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First time couple at a swingers club

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By *eedsfun1989 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Hi everyone, me and the wife are thinking of visiting a swingers club for the first time as a couple in the next week or two.

My wife is a little nervous about it. I suggested that maybe the first time, we just go, have a drink and go and have some fun on our own, either with people watching or in a private room with the door open with others watching/listening.

Obviously, anything consensual goes at a swingers club, but would it be frowned upon if we did this? Would people be annoyed that we are not swinging?

Any advice would be appreciated, thanks!

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By *oredmum1982Woman
37 weeks ago

E.Mids

That’s exactly what we did on our first night, no one else cared!

Have fun!

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By *itter78Couple
37 weeks ago

Spennymoor

Same room without full swapping is totally normal

Just watching others is totally normal

Just going for a drink and socialising is totally normal

Finding a private room and letting people watch is totally normal

You get the jist...

Best thing about swinging is that judgement is left at the door

Do whatever makes you most comfortable!

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By *andy IanMan
37 weeks ago

cheshire/Preston

Many couple go even after their first visit just to so she can dress to attract attention and watch others play. They usually touch each other discreetly then retire to a private room.

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By *otblonde71Woman
37 weeks ago

stonehaven


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Same room without full swapping is totally normal

Just watching others is totally normal

Just going for a drink and socialising is totally normal

Finding a private room and letting people watch is totally normal

You get the jist...

Best thing about swinging is that judgement is left at the door

Do whatever makes you most comfortable! "

This !!!!

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By *evonFbsCouple
37 weeks ago

East Devon

Just do it

The most liberating enviroment there is. If its consensual and you are comfortable its all good

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By *erry 58Man
37 weeks ago

doncaster

The worst bit is going in , but once there you’ll surprised how relaxing it is and how Friendly people are

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By *cottish guy 555Man
37 weeks ago

London


"The worst bit is going in , but once there you’ll surprised how relaxing it is and how Friendly people are "

Totally this. Clubs are not as daunting as you think.

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By *ccasional.coupleCouple
37 weeks ago

midlands, but travel to clubs


"Hi everyone, me and the wife are thinking of visiting a swingers club for the first time as a couple in the next week or two.

My wife is a little nervous about it. I suggested that maybe the first time, we just go, have a drink and go and have some fun on our own, either with people watching or in a private room with the door open with others watching/listening.

Obviously, anything consensual goes at a swingers club, but would it be frowned upon if we did this? Would people be annoyed that we are not swinging?

Any advice would be appreciated, thanks! "

Its pretty much what we do, but we would like to meet a couple to go private with, and a little interaction between us all

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By *elsh.CoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

South Wales

We are also going to a club for the first time, on Friday.

Feeling nervous but excited

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By *cfc19821Man
37 weeks ago

chelmsford

Happy to chat about first tiles from a couple in the past or. Single perspective message me

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By *evonFbsCouple
37 weeks ago

East Devon


"We are also going to a club for the first time, on Friday.

Feeling nervous but excited "

Judging by your pics you will be very popular

Its a great thing to do. Every club we have attended has been a zero pressure enviroment with lots of hot sights and opportunities

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By *pthemanorMan
37 weeks ago

Abingdon on Thames

Also hoping to attend a club for the first time with my better half. Private play or same room no swap is what we're aiming for, though we do fantasise about her enjoying more... both nervous, but just got to take a deep breath and go for it.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
37 weeks ago

Telford


"Hi everyone, me and the wife are thinking of visiting a swingers club for the first time as a couple in the next week or two.

My wife is a little nervous about it. I suggested that maybe the first time, we just go, have a drink and go and have some fun on our own, either with people watching or in a private room with the door open with others watching/listening.

Obviously, anything consensual goes at a swingers club, but would it be frowned upon if we did this? Would people be annoyed that we are not swinging?

Any advice would be appreciated, thanks! "

No people go for all sorts of reasons, sometimes I go just to chill in the fab atmosphere and do nothing else. I never go with any expectations, you never know who will be there anyway.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Rather than going in a private room and leaving the door open, I think you would be more comfortable in a locked room with a viewing window.

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
37 weeks ago

North Yorkshire Coast


"Hi everyone, me and the wife are thinking of visiting a swingers club for the first time as a couple in the next week or two.

My wife is a little nervous about it. I suggested that maybe the first time, we just go, have a drink and go and have some fun on our own, either with people watching or in a private room with the door open with others watching/listening.

Obviously, anything consensual goes at a swingers club, but would it be frowned upon if we did this? Would people be annoyed that we are not swinging?

Any advice would be appreciated, thanks! "

I would suggest checking the website of the clubs beforehand. There may be an event on that will make it a very busy night or that doesn’t suit you (bi night, rock night, curvy event etc).

Remember to take I’d or you will be turned away.

Check that the club takes cards (and how this payment will appear on your statements if you are concerned).

Is it a dress down club on arrival or more of a bar with play areas elsewhere?

All of these things will help you both relax and enjoy your first visit.

Have fun! Mrs SW

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
37 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent

We still go sometimes just for the social. Do what you're comfortable with. It's your journey, any respectful swingers will accept a "No, we don't want to play" without question. X

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By *assionatecouple123Couple
37 weeks ago

Birmingham

We are going to a club for the first time too in September and are excited but also a little nervous.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
37 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Nerves are normal but you'll find it's a great place to be yourselves.

Just don't feel pressured into doing anything you're not comfortable with.

Enjoy first-timers 👍🏻

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By *ENW coupleCouple
37 weeks ago

west lancs

The first two times we went to a club. We just took it all in and had a good night both times.

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By *nvader2021Couple
37 weeks ago

Watford

We attended our first club meeting last Saturday and had a lovely time and enjoyed a couple of firsts.

Read the club rules and etiquette, relax and enjoy yourselves

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
37 weeks ago

Coventry


"Hi everyone, me and the wife are thinking of visiting a swingers club for the first time as a couple in the next week or two.

My wife is a little nervous about it. I suggested that maybe the first time, we just go, have a drink and go and have some fun on our own, either with people watching or in a private room with the door open with others watching/listening.

Obviously, anything consensual goes at a swingers club, but would it be frowned upon if we did this? Would people be annoyed that we are not swinging?

Any advice would be appreciated, thanks! "

Nope you're on the right track. Just go, emurse yourself in the environment and enjoy something different as a couple. Whatever happens, happens. No pressure (pressure is a horn killer) just go at the speed that feels natural to both of you.

No one will mind even if you don't play. A big part of the lifestyle is social and your being there just adds to the atmosphere. In fact we've even met couples on the club scene who aren't swingers. Who purely go to enjoy a sexy night out in a sexy environment and just enjoy to watch and/or be watched.

So just go have a great night out together.

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By *eedsfun1989 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Huddersfield


"Rather than going in a private room and leaving the door open, I think you would be more comfortable in a locked room with a viewing window. "

Thanks, can you recommend any clubs with these types of rooms please? The two in Leeds don't seem to have them.

I love the room in Basement Sauna in Manchester that's like a goldfish bowl and anyone going past can see in! Wife can't come there with me though sadly!

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By *eeds OwlsCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

From Huddersfield we would recommend Cupids as a first time. Its reasonably near attracts more the younger crowd these days in our opinion. There's a large couples room with a window and other smaller rooms with and without a window.

We would suggest first time or two definitely just play together and find your feet. It will make the nerves less also.

Enjoy you ll love it.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
37 weeks ago

Leeds


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Thanks, can you recommend any clubs with these types of rooms please? The two in Leeds don't seem to have them.

"

Both Quest and Pandora's have lockable rooms with a viewing window

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