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"Clubs are usually more busy at the weekends. Weekdays, life and work get in the way. Saying that, even with weekends, some nights will be more busy than others. Also, as a single gent, you are going to struggle to find anywhere that charges only £20. And regarding queries about clubs facilities etc - it is best to check with club in question directly, via phonecall or email. " Thanks, yes, I thought £20 was cheap but last night I paid £15, and it seems that Townhouse is £15 tonight. Years ago, I remember it being £35 or so. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"Clubs are usually more busy at the weekends. Weekdays, life and work get in the way. Saying that, even with weekends, some nights will be more busy than others. Also, as a single gent, you are going to struggle to find anywhere that charges only £20. And regarding queries about clubs facilities etc - it is best to check with club in question directly, via phonecall or email. Thanks, yes, I thought £20 was cheap but last night I paid £15, and it seems that Townhouse is £15 tonight. Years ago, I remember it being £35 or so. 🤷♂️" You have checked their website carefully, and you are aware it's BDSM event tonight there, yes? At least according to their website. That's why the price is different. | |||
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"Clubs are usually more busy at the weekends. Weekdays, life and work get in the way. Saying that, even with weekends, some nights will be more busy than others. Also, as a single gent, you are going to struggle to find anywhere that charges only £20. And regarding queries about clubs facilities etc - it is best to check with club in question directly, via phonecall or email. Thanks, yes, I thought £20 was cheap but last night I paid £15, and it seems that Townhouse is £15 tonight. Years ago, I remember it being £35 or so. 🤷♂️ You have checked their website carefully, and you are aware it's BDSM event tonight there, yes? At least according to their website. That's why the price is different. " Yeah, I read that. I'm not really into BDSM. I'm just looking for a social thing really - not that BDSMites aren't sociable. Maybe I'll Google other clubs and just see what's going on in them all. If there was somewhere that was busy and welcoming, I suppose that would be great! Although I remember their difficulties. If you're too welcoming, you'll have 5 women and 62 guys haha. Too unwelcoming and women don't bother because there won't be 10 men to choose from. 🤣 | |||
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"Clubs are usually more busy at the weekends. Weekdays, life and work get in the way. Saying that, even with weekends, some nights will be more busy than others. Also, as a single gent, you are going to struggle to find anywhere that charges only £20. And regarding queries about clubs facilities etc - it is best to check with club in question directly, via phonecall or email. Thanks, yes, I thought £20 was cheap but last night I paid £15, and it seems that Townhouse is £15 tonight. Years ago, I remember it being £35 or so. 🤷♂️" I've just seen from another post that it's Radical Desire. This is a purely BDSM night and no sexual contact / swinging is allowed on these nights. I'd definitely give it a miss if that's not what you're after xx | |||
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"Thought I'd pop on this as Townhouse is our most common club to go to. Haven't been since May though! In terms of how busy it can be, the answer is it depends on the night, some nights used to be packed there but it does seem that the place has been slowing down in terms of attendees since we started going there post COVID. Yes if you turn up as a group they will ask you to leave. I think there was a situation a few weeks ago where this happened from what I've heard. It can be cliquey as a club and there is lots of people who know each other which I suppose it can be tricky to get into as a single man. They do have a discord server for members which was useful to get up know people, not sure if it's still running. We've met some lovely friends there and had some good experiences though. The hot tub was out of action last time we went and I'm not sure if they've since replaced it or decided to get rid. It's definitely not a sauna / wet club environment and much more a lounge with a dance area and playrooms upstairs. Drinks are reasonably priced. If you're looking for a sauna type place have you looked at Sauna Sauna / Club Alchemy in Northwich? " Yes, the COVID thing is my concern. I have a feeling that it's, well... A struggling industry now. I wouldn't ever turn up as a group. It would either be me alone or me and a friend. Probably me and a friend. If that upsets people, though, that's going to be a problem. 🤷♂️🙈 I remember townhouse from years ago. I felt it was a little bit cliquey, but that wasn't a problem. I still managed to meet people, talk and the rest of it.  I'll investigate the discord thing.
It's a shame about the hot tub. They do have the pic on the website, so I assume maybe it is still there? I don't know. If it's gone though, it means we can't escape the social aspect for a bit. I like to heave breaks from talking every now and then.
"Sauna Sauna / Club Alchemy in Northwich" I'll Google it in a bit. Thanks!
