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Want to go to a club but a bit nervous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive never bin to a club and want to give it a try. The only thing is id prob be going in on my own and feel a bit strange going solo. Does any 1 have any advice...

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"Ive never bin to a club and want to give it a try. The only thing is id prob be going in on my own and feel a bit strange going solo. Does any 1 have any advice..."

messaged you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same situation. ...appreciate some pointers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you don't know till you try. I went and it wasn't for me and not sure I'd go again.

Much easier to go with someone than solo I reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's my gut feeling too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wanna try it but feel a bit daft goin on my own. Like every 1 wud be starin an im not normally self concious...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u need to go as you may never if you keep worrying , when you get there just sit in jacuzzie saunas ect and chat normally, just make friends, don't try and be pushy for sex that will cum in time enjoy the surroundings, u may think others are stareing but they are not as there is loads of nice things to watch unless they are eyeing you up?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"u need to go as you may never if you keep worrying , when you get there just sit in jacuzzie saunas ect and chat normally, just make friends, don't try and be pushy for sex that will cum in time enjoy the surroundings, u may think others are stareing but they are not as there is loads of nice things to watch unless they are eyeing you up?"

Cheers for that.... im just being a bit soft i think lol..

Im normaly the sort of person that will talk to any 1aswell. I think ill just av to take a big gulp an stop being a bitch haha..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be fine. Like one of the other posters says just go, relax in the sauna and the jacuzzi. Don't be pushy. A half decent looking bloke should get some action. Clubs are nice safe environments. Just don't go expecting because you've paid your £ 25 or whatever that all the couples there will be gagging for your cock. Coz it just isn't going to happen. but...... you might just strike the jackpot and get to play with someone like Mrs N. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'll be fine. Like one of the other posters says just go, relax in the sauna and the jacuzzi. Don't be pushy. A half decent looking bloke should get some action. Clubs are nice safe environments. Just don't go expecting because you've paid your £ 25 or whatever that all the couples there will be gagging for your cock. Coz it just isn't going to happen. but...... you might just strike the jackpot and get to play with someone like Mrs N. x"

Thanks for the advice... are u mrs n?? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it a go pal - and in manchester a great choice of clubs !

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By *enny PR9TV/TS
over a year ago

Southport


"I wanna try it but feel a bit daft goin on my own. Like every 1 wud be starin an im not normally self concious..."

Never had any problems going anywhere on my own but then I am a people person, and soon make friends.

Jenny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to swinging clubs on my own. The first time was in Adam and Eves in Eccles. Its a very friendly club and i'd say a good club to go to for your first time. Just treat it as a social night and like others have said, go in the jacuzzi and just chat. Don't follow the ladies round the club though. Just be chilled and cool and you'll be surprised what will happen! . I've been to Adam and Eves a few times now, and just recently went to Cupids in Swinton which I really enjoyed! Lots of different rooms, and a viewing room aswell which was fun! Everyone who goes there, goes for the same reasons, so you shouldnt feel embarrased about going on your own. Its actually quite liberating, and its a great way to escape the norms of everyday life!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Consider it a friendly pub with added extras.

Take the time to socialise and chat. Be pleasant and don't be scared to introduce yourself to people. If you think someone looks good then tell them - ladies who have put effort into getting ready always appreciate a compliment.

Do remember to talk to everyone - there are two people in a couple! And keep your eyes above nipple level - they may be very upfront and barely clad but talk to the face then enjoy the view later.

And don't follow, chat and move on. If a lady or couple want you to join them then let them issue the invite - they'll get pushy guys or the silent followers all night, the ones with good social skills stand out amongst that crowd are are the ones likely to get an invite.

But remember that no means no, even for you - if you don't want to play then a polite thank you but I'm fine will suffice.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

just go..... no expectations... open mind!!

just chat to people and if anything happens, consider that to be a bonus!

don't just go, stand around like a lost lamb and just patrol all the rooms... quickest way to put most people off!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just go..... no expectations... open mind!!

just chat to people and if anything happens, consider that to be a bonus!

don't just go, stand around like a lost lamb and just patrol all the rooms... quickest way to put most people off!!!"

Yup I agree. I've been to a club solo and went with no expectations and just talked to people. Generally people will talk back to you if you make the effort.

