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"My biggest problem is the fear of rejection now I don’t mean like being told no I mean like initially approaching someone and being ignored or just shut down straight away " sadly, that's normal in swingers clubs, as well as on here. You need to have thick skin and don't take it personally. For the very first time, I'd go without any expectations, just to have a look around the club, see if it's something you'd like to explore further. I'd also choose a "quieter" event, so you're not as likely to get overwhelmed. But yes, do be prepared to be overwhelmed, and don't put too much pressure on yourself to stay. | |||
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"I’ll have a think about it, hopefully I turn up and there is a few other males on there own in the same boat " ok, good luck. If you can go during the day, the spa Thursday might be less daunting. | |||
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"I’m thinking enquiring about a potential membership at jaydees, I don’t live to far from it but I was just hoping for any adivce on going to a place like this for the first time on my own? One of my biggest fears is being sat in there completely on my own looking like a bit of a wolly and out of place. Thank you " Keep an eye out for their newbie nights as they're good fun and there will be lots of other people in the same position as you so you won't feel as awkward maybe. It's a great club and the staff are very friendly. I've been a member 13 years now and never had a bad time. | |||
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"I’m thinking enquiring about a potential membership at jaydees, I don’t live to far from it but I was just hoping for any adivce on going to a place like this for the first time on my own? One of my biggest fears is being sat in there completely on my own looking like a bit of a wolly and out of place. Thank you " We’ll be going to the curvy girls night later this month, would love to see you there | |||
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"My biggest problem is the fear of rejection now I don’t mean like being told no I mean like initially approaching someone and being ignored or just shut down straight away " This is the wrong attitude and approach. 1. Have no expectations (we don't when we go to clubs and sometimes we don't play), just enjoy the environment. 2. Chat to people, don't go straight in with the question, take your time and flirt. 3. Be yourself. 4. If you see us, come say hi, we'll have a chat, no promises though. | |||
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"I’m thinking enquiring about a potential membership at jaydees, I don’t live to far from it but I was just hoping for any adivce on going to a place like this for the first time on my own? One of my biggest fears is being sat in there completely on my own looking like a bit of a wolly and out of place. Thank you " We are biased because Jaydees is the only club we have attended but even on observation of singles that attend they always get chatting and are welcomed just aswell as everyone else! You would be fine | |||
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"I’m thinking enquiring about a potential membership at jaydees, I don’t live to far from it but I was just hoping for any adivce on going to a place like this for the first time on my own? One of my biggest fears is being sat in there completely on my own looking like a bit of a wolly and out of place. Thank you " Im going to be helping out this Friday. Im happy to introduce you to people and help you settle in.  | |||
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"Do I have to submit a membership form and wait for a response or can I turn up and fill one in and go in straight away? " I believe all you need to do is book your place for the day, by messaging/emailing the club. The membership normally gets sorted on the day- just remember to bring enough cash to cover membership fee, entrance fee and locker deposit, as well as 2 forms of ID. | |||
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"Do I have to submit a membership form and wait for a response or can I turn up and fill one in and go in straight away? " As Miss Devil suggested, book a place and membership can be sorted on the night. I would take cash abd I.d but do ensure you book in with the club on their profile on here or via email. I would also ensure you dont class yourself as booked in until you have received a reply. | |||
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"What’s wrong with single men? " I think the couple may have posted in the wrong thread. But sadly, single men (not all, only some) have not got a very good cred on the scene. As they either tend to just stare and follow women or couples around, usually with their cocks out (hence the nickname "wanking dead"), or they touch without being invited to, make assumptions based on the kind of play (for example, some men wrongly assume that, as a couple are playing in the open, they are "fair game" and would play with anyone). As long as you don't join either of those groups, you'll be fine. | |||
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"I’m definitely not part of those groups I’ve been raised correctly with respect and decorum about me, I am fully aware no means no and it’s a safe space for everyone, it’s a shame some people feel entitled to do as they plea" You sound like one of the good ones, as a single guy who struggles with a fear of rejection I can tell you Jaydees is a great place to go everyone is friendly and welcoming. You will be shown around the first time just mention you are nervous and the guide will introduce you to people and leave you with a friendly group to help you. I never go with expectations other than a fun night out with some nice people and as sone have said sex is a bonus. | |||
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