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"Thought I'd pop on this as Townhouse is our most common club to go to. Haven't been since May though! In terms of how busy it can be, the answer is it depends on the night, some nights used to be packed there but it does seem that the place has been slowing down in terms of attendees since we started going there post COVID. Yes if you turn up as a group they will ask you to leave. I think there was a situation a few weeks ago where this happened from what I've heard. It can be cliquey as a club and there is lots of people who know each other which I suppose it can be tricky to get into as a single man. They do have a discord server for members which was useful to get up know people, not sure if it's still running. We've met some lovely friends there and had some good experiences though. The hot tub was out of action last time we went and I'm not sure if they've since replaced it or decided to get rid. It's definitely not a sauna / wet club environment and much more a lounge with a dance area and playrooms upstairs. Drinks are reasonably priced. If you're looking for a sauna type place have you looked at Sauna Sauna / Club Alchemy in Northwich? " I went tonight! Wow, what a great place! It was very male-heavy, but yeah! Brilliant facilities! Thanks for pointing me in the right direction. | |||
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"You're welcome, we were there too and found the heavy males off-putting but still had a good night nonetheless. If you're into a sauna style club it's probably the best option for you. " Yes, I think it's a major problem for the whole industry. I remember years ago that the ratio of male to female on this site was something near 40:1. It's pretty cruel, but it is what it is. I get the feeling that the problem is now worse. Nevermind, I've been to two clubs in two nights now. I'll probably try one more to see what happens! Failing that, there's the old "I'm looking for a relationship" trick. Lol | |||
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"Sauna sauna is more geared towards gay/bi men unless specific events are being hosted - so maybe keep an eye out for those events if you like the venue TH doesn't have the hot tub- it broke and they said it's too expensive to fix so got rid. They do have a lot of bdsm nights so make sure you go on an event that suits you. Cupids doesn't have a working hot tub anymore either but I think (personally) is the best club around Manchester for well attended events and a great mix of ppl Partners has a lovely hot tub/sauna area but ive not been so can't comment on the ppl attending Adam and eves.... I've not been so can't comment at all As for paying £20..... sure maybe on the week days but at the weekend for a single make you're more looking like £50 Perhaps our paths will cross at Cupids sometime
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"Thanks, yes... I've been asking lots of people in the two clubs over the past two nights and the majority are in agreement with you. Cupid's seems to be the best! I'm not going to pay £50 though. I can take some lady on a date for that, chat and let it build up, etc. Damn, we have a lady problem though... We need to start getting water companies to add aphrodisiacs to the water! Lol | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have alot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist" Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.  | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have alot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens. "Don't you drive? If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost alot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have alot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost alot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member"Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club. | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have alot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost alot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member"Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will... | |||
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" Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will... "So you're willing to do a 180 miles plus round trip just so you can experience a different club? Is the cost of that, and possibly an overnight stay, really worth it? It's up to you though, OP. | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have alot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost alot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club. "Yes, you're right. There's ofcourse a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further. | |||
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" Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will...
So you're willing to do a 180 miles plus round trip just so you can experience a different club? Is the cost of that, and possibly an overnight stay, really worth it? It's up to you though, OP. "No, I'm not "keen" enough to do that. It's not necessary for me to travel that far for what I need. Ultimately, the whole thing is balance I suppose. I just want 50 women to come to my house and fuss over me. Infact, they can pay me also. It's not a big ask really is it? Lol Seriously though, interesting comments. X | |||
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" Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will...
So you're willing to do a 180 miles plus round trip just so you can experience a different club? Is the cost of that, and possibly an overnight stay, really worth it? It's up to you though, OP.
No, I'm not "keen" enough to do that. It's not necessary for me to travel that far for what I need. Ultimately, the whole thing is balance I suppose.
I just want 50 women to come to my house and fuss over me. Infact, they can pay me also. It's not a big ask really is it? Lol
Seriously though, interesting comments. X"Lol, my partner wants to join you and help lol. He would love a "greedy boy" night, too | |||
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" Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will...
So you're willing to do a 180 miles plus round trip just so you can experience a different club? Is the cost of that, and possibly an overnight stay, really worth it? It's up to you though, OP.
No, I'm not "keen" enough to do that. It's not necessary for me to travel that far for what I need. Ultimately, the whole thing is balance I suppose.
I just want 50 women to come to my house and fuss over me. Infact, they can pay me also. It's not a big ask really is it? Lol
Seriously though, interesting comments. X
Lol, my partner wants to join you and help lol. He would love a "greedy boy" night, too "Haha, a greedy boy night. Jeez, imagine it. We could reward the ladies with flowers, chocolates, excessive compliments and bogus marriage proposals! Bah! Oh. Seriously though, it's just human sexuality isn't it. Women have the upper hand in this game. It's ok though, I can reach for jars on the tops of cupboards! | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further."I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club. Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first... 
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
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" Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will...
So you're willing to do a 180 miles plus round trip just so you can experience a different club? Is the cost of that, and possibly an overnight stay, really worth it? It's up to you though, OP. "I've tried a club in London (Hellfire) and I've gone to vanilla alternative twice and I don't drive so yes it's worth it just to explore. I'm also thinking about Eureka in Kent next year I once went to a kik social in Southampton, that was definitely worth while as I ended up having alot of fun all night and no sleep lol | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck "Thanks! So, it's interesting. I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss. Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't. I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy! It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years. Thanks for the info. | |||
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" Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will...
So you're willing to do a 180 miles plus round trip just so you can experience a different club? Is the cost of that, and possibly an overnight stay, really worth it? It's up to you though, OP.
