he left pretty early with his other half. Do people think it is right or wrong for someone to do this. We think it is wrong. A bit of respect should always be there

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Not that I'm saying I agree with that mentality in anyway, but do you think the high entrance fees for single men give them that expectation?"

There are certain clubs that guarantee sex. Why do they not go there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Touching without asking is a no no for us anyone who does will get told and if it continues will get reported. Even other single guys will help you out if it is clear some isn't getting the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect to have sex when I go, but I go to clubs in the hope of meeting someone to have sex with.

In my experience a firm "no thank you" is all that is needed to stop any unwanted attention & the staff are pretty good at looking after their single female guests at my local club.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

Simple answer really.... No

I go and take things as they come, I like a good flirt and a chat. It gets the blood flowing into the right areas if you get what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think that if i went to a club and paid my money every female should be gagging for me to give them a portion.

I am now banned from every weight watchers in the country and waiting for my solicitor to get me Bail.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable... "

Very annoying and speaks bad for the Club as well...

To be honest I don't think is feasible and apropriate the owners/staff to do policing all the time. Occasionally some idiots can be lacking in manners...

I am sure if you've told the staff about it the problem would have been sorted promptly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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most go with expectations but it doesn't mean you have to have sex with another person because your at a club and they ask for it, you choose who you have sex with , if any guys bother you tell them firmly or report to staff

This is the thing, we were very clear that we weren't going to sleep with any of them but they still followed us around all night, didn't really want to talk except for the odd question and then saying "ready to play?" ??!!! Now if they acted with a bit more class, relaxed and had a laugh they would have stood a much better chance!! I ended up talking about my ex most of the night and saying how I'm only interested in women and still wouldn't let up "

if you have any trouble like that again simply report to staff, get them kicked out, that behaviour is not accepted in clubs , no means no they should leave you alone,

or you could find a cple or nice guy and flirt with them outrageously infront of the other guys , explain to the other peeps what your doing , you can all have a laugh at their exspence then

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

Going to be devils advocate here, especially as most others seem to be in agreement about a certain point of view.

A swingers club is, to all intents and purposes, a sex club. A place where liberal minded people can go to fulfil their non conformist sexual fantasies.

It would be absurd, in our opinion, not to go without at least a thought, hope, or anticipation of a sexual encounter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to be devils advocate here, especially as most others seem to be in agreement about a certain point of view.

A swingers club is, to all intents and purposes, a sex club. A place where liberal minded people can go to fulfil their non conformist sexual fantasies.

It would be absurd, in our opinion, not to go without at least a thought, hope, or anticipation of a sexual encounter. "

totally agree , but you should be able to choose who you have sex with and not be pressurized by others, when your told no you should leave it at that and move on

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I need to find these clubs where people get bothered by queues of single blokes, because it never happens to me.

I'll perform a service for any couple or reluctant female: if you get pestered at a club I am at, take the gentleman firmly by the wrist and bring him over to me. Then everyone's happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to be devils advocate here, especially as most others seem to be in agreement about a certain point of view.

A swingers club is, to all intents and purposes, a sex club. A place where liberal minded people can go to fulfil their non conformist sexual fantasies.

It would be absurd, in our opinion, not to go without at least a thought, hope, or anticipation of a sexual encounter.

totally agree , but you should be able to choose who you have sex with and not be pressurized by others, when your told no you should leave it at that and move on"

Yes I completely agree. If I didn't go there with the anticipation of sex then I'd to go to a pub. Don't get me wrong I love the social side but love the sex even more. I think most decent clubs deal with the very few that can't take no as an answer very well. I have certainly never had a problem anywhere I've been.

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By *elly foxTV/TS
over a year ago

Hampshire

I agree with scarlet im a TV and regular at trans club candygirls x i go expecting fun and never dissapointed either , i have as much sex as i feel like at the time the admirers are very well behaved never pushy and well up for it , ive got fussy at times and they back off imediately , even i was supprised that no there means NO and especially when a real girl says no it should register in the smallest of minds that the lady dont want it Mr , mind you upset a tranny & you get Head butted followed by a left hook and a swift boot in the nads haha xxx if your lucky the word no comes first , on a bad night its crushed nuts then NO !......lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only expect if (a) you have gone with someone and play with them. Or (b) You have made a prior arrangement.

Otherwise go, have fun, relax and if more happens then it's a Brucie Bonus.

