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"Never been to one so don’t know what I am missing, definitely feel weird going as a single bloke however and would feel like people would judge me going alone as a single male, unless I had a planned meet at a club that would be different." lunatic asylums | |||
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"Never been to one so don’t know what I am missing, definitely feel weird going as a single bloke however and would feel like people would judge me going alone as a single male, unless I had a planned meet at a club that would be different.lunatic asylums " men in towels sat there wanking yuk | |||
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"I’d like to goto Chams north of brum, as it’s busy. I probably won’t be going clubbing again unless there’s a great, friendly club near where I’m moving " Brothels use single women to get men in men get free sex they pretend to be your friend | |||
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"men in towels sat there wanking yuk" Here cum the men in towels They won't let you remember. | |||
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"I find that clubs make me so anxious, it's not enjoyable. And those same men, in towels approaching me and my partner....I agree. YUK. " they are worst places I would never go to again | |||
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"We have not stopped going to clubs but we only go on couples only events." I am just looking to find nice kind respectful man on here | |||
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"Never been to one so don’t know what I am missing, definitely feel weird going as a single bloke however and would feel like people would judge me going alone as a single male, unless I had a planned meet at a club that would be different.lunatic asylums " That's a bit harsh OP. Mrs | |||
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"Never been to one so don’t know what I am missing, definitely feel weird going as a single bloke however and would feel like people would judge me going alone as a single male, unless I had a planned meet at a club that would be different.lunatic asylums That's a bit harsh OP. Mrs" that's my honest opinion what do you want me to do lie | |||
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"I enjoy my local club but more because of the hot tubs and pool." full of vultures | |||
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"We went to xtasia and chasing as a couple. When our relationship ended I couldn't bring myself to go as a single male. Always preferred couples only events and I'm still in search of a new partner in crime." Chams not 'chasing'. | |||
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"I think to myself how much my time I wasted in their and think what on earth was I doing one of biggest mistake going in a swinger's clubs never again " proud of myself stayed away from them over a year now | |||
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"I think to myself how much my time I wasted in their and think what on earth was I doing one of biggest mistake going in a swinger's clubs never again proud of myself stayed away from them over a year now " and want to meet man who doesn't want to go them | |||
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"proud of myself stayed away from them over a year now " Would you go again? | |||
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"proud of myself stayed away from them over a year now Would you go again?" No | |||
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"proud of myself stayed away from them over a year now Would you go again? No" You sure? | |||
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"proud of myself stayed away from them over a year now Would you go again? No You sure?" yes very sure | |||
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"proud of myself stayed away from them over a year now Would you go again? No You sure? yes very sure " Say no more. | |||
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"Never been to one so don’t know what I am missing, definitely feel weird going as a single bloke however and would feel like people would judge me going alone as a single male, unless I had a planned meet at a club that would be different.lunatic asylums men in towels sat there wanking yuk " The clubs you have been to sound awful Perhaps you need to try some better ones  | |||
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"We've pretty much stopped going, partly due to Hampshire being a vacant black hole regards swinging club's, so it's either fabs or hellfire. The former is crap and the latter is nice but it's always cold and empty and yes all are usually full of the wanking dead stumbling around dick in hand with no clue how to socially interact with actual humans. Or it's full of people pissed off their head or out of their nut on crazy sherbet." Pissed up ( d*unk) | |||
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"We've pretty much stopped going, partly due to Hampshire being a vacant black hole regards swinging club's, so it's either fabs or hellfire. The former is crap and the latter is nice but it's always cold and empty and yes all are usually full of the wanking dead stumbling around dick in hand with no clue how to socially interact with actual humans. Or it's full of people pissed off their head or out of their nut on crazy sherbet. Pissed up ( d*unk)" 🤣so true | |||