I've tried a club in London (Hellfire) and I've gone to vanilla alternative twice and I don't drive so yes it's worth it just to explore. I'm also thinking about Eureka in Kent next year
I once went to a kik social in Southampton, that was definitely worth while as I ended up having alot of fun all night and no sleep lol"Haha, well there you go then. I suppose I have a lazier approach to the whole thing. Having said that, I think it's different for us men. As a woman, I think you can travel anywhere knowing that you're going to be in demand. For us, you can travel with a reasonable belief that you may not even be allowed in. If you do get in, there's a good chance you'd be ignored, etc. It's not as fun knowing that you're "nothing".
Then again, on the likes of Facebook dating it's the opposite situation. Say "I'm looking for a relationship" on that and women are all over you. 🤷♂️ | |||
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" Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will...
So you're willing to do a 180 miles plus round trip just so you can experience a different club? Is the cost of that, and possibly an overnight stay, really worth it? It's up to you though, OP.
I've tried a club in London (Hellfire) and I've gone to vanilla alternative twice and I don't drive so yes it's worth it just to explore. I'm also thinking about Eureka in Kent next year
I once went to a kik social in Southampton, that was definitely worth while as I ended up having alot of fun all night and no sleep lol
Haha, well there you go then. I suppose I have a lazier approach to the whole thing.
Having said that, I think it's different for us men. As a woman, I think you can travel anywhere knowing that you're going to be in demand. For us, you can travel with a reasonable belief that you may not even be allowed in. If you do get in, there's a good chance you'd be ignored, etc. It's not as fun knowing that you're "nothing".
Then again, on the likes of Facebook dating it's the opposite situation. Say "I'm looking for a relationship" on that and women are all over you. 🤷♂️"With swinging you can't always have the idea of guareenteed play. When I went to vanilla alternative I didn't play, it was a weird vib but I did enjoy the naked camping experience lol. Alot of the time though I tend to go to clubs more for the social side as its better than a normal night club and cheaper in some places as you can bring your own drinks. I do get it with the single guys but you've got to attend the same club a few times to get noticed or have particular features that some females are looking for. If you're someone that likes to talk like myself you'll do great in any club. It's the ones that stare at you and don't speak or follow you around and not speak that irritate me. The wanking dead are worse lol 😆 | |||
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" Yes, I drive. I suppose you're right really. I should stop being lazy and just explore. Maybe I will...
So you're willing to do a 180 miles plus round trip just so you can experience a different club? Is the cost of that, and possibly an overnight stay, really worth it? It's up to you though, OP.
I've tried a club in London (Hellfire) and I've gone to vanilla alternative twice and I don't drive so yes it's worth it just to explore. I'm also thinking about Eureka in Kent next year
I once went to a kik social in Southampton, that was definitely worth while as I ended up having alot of fun all night and no sleep lol
Haha, well there you go then. I suppose I have a lazier approach to the whole thing.
Having said that, I think it's different for us men. As a woman, I think you can travel anywhere knowing that you're going to be in demand. For us, you can travel with a reasonable belief that you may not even be allowed in. If you do get in, there's a good chance you'd be ignored, etc. It's not as fun knowing that you're "nothing".
Then again, on the likes of Facebook dating it's the opposite situation. Say "I'm looking for a relationship" on that and women are all over you. 🤷♂️
With swinging you can't always have the idea of guareenteed play. When I went to vanilla alternative I didn't play, it was a weird vib but I did enjoy the naked camping experience lol. Alot of the time though I tend to go to clubs more for the social side as its better than a normal night club and cheaper in some places as you can bring your own drinks. I do get it with the single guys but you've got to attend the same club a few times to get noticed or have particular features that some females are looking for.
If you're someone that likes to talk like myself you'll do great in any club. It's the ones that stare at you and don't speak or follow you around and not speak that irritate me. The wanking dead are worse lol 😆 "Yes, I realise that and on Thursday night, I (the male!) was the one who declined. It's complicated isn't it? Yes! I like that too. That's what I'm looking for really. Just a place where you can chat, have a few drinks, but you know that the possibility is there. I suppose it's a really difficult industry though. For men, yes I agree. I think you just have to be chatty! Maybe you're right though... Maybe it's about being regular too. I don't know. All in all, it has to be worth the travelling and money while ticking the necessary boxes. It's certainly not worth paying £50 in my opinion. I'd prefer to take some lady out for that one to one. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck
Thanks! So, it's interesting.
I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss.
Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't.
I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy!
It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years.
Thanks for the info."I've run a customer-facing, sales business for the last 25 years mate, I have no problems chatting/opening conversations with strangers. Indeed; I visited Townhouse on 2 occasions (4 in total btw), had my evening meal in the Village Hotel (where I was staying) just down the road, and got more conversations going with random strangers, than I did going to TH afterwards. Same with the time I went to Club Play, in Blackpool; I had my evening meal in the Albert and Lion on the front, which was a busy Wetherspoons, full of happy party-goers going out for the night, and I'm just a lonely guy in a bar, but not an issue making conversation with anyone in there. Fast forward to entering Club Play, and once over the threshold I'm now a 'single guy in a swinger's club', and summarily ignored/avoided in deference to the couples/regulars huddled around the bar. That visit put me off clubs for 2 years....
