FabSwingers.com forum: Anyone know any venues or houses for swinger night ?

By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

I am looking for venues or houses for hire for a swinger party can anyone point me in the right direction ? ;o) x

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

Anyone know any or know anyone who can point me In the right direction ? ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Host it at a club ?? Thought you had been researching into all these things previously like tragic light bands and all that stuff ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is plenty of clubs who will let you hire for private functions, it really isn't difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea how you would hire a house to host a party. It would potentially be a legal minefield.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea how you would hire a house to host a party. It would potentially be a legal minefield."

That's what we thought when we first read this yesterday.

Op, clubs already have party nights... but they are licensed.

A long look at the legalities around things and the insurance criteria would be a very sensible thing to do.

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"Anyone know any or know anyone who can point me In the right direction ? ;o) x"

I have been doing lots of research need to get a list of venues (that I have some but need more)

But still don't think the glow light band is tragic tho its not all negative you no I have a lot of people who are interested in checking out the swinging scene as total newbies with these glow light bands in place and feel that we maybe have some new members in our lovely scene soon ;o) x

If you want to talk about the glow light bands please can you go to the correct thread as I want to keep this for people giving me information about venue hire.

Thanks ;o) x

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

None of my plans are gonna happen over night as much as I them too want.

But I can promise you a well thought of party with a lot of input from experienced swingers and a lot of new and old faces ;o) x

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"I have no idea how you would hire a house to host a party. It would potentially be a legal minefield.

That's what we thought when we first read this yesterday.

Op, clubs already have party nights... but they are licensed.

A long look at the legalities around things and the insurance criteria would be a very sensible thing to do. "

This is why you make a data base ie email addresses for the private party's ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea how you would hire a house to host a party. It would potentially be a legal minefield.

That's what we thought when we first read this yesterday.

Op, clubs already have party nights... but they are licensed.

A long look at the legalities around things and the insurance criteria would be a very sensible thing to do.

This is why you make a data base ie email addresses for the private party's ;o) x"

We've only attended about 80 house parties, so we obviously know nothing.

Being a good party organiser takes a great reputation, organisation and much more than a database of email addresses though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no idea how you would hire a house to host a party. It would potentially be a legal minefield.

That's what we thought when we first read this yesterday.

Op, clubs already have party nights... but they are licensed.

A long look at the legalities around things and the insurance criteria would be a very sensible thing to do.

This is why you make a data base ie email addresses for the private party's ;o) x"

So as your reference point vpreviouly was that email mailing lists are used on the dance scene, can I ask whether the dance events were illegal/underground events? And is your dismissing ofvthe legal ramifications why a private mailing list is needed?

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

Btw everyone can join us a at these private party's even the people who seem to have problems with me (even tho they haven't had experienced my company) I assure you I don't judge anyone like people have judged me I am a good person all I want to do is throw some good party's and make everyone happy ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also have uou considered that the liklihood of people paying in advance is nil?

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"I have no idea how you would hire a house to host a party. It would potentially be a legal minefield.

That's what we thought when we first read this yesterday.

Op, clubs already have party nights... but they are licensed.

A long look at the legalities around things and the insurance criteria would be a very sensible thing to do.

This is why you make a data base ie email addresses for the private party's ;o) x

We've only attended about 80 house parties, so we obviously know nothing.

Being a good party organiser takes a great reputation, organisation and much more than a database of email addresses though "

I understand some people have more experience in the scene than I have I'm not saying you know nothing all I want is people to give me a chance ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about your house ? A house party ?

Or just have a social at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IF I decided to try hosting parties I would be out doing real research at clubs and parties, building a reputation, knowledge, experience, friends, and also doing the other homework, legalities, venues, themes, costing etc.

Then I would post on fabs.

Sorry but this 'research' on here, and trying to be noticed on here, without having any real life experience of what is out there, just makes us think avoid at all costs.

Maybe that's just us though

Swinging is so much bigger than this one site, and of this site, very little of them actually use the forums.

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"Also have uou considered that the liklihood of people paying in advance is nil?"

I can bring a lot of non swingers to the party who are interested in checking our scene out for themselfs maybe we can recrute new members to our lovely scene ;o) x

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"IF I decided to try hosting parties I would be out doing real research at clubs and parties, building a reputation, knowledge, experience, friends, and also doing the other homework, legalities, venues, themes, costing etc.

Then I would post on fabs.

Sorry but this 'research' on here, and trying to be noticed on here, without having any real life experience of what is out there, just makes us think avoid at all costs.

Maybe that's just us though

Swinging is so much bigger than this one site, and of this site, very little of them actually use the forums. "

I am doing lots of real research am learning lots every day I don't know everything but everything is a learning experience it's not going to happen over night but when I do have all the relevant information the party is on all I can do at the moment is thank every one for their input ;o) x

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"How about your house ? A house party ?