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"Don't think people have read thread properly it says why have you stopped going to club " I read it properly. I was adding some thoughts and balance. To add some more.....I have stopped attending some clubs. Two I left within half an hour because they were horrendous. Nothing to do with the people and entirely to do with the facilities themselves. | |||
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"Don't think people have read thread properly it says why have you stopped going to club I read it properly. I was adding some thoughts and balance. To add some more.....I have stopped attending some clubs. Two I left within half an hour because they were horrendous. Nothing to do with the people and entirely to do with the facilities themselves. " We don't do classy in this country, tacky and sleezy . | |||
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"Don't think people have read thread properly it says why have you stopped going to club I read it properly. I was adding some thoughts and balance. To add some more.....I have stopped attending some clubs. Two I left within half an hour because they were horrendous. Nothing to do with the people and entirely to do with the facilities themselves. We don't do classy in this country, tacky and sleezy ." I'd agree some are. Others are great and some more than sufficient for what they are. At the end of the day no amount of flashy decor and facilities will provide a great night if the people there aren't who you're interested in, attracted to or behave in a positive way. Some of the worst parties I've been to have been in very classy venues that looked stunning, but full of pretentious folk more interested in being looked at and complimented than actually socialising with others. It's the people that make a good night out. Not the bricks and mortar. | |||
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"Don't think people have read thread properly it says why have you stopped going to club I read it properly. I was adding some thoughts and balance. To add some more.....I have stopped attending some clubs. Two I left within half an hour because they were horrendous. Nothing to do with the people and entirely to do with the facilities themselves. We don't do classy in this country, tacky and sleezy . I'd agree some are. Others are great and some more than sufficient for what they are. At the end of the day no amount of flashy decor and facilities will provide a great night if the people there aren't who you're interested in, attracted to or behave in a positive way. Some of the worst parties I've been to have been in very classy venues that looked stunning, but full of pretentious folk more interested in being looked at and complimented than actually socialising with others. It's the people that make a good night out. Not the bricks and mortar. " fake people fake conversations vultures in men in towels wanking people just use people | |||
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"Don't think people have read thread properly it says why have you stopped going to club I read it properly. I was adding some thoughts and balance. To add some more.....I have stopped attending some clubs. Two I left within half an hour because they were horrendous. Nothing to do with the people and entirely to do with the facilities themselves. We don't do classy in this country, tacky and sleezy . I'd agree some are. Others are great and some more than sufficient for what they are. At the end of the day no amount of flashy decor and facilities will provide a great night if the people there aren't who you're interested in, attracted to or behave in a positive way. Some of the worst parties I've been to have been in very classy venues that looked stunning, but full of pretentious folk more interested in being looked at and complimented than actually socialising with others. It's the people that make a good night out. Not the bricks and mortar. fake people fake conversations vultures in men in towels wanking people just use people " Experiences will vary. | |||
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"I've been trying to work my self up to going to my local at one of their daytime events. I've been told it's friendly, but can't shake the feeling I'll be ignored as a single bloke. A bit daunting tbh, but as someone mentioned, a good way to get verified as a genuine person." For your first visit go purely for the experience, no expectations see how you get on, it can be a bit overwhelming first visit. | |||
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"Don't think people have read thread properly it says why have you stopped going to club I read it properly. I was adding some thoughts and balance. To add some more.....I have stopped attending some clubs. Two I left within half an hour because they were horrendous. Nothing to do with the people and entirely to do with the facilities themselves. We don't do classy in this country, tacky and sleezy . I'd agree some are. Others are great and some more than sufficient for what they are. At the end of the day no amount of flashy decor and facilities will provide a great night if the people there aren't who you're interested in, attracted to or behave in a positive way. Some of the worst parties I've been to have been in very classy venues that looked stunning, but full of pretentious folk more interested in being looked at and complimented than actually socialising with others. It's the people that make a good night out. Not the bricks and mortar. fake people fake conversations vultures in men in towels wanking people just use people Experiences will vary. " been to different clubs day and night events all the same | |||
