FabSwingers.com forum: Best club for single guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi I would appreciate if anyone could tell me the best club for 3 single straight blokes in Blackpool have looked at the websites of Cupids and Infusions etc just not sure which would be best this Friday night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you're looking for I guess?

What would be your definition of 'best' ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well the best would be the greatest number of women wanting to play, but of course other things such as general cleanliness and prices etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well - there's never a guarantee of the former - even in a club full of singles and couples its still a question of preferences and attraction.

But never had any complaints about the cleanliness, facilities, staff or clientele of Cupids - never been to Blackpool so sadly can't help there! Try contacting both clubs directly!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Well the best would be the greatest number of women wanting to play, but of course other things such as general cleanliness and prices etc"

I'm afraid you may have some wrong ideas about opportunities to play, where, when and who with.

The most important thing in any and every situation is that its a matter of "choice" of the person (or people) wanting to play.

If you go to club A and don't get to play on the night, would you think that's the club's fault for not making it possible? And if the same in club B, also the club's fault?

I worry if you're thinking its down to the club to "roll out the girls" (especially the ones who will play no matter what) then (and I can't believe am about to say this) but you might be better off paying for it.

Swinging is about people expressing their choices and interests as they wish, with who they wish, when and where they wish,

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Well the best would be the greatest number of women wanting to play, but of course other things such as general cleanliness and prices etc

I'm afraid you may have some wrong ideas about opportunities to play, where, when and who with.

The most important thing in any and every situation is that its a matter of "choice" of the person (or people) wanting to play.

If you go to club A and don't get to play on the night, would you think that's the club's fault for not making it possible? And if the same in club B, also the club's fault?

Swinging is about people expressing their choices and interests as they wish, with who they wish, when and where they wish,"

I am glad you said it... because I was tempted to say something very similar....

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well the best would be the greatest number of women wanting to play, but of course other things such as general cleanliness and prices etc

I'm afraid you may have some wrong ideas about opportunities to play, where, when and who with.

The most important thing in any and every situation is that its a matter of "choice" of the person (or people) wanting to play.

If you go to club A and don't get to play on the night, would you think that's the club's fault for not making it possible? And if the same in club B, also the club's fault?

Swinging is about people expressing their choices and interests as they wish, with who they wish, when and where they wish,

I am glad you said it... because I was tempted to say something very similar....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I would appreciate if anyone could tell me the best club for 3 single straight blokes in Blackpool have looked at the websites of Cupids and Infusions etc just not sure which would be best this Friday night?"

If I was you, I'd take a look at the websites of Infusion and connections in Blackpool, Cupids is in Swinton I think, about 45-50 miles away from Blackpool.

Then give them both a ring to see if they will let 3 single guys in, as not all clubs do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the all the replies guys and girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been involved in 3 somes in the past but never ventured into swingers clubs and it is daunting as a single bloke, I am based in Stoke on Trent. Bit wish to avoid local clubs due to the nature of my profession . Anyone have any recommendations or suggestions as to how to approach ? Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fella asks a reasonable question and then gets browbeaten by the sanctamonious ...ease up fellas

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"Fella asks a reasonable question and then gets browbeaten by the sanctamonious ...ease up fellas "

because he thinks he can just find a club where all the women play! Good luck in finding that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being sanctimonious was not the issue at all. I know what I am and make no apologies for it. It is rather embarrassing in a social sense and certainly unethical to indulge in certain relationships when in a professions bound by ethical guidance. I certainly am accepting of the fact that not all women or couples might play. Your feedback is appreciated tough !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need a club in Blackpool just go out on the lash

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Fella asks a reasonable question and then gets browbeaten by the sanctamonious ...ease up fellas "

Here's a little something called perception - the OP believes "the best club" in one that (off its own back) gives single guys the highest chance with the greatest number of women permitting play compared other clubs. This, by the OP's admission, suggests it is up to the club to make this possible.

My perception (can't speak for others) is that the OP believes it is in some way up to the club to make his opportunity to play presented to him ("Boris - bring out the girls for our newest guest to see!") and if in fails to do so, or in some way he is unimpressed by what is presented to him, then it can't be a very good club and he would consider taking his patronage elsewhere.

Now, are either perceptions incorrect?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fella asks a reasonable question and then gets browbeaten by the sanctamonious ...ease up fellas

Now, are either perceptions incorrect?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As been a single single male on the scene honest opinion hit or miss any club its just best to go and experience the clubs get the vibes feel the fun and sample the sweeties and goodies hehe thats if your lucky boys all north west clubs rock :}

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to Cupids, loads of times. The way to have a good time in a club as a single guy is to go there expecting a good night out and any play is a bonus. It's about being polite and treating people with respect.

If you're sociable and talk to people who knows what the night will bring.

Last month I was talking to a couple in the lounge and 30 mins later I was getting sucked off near the bar.

It's always worth remembering that just because a girl may love sex with many people, it doesn't always mean she wants to fuck you.

Cupids is a great club though.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"Fella asks a reasonable question and then gets browbeaten by the sanctamonious ...ease up fellas

because he thinks he can just find a club where all the women play! Good luck in finding that!

