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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

so what happens if you go to a club and no one wants to play with you.

i know its a fun social place,and to play is a bonus,but dampens the enthusiasm a bit if no on wants you.

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

Now you know how most of us older, overweight blokes feel....! Sorry, that sounds harsh - my sympathies - it's dreadful for the self-esteem, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to me a lot

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

You get over it and hope for better luck next time. X

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

It happens to everyone sooner or later.

Maybe some nights you (we) put out the wrong vibes, yet other nights it all falls into place.

Who knows ? Don't let it get you down.

J & S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have to go with no expectations. We've been to a few and not seen anybody we'd like to play with, and no doubt been sometimes with nobody interested in us. Whatever we just treat it as a night out with a bit more interest than the local pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you have to go with no expectations. We've been to a few and not seen anybody we'd like to play with, and no doubt been sometimes with nobody interested in us. Whatever we just treat it as a night out with a bit more interest than the local pub."

Yeah thats what we do, treat it as a night out together..

Probably why no body is interested in us.. as we are too interested in each other..lol

Although you do get the odd guy of a couple asking if miss with play with their fem.. well if their fem talks and walks, she can come over and ask Miss herself..

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By *ornaandjimCouple
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"so what happens if you go to a club and no one wants to play with you.

i know its a fun social place,and to play is a bonus,but dampens the enthusiasm a bit if no on wants you.

If you're a woman going to a swing club, it's unlikely that no-one will want to play with you!

I've never had that problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some Will, Some Wont, So What, NEXT! That's what we think anyhow lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens to me a lot

Your kidding surely

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We have been to clubs many times and not been approached, I wouldn't take it as "no one wants you" its more a British cultural thing to suck at making the first move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been to clubs many times and not been approached, I wouldn't take it as "no one wants you" its more a British cultural thing to suck at making the first move.

Bingo..

this is generally the thing.. people are too scared of rejection or embarrassed in making the first move and so wont approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been to clubs many times and not been approached, I wouldn't take it as "no one wants you" its more a British cultural thing to suck at making the first move.

Bingo..

this is generally the thing.. people are too scared of rejection or embarrassed in making the first move and so wont approach. "

we have spoke to people at clubs before and this is generally the issues..... not us though, if we like the look of someone we go over and chat.

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

"It happens to me a lot

Your kidding surely

Are you kidding Shirley?

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Was there anyone there you wanted to play with?

Did you speak with them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was there anyone there you wanted to play with?

Did you speak with them?"

it didnt actually happen to us.yet,lol.

i was just wondering how ppl react if no one wants them.i can imagine its not nice.

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By *ettering-couple76Couple
over a year ago

Kettering

we don't mind if we don't get to play with anybody.. its a night out together, in a nicer environment than the pub....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went to a club last night and no one wanted to play, don't think clubs are our thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could always go to the toilet and play with Pam and her 5 sisters

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By *um4Fun2013Couple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

We have been to a club a few times and we both know we are a little overweight so will not be everyones cup of tea.

We tried a BBW night and found that easier

It is hard to know what another person/couple want.

I presume it also depends on the club, the one we have been lucky to attend has some social areas, bar, tv room. Where both of our meets were initiated.

It also has a cinema and a sauna where you can interact with others before taking the next step.

From a novice point of you, don't give up. We didn't and will be heading back for more, sometime soon

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

Does it not also depend on how "picky" you are ?

If you go to the club with the "I'll shag anyone" attitude, then I'll guess it's pretty easy to get a play.

However, if you want to talk to the potential playmates first, gets some idea of what they are like as people, then actually like them enough to play, well that takes time and effort hence reducing the chances of a successful outcome.

J & S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a club a couple of times on my own and not played. So now if I do want to play I take a playmate with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens to me a lot

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can't believe that, you got some sexy pics

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"It happens to me a lot

And me. I think men don't like to approach single women because they think they'll get told to bugger off. I find going with a male friend makes things a lot easier.

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By *asperthedogCouple
over a year ago

midlands

wife gets plenty, but I can't give it away at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so what happens if you go to a club and no one wants to play with you.

i know its a fun social place,and to play is a bonus,but dampens the enthusiasm a bit if no on wants you.

it makes you feel a bit rubbish.. in fact so much so I have decided that I am not going to a club alone again.

Although there were no single guys.but that and some subsequent comments have knocked me to the stage of not going alone..

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"It happens to me a lot

And me. I think men don't like to approach single women because they think they'll get told to bugger off. I find going with a male friend makes things a lot easier."

Spot on.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"It happens to me a lot

And me. I think men don't like to approach single women because they think they'll get told to bugger off. I find going with a male friend makes things a lot easier.

Spot on."

Fancy being my plus one some day?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"It happens to me a lot

And me. I think men don't like to approach single women because they think they'll get told to bugger off. I find going with a male friend makes things a lot easier.

Spot on.

Fancy being my plus one some day?

Gladly

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"It happens to me a lot

And me. I think men don't like to approach single women because they think they'll get told to bugger off. I find going with a male friend makes things a lot easier.

Spot on.

Fancy being my plus one some day?

Gladly

Result!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to me all the time. Must be the large ' f off' tattoo on my forehead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, even this threads gone quiet. noone to talk to...boo hoo

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

nobody talks to me in clubs either

booo hoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame. Shall we start our own club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See plenty talked to me but then have made bitchy comments about me behind my back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See plenty talked to me but then have made bitchy comments about me behind my back x"
I wouldn't go to that club anymore then - nothing worse than being made to feel uncomfortable at a club

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"so what happens if you go to a club and no one wants to play with you.

i know its a fun social place,and to play is a bonus,but dampens the enthusiasm a bit if no on wants you.

it makes you feel a bit rubbish.. in fact so much so I have decided that I am not going to a club alone again.

Although there were no single guys.but that and some subsequent comments have knocked me to the stage of not going alone..

dont give up missy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just go talk to someone instead of just sitting there? I went to a club last week and didn't really know anyone. I was scared to death (and it showed!) so I just started chatting. Felt like a twonk but it was dark and busy and turned out really good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See plenty talked to me but then have made bitchy comments about me behind my back xI wouldn't go to that club anymore then - nothing worse than being made to feel uncomfortable at a club

it's my local. It was new couples... I've never had such a bad night.. it's sent me spiralling into mood swings. I know it shouldn't bother me but it has

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