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"This! We were never into men anyway, but the behaviour of men in the lifestyle, especially at clubs has actively stopped us from attending clubs. It's not just being followed, it's the borderline sexual assaults, the actual sexual assaults, the lack of hygiene, inability to take hints or even blatant No. We've been to lots of clubs, lots of nights and they just don't feel safe anymore. We're yet to find a good couples and single ladies night. " What you on about mate? All clubs do couples and ladies only nights. For whichever club you went to where single guy disrespect, just go again for their couple and lady only. Why would you try single guy over and over instead of just move to couple/women after second or third time? Seem like insanity to me. If you get SAed, file police report and maybe psychological counsel to deal with that. Too important matter bring up on fab. | |||
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"Never been to one so don’t know what I am missing, definitely feel weird going as a single bloke however and would feel like people would judge me going alone as a single male, unless I had a planned meet at a club that would be different.lunatic asylums men in towels sat there wanking yuk " Not all of us, I'll always be polite and wait to be invited, you'll never see me being like a Benny Hill sketch, I enjoy the social side as well. | |||
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"Well we actually enjoy clubs. It’s nice to dress up and dress down and have some fun. We also like the single guys occasionally. Issues happen when the clubs get greedy, the numbers are skewed and couples/women get followed and hassled all the time. The nicer clubs keep the ratios correct and monitor behaviour so everyone has fun." Which clubs would you suggest that couples don't get harassed by guys? Never been to one but don't want Mrs to be out off from the get go | |||
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"Well we actually enjoy clubs. It’s nice to dress up and dress down and have some fun. We also like the single guys occasionally. Issues happen when the clubs get greedy, the numbers are skewed and couples/women get followed and hassled all the time. The nicer clubs keep the ratios correct and monitor behaviour so everyone has fun. Which clubs would you suggest that couples don't get harassed by guys? Never been to one but don't want Mrs to be out off from the get go" Our favourite is Le Boudoir (central London) - it’s is pricy and they are selective about membership, but it shows when you get in there and we always have a great time. Others we suggest for newbies and not getting hassled would be Liberty Elite and Vanilla Alternative x | |||
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"I'm glad I read this before I went. I'm just going to stand there wanking without a towel now. Thanks for the heads up, guys!" I would find a local event and go. I've been going to clubs for well over 25 years and met some amazing people over the years. Clubs for me are a safe and social space for me to relax.. meet friends and if I feel like it.. have a dawned good time Tend to avoid couples nights, even now we are a couple as it doesn't work for us. Ive had far more hassle at private events than at clubs. They aren't for everyone but there is definitely a fantastic side to clubs x Mr did very well as a single guy at clubs before he met me. As to the OP suggesting they are just brothels, utterly disrespectful and as no one should go to a club expecting sex... very much not true... even as a greedy girl. I say no to who I feel like but will talk to everyone x | |||
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"I'm glad I read this before I went. I'm just going to stand there wanking without a towel now. Thanks for the heads up, guys!" Finally!!! What's the purpose to wank under a towel?  | |||
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"For all those saying clubs aren't for them....that's great. You tried it, you don't like it and that's how we all learn. Plenty of clubs don't require dressing down, so its easy to pick one where you wont be surrounded by towels. Not all clubs are full of guys wanking, even on single guy nights. Not all clubs overcharge guys either. There's no one size fits all. Clubs aren't for everyone. Equally, many prefer them to just looking to hook up online. Nobody is ever forced to go to a club. " Well said | |||
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"I visited 8 clubs as a solo guy, to a total of 19 visits. I did enjoy two fantastic evenings, but usually felt like a gatecrasher at a party I wasn’t invited to. Clubs are for couples; leave them to it "I attended many times as a single guy and have had amazing times. Also met Cali at a club. We would both definitely disagree that clubs are just for couples. | |||
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"I visited 8 clubs as a solo guy, to a total of 19 visits. I did enjoy two fantastic evenings, but usually felt like a gatecrasher at a party I wasn’t invited to. Clubs are for couples; leave them to it
I attended many times as a single guy and have had amazing times. Also met Cali at a club.