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Hardest thing to do is walk through the door. If the owners are good hosts they'll probably introduce you to at least one person to start you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's some advice from the male half of a couple who play with single guys in clubs.

First off, make an effort! Dress nicely and look smart! We make an effort, why would we want to play with a single bloke who looks unwashed?

Now, the key part... ENGAGE IN CONVERSATION! I might not speak for all couples here but we personally like to get to know a guy first before we play. Don't just talk to the female half of the couple either, us men don't bite! We don't need to know how good in bed you are, or how big or small your knob is, just chit chat!

Lastly, don't be pushy... it's the biggest turn-off. I've almost came to blows with a pushy guy in a club before. In other words, when you're invited to join, join in, but until then, tough!

Honestly though, go, get talking to people, make conversation, everyone is generally very friendly in clubs, some people will knock you back... get over it and move along. At the end of the day if you make an effort to look nice and get yourself chatting and making friends, you'll get some fun. Just don't be the weirdo sat in the corner who won't utter a word!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's some advice from the male half of a couple who play with single guys in clubs.

First off, make an effort! Dress nicely and look smart! We make an effort, why would we want to play with a single bloke who looks unwashed?

Now, the key part... ENGAGE IN CONVERSATION! I might not speak for all couples here but we personally like to get to know a guy first before we play. Don't just talk to the female half of the couple either, us men don't bite! We don't need to know how good in bed you are, or how big or small your knob is, just chit chat!

Lastly, don't be pushy... it's the biggest turn-off. I've almost came to blows with a pushy guy in a club before. In other words, when you're invited to join, join in, but until then, tough!

Honestly though, go, get talking to people, make conversation, everyone is generally very friendly in clubs, some people will knock you back... get over it and move along. At the end of the day if you make an effort to look nice and get yourself chatting and making friends, you'll get some fun. Just don't be the weirdo sat in the corner who won't utter a word!"

Great answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hardest part is walking through the door .. Go with no expectations and then everything else is a bonus .. Don't just sit in the corner or follow people about join in conversations in the social areas and I'm sure you will reap the rewards but always remember a no or no thanks is final just hold your head up and say ok thanks ... Have a great time

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Be brash. Make yourself the centre of attention by simply calling by and renting a Sexy Policeman outfit from Ron. At your local Fancy Dress shop. Walk into your chosen swingers club and announce loudly to those assembled

"Ok ...hands up my trousers ... This is a bust ... And a pretty impressive one too, madam!"

Sorted!

Boom boom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this in January and it was quite daunting I would'nt drink to much and just be friendly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here's some advice from the male half of a couple who play with single guys in clubs.

First off, make an effort! Dress nicely and look smart! We make an effort, why would we want to play with a single bloke who looks unwashed?

Now, the key part... ENGAGE IN CONVERSATION! I might not speak for all couples here but we personally like to get to know a guy first before we play. Don't just talk to the female half of the couple either, us men don't bite! We don't need to know how good in bed you are, or how big or small your knob is, just chit chat!

Lastly, don't be pushy... it's the biggest turn-off. I've almost came to blows with a pushy guy in a club before. In other words, when you're invited to join, join in, but until then, tough!

Honestly though, go, get talking to people, make conversation, everyone is generally very friendly in clubs, some people will knock you back... get over it and move along. At the end of the day if you make an effort to look nice and get yourself chatting and making friends, you'll get some fun. Just don't be the weirdo sat in the corner who won't utter a word!"

This is has just given me the confidence... cheers..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be brash. Make yourself the centre of attention by simply calling by and renting a Sexy Policeman outfit from Ron. At your local Fancy Dress shop. Walk into your chosen swingers club and announce loudly to those assembled

"Ok ...hands up my trousers ... This is a bust ... And a pretty impressive one too, madam!"

Sorted!

Boom boom!

"

Pmsl... maf (mad as fuck)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xxx only thing we would suggest is where ever you decide to try!!!! lol as a newbie and going on your own you can go to the drink for dutch currage and you need to take it slow or it can ruine your night and possibly get u a bad rep that doesn't seem to fit you xxx, find somewhere where you might know a few people and just try to chill out and not rely on the drink xxx you will have a night depending on what you make it xxx, everyone has different ideas of whats a great night and it is what you make of it, no matter how many people or the atmosphere you make it ur own xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always happy to meet new people at eurekas when I go,no promises of play, but am friendly

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