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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Single men at swingers clubs in general?

I've been to them but have a polite yet fairly cool response when mingling. I observe the other single men and see how they get on.

of course there's the odd couple that's up themselves which i steer clear of, though got on well with and had a good chat with other more down to earth people..

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

The club closest to you, Club F, in Stanley, has a mixed night on Saturdays, with limited single men attending.

Now, we went on that particular night, and we talked to a number of the single men present, but we weren't there to play with them, we play with couples at clubs, that doesn't mean we had to ignore them but obviously some couples will because they think it will be seen as a come on, if they dont, and some single men will take it as a come on if you talk to them, so that's why.

Generally, single men on the scene who are social, dress well and chat to people, including the guy, not the girl, if its a couple, will do much better than someone who turns up in shit jeans and a t-shirt with most that mornings breakfast still on it, smelling of a badgers arse. And you can laugh, but that does happen.

It's also wrong to go to a club with an expectation of play, because you will not always get it (Couples don't either) if you become of that mindset, you will frequently be dissappointed.

We only attend clubs on mixed nights, where the numbers of men are well regulated, they behave, the club enforces their own rules and is something we feel comfortable with. Rios would be a good example of a club which doesn't tick any of these boxes.

Ourplace4fun and Club F, are two clubs that do run mixed nights very well.

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By *enuinetallstuMan
over a year ago

nr beauly


"The club closest to you, Club F, in Stanley, has a mixed night on Saturdays, with limited single men attending.

Now, we went on that particular night, and we talked to a number of the single men present, but we weren't there to play with them, we play with couples at clubs, that doesn't mean we had to ignore them but obviously some couples will because they think it will be seen as a come on, if they dont, and some single men will take it as a come on if you talk to them, so that's why.

Generally, single men on the scene who are social, dress well and chat to people, including the guy, not the girl, if its a couple, will do much better than someone who turns up in shit jeans and a t-shirt with most that mornings breakfast still on it, smelling of a badgers arse. And you can laugh, but that does happen.

It's also wrong to go to a club with an expectation of play, because you will not always get it (Couples don't either) if you become of that mindset, you will frequently be dissappointed.

We only attend clubs on mixed nights, where the numbers of men are well regulated, they behave, the club enforces their own rules and is something we feel comfortable with. Rios would be a good example of a club which doesn't tick any of these boxes.

Ourplace4fun and Club F, are two clubs that do run mixed nights very well. "

We agree, as club owners it can almost be comical. We insist guys come along on a Wednesday social so we can help them with etiquette etc but some are just beyond help, or should begin with a shower !! It's simple really, smell nice, look nice and talk to people, the rest will follow. Remember swinging is about socialising and the ladies feeling great, so relax and enjoy ... Expect nothing and it will be fine for all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have tried the club scene over the years follow all the rules for dress cleaness politeness and so on.

try to be social and not expect anything and still get blanked.

We are charged double £50 to £100 with no guarantee we will have any fun or even be spoken to.

Its all very well having a go at single guys in clubs but with the current trend of letting couples in for free or minimum fee and single girls for nothing its not hard to see where the main income for a club comes from.

So you cant really blame a guy for paying to go to a club and get a little fed up when he is trated like a leper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish our club was free for couples. We pay only slightly less but granted it is two of us.

Some singles are very succesful on the club scene you only have to look at what goes on when the club we go to hold the party nights for Single men. Thinking they don't share their success stories though as they don't want their secrets getting out.