We would both definitely disagree that clubs are just for couples. "Good for you | |||
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"Looking for normal man who doesn't go to them " I suggest to make an new post . I'm looking for a man who hates swingers clubs as much as I do. | |||
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"They are hell holes I want real man not towel wanker " You’re giving mixed messages OP, just say if you want to go again, we wouldn’t hold it against you | |||
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I am picky, I need my brain stimulated first before my body can be, and that can only be achieved by talking to me like a person. I don't care whether they have a six pack and a 12 inch cock - if you can't even say "hi" to me, you're getting nowhere near me.
Luckily, both my partner and my FWB are very good at keeping me busy  . | |||
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"I not attracted to men that go in clubs I find them boring " What makes a guy that goes to a club boring... for me it would be quite the opposite.. as it shows he is a social creature and able to approach people. Also he is likely to be confident. | |||
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"I'm mot a big fan of spa swinger clubs, like you the men in towels wanking away, yuk! It's worse when they follow you around like a lost lamb pitifully clutching their cock. Gross! " Totally agree, we have stopped for this reason | |||
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"There is always someone to talk to in a club. They are the friendliest places. Unfortunately, even the smallest smile at a lone single guy invariably means he'll cling to you like a limpet the whole night, so I avoid them and only talk to couples and women." And this statement, probably explains why I, having been a lone, single guy in several clubs across the NW and NE, rarely felt welcome… | |||
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"I think the OP must have had a traumatic experience. All clubs are not the same. All people who go to clubs are not the same. If you don’t like them then nobody is forcing you to go but don’t start slaughtering all clubs because of your own experiences at one or two clubs. Personally we really like them. We’ve had a short break from them but are planning a club visit next week. Even if we don’t play it’s a fun night out with like minded people where you can chat about the things that you can’t chat about with vanilla people in your local pub. " This for us. We haven't played with others at clubs for a while. Also find that the majority of guys are respectful | |||
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"There are so many different clubs with different clientele and different vibes. Even different events can make the same club feel totally different on a particular night. We don't think you can class clubs all the same. Each one is so different x" Totally agree with this 100%. That's the wonder with this lifestyle! | |||
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"Looking for normal man who doesn't go to them I suggest to make an new post . I'm looking for a man who hates swingers clubs as much as I do." You'd possibly be happier with a dating app? | |||
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"Ghosted/ignored by many whites - only POC chat with me..although i am not a shy person and very well travelled..still not much luck there, so no point wasting money when people aren’t curious about you, don’t care if you are present in the club, even people doing bartending in swingers clubs, they don’t interact much..I am a proud Indian. But have a very different experience in clubs in US - very inclusive, people would love to talk to you..whites, Latinos, blacks - even play with you because they have a huge respect for Indians there - , shame here it’s very different. " How many clubs have you been to here? I'm surprised that you've seen that it's because of your race, as I've not seen that around the north west or midlands, for example | |||
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"Ghosted/ignored by many whites - only POC chat with me..although i am not a shy person and very well travelled..still not much luck there, so no point wasting money when people aren’t curious about you, don’t care if you are present in the club, even people doing bartending in swingers clubs, they don’t interact much..I am a proud Indian. But have a very different experience in clubs in US - very inclusive, people would love to talk to you..whites, Latinos, blacks - even play with you because they have a huge respect for Indians there - , shame here it’s very different. How many clubs have you been to here? I'm surprised that you've seen that it's because of your race, as I've not seen that around the north west or midlands, for example " Been to fours club - Wirral, Derby, Leeds and NewCastle. I accepted the fact - it’s very much BBC oriented crowd here on Fab and clubs too - seen multiple women lined up to suck one black man’s cock, which is ok, so why should I waste my time, energy and money, where I cannot even get anyone who is interested in talking to Indians - deducted that Whites only like brown shade when under knife , | |||
