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"Seems to be mainly miss at the moment. I went on a Monday a few weeks ago and there were just a few couples but no one playing. And I went last Thursday and there was just 1 couple and no playing. Maybe I’m just unlucky with my timing or the daytimes are just not popular " Last Thursday is when I was there with my friend. It was quiet. | |||
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"Think you might have been unlucky, plenty of fun and couples playing when I last went with my FWB" Maybe. Looking at the forum and meets, Sundays are very popular plus the evening parties. But daytime seems to be quiet and I assume that’s why they chose to close on Tuesdays. Still nice to have a swim and take in the hot tub and steam room, even if it’s quiet | |||
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"The single guys definitely put us off playing last Monday. Sort of killed the mood for us. Predators. It is not cool to follow. As a example, we walked into the cinema room, few guys at least walked in straight after, we walked out and then all walked out also, so obvious. looked like something out the walking dead, or the wanking dead in this case. We couldn't have made it clearer we weren't interested. " . It really is embarrassing to see. It happened on Thursday, I went into the cinema and there were a load of guys standing around by a couple (a lucky older guy and his stunning younger partner) and as soon as they left, the guys all followed! It’s like watching a Benny Hill clip! | |||
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"Looking to go for the first time on the 19th. Didn’t realise it was Bi on a Monday. I am straight, is that an issue?" Bi applies to both sexes, yes there are a fair few bi males in attendance . We are a bi fem straight male couple and it doesn’t bother us, you’ll be fine | |||
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"The single guys definitely put us off playing last Monday. Sort of killed the mood for us. Predators. It is not cool to follow. As a example, we walked into the cinema room, few guys at least walked in straight after, we walked out and then all walked out also, so obvious. looked like something out the walking dead, or the wanking dead in this case. We couldn't of made it clearer we weren't interested. " I guess it’s kind of difficult as a single male in a club, personally I try to talk to people in the bar / lounge etc if I can to build a rapport, but it’s not always easy. There are a lot of couples out there who like to be exhibitionist or like to have the attention of men, and the cinema room, for example, at Ignite that you mentioned kind of lends itself to exhibitionist / voyeur scenarios which is why you probably found the wanking dead following you. It doesn’t excuse manners and etiquette obviously, and consent is always key. But given the cinema is a “public” area (as opposed to a number of private rooms at the facility) where lots of voyeurism is the norm I can see why the opportunists followed you. Predators? Seems a bit harsh given that they probably didn’t know your intentions when entering the cinema, usually a polite “no thank you” should suffice to keep them away. Just my 2p worth  | |||
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"The single guys definitely put us off playing last Monday. Sort of killed the mood for us. Predators. It is not cool to follow. As a example, we walked into the cinema room, few guys at least walked in straight after, we walked out and then all walked out also, so obvious. looked like something out the walking dead, or the wanking dead in this case. We couldn't of made it clearer we weren't interested. I guess it’s kind of difficult as a single male in a club, personally I try to talk to people in the bar / lounge etc if I can to build a rapport, but it’s not always easy. There are a lot of couples out there who like to be exhibitionist or like to have the attention of men, and the cinema room, for example, at Ignite that you mentioned kind of lends itself to exhibitionist / voyeur scenarios which is why you probably found the wanking dead following you. It doesn’t excuse manners and etiquette obviously, and consent is always key. But given the cinema is a “public” area (as opposed to a number of private rooms at the facility) where lots of voyeurism is the norm I can see why the opportunists followed you. Predators? Seems a bit harsh given that they probably didn’t know your intentions when entering the cinema, usually a polite “no thank you” should suffice to keep them away. Just my 2p worth "We made it clear in our post that we weren’t interested and weren’t there to put