FabSwingers.com forum: Advice please... First timers

By *Y naughty couple OP Couple
37 weeks ago

Hull

Hi all

We really really want to go to a club but as we are not very body confident at the moment, we dont really want to be sat around in our underwear all night.. how strict are clubs on the type of undies you wear? Can women wear a little sexy nighty thingy for example? Any advice would be great fully accepted. Dying to try one. Thanks guys

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By *W_3_SUMCouple
37 weeks ago

Swindon

We are new to the club scene and thinking the same as you. The thought of visiting a club is a great turn on and we are sure there would be plenty of support in the club but the anxiety of not knowing the etiquette puts us off. Interested to read any replies and hope you enjoy the clubs you visit x

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Hi all

You don’t need to worry. Unless you are attending a naturist club then you can wear as you wish, just check the dress code of the particular club. If you are worried then stay away from naturist spa type places

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
37 weeks ago

Middle England

Clubs vary; as you might be aware there are dress down clubs; sexy lingerie/boxers or towels. Then there are dress up; think night club vibe. Some clubs are dress upon arrival but then dress down in the play areas.

It all depends on what you're looking for. That said clubs in general attract all types; from gym fit to dad bod and everything in between. They attract people in the late tens to people in there 80s.

In general (we're on the older dad bod range of the scale) we find people just don't care. So long as you are presentable people will engage with you; whether there's a mutual attraction or just to socialise and say hi.

So give it a go. Nothing to lose and if, like us, you end up enjoying it; in a while you'll be wondering why you never tried it years ago!

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"We are new to the club scene and thinking the same as you. The thought of visiting a club is a great turn on and we are sure there would be plenty of support in the club but the anxiety of not knowing the etiquette puts us off. Interested to read any replies and hope you enjoy the clubs you visit x

Honestly just treat it like any night out. You’d be surprised how normal a swingers club can feel. Best piece of advice just go and chill out and take it all in. Just because you’re in a swingers club does not mean you have to do anything. Go, observe and have fun

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By *teamynSteCouple
37 weeks ago

Hull

we visit Quest and you can remain dressed in bar area but no outdoor clothes in play area or wet( hottub) area.... you can wear a towel or babydoll works for me..... you will be suprised how many shapes n sizes visit, the members are generally so welcoming x we love getting in our undies now and just being us x

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By *uckNLickCouple
37 weeks ago

North Cork

Totally agree.

We had our first club night at ClubMystique in Tenerife last night.

It was brilliant and felt very safe with no pressure.

Saying that we got up to all sorts which was a big bonus.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
37 weeks ago

Leeds

" They attract people in the late tens to people in there 80s.

I thought clubs have a minimum age of 21 and most are 25

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
36 weeks ago

Middle England

" They attract people in the late tens to people in there 80s.

I thought clubs have a minimum age of 21 and most are 25"

Stand corrected.

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By *heFoofsCouple
35 weeks ago

lincoln

There is an amazing new club not far south of Hull. You get an incredible mix of all shapes, sizes and looks, but everyone is fun, friendly and completely non judgemental. The club itself is spacious, clean and really well presented, its actually pretty luxurious. There is separate social/ bar areas, changing areas and lockers, dance floor, outside hot tubs x3 and then you have a huge play area with 6 different side rooms. There is no pressure to dress down or pressure to be skimpy. Lots of couples go just for a night out with an incredible vibe with like minded people. We cannot recommend it highly enough. It's fast becoming one of the most sought after venues to attend x

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By *anandhisminxCouple
35 weeks ago

London

There are lots of clubs that don't insist on underwear / nudity. Having said that, everywhere we have been has been incredibly body positive - we never thought we'd play with an audience but now we love it.

Our advice is go with an outfit that makes you feel attractive and sexy as long as it meets the club dress code. Try to relax and just have fun - you'll have an amazing time!

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By *ingeandTCouple
35 weeks ago

Peterborough

As others have said look at the clubs rules, they’ll have a website.

We are plus size/fat 😂 and we have been welcomed at the 4 different clubs we’ve tried. By welcomed I mean it’s varied from we’ve been approached and spoken to right through to offers of play 😈

I tend to arrive dressed in either a going out outfit or my fancy dress depending on the theme. I then usually dress down around 10/11 but it depends on how I’m feeling sometimes I stay dressed all night. X

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