"Thanks also do people just meet the same people? Do newbies get a chance to play?"
Having looked at your profile BeaverFever, and bearing in mind your location, I'd answer along these lines.
First re drinking at clubs, every club that I have been too in the North West and West Midlands is bring your own bottle, with the sole exception of Xtasia in West Brom which has a fully licenced bar. As a rule of thumb, most ladies at a club have a couple of glasses of wine, maybe more as the evening progresses to settle tyhe nerves and to relax any inhibitions they may have, most guys tend to be the drivers so they perhaps have one or two over the course of the night. However, it's rare to see anyone in a swinger club d*unk, though I have on occasion seen the odd person having had perhaps one too many. Overall most people know how much they need/wish to drink in order for them to have a good time at a club.
Secondly, making friends and fitting in at clubs. As with any new place that someone visits, it's partly down to you as a person and as a couple. If you stand/sit where other people are and join in with converstaions etc., you'll find fitting in much easier as opposed to sitting in the corner of a room hiding away a little and watching whats going on. Some clubs do feel a bit clicky at times, but that wouldn't mean you can't strike up a conversation with someone, and heck if your struggling chat as a couple to a single guy, he'll definately want to chat back in the hope that you'll want to take things further, but even if you don't it would certainly act as an ice breaker and help you to fit in. Many couples will want to chat to new people in any event, partly to get to know whom you are and where you might fit it, so to speak. On a personal basis, I have found Adam & Eves to be a very friendly club, though sometimes top heavy with single guys, Townhouse where I went as a couple was also very welcoming and easy to get on with people there, Atlantis Evolution where as a single guy I felt I had to work a bit harder to strike up a conversation but again a friendly place and Xtasia though as there are often a lot of people there it can be difficult to get to break the ice unless your particularly gregarious yourself.
You also mentioned you like dancing in your profile, dealing specifically with NW England and West Midlands, I'd personally say that Atlantis in Stoke which has a bit of a reputation on Saturday nights as to being a dance club and Xtasia in West Brom which has a large dance floor and often has various mixes of people strutting their stuff on a Friday/Saturday night might be attractive to you.
Final thought, if you check out Xtasia on 5th May, they have a Free Fab party which looks like its attracting a lot of people judging by the guest list and I think you might find that specific event a good ice breaker into the world of clubs....
Hope that helps
Mark |