on a show for anyone. That would be a completely different story (and post) if it had been a one-off and we’d simply said "no thanks." But we were still followed around the club—and the cinema wasn’t even the first place or last it happened. That was just one example. Our comment still stands: being repeatedly followed, watched, and stalked is unacceptable. By definition, that’s predatory behavior. We’re sorry if you think it’s tough for single guys at the club—but like to understand what exactly is tough about it? Not having immediate access to attention or intimacy doesn’t justify ignoring boundaries. how does it compare to the discomfort we felt. Have you been on the other side of that dynamic before defending it? | |||
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"The single guys definitely put us off playing last Monday. Sort of killed the mood for us. Predators. It is not cool to follow. As a example, we walked into the cinema room, few guys at least walked in straight after, we walked out and then all walked out also, so obvious. looked like something out the walking dead, or the wanking dead in this case. We couldn't of made it clearer we weren't interested. I guess it’s kind of difficult as a single male in a club, personally I try to talk to people in the bar / lounge etc if I can to build a rapport, but it’s not always easy. There are a lot of couples out there who like to be exhibitionist or like to have the attention of men, and the cinema room, for example, at Ignite that you mentioned kind of lends itself to exhibitionist / voyeur scenarios which is why you probably found the wanking dead following you. It doesn’t excuse manners and etiquette obviously, and consent is always key. But given the cinema is a “public” area (as opposed to a number of private rooms at the facility) where lots of voyeurism is the norm I can see why the opportunists followed you. Predators? Seems a bit harsh given that they probably didn’t know your intentions when entering the cinema, usually a polite “no thank you” should suffice to keep them away. Just my 2p worth
We made it clear in our post that we weren’t interested and weren’t there to put on a show for anyone. That would be a completely different story (and post) if it had been a one-off and we’d simply said "no thanks." But we were still followed around the club—and the cinema wasn’t even the first place or last it happened. That was just one example.
Our comment still stands: being repeatedly followed, watched, and stalked is unacceptable. By definition, that’s predatory behavior.
We’re sorry if you think it’s tough for single guys at the club—but like to understand what exactly is tough about it? Not having immediate access to attention or intimacy doesn’t justify ignoring boundaries. how does it compare to the discomfort we felt. Have you been on the other side of that dynamic before defending it?
"The additional context is important, if it was persistent all around the club and you made it very clear that you didn’t want the attention, and then they STILL followed you then I agree, totally unacceptable. This is why I said manners, etiquette and consent are key in my last post. In this respect, those that continued to follow you had none of those and acted inappropriately if you had made it clear to them. The management at Ignite are good and will deal with inappropriate behaviour if you experience it again. I still stand by my point that the majority of couples entering the cinema room there kind of accept that *IF* they start to play, they are going to be putting on a show for those who like to watch. The normal rules of engagement are no different though, keep your distance, no touching, no joining in etc unless expressly agreed and consented to. It can be tough at times at clubs as a single guy and I’ve been both on my own and with a female friend. We have kind of joked about the trail of wanking dead and in our experience we found it only happening when heading to the cinema. When moving to a room or the hot tubs or pool we didn’t get followed. We didn’t use the darkroom or dungeon but I would guess that would be the other places that you would be followed into. When there with a female or as a couple it’s much easier to be social I’ve found. I’m quite a social person and on my own try and follow the age-old wisdom of approaching and talking to people normally rather than being a wallflower. Usually this eventually pays dividends and I have no complaints about my club experiences and usually go home with a smile on my face. But as a single guy the amount of people willing to engage with you is smaller, and you can feel like a bit of a spare part at times. It CAN be hard work until you find that lady or couple that want to talk with you. At no point was I defending crossing boundaries or getting upset about not getting immediate access to intimacy as implied by your last paragraph and can see nothing in my original post to suggest that I had. Anyway, likewise I’m sorry that you had a bad experience there, if you do return and experience it again please do speak to Tasha and the team and they will deal with inappropriate behaviour. | |||
