FabSwingers.com forum: First time at a club

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok i have a few questions but i will start by explaning the type of people i would like a responce from.

I would like to hear from regular club members from clubs in the north west.

Also single men who have been to a few clubs in the north west.

Responce from single women to give me advice on what they look for when at clubs, in a man.

Couples are also welcome.

Club owners could also help me out alot.

Ok i have been swinging for a while now whenever i get free time. But only ever privatly. I have been involved in a group session only once and enjoyed this.

I am now thinking of joining a few clubs around the north west but i have a few worries i wish to ease my mind on first.

I do understand some clubs cater very well for new members however i find i do not wish to gain membership until i have visited a club a few times to be sure it is "worth the money".

by that i am not talking as much sex as i can get.. no no. i do enjoy socialising with other like minded swingers men women and couples.

my main questions are..

1. which club is most welcoming for a young single man like me?

2. also the regulars, i know im no brad pitt. but i dint want to face abusive or stuck up people at a club. so who has friendly regulars?

3. what should a single man wear? not only for a good first impression but dress code/sexy practicality.

4. I am a bit shy on the phone, but not in person. i dont want a club that you have to phone up and book. i would rather turn up. but i understand some clubs dont allow this due to the odd d*unk guy stumbling out of a local pub thinking he can join a gangbang. which clubs could be best suited to me?

5. i understand many clubs have shower facilities... dose this mean when i go swinging i am going to look like i am going to a posh gym with a sports bag full of towels, wash gear etc? if so what would you reccomend in this swinging pack?

6. is it accepted by some clubs if i were to arrange a regular from that club to "escort" me in my first experiance, and maybe showing this maturaty offer a discounted rate to the single man/ non member fee?

i really want to try my first experiance and really hope to enjoy it and not feel like a tool while i am there. this will sure make me a full member if i were to have the experiance i am wishing for.

thanks so much for replys everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my first experience was amazing last week, tho i did attend with an experienced female swinger

that helps

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm not north west, but many clubs are similar in their operation, so I'm talking from experience.

Each club does have a different vibe, so I'd encourage you to home in on a few that take your fancy, then see if you can find people who use those, to get some detailed personal feedback.

Re. showers - just take along what you're be comfortable using at a gym/pool. Some soap, shampoo and a towel plus deodorant.

Not all clubs have non-member days, so the support from others to help you choose is useful, especially if membership is very expensive.

You don't have to be Brad Pitt looks to get action or chatting to people. Many people are very sociable, even without sexual interest. If you get the feel that others are done talking with you, find others and move on.

Sexually, move around, get a feel for a place. By being sociable, it will hopefully get you matched with others that have a 2 way interest. Each club is different, so where you can sit, socialise etc will vary. Some have chill areas near to play areas, so these can be useful.

Overall, I do recommend non-member try out days, as this means you can really explore and find somewhere that's right for you. If you can find someone who's friendly, then it may help to go and visit together.

Hope you have a lot of fun! Come and try our places in the midlands, if you're around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

loads of stuff goin on round here....u got to be in it to win....get out there and mingl

& be nice

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

no offence but your post for me would raise a few "red flags".....

"Worth the price" in what respect... no offence but that sounds like you are going to go if something is going to happen... and any club worth their salt is never going to guarentee that! you are paying for the facilities and nothing else.... anything else is a bonus!

clubs will welcome all members... we were all new once...

if you want general advise... go with an open mind and no expectations, treat it like a normal weekend night in any city centre and chat to people... and generally don't be an arse!

laugh, chat to people, have a look around, chat to people, try the facilities, chat to people....

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By *otandhottererCouple
over a year ago

dursley

Very scared to try our local club the lodge as we live local and my job and hubyz rely on upmost privacy but we have been invited so many times we feel let downs .-( x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok i have a few questions but i will start by explaning the type of people i would like a responce from.

I would like to hear from regular club members from clubs in the north west.

Also single men who have been to a few clubs in the north west.

Responce from single women to give me advice on what they look for when at clubs, in a man.

Couples are also welcome.

Club owners could also help me out alot.

Ok i have been swinging for a while now whenever i get free time. But only ever privatly. I have been involved in a group session only once and enjoyed this.

I am now thinking of joining a few clubs around the north west but i have a few worries i wish to ease my mind on first.

I do understand some clubs cater very well for new members however i find i do not wish to gain membership until i have visited a club a few times to be sure it is "worth the money".

by that i am not talking as much sex as i can get.. no no. i do enjoy socialising with other like minded swingers men women and couples.

my main questions are..

1. which club is most welcoming for a young single man like me?

2. also the regulars, i know im no brad pitt. but i dint want to face abusive or stuck up people at a club. so who has friendly regulars?

3. what should a single man wear? not only for a good first impression but dress code/sexy practicality.

i really want to try my first experiance and really hope to enjoy it and not feel like a tool while i am there. this will sure make me a full member if i were to have the experiance i am wishing for.

thanks so much for replys everyone."

Think of it as a night club and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok i have a few questions but i will start by explaning the type of people i would like a responce from.

I would like to hear from regular club members from clubs in the north west.

Also single men who have been to a few clubs in the north west.

Responce from single women to give me advice on what they look for when at clubs, in a man.

Couples are also welcome.

Club owners could also help me out alot.

Ok i have been swinging for a while now whenever i get free time. But only ever privatly. I have been involved in a group session only once and enjoyed this.

I am now thinking of joining a few clubs around the north west but i have a few worries i wish to ease my mind on first.

I do understand some clubs cater very well for new members however i find i do not wish to gain membership until i have visited a club a few times to be sure it is "worth the money".

by that i am not talking as much sex as i can get.. no no. i do enjoy socialising with other like minded swingers men women and couples.

my main questions are..

1. which club is most welcoming for a young single man like me?

2. also the regulars, i know im no brad pitt. but i dint want to face abusive or stuck up people at a club. so who has friendly regulars?

3. what should a single man wear? not only for a good first impression but dress code/sexy practicality.

i really want to try my first experiance and really hope to enjoy it and not feel like a tool while i am there. this will sure make me a full member if i were to have the experiance i am wishing for.

thanks so much for replys everyone."

As private members club legally you have to take membership before being allowed entry so you wont be able to skirt round that one. Its the risk you take. Whether you have to do that over the phone or not is upto whichever club you choose.

Most places wont mind you arranging to meet an existing member inside for moral support but you will have to still have your own membership. Again, you cant skirt around the membership. Thinking you can have a discount for showing up with someone is going to rile up the staff and show you up as a bit of an arse tight at the door before you've gone any further.

Regarding attitudes, people are respectful if you are also respectful. That means listen to them and note their signals. If the vibe you're getting is not good then they want leaving alone. Generally speaking nobody is stuck up and if you go in thinking they are going to be you're not going to converse with these people well. Don't be an arse and nobody will be one back.

Clubs do have shower facilities but that may not mean you are obliged to use them if they are optional. Turn up smelling nice and freshly showered regardless. Just pack a towel and some wash stuff but don't go all out on your posh gym theme. Any decent bag will suffice. A lot of this will depend on the club in question.

Smart attire is pretty self explanatory. Don't go nit picking into it, you should be old enough and mature enough now to understand the concept. If a club doesn't allow jeans then they will explicitly say so. Again you will have to check with each club.

You're better off speaking to some clubs

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