FabSwingers.com forum: Chams or Xtasia

By *taffordshirefuncouple OP Couple
31 weeks ago

Tamworth

Where would you recommend if we were to say we were quite hesitant on uncovering ourselves. We are not in great shape and our confidence is not at our highest so could do with some advice. What do people wear etc?

Thanks in advance.

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By *ab FunstersCouple
31 weeks ago

Midlands

That would be Xtasia then as Chameleons is dress down.

Chams was our first club experience and remains our favourite...it is such an inclusive club with all beautiful shapes and sizes on display and absolutely no judgent, but we do realise how daunting that dress down can seem.

Honestly we all have our hangups about the way we look, but genuinely no one cares...bring a sexy attitude and get to know your fellow swingers and most importantly you are in control of what (if anything) happens.

Hope this helps, FFx

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

"That would be Xtasia then as Chameleons is dress down.

Hope this helps, FFx

As above poster says. Chams is very dress down where as Xtasia is more of a casual dress code.

Go have fun, regardless of your shape and size.

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By *x cplCouple
31 weeks ago

North of Oxford

I would also look at what each club has on event wise for the night your thinking of going as it might not be for you.

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By *areDevil99Man
31 weeks ago

West Midlands

Chams definitely

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By *bi HaiveMan
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31 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Both are great clubs.

But if you don't want to strip on arrival there's only really one choice.

Xtasia has a variety of themed events on each weekend so check the club calendar to make sure you're choosing the right night. Some also have chat groups set up to do some networking before events and there's often guest lists in forum threads so you can see who else is going.

Staff are great and will give you a full tour of the venue.

The other main difference is that Chams is a byo whereas Xtasia has a full bar.

There's a free charity night on the 4th (membership is required but it's £20 for life for couples) which should be a blast!

Whichever you choose, just go with zero expectations and enjoy being social.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Let us let you into a secret, most people who attend clubs aren't in great shape either. Most have lumps and bumps and live real lives. Don't worry about it and just go and enjoy yourself.

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By *olfess400Couple
31 weeks ago

Scarborough & Worksop

Just a bit puzzled here with terminology - what do we mean by the term 'dress down'?

Does it mean a) not make an effort eg jeans and trainers or b) wear hot and exotic lingerie or c) wear nothing at all, i.e get naked as soon as possible?

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By *iss DevilWoman
31 weeks ago

Bedford

"Just a bit puzzled here with terminology - what do we mean by the term 'dress down'?

Does it mean a) not make an effort eg jeans and trainers or b) wear hot and exotic lingerie or c) wear nothing at all, i.e get naked as soon as possible?

You come in dressed however you choose to, and then it's straight into the changing room. Towels are provided, and you can wear a towel or underwear/lingerie. I tend to go for lingerie, usually some sort of babydoll outfit. If you wish, you can walk around naked, and Thursdays after 6pm are Naked Thursdays at Chams.

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By *orsaxbyMan
31 weeks ago

Kent

Been to both but I think chams is the best always friendly go for it and enjoy yourself

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By *bi HaiveMan
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31 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Just a bit puzzled here with terminology - what do we mean by the term 'dress down'?

Does it mean a) not make an effort eg jeans and trainers or b) wear hot and exotic lingerie or c) wear nothing at all, i.e get naked as soon as possible?

This.

Leaves guys with the option of towel, boxers or naked.

Xtasia is the opposite. Smart casual/dress to impress and you can strip as and when you want, from lingerie to towels to naked. 🤷‍♂️

Gives you the freedom to only undress when you want to and are comfortable. Some like it, some don't. Some moan that they're walking around in lingerie whilst others are fully clothed. But I like it as it gives choice, rather than everyone being forced to strip from the off. I've always found on mixed nights that if there's going to be any negative behaviour it happens more when everyone is stripped rather than clothed.

As for all the comments about being followed and guys randomly wanking? I've found that stopping dead and saying loudly so anyone around can hear 'can you stop following us please/do you mind not tossing off around us' works wonders. Causes a fair bit of embarrassment and usually a rapid exit from those involved.

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By *ee76Man
31 weeks ago

Birmingham

As all the above say, Chams is dress down from the get go, and can be brilliant fun. I wish I had more time to visit myself!

Xtasia is more dress up/casual, where Dress Down is allowed but it's more in the playroom area, leaving large areas that are fully clothed. This means that you can do both, come in clothed and if the nerves abate, dress down

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