I can't see the logic in getting annoyed at no action even if they have paid a lot of money.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

tbh in clubs it takes cpls single fems and single men to make the night its the members that make the club , we have been to clubs all over the uk and seen alsorts of scenes , advice to single men is chill join in the convo as you would in a pub or on holiday the rest will come . cant see anyone having a go at single men in these posts as there are cpls like us who look for single men .of course theres always one that will spoil it for the rest we have had a few scenes where she has been touched without asking or even spoke to but its how you deal with it not to spoil the night il add it has happened with cpls to , so to single men dont be put off you will get out what you put in .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just use common sense and above all Respect. i usually am invited to join in on some naughty fun.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

and just to add my two penorth as a single gal that goes to clubs my best nights are the ones where a guy sees me sitting by myself and comes over to chat for a while,

had this happen once or twice and then i go play with the guy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only go to meet single guys, as do my f friends, but yes, clean, friendly and respectful ones only

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

We've met a few single guys in clubs and to date we've not had any bad experiences, all of em gents lol we probably been lucky ........ Who knows perhaps all single guys are gents lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are more than happy to chat with single men as long as they don't think it means they get a play.

you can tell the nice guys who are genuinely social versus the ones wanting a quick dip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I must be one the gents..haha

I do allright I have no issues being singl is more fun (see my glowing profile) even i have frends *as above* hello my frends above lol J&K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My one and only visit to a club i went with a couple i know so felt comfortable bit would not just gp on my own though.

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By *onkeydickspartiesMan
over a year ago

SALISBURY Sat 20th MAY Mixed Erotic Party


"Single men at swingers clubs in general?

I've been to them but have a polite yet fairly cool response when mingling. I observe the other single men and see how they get on.

of course there's the odd couple that's up themselves which i steer clear of, though got on well with and had a good chat with other more down to earth people.. "

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Lol George of funjungle we can confirm you a Gent x

Go on swing from his branch ladies lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We work in a club and often show new gents round, we always say that they should treat it as a social anything else is a bonus.

Those that make an effort, are sociable and don't follow people around or knock on closed doors are always likely to get more playtime,

We also play in open areas and have on occasion asked the gents to give us more space and to which they have always obliged,

At end of a day clubs need singles and couples thus getting the right mix makes the best nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thanks my frends of the jungl its simplez single guys be nice and you will seek the rewards one day naturesway

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"The club closest to you, Club F, in Stanley, has a mixed night on Saturdays, with limited single men attending.

Now, we went on that particular night, and we talked to a number of the single men present, but we weren't there to play with them, we play with couples at clubs, that doesn't mean we had to ignore them but obviously some couples will because they think it will be seen as a come on, if they dont, and some single men will take it as a come on if you talk to them, so that's why.

Generally, single men on the scene who are social, dress well and chat to people, including the guy, not the girl, if its a couple, will do much better than someone who turns up in shit jeans and a t-shirt with most that mornings breakfast still on it, smelling of a badgers arse. And you can laugh, but that does happen.

It's also wrong to go to a club with an expectation of play, because you will not always get it (Couples don't either) if you become of that mindset, you will frequently be dissappointed.

We only attend clubs on mixed nights, where the numbers of men are well regulated, they behave, the club enforces their own rules and is something we feel comfortable with. Rios would be a good example of a club which doesn't tick any of these boxes.

Ourplace4fun and Club F, are two clubs that do run mixed nights very well. "

The simple reason why Rios does not tick any of those boxes: Its not a swingers club. It may be a licensed spa, but the management are really only interested in their equipment not getting broken, what happens to anyone there is not their concern.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"We are more than happy to chat with single men as long as they don't think it means they get a play.

you can tell the nice guys who are genuinely social versus the ones wanting a quick dip "

Lol, I tend to run more risk of living the impression of not being interested, haha.. as long as its a fun night and everyone's having a laugh, anything more is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to Chams Darlaston on a Monday when we can and tend to 'do' a Sunday before it & sometimes a Saturday.

Obviously Saturday is couples only but the Sunday and Monday we don't tend to be interested in couples at all.

We go for the single guys.

On a Sunday we play straight and Nicki gets lots of fun. We only pick one guy at a time (so far!) but we will play with a few.

We may spot a guy Nicki really likes and will call him over or if a we are approached by someone and he seems fun we quickly move to a room.

We're not there to socialise much... we like to have fun.

