FabSwingers.com forum: Single guy nights at swingers club

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey was wondering if its worth going to swingers club if u are a single guy. What's it like on couples and singles night. Is it just loads of guys and just a few couples and fems? Any input would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are polite and respectful you will be ok.helps if you stand out amongst the men,and that isn't hard from what we have seen.

Chat to couples and see where you stand with them.

Never do what some do and think because you paid you going get some.I've had some fall outs with blokes who just grab at nik.one bloke was taken away just in time.I was fuming.

Go along not expecting and any fun will be a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

K cool . I always get the image of loads of guys way outnumbering the others and all fighting for some action. Is it like that?

I'm not that bothered about action as I like the social side at clubs and gonna see sexy fun so that's a bonus .if I get lucky then great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

remember it may not be anything to do with you that nothing happens.

On our first visit to a club there were 3 single guys running from room to room desperate for action because of this we only saw one cple play and this stopped quite quickly, so dont always expect a fuck fest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A woman friend of ours went to a club with her partner on a single guys night.

She said "Never again!".

She reckons if it had been filmed from above and speeded up a bit it would have looked like The Benny Hill Show, with a line of blokes following a couple of women all over the club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hmmm that's what worries me about it. Been told a lot of immigrant guys go there to not sure if its true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I've never experienced that in a club.

First time in a club I went as a ffm with some friends and whilst we were playing one guy started to touch me, I moved away from his hand and he stopped, I later invited him to join in when I was ready. So respect certainly pays off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm that's what worries me about it. Been told a lot of immigrant guys go there to not sure if its true x"

What?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey was wondering if its worth going to swingers club if u are a single guy. What's it like on couples and singles night. Is it just loads of guys and just a few couples and fems? Any input would be appreciated "

Did you not post on another thread that you were too shy to go to a social?

I'm not being funny but if that's the case, how will you get speaking to people in clubs? You might need to re-consider your sense of expectation...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There all sausage fests with a gathering of old men drooling over the odd F dotted around I'd rather go to the pub.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Did you not post on another thread that you were too shy to go to a social?

I'm not being funny but if that's the case, how will you get speaking to people in clubs? You might need to re-consider your sense of expectation..."

Yeah posted about social. I have been to clubs as part of a couple but not been to club on my own before. Don't know what to expect or if its good and worth going. People are saying go to social as its a good way to find out and meet new people. Just a bit nervous about the whole thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you not post on another thread that you were too shy to go to a social?

I'm not being funny but if that's the case, how will you get speaking to people in clubs? You might need to re-consider your sense of expectation...

If you have been to clubs before then surely ypu know what to expect?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No I have only been to couples night and wanted to know what nights are like with single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I have only been to couples night and wanted to know what nights are like with single guys"

Obviously a lot more of a sausage fest than the usual nights

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"Hmmm that's what worries me about it. Been told a lot of immigrant guys go there to not sure if its true x

What?

This made me smile

Used to go to a local club predominantly as a single and played with single fems and couples alike, not to mention the odd gangbang/bukkake session

Went down hill fast when they started letting in loads of non-English speaking (or at best limited vocabulary) single guys. They didn't observe the etiquette so the couples/single women eventually stopped going

The club in it's wisdom decided to introduce 'greedy girls' whom they'd provided. The guy paid on the door and then waited his turn to fuck one the girls. In effect prostitution

Needless to say the club no longer exists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with no expectations, be sociable, don't 'stalk' the couples and females and most definitely don't ever consider touching/joining until invited and you may enjoy yourself!

Couples and single females who attend clubs on single guy nights are generally there because they're open to playing with single guys. But this doesn't necessarily mean they will, or if they do that it will be with you. The biggest turn offs for couples (and I attend clubs as a couple regularly) are being followed, leered at and generally hounded by single, pushy guys who think that just because you've played with one guy that its 'their turn next'!

And I'd definitely recommend socials first rather than just turning up on an ordinary play night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice I've ever read was..

"Leave your expectations at the door"

As with life itself, good things happen when you least expect it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very wise philosophy. Especially where these matters are concerned

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

as a single guy you can approach it two ways....

1) go in, no expectations, go and talk to people, socialise, have a good laugh regardless

2) don't say boo to a goose, wander round like a lost lamb, follow people around or patrol all the play areas so that you wear grooves in the tracks...