It is difficult though, knowing where to put yourself in a club situation, when you're by yourself, and nobody shows any interest. I hate looking like a 'creepy guy' or 'the wanking dead', and once I start feeling like a gatecrasher, I'm out of there. Nobody cares you leave early either, I have to say... | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck
Thanks! So, it's interesting.
I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss.
Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't.
I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy!
It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years.
Thanks for the info.
I've run a customer-facing, sales business for the last 25 years mate, I have no problems chatting/opening conversations with strangers. Indeed; I visited Townhouse on 2 occasions (4 in total btw), had my evening meal in the Village Hotel (where I was staying) just down the road, and got more conversations going with random strangers, than I did going to TH afterwards. Same with the time I went to Club Play, in Blackpool; I had my evening meal in the Albert and Lion on the front, which was a busy Wetherspoons, full of happy party-goers going out for the night, and I'm just a lonely guy in a bar, but not an issue making conversation with anyone in there. Fast forward to entering Club Play, and once over the threshold I'm now a 'single guy in a swinger's club', and summarily ignored/avoided in deference to the couples/regulars huddled around the bar. That visit put me off clubs for 2 years....
It is difficult though, knowing where to put yourself in a club situation, when you're by yourself, and nobody shows any interest. I hate looking like a 'creepy guy' or 'the wanking dead', and once I start feeling like a gatecrasher, I'm out of there. Nobody cares you leave early either, I have to say... "I'm surprised about the club play mention as I've been and everyone's friendly and interacts with others and I've been on busy event nights and quieter nights and I'm not a local and seen plenty of single guys getting involved. Might have been a 1 off bad night. As mentioned sometimes you need to go a couple of times or say hi to people. If you're going with the expectations of sex you're going to be let down. Go with the expectations of having a good night without the thought of sex and you might get lucky After 2 years alot of things have changed. Covid put alot of people off from clubs but it seems to be picking back up again. Give it another try | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck
Thanks! So, it's interesting.
I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss.
Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't.
I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy!
It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years.
Thanks for the info.
I've run a customer-facing, sales business for the last 25 years mate, I have no problems chatting/opening conversations with strangers. Indeed; I visited Townhouse on 2 occasions (4 in total btw), had my evening meal in the Village Hotel (where I was staying) just down the road, and got more conversations going with random strangers, than I did going to TH afterwards. Same with the time I went to Club Play, in Blackpool; I had my evening meal in the Albert and Lion on the front, which was a busy Wetherspoons, full of happy party-goers going out for the night, and I'm just a lonely guy in a bar, but not an issue making conversation with anyone in there. Fast forward to entering Club Play, and once over the threshold I'm now a 'single guy in a swinger's club', and summarily ignored/avoided in deference to the couples/regulars huddled around the bar. That visit put me off clubs for 2 years....
It is difficult though, knowing where to put yourself in a club situation, when you're by yourself, and nobody shows any interest. I hate looking like a 'creepy guy' or 'the wanking dead', and once I start feeling like a gatecrasher, I'm out of there. Nobody cares you leave early either, I have to say... "As a single guy who has been swinging for around 20 years, I have to agree that its become harder for us to have social interaction in clubs over the last 10 years. It may be due to the increase in numbers of single men going to clubs (especially those who join the Wanking Dead). But there are clubs out there, were you can talk to people and make friends; Jaydees is the friendliest club I have been too (and I have been to a lot), and AbFab/Kestrels was friendly too. | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck
Thanks! So, it's interesting.
I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss.
Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't.
I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy!
It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years.
Thanks for the info.
I've run a customer-facing, sales business for the last 25 years mate, I have no problems chatting/opening conversations with strangers. Indeed; I visited Townhouse on 2 occasions (4 in total btw), had my evening meal in the Village Hotel (where I was staying) just down the road, and got more conversations going with random strangers, than I did going to TH afterwards. Same with the time I went to Club Play, in Blackpool; I had my evening meal in the Albert and Lion on the front, which was a busy Wetherspoons, full of happy party-goers going out for the night, and I'm just a lonely guy in a bar, but not an issue making conversation with anyone in there. Fast forward to entering Club Play, and once over the threshold I'm now a 'single guy in a swinger's club', and summarily ignored/avoided in deference to the couples/regulars huddled around the bar. That visit put me off clubs for 2 years....
