FabSwingers.com forum: Very nervous about going to club on my own for first time

By *inger75777888 OP Man
2 weeks ago

telford

Is there any advice about going to club on my own for my first ever visit to a club! And what's the best club to go to in the midlands area thank you

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By *ACOLCouple
2 weeks ago

limerick

Perhaps you should attend a social first... that way if you see someone you know from it, it doesn't seem overbearing.

Lina.

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By *iddlemanMan
2 weeks ago

Ipswich

"Is there any advice about going to club on my own for my first ever visit to a club! And what's the best club to go to in the midlands area thank you "

I’m going alone for the first time next week too, so totally understand where you’re coming from. Hopefully someone can help us both 🤭

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By *bflirtyCouple
1 week ago

Milton Keynes

Give Chameleons a go on a Friday night. Everyone is super-friendly and it's usually dress down which gives the place a very relaxed feel.

It's normal to be nervous but it's not as scary as you might think. The worse that can happen is you get to watch people playing and anything else is a bonus.

The couples that go on a Friday know there will be lots of single guys, that's why they go, so you won't look like a spare wheel.

Speaking as a couple, the best advice I can give you is to pluck up the courage to talk to people - even if it doesn't turn into play it will help break down any nervousness. We are way more likely to play with a guy who came and chatted than one who just watched from the sidelines then tried to muscle in on some action.

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By *teve261970Man
1 week ago

Gateshead

"Is there any advice about going to club on my own for my first ever visit to a club! And what's the best club to go to in the midlands area thank you "

Honestly best advice I can give is treat it like walking into a bar on your own, smile be approachable, don't jump straight in with sex talk, talk to the bar staff explain you're new if the host/hostess hasn't already told them. They may introduce you to a couple of regulars &who could introduce you to more.

Try not to let the butterflies in your stomache get the better of you, as someone else has said say hello to people.

Clubs with early dress down are good as it doesn't feel half as bad when everyone is naked or in skimpy clothes lol, sort of levels the playing field lol.

Good luck & let us know how you got on, feedback is always good

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By *rdere OpusCouple
1 week ago

Brum - ish

Chams and Libs are great clubs. Alchemy isn’t far to travel from Telford. Can’t speak for Xtasia from personal experience.

You might benefit from going to a hosted event because there are often group chats where you can get to know a few people before you get there on the night.

Chams might not be your best bet as an opener as they do less hosted nights (although check out Liberated Voice who’ve organised a few there now but also do an amazing social in a vanilla venue every couple of months).

Events wise with a chat, I’d highly recommend Vanilla to Vixen events - their Friday Vegas Vixens a few times a year at Libs, they allow single guys and they’re great for club newbies.

Scarlet Pomegranate events near Bewdley have a gorgeous venue, allow select single men on a Friday and have an ongoing group chat.

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