I am guessing one approach works better than the other, and gets you noticed for the right reasons.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a few single guy nights and it really depends on the night as to whether it's worth it or not for single guys. I've been to ones where there have been alot of couples/women and other nights where there has only been a few, same with the number of guys there really.

Going with someone is completely different to going alone but the only way you'll know if it is worth it is by going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on the night. Some nights we've been there have been a handful of single guys, other nights there have been loads and loads. I've found usually if there are too many then people get easily intimidated and are less likely to play.

Nothing worse than being followed around wherever you go.

And if you want to approach a couple I would do it when they are both together. I've often had guys wait until Reggie has gone to the bar/bathroom before coming over, which I find a bit rude!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Interesting one....I have been to a club both and a single and as a couple. I would say that as a single it more difficult but I have tried to be chatty and outgoing but sometimes it is intimidating for singles as well if club is full of couples and you don't want to offend a couple by asking do they play with singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where do you go?? Is there anywhere in Canterbury or are we talking Eurekas ?? I only ask because if you ever want some company you know you are very HoT!! (Of course you do, it's you at the end of the day)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as a single guy you can approach it two ways....

1) go in, no expectations, go and talk to people, socialise, have a good laugh regardless

2) don't say boo to a goose, wander round like a lost lamb, follow people around or patrol all the play areas so that you wear grooves in the tracks...

I am guessing one approach works better than the other, and gets you noticed for the right reasons....."

I couldn't agree more. I've had several good experiences as a single guy at Bristol Gardens here in Brighton. But guya have to understand that all the cards are with the couples, particularly with the women. Therefore I tend to make up my mind to enjoy the spa there, and if anything happens that's a bonus.

Single guys also need to back off if they see something about to happen with someone else. This happened to me recently, where a couple was chatting me up in a hot pool when another guy appeared and tried to stick his oar in. The couple disappeared soon after. The annoying thing was that the guy had already had sex with someone else that evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmm very interesting thread , we are looking to go to our first singles / couples night soon . We have been on couple only nights so far so hopefully we won't be put off by this thread lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm that's what worries me about it. Been told a lot of immigrant guys go there to not sure if its true x

What?

This site really is priceless

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By *eglieanCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

we've been playing for quite sometime, like the couples only parties,, where it should only be couples,, but also like the couples and singles nights . You should get what you are booking infor, not couples only and find theres loads of singles, go to a couples and singles and you cant complain theres singles there.What does annoy us is the fellas who come and because they've paid to get in think they can just help themsleves. Lurking around the play rooms and touching without invite . And am sorry to say it seems a big persentage are imigrants or non english speakers. This could be the reason they dont 'understand no ' then sorry not interested,, still doesnt sink in . Sometimes it gets pretty close to being rather unpleasent before they scurry away to start on another couple.

Most the clubs and parties hosts do try to vet the blokes and dont flood the place with anyone and every skanky urcin who wants to come. But some see the pound signs and just let em all come. We went to a club in the midlands, turned out the 4 single girls were pro's ,, there was 2 or three other couples and about 50 blokes. They read the rules and it was like dropping a peice of meat in a piranha tank,, we left pretty quick. Not one of our best experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A woman friend of ours went to a club with her partner on a single guys night.

She said "Never again!".

She reckons if it had been filmed from above and speeded up a bit it would have looked like The Benny Hill Show, with a line of blokes following a couple of women all over the club.

XXXX"

Ha ha love it

....I get asked if guys can come with me to clubs and I always say I can never guarantee their enjoyment - as its so random for single guys. If you are a presentable single girl its almost a dead cert for action - but not always for guys. Sometimes the dynamics in the room are all wrong as too many guys/ couples all looking for fun.

Best night I ever had in a club was when a French girl attended on a greedy girl night and fucked virtually all the guys ( about 40 !!! )They were queuing up - the atmosphere was fantastic LOL...I am no where bi but felt like fucking her myself to say thanks for a good night he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great responses on this thread. I've been to clubs as single and as part of a couple.

Can't stand the creepy guys who wander around, hang around the play rooms, like post above says, like a lost lamb - that's it in a nutshell!

I like a bit of conversation myself, that's all part of the fun of meeting people. Just call me a social butterfly

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