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" Been to fours club - Wirral, Derby, Leeds and NewCastle. I accepted the fact - it’s very much BBC oriented crowd here on Fab and clubs too - seen multiple women lined up to suck one black man’s cock, which is ok, so why should I waste my time, energy and money, where I cannot even get anyone who is interested in talking to Indians - deducted that Whites only like brown shade when under knife ,"I’m glad that someone else had mentioned how the club scene seems to favour couples that seek either single bi-females or couples with that dynamic, single females tend to be more likely to be looking to meet younger single black males, with some mature women trying to change how they present themselves into a “roadman” or urban accent to try and appeal to this demographic. It’s really quite sad to see just how desperate these women are to throw themselves into being used as pawns to satisfy other people’s shallow kinks. | |||
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" Been to fours club - Wirral, Derby, Leeds and NewCastle. I accepted the fact - it’s very much BBC oriented crowd here on Fab and clubs too - seen multiple women lined up to suck one black man’s cock, which is ok, so why should I waste my time, energy and money, where I cannot even get anyone who is interested in talking to Indians - deducted that Whites only like brown shade when under knife ,
I’m glad that someone else had mentioned how the club scene seems to favour couples that seek either single bi-females or couples with that dynamic, single females tend to be more likely to be looking to meet younger single black males, with some mature women trying to change how they present themselves into a “roadman” or urban accent to try and appeal to this demographic.
It’s really quite sad to see just how desperate these women are to throw themselves into being used as pawns to satisfy other people’s shallow kinks.
"As a white guy of a similar age to you I'm disappointed to read this kind of viewpoint. Yes, there are themed nights such as BMFC. But I've been to those myself and had a blast, both as half a couple and also on my own. This myth that all club going women are predominantly interested in BBC is complete BS. Some people have preferences. Accept it. The majority of mixed nights I've seen men of all ages, all shapes and sizes and all ethnicities enjoying themselves. I've seen other men fitting all of the above not enjoying themselves too, either because they hadn't a clue how to socialise or because they just weren't what people were looking for that night. Sex in a club isn't a right. It should never be expected. Just because people are in a swingers club it doesn't guarantee they'll find someone to get physical with. Going to a club with any sense of expectation or entitlement is liable to exaggerate any sense of disappointment if nothing happens. | |||
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"Been to one once as a couple, didn’t like because of the wanking dead following us around everywhere, despite my suggesting they not bother. Once as a solo male, didn’t like it because even being known to people in there, was largely ignored when trying to strike up a conversation. Expensive night out too, and I’m too tight to spend that kinda money anymore. " "The Wanking Dead" -- gods that was funny lmao! | |||
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"Ghosted/ignored by many whites - only POC chat with me..although i am not a shy person and very well travelled..still not much luck there, so no point wasting money when people aren’t curious about you, don’t care if you are present in the club, even people doing bartending in swingers clubs, they don’t interact much..I am a proud Indian. But have a very different experience in clubs in US - very inclusive, people would love to talk to you..whites, Latinos, blacks - even play with you because they have a huge respect for Indians there - , shame here it’s very different. " Can realate that a bit but not all the time .as is couple its better and if you go with stunning partner than even indian/pakistani in demand other wise watch from side lines and relax 😂 | |||
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"I've been to many clubs in various parts of the country, most clubs are the same, I've seen the 'wanking dead' who follow couples from pillar to post, I even tried doing the same, but just couldn't do it, as a shy and respectful guy, the whole premise didn't work for me, I prefer to take my time and work up to the act, then there are guys who are too d*unk to walk in a straight line, the fights, couples arguing then leaving, the whole thing is just too much for my advancing years, for clubs the single guy is a veritable cash cow, these days I much prefer an unused home meet, true I do miss the hot tub and sauna, I could write a whole book on the things I've seen at clubs, plus the things I can't unsee. That's why I don't go, it's too commercialized....like Christmas." I agree to be honest never thought they that great when I first went I tried other clubs same | |||
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"I still go but the novelty has worn off.. I live alone so gets me out of the house on a Saturday night... everything has it's shelf life and it doesn't excite me as much lately..." yes I agree same people same conversations I never go again | |||
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" Been to fours club - Wirral, Derby, Leeds and NewCastle. I accepted the fact - it’s very much BBC oriented crowd here on Fab and clubs too - seen multiple women lined up to suck one black man’s cock, which is ok, so why should I waste my time, energy and money, where I cannot even get anyone who is interested in talking to Indians - deducted that Whites only like brown shade when under knife ,
I’m glad that someone else had mentioned how the club scene seems to favour couples that seek either single bi-females or couples with that dynamic, single females tend to be more likely to be looking to meet younger single black males, with some mature women trying to change how they present themselves into a “roadman” or urban accent to try and appeal to this demographic.
