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"When is it and who's organising it  "I think you just volunteered Lee. | |||
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"When is it and who's organising it "I think Oh Please Me might kill you if you volunteer her again. | |||
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"When is it and who's organising it
I think you just volunteered Lee."I'll have to see if I'm free that date first! What date was it again  | |||
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"When is it and who's organising it
I think Oh Please Me might kill you if you volunteer her again."Yeah, I'm not going to be the one to do that  | |||
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"For feck sake don't ask me, I struggle with the piss up in a brewery thing so meeting in a swingers club is never going to work, let alone a bit of shagging!" I struggle getting past the Fosters at Xtasia quite often  | |||
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"As my arm was so forcably twisted, I'm having a chat now with the owners of Xtasia to try and arrange a date for the next one
More news as and when I have it "Fantastic! | |||
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"As my arm was so forcably twisted, I'm having a chat now with the owners of Xtasia to try and arrange a date for the next one
More news as and when I have it
Fantastic!"Problem is, I've got a lot to live up to after the last one | |||
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"I would be up for it this time seeing as I missed the last one " I'll make sure you know details then, so you have a chance of getting to the next one. | |||
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"Hurry up and stop messing about I want to know dates hehe "Just waiting on Xtasia to get back to me with dates that might work! Shouldn't be too much longer now | |||
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"I'd certainly be interested "I'll message you with details once I know | |||
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"Depending on dates we'd be up for it again  "As soon as I know the dates, I'll let you know | |||
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"I'd be up for it too (although my bank balance may put up a fight )"My bank balance is putting up a fight about it already | |||
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"Quite fitting that my first post in the forums is to express my interest in attending another Fab social at Xtasia. ( if I am allowed back in the club?? )"We might have to take a vote on that **listens for forumites saying "aye"** Seems like you're in
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"Thinking out loud although decision made,,,,I think. Currently the Fab Social event each month is planned for a Saturday, but that should be couples only here, however the Fab Forum list always gets a lot of single interest. Does the Forum want us to swap the Fab night to a Friday, so everyone can attend?" yes! think all should be able to attend | |||
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"Thinking out loud although decision made,,,,I think. Currently the Fab Social event each month is planned for a Saturday, but that should be couples only here, however the Fab Forum list always gets a lot of single interest. Does the Forum want us to swap the Fab night to a Friday, so everyone can attend?" For us and I suspect many others tge logistics of attending a club on a Friday that isn't local means time off work. Plus limited single men on a Saturday is far more appealing than unlimited on a Friday. | |||
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"Thinking out loud although decision made,,,,I think. Currently the Fab Social event each month is planned for a Saturday, but that should be couples only here, however the Fab Forum list always gets a lot of single interest. Does the Forum want us to swap the Fab night to a Friday, so everyone can attend? For us and I suspect many others tge logistics of attending a club on a Friday that isn't local means time off work. Plus limited single men on a Saturday is far more appealing than unlimited on a Friday." Appreciated, but we already do a Themed night once a month on the 3rd Saturday, so there is a choice of events, and the Guys will never be "unlimited", not the way we work! This is offering a Friday themed event, to go alongside our Sat themed event. | |||