It is difficult though, knowing where to put yourself in a club situation, when you're by yourself, and nobody shows any interest. I hate looking like a 'creepy guy' or 'the wanking dead', and once I start feeling like a gatecrasher, I'm out of there. Nobody cares you leave early either, I have to say... "Yes, I completely understand what you mean! I have experienced a similar thing. Yes, I absolutely understand. I had the same thing last night on some occasions. Trying to keep myself entertained alone without coming across as creepy. At one point, I was in the hot tub and a couple came in. It was really awkward because they didn't want to talk. You don't want to look at her so that it makes you look weird, but at the same time, you don't want to be looking down for 10 minutes! You know that they were thinking "Oh ffs, another guy...". I suppose it's a really complicated industry. Ultimately, in my opinion, it's simply down to a lack of sexual women, and I think that's down to human sexuality. What can you do though? There's not a lot you can do to make it a level playing field. I think they charge men extra to deincentivise them, but then surely, if some guy is willing to pay £50 for a chance, does that say something about his ability to get it elsewhere? Maybe it does, or maybe not. I don't know. As for women, what the hell can you do? Here love, here's £50 for your troubles... Obviously then it becomes veiled prostitution. The industry must be a nightmare for the business owners. | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck
Thanks! So, it's interesting.
I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss.
Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't.
I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy!
It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years.
Thanks for the info.
I've run a customer-facing, sales business for the last 25 years mate, I have no problems chatting/opening conversations with strangers. Indeed; I visited Townhouse on 2 occasions (4 in total btw), had my evening meal in the Village Hotel (where I was staying) just down the road, and got more conversations going with random strangers, than I did going to TH afterwards. Same with the time I went to Club Play, in Blackpool; I had my evening meal in the Albert and Lion on the front, which was a busy Wetherspoons, full of happy party-goers going out for the night, and I'm just a lonely guy in a bar, but not an issue making conversation with anyone in there. Fast forward to entering Club Play, and once over the threshold I'm now a 'single guy in a swinger's club', and summarily ignored/avoided in deference to the couples/regulars huddled around the bar. That visit put me off clubs for 2 years....
It is difficult though, knowing where to put yourself in a club situation, when you're by yourself, and nobody shows any interest. I hate looking like a 'creepy guy' or 'the wanking dead', and once I start feeling like a gatecrasher, I'm out of there. Nobody cares you leave early either, I have to say...
I'm surprised about the club play mention as I've been and everyone's friendly and interacts with others and I've been on busy event nights and quieter nights and I'm not a local and seen plenty of single guys getting involved. Might have been a 1 off bad night. As mentioned sometimes you need to go a couple of times or say hi to people. If you're going with the expectations of sex you're going to be let down. Go with the expectations of having a good night without the thought of sex and you might get lucky
After 2 years a lot of things have changed. Covid put a lot of people off from clubs but it seems to be picking back up again. Give it another try"Club Play remains my worst ever clubs experience, and literally did put me off visiting others for the best part of 2 years. I have been back to Club f in Durham since though (my 6th time there), and also I had a look at Shhh in Newcastle, who I have to say, rank as the most friendly and welcoming I've ever experienced. Every member of staff on the night made the effort to speak to me, and showed an interest in this new face, by himself. That was a good feeling  | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck
Thanks! So, it's interesting.
I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss.
Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't.
I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy!
It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years.
Thanks for the info.
I've run a customer-facing, sales business for the last 25 years mate, I have no problems chatting/opening conversations with strangers. Indeed; I visited Townhouse on 2 occasions (4 in total btw), had my evening meal in the Village Hotel (where I was staying) just down the road, and got more conversations going with random strangers, than I did going to TH afterwards. Same with the time I went to Club Play, in Blackpool; I had my evening meal in the Albert and Lion on the front, which was a busy Wetherspoons, full of happy party-goers going out for the night, and I'm just a lonely guy in a bar, but not an issue making conversation with anyone in there. Fast forward to entering Club Play, and once over the threshold I'm now a 'single guy in a swinger's club', and summarily ignored/avoided in deference to the couples/regulars huddled around the bar. That visit put me off clubs for 2 years....
It is difficult though, knowing where to put yourself in a club situation, when you're by yourself, and nobody shows any interest. I hate looking like a 'creepy guy' or 'the wanking dead', and once I start feeling like a gatecrasher, I'm out of there. Nobody cares you leave early either, I have to say...
As a single guy who has been swinging for around 20 years, I have to agree that its become harder for us to have social interaction in clubs over the last 10 years. It may be due to the increase in numbers of single men going to clubs (especially those who join the Wanking Dead).
But there are clubs out there, were you can talk to people and make friends; Jaydees is the friendliest club I have been too (and I have been to a lot), and AbFab/Kestrels was friendly too.