Been to 3 different clubs, several times to each. Only not played on one occasion so a relaxed attitude seems to work?

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain

I go to experiment in a safe environment. I don't get hassle and the staff take care of their guests.

I guess as a single fem I expect the probability of playing but never felt hassled into it if I dont fancy anyone

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By *ealfunCouple
over a year ago

darleston

We unfortunatley only get to clubs now and again and usually Chams.

When we go we do expect to play and usually in a group environment. We have always found the guys respectful and have never had any problems and the only complaints we have is more about women and some couples who stand in the background and make silly childish comments while we are playing.......we find this more of a problem than telling guys she does not fancy to move on.

We might get slated for our opinion but never mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I go to a club eg my club eureka's I go with the expectation to play,and 2 examples below of recent visits

1) I was let down so eureka's was my back up plan why should I suffer because a couple let me down 3 hours before a meet.i arrived at 2pm and stayed till 11.30 played once in afternoon and once in evening with people I fancied and connected with. I was alone alot of time chatting and having a laugh with people. That day I pealed 3 lots of hands of my body and said no . single men dont push it with ne im firm lol

2) a normal planned day I arranged to meet fb's or people I have connected with here so always play

I dont see the point of me going if dont play, im lucky as always play at least once.and if it wasnt for single men being there it be very dull lol at least im honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to find these clubs where people get bothered by queues of single blokes, because it never happens to me.

I'll perform a service for any couple or reluctant female: if you get pestered at a club I am at, take the gentleman firmly by the wrist and bring him over to me. Then everyone's happy."

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

We always go with the hope of having a laugh, making new friends and a good dance if there's a dance floor.

Sometimes we're in the mood to play, but don't.

Sometimes we're not in the mood to play, but something surprises us and we do.

Sometimes it all clicks and we drag people home, sometimes we want to play in a club, but there is no room.

Sometimes we just go, get horny, go home and have awesome sex.

As long as have a good time, any of the above options is fine, and we don't get upset if it doesn't happen because at the end of the day, the greatest time we always have is with each other.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I never go expecting sex , I often go not wanting sex but enjoy people watching and I don't mean watching sex which does little for me . I often go expecting ladies I don't fancy to try seducing me x

In some clubs men subsidise the women ,it's suggested as bait , thus the men can be asked a high price .Clubs exist where an equally high price is charged and the men know they will get to fuck a greedy girl

It will always be wrong for a man to expect sex however not all men would have the wit to differentiate between the greedy club paid girl and a genuine everyone is equal club x

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

No definitely not, who's going provide it guaranteed.....

I'm a single man and go with a hope of meeting a couple or group I can join in with, failing that I can watch others.... without getting too close, failing that meeting some people who might in future want to play.

I've been on many occasions without getting to play and about 30% of visits get to play. I really dislike the guys who will crowd a couple hoping to join in. It spoils it for everybody this is when I leave I'm not interested in hassling anybody.

So to the OP maybe a swift kick in the bullocks will get your point understood, however I'm not too sure these guys would even then understand you.

But please don't give up. It doesn't happen all the time by any means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No even as a bi female I never ever expect sex... Just a nice break out from the house with good friends x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expectation is not necessarily the word we would use , or maybe it is !

We wouldn't bother going to a club if we didn't have the intention of playing , what's the point of going otherwise ?

Oh yeah , the socialising and chat .... which we do enjoy doing too , but prefer to do elsewhere .

A bit like fab and everyday social networking sites - one for chatting and one for shagging !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is men are expected to pay high entrance fees so they expect to get something out of it..I went to a club once..somebody off here said theyd meet me in there and they didnt show up..is this a scam some clubs have of getting friends to invite people or even false profiles promising to meet you inside??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

You should feel

Completely comfortable in any club Iv been a not played but had greasy social although you do get people that have the I paid I'll play attitude but it doesn't get them anywhere just tell the host and they should deal with people like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I expect sex at a swingers club as we pay such high prices.. but if you dont get any sex or nothing.. would you request your monies back? as suerely you dont go into a empty building with nothing.. its almsot like being robbed in away .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I expect sex at a swingers club as we pay such high prices.. but if you dont get any sex or nothing.. would you request your monies back? as suerely you dont go into a empty building with nothing.. its almsot like being robbed in away ."