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"The single guys definitely put us off playing last Monday. Sort of killed the mood for us. Predators. It is not cool to follow. As a example, we walked into the cinema room, few guys at least walked in straight after, we walked out and then all walked out also, so obvious. looked like something out the walking dead, or the wanking dead in this case. We couldn't of made it clearer we weren't interested. I guess it’s kind of difficult as a single male in a club, personally I try to talk to people in the bar / lounge etc if I can to build a rapport, but it’s not always easy. There are a lot of couples out there who like to be exhibitionist or like to have the attention of men, and the cinema room, for example, at Ignite that you mentioned kind of lends itself to exhibitionist / voyeur scenarios which is why you probably found the wanking dead following you. It doesn’t excuse manners and etiquette obviously, and consent is always key. But given the cinema is a “public” area (as opposed to a number of private rooms at the facility) where lots of voyeurism is the norm I can see why the opportunists followed you. Predators? Seems a bit harsh given that they probably didn’t know your intentions when entering the cinema, usually a polite “no thank you” should suffice to keep them away. Just my 2p worth
We made it clear in our post that we weren’t interested and weren’t there to put on a show for anyone. That would be a completely different story (and post) if it had been a one-off and we’d simply said "no thanks." But we were still followed around the club—and the cinema wasn’t even the first place or last it happened. That was just one example.
Our comment still stands: being repeatedly followed, watched, and stalked is unacceptable. By definition, that’s predatory behavior.
We’re sorry if you think it’s tough for single guys at the club—but like to understand what exactly is tough about it? Not having immediate access to attention or intimacy doesn’t justify ignoring boundaries. how does it compare to the discomfort we felt. Have you been on the other side of that dynamic before defending it?
The additional context is important, if it was persistent all around the club and you made it very clear that you didn’t want the attention, and then they STILL followed you then I agree, totally unacceptable.
This is why I said manners, etiquette and consent are key in my last post. In this respect, those that continued to follow you had none of those and acted inappropriately if you had made it clear to them.
The management at Ignite are good and will deal with inappropriate behaviour if you experience it again.
I still stand by my point that the majority of couples entering the cinema room there kind of accept that *IF* they start to play, they are going to be putting on a show for those who like to watch. The normal rules of engagement are no different though, keep your distance, no touching, no joining in etc unless expressly agreed and consented to.
It can be tough at times at clubs as a single guy and I’ve been both on my own and with a female friend.
We have kind of joked about the trail of wanking dead and in our experience we found it only happening when heading to the cinema.
When moving to a room or the hot tubs or pool we didn’t get followed. We didn’t use the darkroom or dungeon but I would guess that would be the other places that you would be followed into.
When there with a female or as a couple it’s much easier to be social I’ve found. I’m quite a social person and on my own try and follow the age-old wisdom of approaching and talking to people normally rather than being a wallflower. Usually this eventually pays dividends and I have no complaints about my club experiences and usually go home with a smile on my face.
But as a single guy the amount of people willing to engage with you is smaller, and you can feel like a bit of a spare part at times. It CAN be hard work until you find that lady or couple that want to talk with you.
At no point was I defending crossing boundaries or getting upset about not getting immediate access to intimacy as implied by your last paragraph and can see nothing in my original post to suggest that I had.