The guys don't need to be ripped and stunning; lets face it we aren't either! We like guys who aren't hairy, in reasonable shape, fresh smelling and above all; fun easy going fellas.

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By *coobysMan
over a year ago

north west lancs

Not being a good looking guy i am glad that being social dressing well smelling nice helps. I have had some great fun in the clubs i am not pushy don't follow people around and enjoy talking to people. Some singles don't help but the vast majority are good. Swinging is fun and should always be that way.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Single men at swingers clubs in general?

I've been to them but have a polite yet fairly cool response when mingling. I observe the other single men and see how they get on.

of course there's the odd couple that's up themselves which i steer clear of, though got on well with and had a good chat with other more down to earth people.. "

see... i think there are two approaches....

you can sit in the corner like a mute lost lamb......

or you can action just mingle and talk to people...

you'd be surprised... but a "hello" does go a long long way...

as long as you talk to both of a couple, and realise that not every hello is a come on then you'll be fine

I treat it like any normal saturday night out... go out with an open mind and no expectations....

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London


"The club closest to you, Club F, in Stanley, has a mixed night on Saturdays, with limited single men attending.

Now, we went on that particular night, and we talked to a number of the single men present, but we weren't there to play with them, we play with couples at clubs, that doesn't mean we had to ignore them but obviously some couples will because they think it will be seen as a come on, if they dont, and some single men will take it as a come on if you talk to them, so that's why.

Generally, single men on the scene who are social, dress well and chat to people, including the guy, not the girl, if its a couple, will do much better than someone who turns up in shit jeans and a t-shirt with most that mornings breakfast still on it, smelling of a badgers arse. And you can laugh, but that does happen.

It's also wrong to go to a club with an expectation of play, because you will not always get it (Couples don't either) if you become of that mindset, you will frequently be dissappointed.

We only attend clubs on mixed nights, where the numbers of men are well regulated, they behave, the club enforces their own rules and is something we feel comfortable with. Rios would be a good example of a club which doesn't tick any of these boxes.

Ourplace4fun and Club F, are two clubs that do run mixed nights very well.

The simple reason why Rios does not tick any of those boxes: Its not a swingers club. It may be a licensed spa, but the management are really only interested in their equipment not getting broken, what happens to anyone there is not their concern."

While it might be not be overtly advertised as a swingers club or sex club, everyone knows what it is, including the people who own it. Rios is owned by the same management that own the gay string of saunas 'Chariots' and its set up exactly the same way, their fully aware of the swingers market and orientate their club accordingly. It's just not overtly advertised as a swingers club and they don't feel obliged to control their guests accordingly. But people have sex there, both in the playrooms, and the sauna and the jacuzzis, what are the 'rest' rooms for? Not for resting.So its certainly not just a health Spa, it's primarily a sex club and that is its main source of income. It's just the same as Paradise in East London. It has a couples only night on a Saturday until midnight which is always packed out and there are swingers there on any given night, along with some naturists and other people who normally go there by accident. It is also listed on every club site in their club listings, so they may well only care about the ££ on the door and their equipment being broken, but the majority of those ££ come from the swinging scene. De facto, its a club frequented by swingers. It doesn't mean it will be any good but it still means we can comment on what it achieves and doesn't achieve, quite rightly, in its place on the scene.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London


"Single men at swingers clubs in general?

I've been to them but have a polite yet fairly cool response when mingling. I observe the other single men and see how they get on.

of course there's the odd couple that's up themselves which i steer clear of, though got on well with and had a good chat with other more down to earth people..

see... i think there are two approaches....

you can sit in the corner like a mute lost lamb......

or you can action just mingle and talk to people...

you'd be surprised... but a "hello" does go a long long way...

as long as you talk to both of a couple, and realise that not every hello is a come on then you'll be fine

I treat it like any normal saturday night out... go out with an open mind and no expectations...."

Best approach 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope I am inspiring all S/M

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