That's a fair point , and there are clubs which offer a free night if the night you attend and pay for is very quiet

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By *ity Slickers PartiesCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Brighton & Hove


"Yes I expect sex at a swingers club as we pay such high prices.. but if you dont get any sex or nothing.. would you request your monies back? as suerely you dont go into a empty building with nothing.. its almsot like being robbed in away ."

With all due respect guys with your attitude would be better off going to a Sauna Parlour or even paying for an escort as you obviously haven't got the clue about the meaning of swinging!

There is a defined line between appreciating the beauty of a woman to disrespectfully classifying her into a sex object for your own selfish purpose!

No wonder so many single guys are sex starved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its fair to say that when you go in a club you go in wanting to play, but the social side of it is the part that makes you not bothered if you get anything or not. However, there have been numerous occassions when i have just been approached and asked straight off if i want to _et a room!! No i dont!! I wantto chat, laugh, flirt and see if there's an attraction before i sleep with somebody. Majority of single Guys definitely have different thoughts about clubs than couples and women. Treat it like a pub, still have to be charming and respectful but more likely to get a shag if you click lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I expect sex at a swingers club as we pay such high prices.. but if you dont get any sex or nothing.. would you request your monies back? as suerely you dont go into a empty building with nothing.. its almsot like being robbed in away .

With all due respect guys with your attitude would be better off going to a Sauna Parlour or even paying for an escort as you obviously haven't got the clue about the meaning of swinging!

There is a defined line between appreciating the beauty of a woman to disrespectfully classifying her into a sex object for your own selfish purpose!

No wonder so many single guys are sex starved... "
loll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly expecting it and demanding it are two different things. It isnt my obligation to pleasure you just coz the club charges a high entrance fee

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By *ilverlipsWoman
over a year ago

aberdare

Well u go to clubs for sex thats wat they fore. not chats .men are there gaggin for it .if u dunt expect to b mauled dunt go

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expect sex everywhere but am often disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well u go to clubs for sex thats wat they fore. not chats .men are there gaggin for it .if u dunt expect to b mauled dunt go"

I don't think that's a fair assumption I have been to clubs where I was invited by couples and singles and they didn't take my fancy and I have declined and their have been times I have approached single ladies and couple and I have had a knock back I never expect anything if it happens then wonderful if it doesn't what can you do

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

We don't although we have sex with eachother there.

Just waiting for the right people

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By *denlouWoman
over a year ago

bideford


"Of course people expect sex at clubs, that's why they go there. If they just wanted a laugh with their mates they'd go down the pub.

When people go to clubs they expect scantily clothed or naked people that might want to have sex with them. The fact that there is a social element to clubs is part of the package I'll agree.

That's like saying do you expect to see animals when you go to the zoo lol"

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to clubs every now and then and find that we are pestered to the point of having to leave. The nights that the single men have to leave at 6pm are far far better and everyone seems more relaxed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

To be fair you are bloody gorgeous! lol But i understand what you are saying..guys shouldn't expect sex. At least not straight away!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I think its fair to say that when you go in a club you go in wanting to play, but the social side of it is the part that makes you not bothered if you get anything or not. However, there have been numerous occassions when i have just been approached and asked straight off if i want to _et a room!! No i dont!! I wantto chat, laugh, flirt and see if there's an attraction before i sleep with somebody. Majority of single Guys definitely have different thoughts about clubs than couples and women. Treat it like a pub, still have to be charming and respectful but more likely to get a shag if you click lol xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course people expect sex at clubs, that's why they go there. If they just wanted a laugh with their mates they'd go down the pub.

When people go to clubs they expect scantily clothed or naked people that might want to have sex with them. The fact that there is a social element to clubs is part of the package I'll agree.

That's like saying do you expect to see animals when you go to the zoo lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its fair to say that when you go in a club you go in wanting to play, but the social side of it is the part that makes you not bothered if you get anything or not. However, there have been numerous occassions when i have just been approached and asked straight off if i want to _et a room!! No i dont!! I wantto chat, laugh, flirt and see if there's an attraction before i sleep with somebody. Majority of single Guys definitely have different thoughts about clubs than couples and women. Treat it like a pub, still have to be charming and respectful but more likely to get a shag if you click lol xx"

Wholeheartedly agree as I've been to clubs and not played but still enjoys myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No a club is more a social thing for me.