It’s really quite sad to see just how desperate these women are to throw themselves into being used as pawns to satisfy other people’s shallow kinks.
As a white guy of a similar age to you I'm disappointed to read this kind of viewpoint.
Yes, there are themed nights such as BMFC. But I've been to those myself and had a blast, both as half a couple and also on my own. This myth that all club going women are predominantly interested in BBC is complete BS. Some people have preferences. Accept it.
The majority of mixed nights I've seen men of all ages, all shapes and sizes and all ethnicities enjoying themselves. I've seen other men fitting all of the above not enjoying themselves too, either because they hadn't a clue how to socialise or because they just weren't what people were looking for that night.
Sex in a club isn't a right. It should never be expected. Just because people are in a swingers club it doesn't guarantee they'll find someone to get physical with. Going to a club with any sense of expectation or entitlement is liable to exaggerate any sense of disappointment if nothing happens. "I like white men with small cocks ginger hair blue green eyes | |||
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"I was into the club scene for a few years. I mostly attended solo and occasionally with dates. Honestly, I never had a bad time. I definitely saw people who clearly didn't have a good time (nearly always a couples argument over someone or something). Yes, I also saw guys wanking in corners and was approached by a working girl once, whilst I was with a date, so things like that definitely happen. I think all these things are part and parcel in swingers clubs though. I definitely recommend clubs, but at the same time I'd say if you're a single lady then maybe you shouldn't go to a club on a Friday night, which is usually aimed at single guys. Saturday nights are for couples and single ladies. It is what it is. " never went on Friday night | |||
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"I was into the club scene for a few years. I mostly attended solo and occasionally with dates. Honestly, I never had a bad time. I definitely saw people who clearly didn't have a good time (nearly always a couples argument over someone or something). Yes, I also saw guys wanking in corners and was approached by a working girl once, whilst I was with a date, so things like that definitely happen. I think all these things are part and parcel in swingers clubs though. I definitely recommend clubs, but at the same time I'd say if you're a single lady then maybe you shouldn't go to a club on a Friday night, which is usually aimed at single guys. Saturday nights are for couples and single ladies. It is what it is. never went on Friday night " mostly daytime but still | |||
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"Looking for normal man who doesn't go to them I suggest to make an new post . I'm looking for a man who hates swingers clubs as much as I do. You'd possibly be happier with a dating app?" the same men are on here and date apps | |||
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"There is always someone to talk to in a club. They are the friendliest places. Unfortunately, even the smallest smile at a lone single guy invariably means he'll cling to you like a limpet the whole night, so I avoid them and only talk to couples and women. And this statement, probably explains why I, having been a lone, single guy in several clubs across the NW and NE, rarely felt welcome… "me too | |||
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"I visited 8 clubs as a solo guy, to a total of 19 visits. I did enjoy two fantastic evenings, but usually felt like a gatecrasher at a party I wasn’t invited to. Clubs are for couples; leave them to it
I attended many times as a single guy and have had amazing times. Also met Cali at a club.