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" I'm surprised about the club play mention as I've been and everyone's friendly and interacts with others and I've been on busy event nights and quieter nights and I'm not a local and seen plenty of single guys getting involved. Might have been a 1 off bad night. As mentioned sometimes you need to go a couple of times or say hi to people. If you're going with the expectations of sex you're going to be let down. Go with the expectations of having a good night without the thought of sex and you might get lucky After 2 years a lot of things have changed. Covid put a lot of people off from clubs but it seems to be picking back up again. Give it another try" Two points to note; I've never had any expectations for any of the club visits I've done, and that's a total of 19 visits spread over 8 clubs in the NW and NE. I've just taken the mentality of rock up, see what the vibe is for the night, and go with the flow! At the very least, a new veri or two on my profile
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" All in all, it has to be worth the travelling and money while ticking the necessary boxes. It's certainly not worth paying £50 in my opinion. I'd prefer to take some lady out for that one to one. 🤷♂️ Absolutely this mate! I've 'pulled' in Vanillaland three times just recently; on a cruise ship, at a gig, and on a 22 minute train journey home from a night out Just little old me, no different from the guy who was routinely blanked in swinger clubs....
Lidl is good too. Bah! "We don't have a Lidl in Penrith, so I'm back to traveling again.... | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck
Thanks! So, it's interesting.
I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss.
Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't.
I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy!
It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years.
Thanks for the info.
I've run a customer-facing, sales business for the last 25 years mate, I have no problems chatting/opening conversations with strangers. Indeed; I visited Townhouse on 2 occasions (4 in total btw), had my evening meal in the Village Hotel (where I was staying) just down the road, and got more conversations going with random strangers, than I did going to TH afterwards. Same with the time I went to Club Play, in Blackpool; I had my evening meal in the Albert and Lion on the front, which was a busy Wetherspoons, full of happy party-goers going out for the night, and I'm just a lonely guy in a bar, but not an issue making conversation with anyone in there. Fast forward to entering Club Play, and once over the threshold I'm now a 'single guy in a swinger's club', and summarily ignored/avoided in deference to the couples/regulars huddled around the bar. That visit put me off clubs for 2 years....
It is difficult though, knowing where to put yourself in a club situation, when you're by yourself, and nobody shows any interest. I hate looking like a 'creepy guy' or 'the wanking dead', and once I start feeling like a gatecrasher, I'm out of there. Nobody cares you leave early either, I have to say...
As a single guy who has been swinging for around 20 years, I have to agree that its become harder for us to have social interaction in clubs over the last 10 years. It may be due to the increase in numbers of single men going to clubs (especially those who join the Wanking Dead).
But there are clubs out there, were you can talk to people and make friends; Jaydees is the friendliest club I have been too (and I have been to a lot), and AbFab/Kestrels was friendly too.
Yes, this is what I'm thinking. I've made mental note of those names. Thanks! 🫢"Jaydees is currently being refurbished, but its worth a visit, especially in the summer as it has a great outdoor area (its in the countryside). AbFab is great as its in London and being opposite Heathrow has loads of hotels very close by. Townhouse used to be great, but its not as welcoming as it once was | |||
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" I'm surprised about the club play mention as I've been and everyone's friendly and interacts with others and I've been on busy event nights and quieter nights and I'm not a local and seen plenty of single guys getting involved. Might have been a 1 off bad night. As mentioned sometimes you need to go a couple of times or say hi to people. If you're going with the expectations of sex you're going to be let down. Go with the expectations of having a good night without the thought of sex and you might get lucky After 2 years a lot of things have changed. Covid put a lot of people off from clubs but it seems to be picking back up again. Give it another try Two points to note; I've never had any expectations for any of the club visits I've done, and that's a total of 19 visits spread over 8 clubs in the NW and NE. I've just taken the mentality of rock up, see what the vibe is for the night, and go with the flow! At the very least, a new veri or two on my profile
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If you went to a recommended restaurant, and had a disappointing meal with poor service, would you return another time?"I agree with you. I have the same approach. I know what you're saying. I also have no expectations. Well, I want the sauna to work. Haha! Lidl, yes... Good old Lidl. Haha! | |||
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"If you don't mind travelling abit further out there Quest. Most nights you need to have a membership but Tuesday (it's bi day) is non members but not sure on door prices for single guys and yes you can bring a friend. They do non members events if your name is on the guestlist, they also have a Greedy girls event once a month, 2nd Thursday where you can just turn up and it's non members Quest is a friendly club, some people say it's cliquey but it's not if people actually talk to people and make the effort. I'll talk to anyone, that's why I have a lot of verifies as I will talk to anyone Other clubs that are non members are club play in Blackpool but you need to put your name on the guestlist Wheeew! That's 90 miles away from me. Yes, cliquey clubs aren't really a big problem for me. I can talk/laugh with anyone. I'll try another local-ish one and see what happens.
Don't you drive?
If I drove they'd be no stopping me to where I'd go but I have to take public transport which cost a lot but it's worth it. I travel all over, I've been to loads of clubs over the years. Don't let mileage put you off, sometimes further away can be a better option. I know people that travel from Newcastle to go to the Sunday all day and night session at Quest but that day you'd have to be a member
Not everyone wants to drive for miles and miles on end to get to a club.
Yes, you're right. There's of course a trade-off. How much do I want to do something/go somewhere. Generally, I feel as though a 30 min drive should be sufficient. That probably is a bit lazy though! Maybe I should travel further.