For not much more I can book a hotel and have guaranteed sex and not have to worry about getting home."

is breakfast in bed included?

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By *ibanditMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

The *possibility* of fun is the reason I go. But sexy fun isn't necessarily the best part of the night.

Talking to people, learning what makes people tick sexually, how swingers lead their lives - sexual or otherwise, enjoying a few drinks, swapping lewd stories, flirting outrageously (or subtly), even talking about what the kids are up to this week. It's all fascinating and personal, and getting to the heart of people.

Of course, sometimes it's just nuts deep, but that's swinging for you.

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"We go to clubs every now and then and find that we are pestered to the point of having to leave. The nights that the single men have to leave at 6pm are far far better and everyone seems more relaxed"

Depends on your viewpoint... I find couples and single fem only nights boring... I'm there for the single guys - therefore I wouldn't attend unless there was a good possibility of there being single guys there - hopefully quite a few so I've got a good choice!

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

We need more ladies like you miss pink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but surely all the women posting on this forum would never find any problem having fun at a club as long as there is someone there that takes their fancy that is ??? i never expect anything when i go but do find it disapointing if i dont have any fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We go to clubs every now and then and find that we are pestered to the point of having to leave. The nights that the single men have to leave at 6pm are far far better and everyone seems more relaxed

Depends on your viewpoint... I find couples and single fem only nights boring... I'm there for the single guys - therefore I wouldn't attend unless there was a good possibility of there being single guys there - hopefully quite a few so I've got a good choice! "

Same here but I'm always working on the nights single guys would be in abundance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always really liked the thought if a club but this seems to be a big debate I think A. more thought is required and B. wen I go some female back up

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

Yes we go to clubs always expecting sex as it is gaurenteed...but only with each other.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We've been to 3 clubs and are very happy to talk with single guys, couples and girls. Only once did we feel a bit pressured, but that was our first time & we lacked confidence to clearly say 'no thanks'. Overall we prefer mixed nights as the choices are wider, the environment is a bit more electric and it can be quite encouraging to be approached!

Hope you enjoy yourself

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By *opexposureMan
over a year ago

Hinckley


"as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away ... they acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. "

Not all single guys are the same. It seems there are quite a few though that spoil it for the more reserved ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No a club is more a social thing for me.

For not much more I can book a hotel and have guaranteed sex and not have to worry about getting home.

is breakfast in bed included?"
What do you like some thing light and easy..

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire


" Iv been a not played but had greasy social "

What the fuck, exactly, is a "greasy social"? I thought I was a man of the world, obviously not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never in a million years expect sex. I'm there to socialise, use the jacuzzi and have a giggle. If anything else happens, it a bonus "

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to be devils advocate here, especially as most others seem to be in agreement about a certain point of view.

A swingers club is, to all intents and purposes, a sex club. A place where liberal minded people can go to fulfil their non conformist sexual fantasies.

It would be absurd, in our opinion, not to go without at least a thought, hope, or anticipation of a sexual encounter. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever gone with a guy so yes I would like to think that would happen with him.

If I was going as a single female I would probably assume most of the people attending the club would like a little action.

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By *lack santaMan
over a year ago

north west


"Of course people expect sex at clubs, that's why they go there. If they just wanted a laugh with their mates they'd go down the pub.

When people go to clubs they expect scantily clothed or naked people that might want to have sex with them. The fact that there is a social element to clubs is part of the package I'll agree.

That's like saying do you expect to see animals when you go to the zoo lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We go to clubs every now and then and find that we are pestered to the point of having to leave. The nights that the single men have to leave at 6pm are far far better and everyone seems more relaxed"

I disagree.....if the single men aren't there it's full of women and couples having socials!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have a problem with single guys at the club I go to - they are always res[ectful and those I say no thanks to take it on the chin and thankfully still talk to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*respectful

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

We go to Eureka in Kent.

Frisky has been pestered a few times, but most single guys are polite and well mannered. Most guys get the hint when their attention is not wanted. When they don't get the hint a quiet word with the staff has seen the end of the problem. We have found that the guys that need to be spoken to very rarely go again...

When we are at the club Frisky always feels safe/comfortable walking round the club unescorted due to the staff and generally well behaved guys...As any woman should at a club...

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I forgot to mention... We hope to have sex when we go to a club but some of the best nights have been purely social...