Or just have a social at a club "

I live with a couple who has a child so can't hold it here I'm afraid ;os x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone know any or know anyone who can point me In the right direction ? ;o) x

I have been doing lots of research need to get a list of venues (that I have some but need more)

If you want to talk about the glow light bands please can you go to the correct thread as I want to keep this for people giving me information about venue hire.

Thanks ;o) x

hahahahahaaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then I would post on fabs.

Sorry but this 'research' on here, and trying to be noticed on here, without having any real life experience of what is out there, just makes us think avoid at all costs.

Maybe that's just us though

Swinging is so much bigger than this one site, and of this site, very little of them actually use the forums. "

Totally agree with this

Only way to truly get a feel for the real swinging lifestyle, be it at a club or a private party, is to get out there and mingle!

You will never get anywhere, just basing your party on comments made on the forums on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would appear that what you DON'T know is voluminous. For one thing, you yourself could be arrested if the police think you are hosting a party to provide sexual favours whilst the organiser is making a profit. Clubs get around this by various legal means and they are all licensed by their local councils, but they have a legal support structure of some sort. Your approach seems to be based on a couple of rave parties and you casually dismiss all the advice the members on here try to give! Good luck to your endeavour, but I doubt many members from this site will attend.

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

Then I would post on fabs.

Sorry but this 'research' on here, and trying to be noticed on here, without having any real life experience of what is out there, just makes us think avoid at all costs.

Maybe that's just us though

Swinging is so much bigger than this one site, and of this site, very little of them actually use the forums.

Totally agree with this

Only way to truly get a feel for the real swinging lifestyle, be it at a club or a private party, is to get out there and mingle!

You will never get anywhere, just basing your party on comments made on the forums on fab."

I agree too I'm practicing this ;o) x

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"It would appear that what you DON'T know is voluminous. For one thing, you yourself could be arrested if the police think you are hosting a party to provide sexual favours whilst the organiser is making a profit. Clubs get around this by various legal means and they are all licensed by their local councils, but they have a legal support structure of some sort. Your approach seems to be based on a couple of rave parties and you casually dismiss all the advice the members on here try to give! Good luck to your endeavour, but I doubt many members from this site will attend."

I'm not dismissing any advise every thing is taken on board like I said its not going to happen over night and promise everything will be well thought of ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also have uou considered that the liklihood of people paying in advance is nil?

I can bring a lot of non swingers to the party who are interested in checking our scene out for themselfs maybe we can recrute new members to our lovely scene ;o) x"

I'm not sure how that answers my question? And why can't newbies sign up here or just go to a club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then I would post on fabs.

Sorry but this 'research' on here, and trying to be noticed on here, without having any real life experience of what is out there, just makes us think avoid at all costs.

Maybe that's just us though

Swinging is so much bigger than this one site, and of this site, very little of them actually use the forums. "

Couldn't agree more with this. OP get out an get known and come back to this in 6 months time when you know how clubs work and have made enough real life connections to establish a guest list.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will stick to the club I go to

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

Then I would post on fabs.

Sorry but this 'research' on here, and trying to be noticed on here, without having any real life experience of what is out there, just makes us think avoid at all costs.

Maybe that's just us though

Swinging is so much bigger than this one site, and of this site, very little of them actually use the forums.

Couldn't agree more with this. OP get out an get known and come back to this in 6 months time when you know how clubs work and have made enough real life connections to establish a guest list.

Like I said its not going to happen over night give me time to do my research I'm constantly talking with club owners party promoters etc i appreciate all your input I'm learning about how the scene works every day I don't know everything but who does at the end of the day just give me time and even more so give me a chance ;o) x

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl...."

All I want to do is make everyone happy is that a wrong at all

I am doing my research don't worry I'm not ready to hold a party yet but when I do I hope all you sceptical people will check it out so I can prove you all wrong.

Everything will be well thought of and will be perfectly legal that's a promise ;o) x

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"I will stick to the club I go to "

And I hope you say hello to me next time you see me so we can have I giggle aye ;o) x

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over a year ago

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl...."

same sentiments here.

And we would rather not go to a club with a gaggle of new people in traffic light wrist bands who have come to watch the swinger show. If you know people who are curious point them in the direction of a well established professionally run club so they get a true idea of 'the scene'

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x"

This has got to be a total wind up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x"

Yes ALL swingers like being watched

That's why so many clubs provide private rooms (that no one can see into

) & that's why those rooms usually fill up quickest

ALL swingers need coloured bands, that's why NONE of the established clubs here in the midlands have any sort of system.

2 more words from myself, well actually her words but solve it yourself, dreams + pipe

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x

This has got to be a total wind up "

What's wind up if we didn't recruit new people into our lovely scene when would just meet the same people all the time or am I just overly friendly ? Lol ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x

This has got to be a total wind up

What's wind up if we didn't recruit new people into our lovely scene when would just meet the same people all the time or am I just overly friendly ? Lol ;o) x"

I don't think you've got the first clue what your talking about

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x

Yes ALL swingers like being watched

That's why so many clubs provide private rooms (that no one can see into

) & that's why those rooms usually fill up quickest

ALL swingers need coloured bands, that's why NONE of the established clubs here in the midlands have any sort of system.