I've been to several clubs over the years mate (8 in total), and living in Cumbria, it's at least 1 1/2 hours drive in any direction for me to visit any club.
Going in as a single guy to any club makes no difference, the next club I am welcomed with "Fantastic! Another single guy!" will definitely be the first...
All clubs are essentially the same, what makes the experience enjoyable/rewarding is WHO you meet inside.
All clubs have their EGOF's (Established Groups Of Friends, they don't like the term cliques), and it's very easy to feel unwanted as you wander around by yourself, as the majority in there will have already pre-arranged their meets in advance....
Take advice from someone who failed on the club scene; never visit a club solo, unless you have a meet lined up inside. Good luck
Thanks! So, it's interesting.
I'd say I've visited clubs 5 or 6 times in total. I can't say that I was unlucky any of those times. Each time, I got some sort of female attention in one way or another, to various extents, so it's not a total loss.
Yes, I know what you mean. We simply aren't in demand by default. The ratios are massively in favour of women, and they know it. I've noticed though that in these places, if you're chatty, you're already one step ahead of the guys who aren't.
I've also done the wandering around alone stuff, and it makes you look creepy. I was bored last night at a few points throughout the night, but made sure that I didn't do anything that could be perceived as creepy!
It's interesting to do all this again after 5 years.
Thanks for the info.
I've run a customer-facing, sales business for the last 25 years mate, I have no problems chatting/opening conversations with strangers. Indeed; I visited Townhouse on 2 occasions (4 in total btw), had my evening meal in the Village Hotel (where I was staying) just down the road, and got more conversations going with random strangers, than I did going to TH afterwards. Same with the time I went to Club Play, in Blackpool; I had my evening meal in the Albert and Lion on the front, which was a busy Wetherspoons, full of happy party-goers going out for the night, and I'm just a lonely guy in a bar, but not an issue making conversation with anyone in there. Fast forward to entering Club Play, and once over the threshold I'm now a 'single guy in a swinger's club', and summarily ignored/avoided in deference to the couples/regulars huddled around the bar. That visit put me off clubs for 2 years....
It is difficult though, knowing where to put yourself in a club situation, when you're by yourself, and nobody shows any interest. I hate looking like a 'creepy guy' or 'the wanking dead', and once I start feeling like a gatecrasher, I'm out of there. Nobody cares you leave early either, I have to say...
As a single guy who has been swinging for around 20 years, I have to agree that its become harder for us to have social interaction in clubs over the last 10 years. It may be due to the increase in numbers of single men going to clubs (especially those who join the Wanking Dead).
But there are clubs out there, were you can talk to people and make friends; Jaydees is the friendliest club I have been too (and I have been to a lot), and AbFab/Kestrels was friendly too.
Yes, this is what I'm thinking. I've made mental note of those names. Thanks! 🫢
Jaydees is currently being refurbished, but its worth a visit, especially in the summer as it has a great outdoor area (its in the countryside). AbFab is great as its in London and being opposite Heathrow has loads of hotels very close by.
Townhouse used to be great, but its not as welcoming as it once was"London is 200 miles away from me! Townhouse. That's a shame. I'll probably go to try it anyway to be sure, not tonight because there's a female only even on I think. 🙂 | |||
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"Hey, Have a look into the annex, kings lynn.. worth the travel, so friendly and welcoming! We host events there, happy for u to check our veri and have a look on the website x "Ewwwwooooo! It's a 4hr drive away! 🙈🙈🙈 | |||
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"Hey, Have a look into the annex, kings lynn.. worth the travel, so friendly and welcoming! We host events there, happy for u to check our veri and have a look on the website x
Ewwwwooooo! It's a 4hr drive away! 🙈🙈🙈"But you drive! Lol. Stop being so lazy, what's wrong with driving for hours on time just so you can, possibly, get your leg over?
I think some people on here, particularly club hosts, need to get a bit more realistic. However, saying that, I often try and include a visit to a club when me and my partner are on holidays/weekend breaks. Also, there are two clubs in UK my FWB does not mind driving to and from in one day - one is roughly an hour away, the other- almost 2h, baring any issues on the motorways. | |||
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"Hey, Have a look into the annex, kings lynn.. worth the travel, so friendly and welcoming! We host events there, happy for u to check our veri and have a look on the website x
Ewwwwooooo! It's a 4hr drive away! 🙈🙈🙈
But you drive! Lol. Stop being so lazy, what's wrong with driving for hours on time just so you can, possibly, get your leg over?
I think some people on here, particularly club hosts, need to get a bit more realistic. However, saying that, I often try and include a visit to a club when me and my partner are on holidays/weekend breaks. Also, there are two clubs in UK my FWB does not mind driving to and from in one day - one is roughly an hour away, the other- almost 2h, baring any issues on the motorways. "Pmsl!