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By *ilverlipsWoman
over a year ago

aberdare

U go to clubs for sex thats what they for and men expect it if u dunt want to b mauled by men dunt go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U go to clubs for sex thats what they for and men expect it if u dunt want to b mauled by men dunt go."

What an utterly dumb thing to say.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"U go to clubs for sex thats what they for and men expect it if u dunt want to b mauled by men dunt go."

I expect sex yes but I also expect civility and respect from everyone in the club. I dojt expect to get 'mauled' by people of any sex and I expect that when I say no the respect that and move on.

Your comment does more harm than good for clubs. I hope it doesn't put people off from trying them. I have had just one instance when my partner and I have had to get a bit firmer with a guy, and that's in 5 years of going to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U go to clubs for sex thats what they for and men expect it if u dunt want to b mauled by men dunt go."

We wouldn't go to clubs were you get mauled, haven't been to or heard of these clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ? "

Have never been to VA but in my experience elsewhere a polite, firm No usually works.

Don't be scared, you're going together so relax and enjoy yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ? "

You will be fine on either night, honestly there is a lot of scare mong wring going on in this thread, I'm sure people have had isolated bad experiences but if clubs were that bad people wouldn't go and the clubs would be out of business

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By *ity Slickers PartiesCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Brighton & Hove


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ? "

Vanilla Alternative is a good club you will be fine

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" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ? "

Ignore that person

Even as a single female you don't get mauled how ridiculous xx

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over a year ago


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ?

Ignore that person

Even as a single female you don't get mauled how ridiculous xx"

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over a year ago


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ?

Ignore that person

Even as a single female you don't get mauled how ridiculous xx"
its just a shock, we had in our minds... Have a boogie few drinks and chat then if the mood takes us a little play whilst others are playing with each other.. Steady away and then build on that next time we go... Sound like we might get a bit of hassle, and groping is not on !

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over a year ago


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ?

Vanilla Alternative is a good club you will be fine "
hope so x

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over a year ago


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ?

Ignore that person

Even as a single female you don't get mauled how ridiculous xx its just a shock, we had in our minds... Have a boogie few drinks and chat then if the mood takes us a little play whilst others are playing with each other.. Steady away and then build on that next time we go... Sound like we might get a bit of hassle, and groping is not on !"

You really won't I can assure you please ignore that person

Take it slow and do exactly as you have said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be put off clubs from one comment .

We have attended a few clubs , and try to get to one every week .

We have never had any issues of mauling or unsavoury behaviour .

The environment is safe , warm and welcoming , and we always feel in control of what happens .

We enjoy playing with single guys , and prefer the mixed nights because they are there .

If you don't like the idea of single guys , go on a couples only night .

Just remember where you are , and why you are there . Surely you wouldn't go if the possibility of hooking up with someone you fancy wasn't on the cards ?

Those who attend clubs with no intention of playing at all ( other than socials of course ) are a complete waste of time in our opinion . Yes that sounds harsh but would you go to the cinema and not watch the movie ?

Don't get us wrong , there has to be an attraction , but if you go with the mindset of knowing that no matter what , you won't play , why bother going ?

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over a year ago


"Don't be put off clubs from one comment .

We have attended a few clubs , and try to get to one every week .

We have never had any issues of mauling or unsavoury behaviour .

The environment is safe , warm and welcoming , and we always feel in control of what happens .

We enjoy playing with single guys , and prefer the mixed nights because they are there .

If you don't like the idea of single guys , go on a couples only night .

Just remember where you are , and why you are there . Surely you wouldn't go if the possibility of hooking up with someone you fancy wasn't on the cards ?

Those who attend clubs with no intention of playing at all ( other than socials of course ) are a complete waste of time in our opinion . Yes that sounds harsh but would you go to the cinema and not watch the movie ?

Don't get us wrong , there has to be an attraction , but if you go with the mindset of knowing that no matter what , you won't play , why bother going ?

"

Perhaps they just want to get the feel of the place before jumping in, not everyone is the same, we played on our first visit to a club but we think it's fine for people to take things at their own pace

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over a year ago


"Don't be put off clubs from one comment .

We have attended a few clubs , and try to get to one every week .

We have never had any issues of mauling or unsavoury behaviour .

The environment is safe , warm and welcoming , and we always feel in control of what happens .

We enjoy playing with single guys , and prefer the mixed nights because they are there .

If you don't like the idea of single guys , go on a couples only night .