Anyway, likewise I’m sorry that you had a bad experience there, if you do return and experience it again please do speak to Tasha and the team and they will deal with inappropriate behaviour. "Thanks for your response. While we appreciate your acknowledgment of the importance of consent and etiquette, let’s be absolutely clear: what we experienced wasn’t about someone misreading a moment or socially struggling. Many of the single men behaved in a targeted, persistent, and deliberate manner. That kind of behaviour is not a misunderstanding—it’s harassment. This cannot and should not be defended or excused. Yet the tone of your post leans heavily toward justifying why they might act that way. Whether it’s feeling left out, finding it “hard to socialise,” or hoping for a connection—none of those are valid reasons to ignore clear boundaries or make others uncomfortable. We’re not here to provide empathy for men who choose to handle rejection or exclusion by following people around and hovering in spaces they’re not welcome in. It’s not just awkward—it’s invasive. And frankly, if someone’s night is “tough” because they didn’t get what they came for, that’s on them—not on us. Being followed from room to room after clearly stating disinterest isn’t an “awkward moment” or just part of the supposed challenges of being a single guy. Struggling to socialise appropriately doesn’t give anyone free rein to ignore boundaries. That’s not social awkwardness—it’s harassment. Calling it anything less is simply downplaying unacceptable behaviour. To give a further example: we entered an empty hot tub—capacity four. Within a minute or less, two single men joined. Then a third, taking it to five. All this while the other hot tub sat completely free. We’re flattered, sure—but let’s be real: this comes across as desperate, not respectful. And desperate is not a good look. You will be ignored, respectfully. Yes, we understand single guys can feel like outsiders in these spaces. But that frustration is not on the same level as being stalked, made uncomfortable, or having your night ruined because others can’t take a hint or respect space. Feeling overlooked is not an excuse to behave inappropriately. This isn’t about “putting on a show” or some misinterpretation of playroom etiquette. It’s about a refusal to accept boundaries—plain and simple. And that’s never okay, no matter how “tough” someone thinks their day is going. To be clear, this isn’t aimed at all single men. But the majority of the ones present during our last visit crossed lines. It wasn’t our first time attending, but this was by far the worst we’ve experienced. We’re not delicate or naive—but it absolutely ruined the experience. Why shouldn’t we be able to sit in the cinema and watch in our own space, without 4–5 guys standing directly in front of us, lingering? This is exactly why we tend to stick to couples-only events. | |||
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"The single guys definitely put us off playing last Monday. Sort of killed the mood for us. Predators. It is not cool to follow. As a example, we walked into the cinema room, few guys at least walked in straight after, we walked out and then all walked out also, so obvious. looked like something out the walking dead, or the wanking dead in this case. We couldn't of made it clearer we weren't interested. I guess it’s kind of difficult as a single male in a club, personally I try to talk to people in the bar / lounge etc if I can to build a rapport, but it’s not always easy. There are a lot of couples out there who like to be exhibitionist or like to have the attention of men, and the cinema room, for example, at Ignite that you mentioned kind of lends itself to exhibitionist / voyeur scenarios which is why you probably found the wanking dead following you. It doesn’t excuse manners and etiquette obviously, and consent is always key. But given the cinema is a “public” area (as opposed to a number of private rooms at the facility) where lots of voyeurism is the norm I can see why the opportunists followed you. Predators? Seems a bit harsh given that they probably didn’t know your intentions when entering the cinema, usually a polite “no thank you” should suffice to keep them away. Just my 2p worth
We made it clear in our post that we weren’t interested and weren’t there to put on a show for anyone. That would be a completely different story (and post) if it had been a one-off and we’d simply said "no thanks." But we were still followed around the club—and the cinema wasn’t even the first place or last it happened. That was just one example.
Our comment still stands: being repeatedly followed, watched, and stalked is unacceptable. By definition, that’s predatory behavior.
We’re sorry if you think it’s tough for single guys at the club—but like to understand what exactly is tough about it? Not having immediate access to attention or intimacy doesn’t justify ignoring boundaries. how does it compare to the discomfort we felt. Have you been on the other side of that dynamic before defending it?
The additional context is important, if it was persistent all around the club and you made it very clear that you didn’t want the attention, and then they STILL followed you then I agree, totally unacceptable.
This is why I said manners, etiquette and consent are key in my last post. In this respect, those that continued to follow you had none of those and acted inappropriately if you had made it clear to them.
The management at Ignite are good and will deal with inappropriate behaviour if you experience it again.
I still stand by my point that the majority of couples entering the cinema room there kind of accept that *IF* they start to play, they are going to be putting on a show for those who like to watch. The normal rules of engagement are no different though, keep your distance, no touching, no joining in etc unless expressly agreed and consented to.