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"Hmmm, tricky. I don't want to only play with couples, I rather like the single blokes. What were the numbers like on that Saturday? Did the regulars stay away because single men were in attendance?" Yes they did, and it makes it very confusing. Currently, without looking at web site diaries, all know that our Friday is mixed, and Sat couples only, so it really upsets folks if they turn up and find singles here. Although a good mix from Fab, its not something we want to do too much. | |||
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"Hmmm, tricky. I don't want to only play with couples, I rather like the single blokes. What were the numbers like on that Saturday? Did the regulars stay away because single men were in attendance?Yes they did, and it makes it very confusing. Currently, without looking at web site diaries, all know that our Friday is mixed, and Sat couples only, so it really upsets folks if they turn up and find singles here. Although a good mix from Fab, its not something we want to do too much." That's not good. I'm pretty sure that none of us want to affect your business like that. | |||
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"Don't panic, we love hosting the socials, but need to get them so they work for the majority. Our plan is simple. 2 Themed parties per month, one on a Friday, for singles and couples, one on a Saturday for couples only. All you have to do is decide which one to come to...or come to both, lol. Really do think this works for all. " If you hold them over the same weekend, those couples and single females that are ok with and without single males can then make a weekend of it! Single males still catered for on the Friday and regulars of the club still have the couples and single fems night on the sat as well, so 'most' people are catered for. Obviously it won't suit everyone, put then you never will, but it should be good for 'MOST ' people. So those that want a 'Fab weekend' single males/single fems and couples on a Friday and couples and single fems on a sat say AYE | |||
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"Myself and a few fellow forumites are up on the 5th April to celebrate a couple of birthdays! I believe there's a social that night "Up, to a completely different club in a different part of the country, so not all that relevent to socials at Xtasia, which is what this thread is about | |||
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"Myself and a few fellow forumites are up on the 5th April to celebrate a couple of birthdays! I believe there's a social that night
Up, to a completely different club in a different part of the country, so not all that relevent to socials at Xtasia, which is what this thread is about "I'm not stoopid...We're going to Xtasia for the Red carpet/Hollywood glam social on 5th April...  | |||
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"Myself and a few fellow forumites are up on the 5th April to celebrate a couple of birthdays! I believe there's a social that night
Up, to a completely different club in a different part of the country, so not all that relevent to socials at Xtasia, which is what this thread is about
I'm not stoopid...We're going to Xtasia for the Red carpet/Hollywood glam social on 5th April... " | |||
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"so if any single guys wanna go on the sat its time to team up with a single fem "Nope, that's how the socials end up getting stopped completely by that happening then loads of single males walking around on the prowl | |||
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"Myself and a few fellow forumites are up on the 5th April to celebrate a couple of birthdays! I believe there's a social that night
Up, to a completely different club in a different part of the country, so not all that relevent to socials at Xtasia, which is what this thread is about
I'm not stoopid...We're going to Xtasia for the Red carpet/Hollywood glam social on 5th April... "Ah right that one, sorry  | |||
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"Myself and a few fellow forumites are up on the 5th April to celebrate a couple of birthdays! I believe there's a social that night
Up, to a completely different club in a different part of the country, so not all that relevent to socials at Xtasia, which is what this thread is about
I'm not stoopid...We're going to Xtasia for the Red carpet/Hollywood glam social on 5th April...
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"Myself and a few fellow forumites are up on the 5th April to celebrate a couple of birthdays! I believe there's a social that night
Up, to a completely different club in a different part of the country, so not all that relevent to socials at Xtasia, which is what this thread is about
I'm not stoopid...We're going to Xtasia for the Red carpet/Hollywood glam social on 5th April...