We would both definitely disagree that clubs are just for couples. "I hate them it's all fake I wouldn't want anyone daughter going in them they just brothels with different name same shit use men to get money I would never go to club again | |||
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"This! We were never into men anyway, but the behaviour of men in the lifestyle, especially at clubs has actively stopped us from attending clubs. It's not just being followed, it's the borderline sexual assaults, the actual sexual assaults, the lack of hygiene, inability to take hints or even blatant No. We've been to lots of clubs, lots of nights and they just don't feel safe anymore. We're yet to find a good couples and single ladies night. " I know exactly what you mean | |||
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"There is always someone to talk to in a club. They are the friendliest places. Unfortunately, even the smallest smile at a lone single guy invariably means he'll cling to you like a limpet the whole night, so I avoid them and only talk to couples and women." but not you because you will call man limp that follows you all night this is what I mean people so fake in clubs | |||
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"For all those saying clubs aren't for them....that's great. You tried it, you don't like it and that's how we all learn. This is why I am asking for people's experiences in them I got mine other people got there's Plenty of clubs don't require dressing down, so its easy to pick one where you wont be surrounded by towels. Not all clubs are full of guys wanking, even on single guy nights. Not all clubs overcharge guys either. There's no one size fits all. Clubs aren't for everyone. Equally, many prefer them to just looking to hook up online. Nobody is ever forced to go to a club. " | |||
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"Looking for normal man who doesn't go to them I suggest to make an new post . I'm looking for a man who hates swingers clubs as much as I do. You'd possibly be happier with a dating app?" .....Badoo | |||
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"We have not stopped going to clubs but we only go on couples only events.I am just looking to find nice kind respectful man on here " Think you're looking in the wrong place then tbh try a dating app not a swingers site as in between the fake profiles,pic collectors,timewasters & married guys pretending to be single, your gonna have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince lol | |||
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"They are hell holes I want real man not towel wanker " I guess you don’t like them | |||
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"In my experience swingers clubs form groups and if your not in that clique you can feel isolated CLUB F in Durham is like that , if your face fits you've cracked it if not it can be a very daunting experience , so now I only meet people in their home or at mine , plus the fees they charge single men to go to clubs us taking the piss " So you've established your own clique for those who you visit or go to yours. | |||
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"We have not stopped going to clubs but we only go on couples only events.I am just looking to find nice kind respectful man on here Think you're looking in the wrong place then tbh try a dating app not a swingers site as in between the fake profiles,pic collectors,timewasters & married guys pretending to be single, your gonna have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince lol "I don't kiss them and I only got certain type and the men on her they on date apps too I know exactly what I want | |||
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"We have not stopped going to clubs but we only go on couples only events.I am just looking to find nice kind respectful man on here Think you're looking in the wrong place then tbh try a dating app not a swingers site as in between the fake profiles,pic collectors,timewasters & married guys pretending to be single, your gonna have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince lol I don't kiss them and I only got certain type and the men on her they on date apps too I know exactly what I want "here I meant | |||
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"I visited 8 clubs as a solo guy, to a total of 19 visits. I did enjoy two fantastic evenings, but usually felt like a gatecrasher at a party I wasn’t invited to. Clubs are for couples; leave them to it
I attended many times as a single guy and have had amazing times. Also met Cali at a club.
We would both definitely disagree that clubs are just for couples. I hate them it's all fake I wouldn't want anyone daughter going in them they just brothels with different name same shit use men to get money I would never go to club again "I find that extremely offensive ! Referring to swinging clubs as brothels is inferring all women attending are being paid for services !!!! Your attitude is not only condescending but very rude and you clearly have zero knowledge or understanding of how the swinging scene works. Fabswingers is a platform for the swinging community but it appears people like yourself seem to use it as some form of dating app instead. If you don’t like swingers or people that go to swinging clubs then why are you on our swinging app ??! | |||
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"I visited 8 clubs as a solo guy, to a total of 19 visits. I did enjoy two fantastic evenings, but usually felt like a gatecrasher at a party I wasn’t invited to. Clubs are for couples; leave them to it
I attended many times as a single guy and have had amazing times. Also met Cali at a club.