2 more words from myself, well actually her words but solve it yourself, dreams + pipe "

I never said these bands are needed i even said it wouldn't be compulsory but doing my research plenty of clubs have this system in place ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do we need to recruit?!? People should come along in their own sweet time after making an informed decision, especially if they are a couple! This is exactly what I meant in my previous post about the 'show'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x

Yes ALL swingers like being watched

That's why so many clubs provide private rooms (that no one can see into

) & that's why those rooms usually fill up quickest

ALL swingers need coloured bands, that's why NONE of the established clubs here in the midlands have any sort of system.

2 more words from myself, well actually her words but solve it yourself, dreams + pipe

I never said these bands are needed i even said it wouldn't be compulsory but doing my research plenty of clubs have this system in place ;o) x "

Can you tell me which ones have this system in place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow the green arrow. This is the wrong type of exhibitionist.

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x

This has got to be a total wind up

What's wind up if we didn't recruit new people into our lovely scene when would just meet the same people all the time or am I just overly friendly ? Lol ;o) x

I don't think you've got the first clue what your talking about

And I think you have association with a certain club that I wrote a honest negative review about ? (This makes me lol) ;o) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to be honest... the more questions you ask.. the more sceptical I would be of going to an event organised by someone who had no idea, legally or otherwise, of the event they are trying to run...

the best way to do your research is to actually get out there, talk to people at these events, see how there events are run.. and go...

there is a phrase out there "trying to run before you can walk".... this is more like trying to run a marathon before you can crawl....

same sentiments here.

All swinger clubs have watcher types don't they think its called Voyeurism isn't it ? I quite like being watched.

And I always point non or newbie swingers in the direction of club's I have had good experiences at cant we all mingle together ? ;o) x

This has got to be a total wind up

What's wind up if we didn't recruit new people into our lovely scene when would just meet the same people all the time or am I just overly friendly ? Lol ;o) x

I don't think you've got the first clue what your talking about

And I think you have association with a certain club that I wrote a honest negative review about ? (This makes me lol) ;o) x"

Since you mention this op which clubs have you been too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what club would that be chameleons or va

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And what club would that be chameleons or va

So not Tease then? Which the OP has slated on the forums previously. Must admit if it's VA the need for his own venue becomes apparent as that's 2 of his 3 local clubs he doesn't like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And what club would that be chameleons or va

So not Tease then? Which the OP has slated on the forums previously. Must admit if it's VA the need for his own venue becomes apparent as that's 2 of his 3 local clubs he doesn't like! "

We've only been to tease once that was about 2 years ago it wasn't for us so never been back, our favourite clubs are chameleons and va so I assume he is talking about them where are only association is being members

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I never said these bands are needed i even said it wouldn't be compulsory but doing my research plenty of clubs have this system in place ;o) x "

by plenty in the uk you mean 2...... the one for the exclusive people that vet their men so rigourisly they need them to "protect the women from the single men" (their words not mine!) and the townhouse which only do it on a few nights...

any others in the uk i am missing?

the problem is they a lot of people will be placing their trust in any event you organise... and if someone had never been to the type of event they are trying to organise (basically blind) that is a huge leap of faith you are asking people to make....

and the questions upon questions upon questions imply that you either: a) have never been to any... b) have no idea what you doing.. and c) both....

this has "alarm bells" written all over it.... and I can't be the only person who feels this way.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never said these bands are needed i even said it wouldn't be compulsory but doing my research plenty of clubs have this system in place ;o) x

any others in the uk i am missing?

and the questions upon questions upon questions imply that you either: a) have never been to any... b) have no idea what you doing.. and c) both....

this has "alarm bells" written all over it.... and I can't be the only person who feels this way....."

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By *axlf079 OP Man
over a year ago

cambridge

Iv never been to the va tho i have only heard good stuff about the va and I'm not hear to share my bad experiences I have had at clubs (thats what the review section is for) tho I will big up clubs I have had good experiences at.

Such a shame when people ruin these forums for every one else. ;os

I call upon the powers that be the close this thread it's gone totally the wrong way lol ;os

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen him at Jaydees

They don't use traffic light bands

They use common sense and trusted clientele

I don't quite understand why so many questions

Have a party at your house or don't

Certainly can't charge at a house party unless donation for food etc

A club has licences , security measures in place

And a hell of a lot of cash involved to prepare a club suitable for all people

Socialisers

Dancers

Smokers

Vouyers

Exhibitionists

Private play areas

New people

Regular people

Clean toilets

Showers

Cleaning material

Unless you have a serious cash injection and the first clue what you are doing I would give up now

I help organise club nights

I would but bloody dream of opening a venue myself I have not got a clue

Forget your pipe dream and just have fun at clubs like the rest of us do

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

And that seems like a good place to leave it

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