Ah right that one, sorry
See...I was trying to be helpful... "Feel free to keep trying | |||
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"so if any single guys wanna go on the sat its time to team up with a single fem
Nope, that's how the socials end up getting stopped completely by that happening then loads of single males walking around on the prowl "it happens all the time...the socials will only end up for couples and single girls over time anyway...its much better get a pub or private room for the night that way no one gets left out, after all it should be about the ppl on fab meeting not just the club | |||
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"so if any single guys wanna go on the sat its time to team up with a single fem
Nope, that's how the socials end up getting stopped completely by that happening then loads of single males walking around on the prowl
it happens all the time...the socials will only end up for couples and single girls over time anyway...its much better get a pub or private room for the night that way no one gets left out, after all it should be about the ppl on fab meeting not just the club"I agree! I prefer playing with singles, so is a little disappointing when guys can't attend! | |||
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"so if any single guys wanna go on the sat its time to team up with a single fem
Nope, that's how the socials end up getting stopped completely by that happening then loads of single males walking around on the prowl
it happens all the time...the socials will only end up for couples and single girls over time anyway...its much better get a pub or private room for the night that way no one gets left out, after all it should be about the ppl on fab meeting not just the club"Wheter it happens all the time or not is irrelivant, if it gets mention on threads about socials on those dates when single guys are not permitted, then the socail will often get cancelled because of this. There are plenty of socials organised in pubs and private function rooms and those will continue as well. Some people prefer to go to clubs though and these need to be catered for as well, whilst still staying withing how the clubs in question run thier nights, as they still have to run thier buisiness when fab socials etc are not happening there. I go to both club socials and pub type socials and enjoy both, so as far as I'm concerned, the more variety of socials there are, the more people are catered for. None of the socials will ever suit everyone, because you never can, it's just a case of trying to get as many people together as possible whenever possible. | |||
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"maybe the next one ban couples....just singles fems/guys...would have to be a club night for single guys thou but the club might be out of pocket then so that aint gona happen "I don't think banning couples would be I good idea. It's a shame everyone isn't welcome all the time, but it's a logical solution to exclude single guys sometimes, purely because there's more of them, and some can find it quite intimidating. Just stick to those nights that welcome singles too | |||
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"As a single female I prefer a social night where couples and singles can all attend. And agree with earlier post that Saturday eventings are better for people traveling etc. obviously clubs dont want to upset their regular customers. But surely a saturday event with limited number of single guys once in a while could be sorted without too much upset" Both our local clubs do this once or twice a year and it's not an issue as there are plenty of Saturday's throughout the year when it's a normal couples night. That said if a social allowing single men attracts less people than a normal club night I can see why a club would not want to host them. Xtasia's geographical location and tge layout of it makes it a perfect location for socials but lets be honest a social like last months loses it's appeal if it is too common. Personally I thonk it is reasonable to cap single men if a club opens it's doors on what is normally a couples night and that organisers should have the right to select which single men attend by whatever criteria they wish. And if that's the case coupling up just to get in is wrong. I remember the days of socials in hotel function rooms and pubs but after what happened in Scotland think they are unlikely to be a popular choice. Plus club socials offer better value financially. You can't please everyone though | |||
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"As a single female I prefer a social night where couples and singles can all attend. And agree with earlier post that Saturday eventings are better for people traveling etc. obviously clubs dont want to upset their regular customers. " The above expresses how I feel too. However, Xtasia is a business and won't be a good venue to visit for any reason if it's not run to suit all clientele, especially the regulars. Socials are good fun and great for getting new visitors, often from farther afield than normal, but they aren't what will keep the club running and successful. Xtasia, as I think I may have mentioned once or twice , is a great club and I certainly wouldn't want the fab socials to have any kind of negative impact on that.
The upshot for me, I think, is that as Xtasia is such a long round trip for me, if socials end up being couples/women only or less well attended, I would prefer to do the travelling to a different venue for socials. That wouldn't stop me attending Xtasia on other nights.
The superhero theme night being couples/women only has put me off attending that event, which is a shame as I have a gigantic superhero fetish, but I'll come to something else at Xtasia instead.
There is also, bank balance permitting, the possibility I could make a weekend of it and do more than one type of event.
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"so if any single guys wanna go on the sat its time to team up with a single fem
Nope, that's how the socials end up getting stopped completely by that happening then loads of single males walking around on the prowl
it happens all the time...the socials will only end up for couples and single girls over time anyway...its much better get a pub or private room for the night that way no one gets left out, after all it should be about the ppl on fab meeting not just the club"I don't see any reason why a well run social should become for couples and women only, even over time. There will always be single men struggling to get their first meet and verification on here. Maybe club socials should be run over a weekend with a club night, an arranged drink in a bar and morning/lunchtime coffee meet. That would be the most accessible way to give those who don't want the expense of a club or are nervous, the chance to meet some people and get verified. Socials should be open to everyone and with enough forum regulars in attendence, it should be possible to tack on a drink in a bar and a coffee meet, or similar. | |||
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"I remember the days of socials in hotel function rooms and pubs but after what happened in Scotland think they are unlikely to be a popular choice. Plus club socials offer better value financially." What happened in Scotland? | |||
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"so if any single guys wanna go on the sat its time to team up with a single fem
Nope, that's how the socials end up getting stopped completely by that happening then loads of single males walking around on the prowl
it happens all the time...the socials will only end up for couples and single girls over time anyway...its much better get a pub or private room for the night that way no one gets left out, after all it should be about the ppl on fab meeting not just the club
I don't see any reason why a well run social should become for couples and women only, even over time. There will always be single men struggling to get their first meet and verification on here.
