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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi,

A little heads up/tips if you will.....

Myself and a male friend are going to a club Saturday evening, I have never been and am understandably a little nervous aswell as excited, he has been quite a few times before.

Any/all advice greatfully received. xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

take your time to sitback and take it all in.

talk about what you want to do there and if you will stick together or split up etc, make sure you are both on the same page before you go.

remember, no is no, even if your mate wants to say yes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes we have decided to stick together....this time.

Perhaps a silly.question but what do you go dressed in? x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Yes we have decided to stick together....this time.

Perhaps a silly.question but what do you go dressed in? x"

what club are you going to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Partners x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

never been there before but it looks good!!!

i've only been to clubs where you wear underwear or a towel (or noting lol). i'd have no clue what to wear in the smart/casual area.

not muc help, sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No worries....thanks anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try looking on their website

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"You could try looking on their website

X "

tey dont have picsof people in te smart/casual bit, just the bdsm bits

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I haven't been to Partners but I always wear what I feel comfortable wearing. The first time I went to a club I didn't know what to expect. I wore a very low cut dress and no knickers. It worked - I was comfortable and, it turns out, sexy that night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the insight ladies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always follow the mantra it's better to leave feeling like you didn't do enough than feeling like you've done too much.

That way you're hungry for more and have stayed a safe distance away from any boundaries you may have.

crystal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True enough Crystal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can wear your normal day to day clothes to turn up no trainers tho or tracksuits then wen you feel comfortable you can go and get changed into a sexy outfit or sexy nightie that is what i have found when visting clubs hope this has help remember stay safe play safe

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I ve only been the once, from memory the bar / lounge area you can wear normal attire, if you go to the other areas ladies wear lingerie or other sexy outfit guys are generally in towels,

Have fun,,

let the staff know its your first time they ll give you a tour and make you feel really welcome,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont be intimidated by groups of people, I've seen a lot of reviews where people complain that clubs are cliquey. It's just a case of them going before and knowing each other.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Wear whatever makes you feel good about yourself - I've seen women in jeans and a jumper talking to someone wearing just a few strokes of liquid latex!

And talk to people. If you don't know what to say then explain its your first time - not everyone knows each other, they just know that people are appreciable.

And if anyone invites you and its a no then simply say no thanks - noone will be offended.

Good luck.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Approachable not apprechiable!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Approachable not apprechiable!

Ideally they'd be both.

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

Hi Debbie,

I haven't been to Partners for quite a few years so some of this advice is general so to speak.

Partners does have a fabulous spa area though, so once the night gets going most people strip to a towel/shorts for the guy and lingerie/nightie and a towel for the ladies.

While the club will definately have towels available, sometimes you can feel more comfortable taking your own large towel too to wrap round you, so keep that in mind too.

The social area will range from from normal wear to various sexy and revealing outfits. Think of a club this way, you can dress as sexy as you dare and no one will be offended should the outfit you choose reveal a lot more than it might do in a normal club...

As for what to get out of the night, as previously stated by others, as your going as a couple agree beforehand what your limits are, and if they are going to change on the night work out how your going to let each other know. Many first timers to a club find it intimidating at first, but once inside the nervousness can become quite an aphrodysiac. Perhaps have a couple of drinks to settle the nerves but not too many so as not to enjoy yourself. And remember you don't have to do anything at all in the club, conversely you can expand your horizons and live out fantasies that you've only dreamt of so far.

Crystals advice is good too, I'd put it this way you don't have to eat the whole menu on the first visit, perhaps sample a couple of dishes and if you enjoy you can try something a tad more adventurous on your next visit to that or another club.

Best of luck

Mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No worries....thanks anyway x"

I wear a simple black dress when I go if that helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all so much for the information, very helpful indeed! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Partners x"

Partners bar area is normal clean dress for the guys sexy for ladies (if brave)..wet areas and rooms it's towels for guys and sexy dress for ladies.. no heels on beds

and yes the towels and padlock you get when you pay at entrance..tell the bloke at door that you are new and he will either have someone from upstairs show you around or do it himself if it is Clive... give him a hello from couple number 5

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Will do, thanks x

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