It can be tough at times at clubs as a single guy and I’ve been both on my own and with a female friend.
We have kind of joked about the trail of wanking dead and in our experience we found it only happening when heading to the cinema.
When moving to a room or the hot tubs or pool we didn’t get followed. We didn’t use the darkroom or dungeon but I would guess that would be the other places that you would be followed into.
When there with a female or as a couple it’s much easier to be social I’ve found. I’m quite a social person and on my own try and follow the age-old wisdom of approaching and talking to people normally rather than being a wallflower. Usually this eventually pays dividends and I have no complaints about my club experiences and usually go home with a smile on my face.
But as a single guy the amount of people willing to engage with you is smaller, and you can feel like a bit of a spare part at times. It CAN be hard work until you find that lady or couple that want to talk with you.
At no point was I defending crossing boundaries or getting upset about not getting immediate access to intimacy as implied by your last paragraph and can see nothing in my original post to suggest that I had.
Anyway, likewise I’m sorry that you had a bad experience there, if you do return and experience it again please do speak to Tasha and the team and they will deal with inappropriate behaviour.
Thanks for your response. While we appreciate your acknowledgment of the importance of consent and etiquette, let’s be absolutely clear: what we experienced wasn’t about someone misreading a moment or socially struggling. Many of the single men behaved in a targeted, persistent, and deliberate manner. That kind of behaviour is not a misunderstanding—it’s harassment.
This cannot and should not be defended or excused. Yet the tone of your post leans heavily toward justifying why they might act that way. Whether it’s feeling left out, finding it “hard to socialise,” or hoping for a connection—none of those are valid reasons to ignore clear boundaries or make others uncomfortable.
We’re not here to provide empathy for men who choose to handle rejection or exclusion by following people around and hovering in spaces they’re not welcome in. It’s not just awkward—it’s invasive.
And frankly, if someone’s night is “tough” because they didn’t get what they came for, that’s on them—not on us.
Being followed from room to room after clearly stating disinterest isn’t an “awkward moment” or just part of the supposed challenges of being a single guy. Struggling to socialise appropriately doesn’t give anyone free rein to ignore boundaries. That’s not social awkwardness—it’s harassment. Calling it anything less is simply downplaying unacceptable behaviour.
To give a further example: we entered an empty hot tub—capacity four. Within a minute or less, two single men joined. Then a third, taking it to five. All this while the other hot tub sat completely free. We’re flattered, sure—but let’s be real: this comes across as desperate, not respectful. And desperate is not a good look. You will be ignored, respectfully.
Yes, we understand single guys can feel like outsiders in these spaces. But that frustration is not on the same level as being stalked, made uncomfortable, or having your night ruined because others can’t take a hint or respect space. Feeling overlooked is not an excuse to behave inappropriately.
This isn’t about “putting on a show” or some misinterpretation of playroom etiquette. It’s about a refusal to accept boundaries—plain and simple. And that’s never okay, no matter how “tough” someone thinks their day is going.
To be clear, this isn’t aimed at all single men. But the majority of the ones present during our last visit crossed lines. It wasn’t our first time attending, but this was by far the worst we’ve experienced. We’re not delicate or naive—but it absolutely ruined the experience.
Why shouldn’t we be able to sit in the cinema and watch in our own space, without 4–5 guys standing directly in front of us, lingering?
This is exactly why we tend to stick to couples-only events.