Maybe club socials should be run over a weekend with a club night, an arranged drink in a bar and morning/lunchtime coffee meet. That would be the most accessible way to give those who don't want the expense of a club or are nervous, the chance to meet some people and get verified.
Socials should be open to everyone and with enough forum regulars in attendence, it should be possible to tack on a drink in a bar and a coffee meet, or similar." | |||
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"I remember the days of socials in hotel function rooms and pubs but after what happened in Scotland think they are unlikely to be a popular choice. Plus club socials offer better value financially. What happened in Scotland?" Press got wind of a social in a vanilla environment and it got cancelled at the last minute after it was clear that people would get outed if it went ahead. | |||
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"Would it not be best to hold maybe a maximum of 3 event on a Saturday throughout the year that can cater for singles. If you look through the previous years takings and get an idea of when business on a Saturday is slow. You can then plan to bolster numbers on these weekends. And give plenty of notice to members that the theme will change. Having a few will also allow people to plan, and stop the events becoming stale. Just a thought. "
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"As my arm was so forcably twisted, I'm having a chat now with the owners of Xtasia to try and arrange a date for the next one
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"I remember the days of socials in hotel function rooms and pubs but after what happened in Scotland think they are unlikely to be a popular choice. Plus club socials offer better value financially. What happened in Scotland? Press got wind of a social in a vanilla environment and it got cancelled at the last minute after it was clear that people would get outed if it went ahead." Bloody press. People shagging other people, amazing news!!! | |||
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"Would it not be best to hold maybe a maximum of 3 event on a Saturday throughout the year that can cater for singles. If you look through the previous years takings and get an idea of when business on a Saturday is slow. You can then plan to bolster numbers on these weekends. And give plenty of notice to members that the theme will change. Having a few will also allow people to plan, and stop the events becoming stale. Just a thought.
A sensible sugestion. Surely not ????
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"so if any single guys wanna go on the sat its time to team up with a single fem
Nope, that's how the socials end up getting stopped completely by that happening then loads of single males walking around on the prowl
it happens all the time...the socials will only end up for couples and single girls over time anyway...its much better get a pub or private room for the night that way no one gets left out, after all it should be about the ppl on fab meeting not just the club
I agree! I prefer playing with singles, so is a little disappointing when guys can't attend!"I'm with you on this one, I would want to attend the one that allowed the single males so the Friday, which in turn would mean time off work and not being able to make a weekend of it as I am still new to playing with couples x | |||
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"Does Xtasia have a mailing list for people who want to be notified of what's on and of potential changes to the usual routine, rather than having to check the website? Obviously it would have to be an opt in thing but I'd be interested." Front page of our web site... | |||
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"Also, is the club open during the day at all? I could check that on the website but I'm on my 'phone and lazy. Maybe on social days open for a couple of hours during the day - perhaps just the chill out room - so people can meet for coffee. That would allow it to be on a Saturday. Then turf everyone out and open as normal for couples and women in the evening. That'd give nervous newbies a chance to get a tour without committing to attend a club night too. I don't know if the logistics of preparing the club would allow it and it may be a daft idea. I have random thoughts sometimes!" Already open Sat afternoon to all. | |||