Just remember where you are , and why you are there . Surely you wouldn't go if the possibility of hooking up with someone you fancy wasn't on the cards ?

Those who attend clubs with no intention of playing at all ( other than socials of course ) are a complete waste of time in our opinion . Yes that sounds harsh but would you go to the cinema and not watch the movie ?

Don't get us wrong , there has to be an attraction , but if you go with the mindset of knowing that no matter what , you won't play , why bother going ?

"
sorry, we just thought that we might want to take it slowly and see where it goes before taking the plunge so to speak, we don't want to upset anyone

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over a year ago


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ?

Ignore that person

Even as a single female you don't get mauled how ridiculous xx its just a shock, we had in our minds... Have a boogie few drinks and chat then if the mood takes us a little play whilst others are playing with each other.. Steady away and then build on that next time we go... Sound like we might get a bit of hassle, and groping is not on !"

Guys , you won't get hassle or unwanted groping !

The boogie , few drinks and a little play are the perfect attitude .

Forget the negatives and go with an open mind , otherwise you will spoil it for yourselves .

Sometimes too much emphasis on the possible negatives destroy the opportunity for fun .

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By *ity Slickers PartiesCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Brighton & Hove

Always respect peoples’ sexual boundaries. Everyone likes to have fun, but everyone has their limits and these limits are not always as you might assume them to be. Always ensure that everything you do is consensual.

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over a year ago

I would hope to have sex if I went to a club. After reading stories of what can actually happen in a a club I can't see me ever attending one alone. I don't think my imaginations of what could happen are anything like reality. If single men are a problem in swingers clubs why don't they charge couples more and strictly limit the numbers of single men and women. Or do they need the revenue to keep the clubs running?

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over a year ago


" a bit scared now we've booked to go to vanilla alternative on a couples night, it's our first swing/club experience and really don't want the hassle.. Do you still get hassle on a couples night or is it just on the Fridays ?

Ignore that person

Even as a single female you don't get mauled how ridiculous xx its just a shock, we had in our minds... Have a boogie few drinks and chat then if the mood takes us a little play whilst others are playing with each other.. Steady away and then build on that next time we go... Sound like we might get a bit of hassle, and groping is not on !

Guys , you won't get hassle or unwanted groping !

The boogie , few drinks and a little play are the perfect attitude .

Forget the negatives and go with an open mind , otherwise you will spoil it for yourselves .

Sometimes too much emphasis on the possible negatives destroy the opportunity for fun .

"
that's the fluidity we are wanting to achieve, it's taken us ages and I mean ages to arrive at this point, so it's got to be a good experience without hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would hope to have sex if I went to a club. After reading stories of what can actually happen in a a club I can't see me ever attending one alone. I don't think my imaginations of what could happen are anything like reality. If single men are a problem in swingers clubs why don't they charge couples more and strictly limit the numbers of single men and women. Or do they need the revenue to keep the clubs running?"

these stories are not the norm. Why charge couples more? What will that achieve?

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over a year ago


"I would hope to have sex if I went to a club. After reading stories of what can actually happen in a a club I can't see me ever attending one alone. I don't think my imaginations of what could happen are anything like reality. If single men are a problem in swingers clubs why don't they charge couples more and strictly limit the numbers of single men and women. Or do they need the revenue to keep the clubs running?

these stories are not the norm. Why charge couples more? What will that achieve?"

To make up for loss of revenue from single people who aren't always welcomed. People complain about single men,single men complain they have to pay more. Single women get in for very low prices from what I've seen. You can't know how people are going to behave once in a club but you can decide who you attract to a club. If couples are declining then there is a reason which may be because of actions by others or incidents not being dealt with. I have wanted to visit a club or private party for a long time and read reviews and comments

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over a year ago


"I would hope to have sex if I went to a club. After reading stories of what can actually happen in a a club I can't see me ever attending one alone. I don't think my imaginations of what could happen are anything like reality. If single men are a problem in swingers clubs why don't they charge couples more and strictly limit the numbers of single men and women. Or do they need the revenue to keep the clubs running?

these stories are not the norm. Why charge couples more? What will that achieve?

To make up for loss of revenue from single people who aren't always welcomed. People complain about single men,single men complain they have to pay more. Single women get in for very low prices from what I've seen. You can't know how people are going to behave once in a club but you can decide who you attract to a club. If couples are declining then there is a reason which may be because of actions by others or incidents not being dealt with. I have wanted to visit a club or private party for a long time and read reviews and comments"

So couples should subsidise single women who get in for free?......Hmmmm. Why not just have an exclusive club for single women?