We would both definitely disagree that clubs are just for couples. I hate them it's all fake I wouldn't want anyone daughter going in them they just brothels with different name same shit use men to get money I would never go to club again "absolutely rubbish. I'd actually prefer my daughters to go to a swing club than go out to a night out in a normal night club. As they would be far safer in a swing club. Where do you get this ridiculous idea that clubs are brothels...its totally in the wrong... I've been going to clubs for almost 3 decades. We go most weeks... they are a safe chilled space for us to do as little or as much as we like. Clubs obviously aren't your thing but they are 100% not how you are making them out to be. Cali | |||
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"For all those saying clubs aren't for them....that's great. You tried it, you don't like it and that's how we all learn. Plenty of clubs don't require dressing down, so its easy to pick one where you wont be surrounded by towels. Not all clubs are full of guys wanking, even on single guy nights. Not all clubs overcharge guys either. There's no one size fits all. Clubs aren't for everyone. Equally, many prefer them to just looking to hook up online. Nobody is ever forced to go to a club. " You are spot on , The main ones I’ve been to are purple mamba, the Attick , liberty elite and the big one in central Leeds can’t remember its name, they are all completely different. | |||
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"For all those saying clubs aren't for them....that's great. You tried it, you don't like it and that's how we all learn. Plenty of clubs don't require dressing down, so its easy to pick one where you wont be surrounded by towels. Not all clubs are full of guys wanking, even on single guy nights. Not all clubs overcharge guys either. There's no one size fits all. Clubs aren't for everyone. Equally, many prefer them to just looking to hook up online. Nobody is ever forced to go to a club. You are spot on , The main ones I’ve been to are purple mamba, the Attick , liberty elite and the big one in central Leeds can’t remember its name, they are all completely different." I like Purple Mamba. Libs is on my to do list. Having been to about 15 across the country they're all different. And that's why I like clubs. If they were all the same there'd be no point in visiting more than one. 🤷♂️ And I still stick by my view that's it's always more about the people there than the bricks and mortar. | |||
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"We find it a little strange in a lifestyle as this there are many who seem to seek echo chambers of their opinions! Like clubs vs don't like clubs, Bi vs not bi, kink vs kink shaming and so the list goes on! Opinions do not dictate someone's reality and neither do your personal experiences. Have a lovely weekend xx" | |||
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"Seems the OP having decided that clubs aren’t for her has now added Fab to her nope list. " Fab and Swinging in general isn't for everyone | |||
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"We stopped going but have recently started to go again but only very occasionally and even then our guard is very much "up" . We stopped because there are far too many people using their phones in clubs now so they don't feel like a safe space anymore. All you have to do is look at people's pics on here and play "guess the club". It appears that privacy and etiquette has gone right out the window since lockdown and some clubs are just turning a blind eye as they need the income in difficult times. Mr H." I'd hope that everyone would report people using phones in clubs, when against their rules | |||
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"We are also sharing our learning here - which to me is British whites absolute love of black man and ignorance/ghosting/avoidance of brown man is widely seen in the club scene. Expectation from browns to be approachable and have good communication skills, dress up nicely etc etc - whereas, other party just have to unzip without even saying a word and gets full attention. So telling everyone here that it is not a problem is like sweeping real issue of racism under the carpet. Why because I had never observed such a behaviour in any club in US, where Indians are loved by White Americans, Latinos and blacks because Indians are respected there. Here it’s very different, so stopped going to club and waste my precious three, Time, Energy and Money. " The fetishising of people based on their skin colour makes me uneasy. Just turns me off so quickly when I see people talking about BBC or BWC. | |||
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