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"Would it not be best to hold maybe a maximum of 3 event on a Saturday throughout the year that can cater for singles. If you look through the previous years takings and get an idea of when business on a Saturday is slow. You can then plan to bolster numbers on these weekends. And give plenty of notice to members that the theme will change. Having a few will also allow people to plan, and stop the events becoming stale. Just a thought. " Just read through the thread - having had a little bit (lol) to do with the Feb social it was interesting to both read what's been said and also to recall the discussions leading up to the event from Paul's original offer to host it! There were two main issues that people were concerned with from day one. Firstly that an event on a Friday would have been impossible for those travelling a good distance - and on the 1st they came from Cornwall, Kent, Norfolk and even sunny Scotland!! Secondly, many (particularly the single females) weren't keen to attend if single males weren't allowed. This was the issue - Saturdays being couples only. The agreement to open the doors on a Saturday solved those issues and we (and I guess many attendees) were hugely grateful to Paul and Flirt for doing this. However!! (Business head on here!!) Just because the night went well and seemed to be enjoyed by the majority - the regular club members have to be respected. Those that travelled for the social won't be the bread and butter business - the repeat visitors to the club without whom the atmosphere and very existence would be threatened. Whilst it's great to have the occasional open door policy for socials - at the end of the day this is not ever going to prove sustainable on a regular basis given the number of attendees who would only be making a one off trip. Clubs need regular clientele to survive. And keeping those regulars happy will always be more important than one off events drawing good numbers but made up largely of visitors unlikely to attend regularly. We discussed with Paul the possibility of doing another event in 6 months time - and we'd be more than happy to do so. But as has been seen with other planned 'socials' (thinking of Luke and Hotties plans at the VA) clubs HAVE to think of regular business before anything else. Clubs that offer to open doors to all will usually be doing it due to lack of existing business - something we've not seen in out many trips to Xtasia. So whether another event happens as per the last social or not - we're still grateful to Paul and Flirt for having us all at their club, and would gladly look to help plan any future social. But at the end of the day the clubs needs will - and should - always come before the wants of us Fabsters! It would be great in an ideal world to have no restrictions on dates, attendees or entry prices. But the real world of the swingers club business means this is unlikely to ever be possible for reasons so often discussed in here. In the meantime we need to respect the choices club owners make and put ourselves in their shoes. What might be a great night for you might not be a great result for them in the long term. A&F xx | |||
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"Would it not be best to hold maybe a maximum of 3 event on a Saturday throughout the year that can cater for singles. If you look through the previous years takings and get an idea of when business on a Saturday is slow. You can then plan to bolster numbers on these weekends. And give plenty of notice to members that the theme will change. Having a few will also allow people to plan, and stop the events becoming stale. Just a thought. Just read through the thread - having had a little bit (lol) to do with the Feb social it was interesting to both read what's been said and also to recall the discussions leading up to the event from Paul's original offer to host it! There were two main issues that people were concerned with from day one. Firstly that an event on a Friday would have been impossible for those travelling a good distance - and on the 1st they came from Cornwall, Kent, Norfolk and even sunny Scotland!! Secondly, many (particularly the single females) weren't keen to attend if single males weren't allowed. This was the issue - Saturdays being couples only. The agreement to open the doors on a Saturday solved those issues and we (and I guess many attendees) were hugely grateful to Paul and Flirt for doing this. However!! (Business head on here!!) Just because the night went well and seemed to be enjoyed by the majority - the regular club members have to be respected. Those that travelled for the social won't be the bread and butter business - the repeat visitors to the club without whom the atmosphere and very existence would be threatened. Whilst it's great to have the occasional open door policy for socials - at the end of the day this is not ever going to prove sustainable on a regular basis given the number of attendees who would only be making a one off trip. Clubs need regular clientele to survive. And keeping those regulars happy will always be more important than one off events drawing good numbers but made up largely of visitors unlikely to attend regularly. We discussed with Paul the possibility of doing another event in 6 months time - and we'd be more than happy to do so. But as has been seen with other planned 'socials' (thinking of Luke and Hotties plans at the VA) clubs HAVE to think of regular business before anything else. Clubs that offer to open doors to all will usually be doing it due to lack of existing business - something we've not seen in out many trips to Xtasia. So whether another event happens as per the last social or not - we're still grateful to Paul and Flirt for having us all at their club, and would gladly look to help plan any future social. But at the end of the day the clubs needs will - and should - always come before the wants of us Fabsters! It would be great in an ideal world to have no restrictions on dates, attendees or entry prices. But the real world of the swingers club business means this is unlikely to ever be possible for reasons so often discussed in here. In the meantime we need to respect the choices club owners make and put ourselves in their shoes. What might be a great night for you might not be a great result for them in the long term. A&F xx" Which is why I suggested limiting these events to days that last year were slow. We know times are hard for clubs. So to hold an event open to all perhaps mid January, is likely to make the club more than couples only. Forecasting is basic business sense and could prove to make the club money. | |||