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

After 14 years visiting clubs most weeks (40+ different ones) we've reported one person to staff - a pissed up single woman. The stories of single men running amok are very exaggerated in our experience and have become internet urban myths.

On the whole, single guys behave well in clubs. It's a sex club - most are there for sex if they can get it. Maybe the expectation of going to a sex club purely for social reasons is the wrong one?

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over a year ago


"I would hope to have sex if I went to a club. After reading stories of what can actually happen in a a club I can't see me ever attending one alone. I don't think my imaginations of what could happen are anything like reality. If single men are a problem in swingers clubs why don't they charge couples more and strictly limit the numbers of single men and women. Or do they need the revenue to keep the clubs running?

these stories are not the norm. Why charge couples more? What will that achieve?

To make up for loss of revenue from single people who aren't always welcomed. People complain about single men,single men complain they have to pay more. Single women get in for very low prices from what I've seen. You can't know how people are going to behave once in a club but you can decide who you attract to a club. If couples are declining then there is a reason which may be because of actions by others or incidents not being dealt with. I have wanted to visit a club or private party for a long time and read reviews and comments"

We go to clubs nearly every weekend I just don't recognise what you are saying people seem very happy and relaxed, there are different nights for different tastes and different price ranges for different pockets.

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over a year ago


"After 14 years visiting clubs most weeks (40+ different ones) we've reported one person to staff - a pissed up single woman. The stories of single men running amok are very exaggerated in our experience and have become internet urban myths.

On the whole, single guys behave well in clubs. It's a sex club - most are there for sex if they can get it. Maybe the expectation of going to a sex club purely for social reasons is the wrong one?"

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over a year ago


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "
that is disgusting behaviour by the men. No one should be expecting sex. They should come and say hi and be polite and respectful

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

From what I have read and heard, you are more likely to be pursued or cornered against a bar in a pub or late in nightclub.

Vanessa, you are very sexy and I dont doubt I would be tempted to look at you and maybe try and be near where you are standing.

I would try and chat to you and if you werent interested I would still chat to you. I would also keep an eye on you to make sure you were happy with any attention you get.

Most men are respectful and protective of women, so dont let this, and other incidents listed here, put you off. Go and enjoy.

You will soon develop your own style of rebuffing approaches as you gain confidence and those watching will be able to judge your interest levels more easily.

A first timer (like I am soon to be) is an unknown quantity. The single guys do not know if you are greedy or a cum slut. They follow you in the hipe you are both. Setting your stall out, so to speak, should stop most of these issues and you will gather regulars as friends who will protect you too.

Good luck.....and if you ever need a friendly escort in my area I would be charmed to accompany you.

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over a year ago


"From what I have read and heard, you are more likely to be pursued or cornered against a bar in a pub or late in nightclub.

Vanessa, you are very sexy and I dont doubt I would be tempted to look at you and maybe try and be near where you are standing.

I would try and chat to you and if you werent interested I would still chat to you. I would also keep an eye on you to make sure you were happy with any attention you get.

Most men are respectful and protective of women, so dont let this, and other incidents listed here, put you off. Go and enjoy.

You will soon develop your own style of rebuffing approaches as you gain confidence and those watching will be able to judge your interest levels more easily.

A first timer (like I am soon to be) is an unknown quantity. The single guys do not know if you are greedy or a cum slut. They follow you in the hipe you are both. Setting your stall out, so to speak, should stop most of these issues and you will gather regulars as friends who will protect you too.

Good luck.....and if you ever need a friendly escort in my area I would be charmed to accompany you.

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I'm sorry I've never ever seen anyone needing protecting in any club we've been to, if clubs had that atmosphere we wouldn't go, we find most of the single ladies we have met are strong I dependant women who are more than capable of looking after themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most clubs have couples only rooms don't they. Just go in there and let them wack off looking through the one way glass thing if they have it and laugh at how predictable the human race is.

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over a year ago


"Ive had hassle from single guys. Thankfully not too much. No means no especially when said assertively. If they don't get that then I find fuck off usually works. "

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over a year ago


"I went to a club last night with another single female. We wanted to have a laugh and hopefully chat with some sexy people and see what happens

However as soon as we arrived the single guys would not leave us alone and were trying to get us in the room straight away and so it made me feel very uncomfortable.