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" Thanks for your response. While we appreciate your acknowledgment of the importance of consent and etiquette, let’s be absolutely clear: what we experienced wasn’t about someone misreading a moment or socially struggling. Many of the single men behaved in a targeted, persistent, and deliberate manner. That kind of behaviour is not a misunderstanding—it’s harassment. This cannot and should not be defended or excused. Yet the tone of your post leans heavily toward justifying why they might act that way. Whether it’s feeling left out, finding it “hard to socialise,” or hoping for a connection—none of those are valid reasons to ignore clear boundaries or make others uncomfortable. We’re not here to provide empathy for men who choose to handle rejection or exclusion by following people around and hovering in spaces they’re not welcome in. It’s not just awkward—it’s invasive. And frankly, if someone’s night is “tough” because they didn’t get what they came for, that’s on them—not on us. Being followed from room to room after clearly stating disinterest isn’t an “awkward moment” or just part of the supposed challenges of being a single guy. Struggling to socialise appropriately doesn’t give anyone free rein to ignore boundaries. That’s not social awkwardness—it’s harassment. Calling it anything less is simply downplaying unacceptable behaviour. To give a further example: we entered an empty hot tub—capacity four. Within a minute or less, two single men joined. Then a third, taking it to five. All this while the other hot tub sat completely free. We’re flattered, sure—but let’s be real: this comes across as desperate, not respectful. And desperate is not a good look. You will be ignored, respectfully. Yes, we understand single guys can feel like outsiders in these spaces. But that frustration is not on the same level as being stalked, made uncomfortable, or having your night ruined because others can’t take a hint or respect space. Feeling overlooked is not an excuse to behave inappropriately. This isn’t about “putting on a show” or some misinterpretation of playroom etiquette. It’s about a refusal to accept boundaries—plain and simple. And that’s never okay, no matter how “tough” someone thinks their day is going. To be clear, this isn’t aimed at all single men. But the majority of the ones present during our last visit crossed lines. It wasn’t our first time attending, but this was by far the worst we’ve experienced. We’re not delicate or naive—but it absolutely ruined the experience. Why shouldn’t we be able to sit in the cinema and watch in our own space, without 4–5 guys standing directly in front of us, lingering? This is exactly why we tend to stick to couples-only events. " Witt respect, I think you’re totally misrepresenting my reply and seem to suggest that I am defending or excusing inappropriate behaviour. Let me be very clear - I am not. Your very first post seemed to suggest you went into the cinema room, some men followed, and when you left so did they. Since then you have articulated much more sinister behaviour in your following two posts which in my last reply I agreed with you was totally inappropriate. Then you asked me why I thought it can be tough for single guys in a club and I provided you my answer - a direct reply to a direct question (and not in any way an excuse for inappropriate behaviour) - for some that want to engage in the correct manner it can sometimes be difficult. I understand fully why that is the case and I’m not whining or whinging - quite simply my success (or lack of) in a club is entirely down to how I present myself. And tbh, like I said I do ok. I absolutely agree with you (and did in my last post, although it would seem that you think I didn’t) about respecting boundaries and from what you’ve articulated their behaviour was wrong and should have resulted in their ejection and / or banning from the club. Persistent unwanted attention and following from room to room when it’s been made clear it is not wanted is unacceptable. Full stop. I don’t know where the thing about having a “tough day” or feeling overlooked excuses bad behaviour has come from because it certainly wasn’t implied by my post. Like I say, I’m genuinely sorry that you had a bad experience there. It does sound horrendous. When I’ve been there I’ve found that most are respectful of boundaries and etiquette and do not act like that. But on this occasion it does sound awful. I genuinely wish you all the best and hope that future club visits provide much more pleasant for you and I know that the management at Ignite do clamp down on such behaviour so if anyone else reading this experiences the same please do report it to make the environment safe and enjoyable for everyone. | |||
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"All this confirms why I won’t be visiting ANY club as a single male… shame." It is a shame my friend because if you present yourself well and engage with people you can have a great time as a single male in clubs. Many, many of us do and many couples / women are very accepting of respectful guys. It does sound like the couple above had a horrendous experience and I hope those involved have their memberships revoked as they do not represent what the club experience should be about. | |||