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"Would it not be best to hold maybe a maximum of 3 event on a Saturday throughout the year that can cater for singles. If you look through the previous years takings and get an idea of when business on a Saturday is slow. You can then plan to bolster numbers on these weekends. And give plenty of notice to members that the theme will change. Having a few will also allow people to plan, and stop the events becoming stale. Just a thought. Just read through the thread - having had a little bit (lol) to do with the Feb social it was interesting to both read what's been said and also to recall the discussions leading up to the event from Paul's original offer to host it! There were two main issues that people were concerned with from day one. Firstly that an event on a Friday would have been impossible for those travelling a good distance - and on the 1st they came from Cornwall, Kent, Norfolk and even sunny Scotland!! Secondly, many (particularly the single females) weren't keen to attend if single males weren't allowed. This was the issue - Saturdays being couples only. The agreement to open the doors on a Saturday solved those issues and we (and I guess many attendees) were hugely grateful to Paul and Flirt for doing this. However!! (Business head on here!!) Just because the night went well and seemed to be enjoyed by the majority - the regular club members have to be respected. Those that travelled for the social won't be the bread and butter business - the repeat visitors to the club without whom the atmosphere and very existence would be threatened. Whilst it's great to have the occasional open door policy for socials - at the end of the day this is not ever going to prove sustainable on a regular basis given the number of attendees who would only be making a one off trip. Clubs need regular clientele to survive. And keeping those regulars happy will always be more important than one off events drawing good numbers but made up largely of visitors unlikely to attend regularly. We discussed with Paul the possibility of doing another event in 6 months time - and we'd be more than happy to do so. But as has been seen with other planned 'socials' (thinking of Luke and Hotties plans at the VA) clubs HAVE to think of regular business before anything else. Clubs that offer to open doors to all will usually be doing it due to lack of existing business - something we've not seen in out many trips to Xtasia. So whether another event happens as per the last social or not - we're still grateful to Paul and Flirt for having us all at their club, and would gladly look to help plan any future social. But at the end of the day the clubs needs will - and should - always come before the wants of us Fabsters! It would be great in an ideal world to have no restrictions on dates, attendees or entry prices. But the real world of the swingers club business means this is unlikely to ever be possible for reasons so often discussed in here. In the meantime we need to respect the choices club owners make and put ourselves in their shoes. What might be a great night for you might not be a great result for them in the long term. A&F xx Which is why I suggested limiting these events to days that last year were slow. We know times are hard for clubs. So to hold an event open to all perhaps mid January, is likely to make the club more than couples only. Forecasting is basic business sense and could prove to make the club money. " Doh!! Sorry Letsbe - didn't realise I'd quoted you!! I agree with what you said. And yep - it's a great way to 'showcase' a club during quiet times of year. My point was simply that while one off events can draw in good numbers (and money!) they mustn't endanger any relationship with regular visitors and existing members. Clubs aren't there solely for Fab members and there are still a large number of swinging couples (rightly or wrongly) who don't wish to interact with singles in clubs - or in fact on Fab. Like all preferences - choosing to opt to attend clubs on couples only nights should be respected as much as a profile only seeking MF couples. A | |||