They acted like because we were there it was a given and expected of us to sleep with them. If really annoyed me and definitely put me in the wrong frame of mind!

When you go to clubs, do you have any expectations?? "

We NEVER have expectations to play, in fact we've been to clubs a hand full of times and only played a couple of times. We go for the social side, the banter & to have a few drinks with people who share similar views on certain aspects of life. IF we play it's a bonus but if not, we never feel like we've been ripped off or wasted our money. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but don't write off clubs altogether, just find one that imakes you feel more relaxed. We rarely get a free night to go to our local one but when we do we really look forward to going and meeting new people as well as catching up with some good friends xx

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I was saying that if she was with other regulars, the ignorance levels of the followers may have reduced.

I was no way implying that an actual bodyguard was needed.

No matter how great the body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not that I'm saying I agree with that mentality in anyway, but do you think the high entrance fees for single men give them that expectation?"

Then they should pay their money to a brothel then.

The high entrance fee is to try and stop having a room full of men all thinking they have paid their money and they must have sex and to bring some sort decent men:women ratio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit we did go down the route a couple of times of just going with the flow when single blokes were around. It was back in the day when we were much hornier all the time and to be honest it was quite exciting at times so never say never eh.

One of most memorable times was at a club with a swing. Mrs N got in it and I got between her legs. A bit of a gathering started to form with 6 or 7 blokes jostling for pole position around her LOL. I made sure I stayed between her legs and some of the guys started wanking over her boobs. Mrs N obliged and started to help them a bit. To be fair they were all very respectful and it was great for her to be the centre of attention. Soon the Jizz started to fly around. I was still between her legs to protect her from any unwanted advances but had to laugh as blokes were stood behind me with the tips of their cocks banging on my buttocks LOL. I guess they were dropping a hint for me to move out of the way but I stood firm and maintained the fun how I thought she wanted it to be.

It was a fun scenario and didn't get out of hand so have to say that not all advances have to be unwanted, sometimes it's nice to go with the flow.

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over a year ago


"Yes I expect sex at a swingers club as we pay such high prices.. but if you dont get any sex or nothing.. would you request your monies back? as suerely you dont go into a empty building with nothing.. its almsot like being robbed in away ."

So why wouldn't you spend the money you are willing to pay at a club and spend it on a guaranteed fuck at a brothel? As it is your choice to attend a club.

I have never been to a club, It was a fantasy to but the more I read the more I don't think it's for me and stick to parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an interesting balance. Why go to a swingers club if you weren't at the very least interested in some form of play? However, the normal rules of courtesy and polite conversation don't go out of the window. My experience is that some single guys give the rest of us nice guys and bad name, but I've always found that being able to talk to women and couples as normal human beings is a good start point!

I don't expect to play, but I certainly want to.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

In reality a large percentage of single guys at a club will never approach a single woman or couple. We find many will just look and smile. Some will follow you but still not actually approach... No one should touch without permission... Clubs are usually a safe and friendly environment. If they weren't they wouldn't last. I know occasionally that someone will over step the mark. That is rare and nothing that doesn't happen in a pub or nightclub. In fact Frisky says she feels safer and more respected at Eureka's than she does on a normal girls night out...

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over a year ago


"In reality a large percentage of single guys at a club will never approach a single woman or couple. We find many will just look and smile. Some will follow you but still not actually approach... No one should touch without permission... Clubs are usually a safe and friendly environment. If they weren't they wouldn't last. I know occasionally that someone will over step the mark. That is rare and nothing that doesn't happen in a pub or nightclub. In fact Frisky says she feels safer and more respected at Eureka's than she does on a normal girls night out..."

Hmmmm call me stupid...but risky..you are 6'4 ffs lol....perhaps you scare em off

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"Yes I expect sex at a swingers club as we pay such high prices.. but if you dont get any sex or nothing.. would you request your monies back? as suerely you dont go into a empty building with nothing.. its almsot like being robbed in away .

So why wouldn't you spend the money you are willing to pay at a club and spend it on a guaranteed fuck at a brothel? As it is your choice to attend a club.

I have never been to a club, It was a fantasy to but the more I read the more I don't think it's for me and stick to parties. "

Clubs and parties are the same. Just different venues.

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