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"All this confirms why I won’t be visiting ANY club as a single male… shame. It is a shame my friend because if you present yourself well and engage with people you can have a great time as a single male in clubs. Many, many of us do and many couples / women are very accepting of respectful guys. It does sound like the couple above had a horrendous experience and I hope those involved have their memberships revoked as they do not represent what the club experience should be about. " To be honest, if inappropriate behaviour was being properly addressed, a good portion of the single men present during our last visit would have been removed—slight exaggeration, but quite few which is concerning. We've attended a few times before, but that last visit was genuinely awful. It really makes you question whether it’s even worth going if the outcome is just being followed, stared at, or made to feel uncomfortable throughout the day. Hopefully, our next visit will be better. That said, even after posting about our experience, we’re still received messages from single males asking when we’re next attending. Clearly, they’ve either missed this thread (which is fair—forums aren’t always read) or completely ignored the fact that our profile clearly states we aren’t seeking single males. It’s frustrating and honestly just reinforces the exact behaviour we’ve been calling out. | |||
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"As a general rule, most men are respectful there. But when one or two behave out of line it can become a bit like a herd mentality as others follow their lead for fear of potentially missing out, and to couples and single fems it is predatory behaviour. The principle that you should behave as you would in a pub or club when it comes to interaction in a swingers club is the way to go. You wouldn't just waltz up to a couple sat having a drink together in a pub, help yourself to a seat at their table, interrupt their conversation and expect them to be happy or comfortable with that, so why do it in a club? Even more so in a hot tub. And why would you think it acceptable to reach out and touch the woman without asking, or sticking your cock in her face hoping she will be so bowled over at its existence that she will be so desperate to suck it? Guys just need to get real and read the room. If there's no interest shown then there's no need to follow, keep staring to try to get eye contact, approach, and definitely not touch. This is really basic stuff." Well said. Agreed. And just to be clear—it’s not all single men. We actually feel bad for those who conduct themselves properly, because behaviour like this puts everyone else on high alert. It forces people to put their guard up, even when they’d rather be open and relaxed. That’s the real shame—those who can’t respect boundaries end up ruining the atmosphere for everyone, including the respectful ones. | |||
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"As a general rule, most men are respectful there. But when one or two behave out of line it can become a bit like a herd mentality as others follow their lead for fear of potentially missing out, and to couples and single fems it is predatory behaviour. The principle that you should behave as you would in a pub or club when it comes to interaction in a swingers club is the way to go. You wouldn't just waltz up to a couple sat having a drink together in a pub, help yourself to a seat at their table, interrupt their conversation and expect them to be happy or comfortable with that, so why do it in a club? Even more so in a hot tub. And why would you think it acceptable to reach out and touch the woman without asking, or sticking your cock in her face hoping she will be so bowled over at its existence that she will be so desperate to suck it? Guys just need to get real and read the room. If there's no interest shown then there's no need to follow, keep staring to try to get eye contact, approach, and definitely not touch. This is really basic stuff."  absolutely. Spot on | |||
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"All this confirms why I won’t be visiting ANY club as a single male… shame. It is a shame my friend because if you present yourself well and engage with people you can have a great time as a single male in clubs. Many, many of us do and many couples / women are very accepting of respectful guys. It does sound like the couple above had a horrendous experience and I hope those involved have their memberships revoked as they do not represent what the club experience should be about. To be honest, if inappropriate behaviour was being properly addressed, a good portion of the single men present during our last visit would have been removed—slight exaggeration, but quite few which is concerning. We've attended a few times before, but that last visit was genuinely awful. It really makes you question whether it’s even worth going if the outcome is just being followed, stared at, or made to feel uncomfortable throughout the day. Hopefully, our next visit will be better. That said, even after posting about our experience, we’re still received messages from single males asking when we’re next attending. Clearly, they’ve either missed this thread (which is fair—forums aren’t always read) or completely ignored the fact that our profile clearly states we aren’t seeking single males. It’s frustrating and honestly just reinforces the exact behaviour we’ve been calling out." | |||
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