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"OK, think we have a solution for you all. Firstly, we are moving the regular Fab Themed Party Nights, every month to a Friday night, the 1st of the month. This then gives us a themed night on the 1st Friday of the month, and the 3rd Saturday every month. Two choices, every month of the year. We will also make probably 3 Saturdays through the year, singles welcome social nights as well. Jan is obvious, then maybe May, and Oct at a guess. Plenty of notice, as we already do the PHUKT nights in the same way. That gives you Foumites 3 big ones to aim for each year. So, May 3rd, Saturday....theme is Uniforms. Who's up for running a list then? " If nobody else puts thier hand up lol | |||
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"uniforms now your talking question is which one do i wear or which new one do i get dean to bye me answers on a postcard "Post pics so we can answer properly | |||
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"i feel a late sunday party on as well lol "I can feel a Friday/Saturday/Sunday party cumming on | |||
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"i have school girl,police woman ,sailor,and many more but feel a new 1 or 2 coming on "I think a new one or 2 would be in order for this occassion | |||
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"OK, think we have a solution for you all. Firstly, we are moving the regular Fab Themed Party Nights, every month to a Friday night, the 1st of the month. This then gives us a themed night on the 1st Friday of the month, and the 3rd Saturday every month. Two choices, every month of the year. We will also make probably 3 Saturdays through the year, singles welcome social nights as well. Jan is obvious, then maybe May, and Oct at a guess. Plenty of notice, as we already do the PHUKT nights in the same way. That gives you Foumites 3 big ones to aim for each year. So, May 3rd, Saturday....theme is Uniforms. Who's up for running a list then? " If someone wants to pick up the May event we'd be more than happy to help out with the October one! A&F xx | |||
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"OK, think we have a solution for you all. Firstly, we are moving the regular Fab Themed Party Nights, every month to a Friday night, the 1st of the month. This then gives us a themed night on the 1st Friday of the month, and the 3rd Saturday every month. Two choices, every month of the year. We will also make probably 3 Saturdays through the year, singles welcome social nights as well. Jan is obvious, then maybe May, and Oct at a guess. Plenty of notice, as we already do the PHUKT nights in the same way. That gives you Foumites 3 big ones to aim for each year. So, May 3rd, Saturday....theme is Uniforms. Who's up for running a list then? " We will run the list for this one if you want us too guys? Lee, like to see you find a onesie to fit this theme lol | |||
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"Lee, like to see you find a onesie to fit this theme lol " Damn, that means that I've got to start looking for one now | |||
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"Lee, like to see you find a onesie to fit this theme lol Damn, that means that I've got to start looking for one now "lol my choice will have a bit less material to it | |||
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"Lee, like to see you find a onesie to fit this theme lol Damn, that means that I've got to start looking for one now
lol my choice will have a bit less material to it "Mine will have wayyyyy too much material  | |||
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"Hold fire folks with the 3rd May. Prem might already be full with a function, if so, will need to move it." How very dare they have other guests rather than Xtasia visitors | |||
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"Hold fire folks with the 3rd May. Prem might already be full with a function, if so, will need to move it. How very dare they have other guests rather than Xtasia visitors " | |||
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"I don't think we should be holding these socials to close to each other - like they say absence makes the heart grow fonder and the same goes with the forumites. You don't want it losing it's appeal by making it too regular - but that's just my opinion. "Close together? If it was held on the 3rd of May (which it looks like it might not be), that would be 3 months between them! If you kept them that far apart, max of 4 a year, nowhere near too regular, but then that's just my opinion | |||
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"I don't think we should be holding these socials to close to each other - like they say absence makes the heart grow fonder and the same goes with the forumites. You don't want it losing it's appeal by making it too regular - but that's just my opinion. "The idea is to encourage people to get out and about, try clubs and socialise - possibly as a means of both making friends and for some, getting those all important first veri's! Yes it's nice for some of us to catch up - but that's not the main aim. And whilst there are more socials going on now than previously - they tend to be spread over the country, giving wide options for both locals and those that like a bit of travel. As far as I'm concerned - the more socials going on the less anyone can use the 'why can't I get any meets!!' excuse!
