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"Looking to do my first club tomorrow can anyone recommend any? Give me any advise I’m a nervous wreck and absolutely petrified of going alone! Happy to travel 30/40 miles ish of Whitchurch Cheers in advance " I totally get this. I was feeling the same about my first time when I was a single guy on the scene. However I also realised nothing happens if you just sit a home scared. The best way to do a thing is often just to do it. So one Saturday afternoon I decided despite the massive social anxiety to do it. I just told myself I was going sink or swim, booked a hotel room and jumped on the train. The hardest bit was getting through the door. But I just didn't think, just do. Like jumping out of a plane. They gave me tour, which helped put my mind at ease a bit. And then there I was a nervous socially anxious guy on the spectrum alone in a club full of strangers, sounds and smells. I realised sitting in the corner would get me nowhere and joining the wanking dead would get me nowhere. So into the breach I went and started striking up conversation in the social area. Which was challenging and one of the hardest things I've done in my life (by my personal metric) but what else could I do? I had various levels of success. Some warm welcomes, some not so. But it's all building experience. Eventually I got chatting to single lady and we hit it off. Turn out to be a great night and been going to clubs ever since. And the more you go the easier it gets till it just feels like home. So do your research and just go, that's my advice. Mr | |||
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"Looking to do my first club tomorrow can anyone recommend any? Give me any advise I’m a nervous wreck and absolutely petrified of going alone! Happy to travel 30/40 miles ish of Whitchurch Cheers in advance I totally get this. I was feeling the same about my first time when I was a single guy on the scene. However I also realised nothing happens if you just sit a home scared. The best way to do a thing is often just to do it. So one Saturday afternoon I decided despite the massive social anxiety to do it. I just told myself I was going sink or swim, booked a hotel room and jumped on the train. The hardest bit was getting through the door. But I just didn't think, just do. Like jumping out of a plane. They gave me tour, which helped put my mind at ease a bit. And then there I was a nervous socially anxious guy on the spectrum alone in a club full of strangers, sounds and smells. I realised sitting in the corner would get me nowhere and joining the wanking dead would get me nowhere. So into the breach I went and started striking up conversation in the social area. Which was challenging and one of the hardest things I've done in my life (by my personal metric) but what else could I do? I had various levels of success. Some warm welcomes, some not so. But it's all building experience. Eventually I got chatting to single lady and we hit it off. Turn out to be a great night and been going to clubs ever since. And the more you go the easier it gets till it just feels like home. So do your research and just go, that's my advice. Mr" Great advice. Clubs are not as daunting as you think. ![]() | |||
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"Looking to do my first club tomorrow can anyone recommend any? Give me any advise I’m a nervous wreck and absolutely petrified of going alone! Happy to travel 30/40 miles ish of Whitchurch Cheers in advance I totally get this. I was feeling the same about my first time when I was a single guy on the scene. However I also realised nothing happens if you just sit a home scared. The best way to do a thing is often just to do it. So one Saturday afternoon I decided despite the massive social anxiety to do it. I just told myself I was going sink or swim, booked a hotel room and jumped on the train. The hardest bit was getting through the door. But I just didn't think, just do. Like jumping out of a plane. They gave me tour, which helped put my mind at ease a bit. And then there I was a nervous socially anxious guy on the spectrum alone in a club full of strangers, sounds and smells. I realised sitting in the corner would get me nowhere and joining the wanking dead would get me nowhere. So into the breach I went and started striking up conversation in the social area. Which was challenging and one of the hardest things I've done in my life (by my personal metric) but what else could I do? I had various levels of success. Some warm welcomes, some not so. But it's all building experience. Eventually I got chatting to single lady and we hit it off. Turn out to be a great night and been going to clubs ever since. And the more you go the easier it gets till it just feels like home. So do your research and just go, that's my advice. Mr" Thanks mate! Taken your advice I’m off to cupids tonight and I’m on the guest list, I’m having a tour before hand! I’ve proper thrown myself in as it’s towels / boxers night so I’m going in hard 🥰🤩 | |||
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"I was going to ask the same I am thinking off going to the Vanilla Alternatives MILF Club on Wednesday, and perhaps Jaydees Lunch event on Thursday I am brand new at this, so its pretty daunting, especially since I am in my 50s and not exactly an adonis Are these good places to start? And any particular tips etc on how to get chatting to people" As above, check single men requirements for both clubs. I think with VA, you have to have your membership sorted, and be on the guest list for the event, to be able to attend. Bear in mind, VA is open play only, but they are also a licensed bar so you are not allowed to bring your own alcohol. Jaydees, I believe you can take out membership at the club, on the day, but I think you still have to be on the guest list in order to attend. There is a mix of play areas in the club, and it has been refurbished recently. It's a "bring your own booze" club. | |||
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