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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a single newbie girl looking to go to Xtasia later this month (probably the foam party). I just wondered if many girls go on their own? Do couples tend to mainly hook up with other couples? Any advice on how to approach people in the club would be most appreciated as I don't want to be Billy no mates sat in the corner!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Was at my local club last night. Very nice it was too.

In my experience couples do tend to only play with couples but if you get chatting to people you might get lucky. The trick is to approach people yourself as men have been told to wait for that and won't approach you.

Just be friendly, have a happy face, and don't get too d*unk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read your profile and post on the forum. You seem 'alright' in terms of looks and stringing a sentence so don't worry about going alone, many people will surely approach you. Just don't feel pressured that you have shag someone if you talk to them - no means no!

Xtasia is a big club and there will be many first timer couples and women and many who know each other. I would just bite the bullet and go. You'll be nervous at first but I'm sure you will also have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your other option would be to go with a male friend/partner etc... Maybe someone who is a member of the club as they can also help show you around etc....

Depends on your preferences as your profile states no single guys but also that you are bisexual. Good luck, have fun and yes you probably guessed I AM a member lol. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you will be fine going it alone. Plenty of couples will be more than happy to talk to you heard good things about that club and it's friendliness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single newbie girl looking to go to Xtasia later this month (probably the foam party). I just wondered if many girls go on their own? Do couples tend to mainly hook up with other couples? Any advice on how to approach people in the club would be most appreciated as I don't want to be Billy no mates sat in the corner!"

I attend clubs as a single female, and will be going to xtasia either for the foam party and social or just the social.

I have found that in most clubs if I smile and am approachable or approach others that all are friendly x

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"Your other option would be to go with a male friend/partner etc... Maybe someone who is a member of the club as they can also help show you around etc....

Depends on your preferences as your profile states no single guys but also that you are bisexual. Good luck, have fun and yes you probably guessed I AM a member lol. xx"

God loves a trier!!!!

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

I think it can be daunting for any sex, even as a couple we find it hard.

To me its like the school disco all over again.

Xtasia is a great place to chill yo dance to relax and sure you can strike up a conversation if you are confident in yourself.

We find it difficult too.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

First time at a club is always nerve wracking, even for couples.

As your bi(ish) you will have no issue meeting other couples and single girls.. Normally there are three or four, ask Flirt to introduce them to you. You will be fine and much sought after we suspect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always consider the social at the end of the month? That way you won't be the only newbie there and you could plan to meet other forumites?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could always consider the social at the end of the month? That way you won't be the only newbie there and you could plan to meet other forumites?"

Or do the foam party on the Friday night and the social on the Saturday night and go from newbie to regular in one weekend

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I prefer to go on nights when single men are in. But if you're looking for interaction with females that seems to happen more often in open rooms on couples nights.

Going with a friend for moral support can be good but it can also sometimes stop you from socialising as much. And some.single men can be quite difficult about you playing alone. So if you go with a male friend be sure you have established ground rules and that you're confident he'll abide by them.

It can also be tricky on a couples night if you go off to play and he is left on his own. Some clubs don't like to have men floating around on couples night without their other half.

If you want to go with a friend then I'd slugged you find a female friend. Be sure to establish if you are going just as friends or if you are likely to play together, either with each other or in a straight multiple situation. But there are plenty of females who are happy to go just as friends to clubs with a newbie, post a thread for a companion and/or a meet request.

Above all be prepared to mingle and chat. If you wait for people to approach you they may be hanging back so as not to make you uncomfortable! And don't drink too much, perhaps one or two but no more cos people will avoid playing with a d*unk person.

If you do go with a friend make sure you are confident of how you'll get home again - there have been horror stories of people getting abandoned at clubs because the person they went with got a better offer.

Oh and chat with everyone not just those you fancy. Clubs are sociable places and I've often been asked my opinion of a new person or been asked which of the single men are worth playing with. And you can get introductions to other people too. Many of my best club friends are people I would never play with but they are great company.

When you arrive let the club staff.know you're new and on your own. Get the guided tour and don't be afraid to ask lots of questions or for an introduction to some regulars.

If you don't know what to say then just say it's your first time and you're nervous. And when talking to couples talk to both even if you are only interested in playing with her, most couples decide together even if only one will be playing.

If you've ever read.any of my replies to single men at clubs you'll know a lot of this is the same as I say to them. But the basics are the same for everyone.

Hope you have a great time.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London


"I prefer to go on nights when single men are in. But if you're looking for interaction with females that seems to happen more often in open rooms on couples nights.

Going with a friend for moral support can be good but it can also sometimes stop you from socialising as much. And some.single men can be quite difficult about you playing alone. So if you go with a male friend be sure you have established ground rules and that you're confident he'll abide by them.

It can also be tricky on a couples night if you go off to play and he is left on his own. Some clubs don't like to have men floating around on couples night without their other half.

If you want to go with a friend then I'd slugged you find a female friend. Be sure to establish if you are going just as friends or if you are likely to play together, either with each other or in a straight multiple situation. But there are plenty of females who are happy to go just as friends to clubs with a newbie, post a thread for a companion and/or a meet request.

Above all be prepared to mingle and chat. If you wait for people to approach you they may be hanging back so as not to make you uncomfortable! And don't drink too much, perhaps one or two but no more cos people will avoid playing with a d*unk person.

If you do go with a friend make sure you are confident of how you'll get home again - there have been horror stories of people getting abandoned at clubs because the person they went with got a better offer.

Oh and chat with everyone not just those you fancy. Clubs are sociable places and I've often been asked my opinion of a new person or been asked which of the single men are worth playing with. And you can get introductions to other people too. Many of my best club friends are people I would never play with but they are great company.

When you arrive let the club staff.know you're new and on your own. Get the guided tour and don't be afraid to ask lots of questions or for an introduction to some regulars.

If you don't know what to say then just say it's your first time and you're nervous. And when talking to couples talk to both even if you are only interested in playing with her, most couples decide together even if only one will be playing.

If you've ever read.any of my replies to single men at clubs you'll know a lot of this is the same as I say to them. But the basics are the same for everyone.

Hope you have a great time. "

Brilliant post on this issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your replies, I'm feeling quite reassured now and very excited about going to Xtasia! X

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