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"I don't think we should be holding these socials to close to each other - like they say absence makes the heart grow fonder and the same goes with the forumites. You don't want it losing it's appeal by making it too regular - but that's just my opinion.
The idea is to encourage people to get out and about, try clubs and socialise - possibly as a means of both making friends and for some, getting those all important first veri's!
Yes it's nice for some of us to catch up - but that's not the main aim.
And whilst there are more socials going on now than previously - they tend to be spread over the country, giving wide options for both locals and those that like a bit of travel.
As far as I'm concerned - the more socials going on the less anyone can use the 'why can't I get any meets!!' excuse!
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"Why not go to a different club?" Because I like Xtasia as it's a great club and there are already socials organised at other clubs if people want to go to them. | |||
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"Why does it have to be organised with the club? Can't people just turn up?" People can attend any night, but if you arrange it with the club you can agree a discounted rate and like with this event arrange for single men to be allowed in on a Saturday night. | |||
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"A sausage fest! Now you're talking!" Not a sausage fest at all but a lot of people prefer to attend on nights when single men can attend as well and it is a good chance for people to put faces to names they may have spoken to on here. | |||
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"Why not go to a different club? Because I like Xtasia as it's a great club and there are already socials organised at other clubs if people want to go to them. " It is also (along with chams) ideally located with great links to the Motorway network and New Street Station for those on public transport. And not many clubs have a hotel next door to them | |||
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"A sausage fest! Now you're talking!" Kris - I'm surprised we've not bumped into you and Squames there previously! There's a few nights held regularly you'd both enjoy!
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"Why not go to a different club? Because I like Xtasia as it's a great club and there are already socials organised at other clubs if people want to go to them. It is also (along with chams) ideally located with great links to the Motorway network and New Street Station for those on public transport. And not many clubs have a hotel next door to them" I agree, One of the highlights for me was the drive up and down and the ease in finding the place and how close the hotel was to the venue. Perfect Although I wouldn't attend another, I would recommend the venue.
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"I agree, One of the highlights for me was the drive up and down and the ease in finding the place and how close the hotel was to the venue. Perfect Although I wouldn't attend another, I would recommend the venue.
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" Oh it will happen, just got to get the date sorted " have a good one | |||
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" Oh it will happen, just got to get the date sorted
have a good one"Thanks, I'm sure me and Fosters will be on first name terms again as soon as I get there | |||
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"A sausage fest! Now you're talking! Kris - I'm surprised we've not bumped into you and Squames there previously! There's a few nights held regularly you'd both enjoy!
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"Ooh. Let's do this! "New thread posted now
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"Ooh. Let's do this!
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Saturday 7th of June "im up for the _tasia social if you will put my name down please | |||
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"I hate to say this, but I think this has been organised way too close to the one at Jaydee's. There's no way we will be able to a) afford it and b) organise childcare. Its a shame the other social wasn't taken into consideration beforehand. "It was the only date available that fitted where the club could let single guys in on the Saturday. There are lots of socials being organised most weekends, if we took all of them into consideration there probably wouldn't be another for who knows how long. I know some people won't be able to make it because of other socials around that time and for various other reasons, but there are also quite a few people that can't make other dates but can this one. So it's just a case of fingers crossed as many people as possible can make it to this one. If not, I'm sure there will be others organised as and when Xtasia can fit it in. It is over 3 months away, so with any luck as many people as possible will be able to sort things so they can make it. | |||
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"glad its been put back a bit. was going to be a little too soon for us, but now we should be ok to come" Glad to hear it | |||
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"will you put my name down please ? "For the 2nd time in this thread, can you post in the new thread if you want your names added, as I won't be held responsible if your names get missed off the list by posting on this thread about getting on the guest list | |||
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