FabSwingers.com forum: First visit nerves

By *oredmum1982 OP Woman
5 days ago

lincoln

Husband and I are visiting our first club on Saturday night (Purpla Mamba) and I need some virtual encouragement/hand holding… anything I need to know…best tips…

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
5 days ago

Cambridgeshire

Focus on each other, not others. Don't do anything unless you're both 100% sure. It's totally acceptable to just go along for the vibe - no-one should be pressuring you into anything.

The primary aim of your first visit is to prove that you can think with your brain, and not just what's between your legs. Build trust first, and fun will follow.

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By *hisky and WineCouple
5 days ago

the vicinity of Betelgeuse

"Husband and I are visiting our first club on Saturday night (Purpla Mamba) and I need some virtual encouragement/hand holding… anything I need to know…best tips…

We’ve been going to clubs for years and still get nervous, but those nerves evaporate approximately 10 seconds after walking in.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
5 days ago

Brum - ish

PM is a great club and very friendly.

Have a chat in advance about what you’re looking for from the night, what flexibility you might within that, how you’ll handle certain situations.

Go prepared to be social, chat to people whether you’re interested in playing or not and if there’s any play with others it’s a bonus.

Most of all, don’t feel pressured to do anything at all even with each other. Just because you’re in a club doesn’t mean you have to play.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
5 days ago

London

Clubs are not as daunting as you think, honestly.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
5 days ago

Worsley

It’s not as half as bad as you think. It’s just a glorified social.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
4 days ago

Bristol/ Daventry

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
4 days ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Take condoms and lube in an accessible pouch. Going back to the lockers kills the vibe and disrupts the flow once you’ve picked up the courage to ask to play.

Ask to play after around d 20/30minutes of chatting if you like the people and want to. Otherwise you can end up in the infinite chat and “will we/won’t we” and miss out opportunities with others. A polite no thank you is all you need if you don’t want to play. No justification needed.

Have fun and leave some time to debrief and reflect together afterwards.

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By *erryyMan
4 days ago

London

"Take condoms and lube in an accessible pouch. Going back to the lockers kills the vibe and disrupts the flow once you’ve picked up the courage to ask to play.

Have fun and leave some time to debrief and reflect together afterwards.

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can single men go

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By *rdere OpusCouple
4 days ago

Brum - ish

"Take condoms and lube in an accessible pouch. Going back to the lockers kills the vibe and disrupts the flow once you’ve picked up the courage to ask to play.

Have fun and leave some time to debrief and reflect together afterwards.

can single men go "

To PM yes although you need to apply in person first for membership and they limit single male memberships.

They recommend visiting on a Sunday evening as it’s a bit quieter and they have more time.

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