What he needs is the North-West's version of the Private Club (Birmingham) or the Retro Club (Walsall) - basically brothels with swinging extras. Then he and his mates will all be very welcome and all leave very happy.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Fella asks a reasonable question and then gets browbeaten by the sanctamonious ...ease up fellas

because he thinks he can just find a club where all the women play! Good luck in finding that!

and i think that is what is part of the problem... in that a lot of single guys think that type of club is the norm, whereas it is actually the expection, and when you see guys going in with the attitude and expectation of "club equals guarenteed shag" they do tend to fall flat on arse...

and its the reason why a lot of guys wont go to clubs, in the fact that it is money they are are spending without some sort of guarenteed return...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the OP was asking the question as a single man on his own I think he would get a different answer but it reads like 3 men let out for a night on their own looking for a guaranteed shag

Probably want a brothel not swinging club - possibly would have more luck in a pub in Blackpool x

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"If the OP was asking the question as a single man on his own I think he would get a different answer but it reads like 3 men let out for a night on their own looking for a guaranteed shag

Probably want a brothel not swinging club - possibly would have more luck in a pub in Blackpool x"

Personally, I think asking as a single guy, 3 single guys or the spartan 300 would make little to no difference - the focus is "what clubs give single guys best option of guaranteed shag".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single blokes are more likely to get action on a greedy girl night, but then as the op appears to be new on the scene will he/they be able to 'stand up' and be counted among many other men?

Even then there is no entitlement, but in my experience the ladies at a greedy girl night are more likely to play.... erm a lot!

Trouble is no two nights at one club are the same, it is the people that make the club not the other way round.

One thing is for sure OP. go in with any form of entitlement attitude and you will draw a blank, and people will avoid you like the plague. Be friendly and respectful, if couples or women want to play with you they will let you know, there are no guessing games like in the vanilla world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the OP was asking the question as a single man on his own I think he would get a different answer but it reads like 3 men let out for a night on their own looking for a guaranteed shag

Probably want a brothel not swinging club - possibly would have more luck in a pub in Blackpool x

Personally, I think asking as a single guy, 3 single guys or the spartan 300 would make little to no difference - the focus is "what clubs give single guys best option of guaranteed shag"."

But 3 guys are not guaranteed a shag ...just recently at one of the clubs i go to a group of guys arrived only one out of that group got lucky ...and they was being watched the whole time...

Its not about the guys its about if the woman is happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single blokes are more likely to get action on a greedy girl night, but then as the op appears to be new on the scene will he/they be able to 'stand up' and be counted among many other men?

Even then there is no entitlement, but in my experience the ladies at a greedy girl night are more likely to play.... erm a lot!

Trouble is no two nights at one club are the same, it is the people that make the club not the other way round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a couple of ways of looking at it, and I think some interpretations of the OP are being a bit harsh - but at the same time, he could have worded the same question differently and got a more positive response.

Firstly, do not ever go to a club thinking you are guaranteed or entitled to play. You will give off the wrong vibe and the chances are that you wont play!

Secondly, even if you played LOTS at a club once, do not immediately assume you will play lots there the next time. How much you play is dependent on who is there, what their desires for the night are, and how well the vibe of the evening goes. Never assume every woman in a club behaves the same way.

There is no question that some clubs are far more single guy friendly than others, and that tends to dictate peoples preference for attending or not. Just dont assume that all the women there will behave the same!

Go to the club you fancy most, be approachable buy not pushy, and enjoy the night for what it is. If you hit it off with someone, great. If you dont, just enjoy the fact that there are lots of attractive sexually liberated people there enjoying their thing. Sometimes just being in the company of sexually liberated women makes a night amazing!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Assuming you are 3 guys who swing, rather than just 3 single blokes who wouldn't mind some sex on a night out, then swinging clubs could be for you. But, many need membership fees, so often regular attendance at one venue makes it cost effective for you single guys, rather than once-off trips.

I'd check out the reviews for the clubs, as well as their charging policies for single fellas. Then work on that basis.

I realise that you may have thought you'd asked a simple question, but little on Fab is often really simple, once it comes to opinions etc - you'll always get unlimited opinions on the forums

As others say, if the club descriptions/reiews, rather than what the club owners tell you on the phone, work and the prices are right, then I'd jump in. But do ask about 3 single blokes, and beware that some clubs limit visits to single males on certain nights.

Hope you all have a good time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One point mentioned above is it's about the woman being happy. Paramount point.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

"Fella asks a reasonable question and then gets browbeaten by the sanctamonious ...ease up fellas

because he thinks he can just find a club where all the women play! Good luck in finding that!

and its the reason why a lot of guys wont go to clubs, in the fact that it is money they are are spending without some sort of guarenteed return..."

I stopped going to my local club after the last time i went, they let groups of guys in together who thought the women there would have sex with anyone. Ive found you let groups of guys in together and they act like immature boys, where as single guys alone tend to act more respectful. Maybe some couples like groups of guys chasing after them, but the ones i spoke to that night were very impressed.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Fella asks a reasonable question and then gets browbeaten by the sanctamonious ...ease up fellas

because he thinks he can just find a club where all the women play! Good luck in finding that!

and its the reason why a lot of guys wont go to clubs, in the fact that it is money they are are spending without some sort of guarenteed return...

Actually I disagree - while I see how "groups of guys" likens to pack of wolves, I do believe its down to individuals - if 4 respectful single guys came in on their own but arrived at same time, all happened to be friends that knew each other then its unlikely that once in they would have a turn n personality.

On the other hand, if one guy is a twat, I believe he will still be a twat - even if he arrived with a "much in demand female" (that some people believe "single guy bad, couple good"). Its ultimately down to the individuals.

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