Amazingly; every club host will insist their club is the most friendly and welcoming, but rarely have I experienced anything more than "Single guy? Thanks for your money, it's through there...." | |||
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"Hey, Have a look into the annex, kings lynn.. worth the travel, so friendly and welcoming! We host events there, happy for u to check our veri and have a look on the website x
Ewwwwooooo! It's a 4hr drive away! 🙈🙈🙈
But you drive! Lol. Stop being so lazy, what's wrong with driving for hours on time just so you can, possibly, get your leg over?
I think some people on here, particularly club hosts, need to get a bit more realistic. However, saying that, I often try and include a visit to a club when me and my partner are on holidays/weekend breaks. Also, there are two clubs in UK my FWB does not mind driving to and from in one day - one is roughly an hour away, the other- almost 2h, baring any issues on the motorways. "Haha! I suppose it's ok if you're going that way... Yes, I don't mind an hour away, we'll, I do sort of. Haha! I'd prefer 30 mins, but whatever. I'll just have to drive. 🤣 | |||
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"Hey, Have a look into the annex, kings lynn.. worth the travel, so friendly and welcoming! We host events there, happy for u to check our veri and have a look on the website x
Ewwwwooooo! It's a 4hr drive away! 🙈🙈🙈
But you drive! Lol. Stop being so lazy, what's wrong with driving for hours on time just so you can, possibly, get your leg over?
I think some people on here, particularly club hosts, need to get a bit more realistic. However, saying that, I often try and include a visit to a club when me and my partner are on holidays/weekend breaks. Also, there are two clubs in UK my FWB does not mind driving to and from in one day - one is roughly an hour away, the other- almost 2h, baring any issues on the motorways.
Pmsl!
Amazingly; every club host will insist their club is the most friendly and welcoming, but rarely have I experienced anything more than "Single guy? Thanks for your money, it's through there...." "Haha, yes. Ahhh, I don't know. We need to issue the root cause. The massive difference in human sexuality between the sexes here. Can't we import a few thousand sexual women to the UK from Brazil or something to help balance us out? Surely the UK government should fund this. | |||
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"Hey, Have a look into the annex, kings lynn.. worth the travel, so friendly and welcoming! We host events there, happy for u to check our veri and have a look on the website x
Ewwwwooooo! It's a 4hr drive away! 🙈🙈🙈
But you drive! Lol. Stop being so lazy, what's wrong with driving for hours on time just so you can, possibly, get your leg over?
I think some people on here, particularly club hosts, need to get a bit more realistic. However, saying that, I often try and include a visit to a club when me and my partner are on holidays/weekend breaks. Also, there are two clubs in UK my FWB does not mind driving to and from in one day - one is roughly an hour away, the other- almost 2h, baring any issues on the motorways.
Pmsl!
Amazingly; every club host will insist their club is the most friendly and welcoming, but rarely have I experienced anything more than "Single guy? Thanks for your money, it's through there...."
Haha, yes. Ahhh, I don't know. We need to issue the root cause. The massive difference in human sexuality between the sexes here.
Can't we import a few thousand sexual women to the UK from Brazil or something to help balance us out? Surely the UK government should fund this. "Just make sure they are definitely women! I've heard that a lot of Thai/Phillipino/Brazilian "lady boys" (ok, ok, don't chew my head off, "TVs") can be extremely convincing. | |||
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"Hey, Have a look into the annex, kings lynn.. worth the travel, so friendly and welcoming! We host events there, happy for u to check our veri and have a look on the website x
Ewwwwooooo! It's a 4hr drive away! 🙈🙈🙈
But you drive! Lol. Stop being so lazy, what's wrong with driving for hours on time just so you can, possibly, get your leg over?
I think some people on here, particularly club hosts, need to get a bit more realistic. However, saying that, I often try and include a visit to a club when me and my partner are on holidays/weekend breaks. Also, there are two clubs in UK my FWB does not mind driving to and from in one day - one is roughly an hour away, the other- almost 2h, baring any issues on the motorways.
Pmsl!
Amazingly; every club host will insist their club is the most friendly and welcoming, but rarely have I experienced anything more than "Single guy? Thanks for your money, it's through there...."
Haha, yes. Ahhh, I don't know. We need to issue the root cause. The massive difference in human sexuality between the sexes here.
Can't we import a few thousand sexual women to the UK from Brazil or something to help balance us out? Surely the UK government should fund this.
Just make sure they are definitely women! I've heard that a lot of Thai/Phillipino/Brazilian "lady boys" (ok, ok, don't chew my head off, "TVs") can be extremely convincing."Haha, yes, that's a genuine concern but we can process them. I've got a few ideas. First though, we need to pull out of ECHR. 🤣 Have you been to Benidorm. I'm not joking, I was genuinely shocked. How can a man look so incredible?!? Me and my testicles genuinely had no idea what was going on in that place. The only telltale sign was the voice, but then you're thinking "Is she a woman who smokes an awful lot?!?" I don't know. I steered clear to be sure, but fair play to those ladies/gentlemen/people... | |||
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