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Silverleigh. Getting over the first hurdle.

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By *omAnne OP   Couple
14 weeks ago

London

As a couple, we don’t really like approaching single men for play and prefer them to approach us.

If we go to Silverleigh, as a couple, we know everyone is very friendly. That’s a bit of a problem if we are looking to play.

This may sound naive but how do we know men are interested in joining us in a non-verbal manner and what signals can we put out, again non- verbally, to show we are interested?

Most of the people like a chat but how do we hint we might like to go a bit further?

Can any of the men out there give us some advice please (not offers).

Thanks.

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By *i015Man
14 weeks ago

Millbrook, Southampton


"As a couple, we don’t really like approaching single men for play and prefer them to approach us.

If we go to Silverleigh, as a couple, we know everyone is very friendly. That’s a bit of a problem if we are looking to play.

This may sound naive but how do we know men are interested in joining us in a non-verbal manner and what signals can we put out, again non- verbally, to show we are interested?

Most of the people like a chat but how do we hint we might like to go a bit further?

Can any of the men out there give us some advice please (not offers).

Thanks."

Just chat with them, find out what they like and if you share any interest or kinks, drop hints of what you want to do or try, if their interested in the same things as you then they will probably ask if you want to try those interests with them.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
14 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

The reality is that 99% of guys who chat with you in a club for more than 2 minutes will be interested.

So just ask them.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
14 weeks ago

Leeds

I am puzzled why you want communication to be non verbal

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
14 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


"I am puzzled why you want communication to be non verbal"

Presumably a combination of shyness and embarrassment. Most of us were like that once...

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By *aveonMan
14 weeks ago

Dartford

Most men chatting would be interested - when are you there next time?

Look at their body signs, are they playing with themselves in front of you, just a little touch of themselves, would be a sign. If you then do the same that is quite a sure sign to him

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
14 weeks ago

Coventry

Yes Siverleigh is difficult because we all know its a naturist spa with an identity problem. Most are there to swing but also the opportunity of dropping a clanger with someone just being freindly in what is officially a naturist spa.

I would say don't over think. If you think you're picking up a vibe chances are you are. Ask politely and respectfully in clear terms. That way there can be no misunderstanding or confusion, rather than hoping someone reads your signs and non verbal efforts wrong. If by the off chance you read it wrong you'll be fine anyway. Any vanilla naturist who choses to go there regularly know the place and won't be offended. Most likely a no thanks. And you won't get in trouble with the venue for a polite and respectful proposal if you get it wrong. They know its a swingers spot, they tell you where you can and can't have sex on the tour and they'd have to chuck out 80% of their clientele for being swingers.

And from my experience of the place with My Girl the guys after testing the water a little first generally are pretty forthcoming (sadly for them we were just there for the naturism )

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
14 weeks ago

kent


"Most men chatting would be interested - when are you there next time?

Look at their body signs, are they playing with themselves in front of you, just a little touch of themselves, would be a sign. If you then do the same that is quite a sure sign to him "

If a guy played with himself in front of us during conversation it would be an absolute no for us. But I guess we are all different.

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By *23bbcMan
14 weeks ago

Romford

MY advice would be to put a meet up on Fab on when you are going to Silverleigh chat with the guys you are interested in and then play there. I have been at Silverleigh and it seems very social compared to other places so this maybe the best way forward!

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By *maginitivemindMan
14 weeks ago

east mids

Ask them if they have a profile on Fabswingers. Or say you saw someone that looks like them on the site

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By *ifestyle1Man
14 weeks ago

me171

I don't most of times what to say. But good place to relaxing and friendly.

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By *yphodMan
13 weeks ago

London

Ask if they are on fabs.

Then a quick, we're off to the steam room or rest room. Fancy joining us?

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By *ssexcouple99Couple
13 weeks ago

brentwood

We usualy just go to one of the playrooms & close the door. If & when Mandy wants to we open the door someone always comes past then is you want them to watch or join in you can

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
13 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

The first time I went to Silverleigh on my own a guy asked me 'Are you just here for the social aspect?' I thought it was a nice way to find out if I was interested in playing or not.

If we are chatting with somebody we'd like to play with we will say 'We're going to find a room, would you like to join us?'

Good luck.

Ms x

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Leave the playroom door slightly open...

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By *omAnne OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

London


"Ask if they are on fabs.

Then a quick, we're off to the steam room or rest room. Fancy joining us?

"

Can you play in the steam room.

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By *omAnne OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

London


"We usualy just go to one of the playrooms & close the door. If & when Mandy wants to we open the door someone always comes past then is you want them to watch or join in you can"

Good idea

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By *omAnne OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

London


"Yes Siverleigh is difficult because we all know its a naturist spa with an identity problem. Most are there to swing but also the opportunity of dropping a clanger with someone just being freindly in what is officially a naturist spa.

I would say don't over think. If you think you're picking up a vibe chances are you are. Ask politely and respectfully in clear terms. That way there can be no misunderstanding or confusion, rather than hoping someone reads your signs and non verbal efforts wrong. If by the off chance you read it wrong you'll be fine anyway. Any vanilla naturist who choses to go there regularly know the place and won't be offended. Most likely a no thanks. And you won't get in trouble with the venue for a polite and respectful proposal if you get it wrong. They know its a swingers spot, they tell you where you can and can't have sex on the tour and they'd have to chuck out 80% of their clientele for being swingers.

And from my experience of the place with My Girl the guys after testing the water a little first generally are pretty forthcoming (sadly for them we were just there for the naturism )"

We are still not sure where you can have sex in there. Can someone tell us? We know there are two playrooms. Is that it?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn

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By *omAnne OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

London


"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn "

You can have sex in the TV room?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn

You can have sex in the TV room?"

Yes. Like the two smaller rooms, you can have sex there. All three are lockable, although in my experience the TV room seems popular for open play (although not always).

Play only really happens in those rooms, elsewhere it’s officially naturist x

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By *aytime DoggerMan
13 weeks ago

Here,there&everywhere


"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn "

It hasn’t shown porn for a couple of years now.

You have to make do with Homes Under The Hammer to get you in the mood!

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By *aughty-oneMan
13 weeks ago

Hadham.


"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn

It hasn’t shown porn for a couple of years now.

You have to make do with Homes Under The Hammer to get you in the mood! "

It’s probably the only thing that goes under the hammer in that downmarket dive of a place.

Silverleigh is not exactly a place that anyone could claim as classy.

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By *ovemenotWoman
13 weeks ago

yeovil

100% what she said . As a single girl I went 2x to clubs and never got up the guts to ask anyone to play,

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
13 weeks ago

kent


"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn

It hasn’t shown porn for a couple of years now.

You have to make do with Homes Under The Hammer to get you in the mood!

It’s probably the only thing that goes under the hammer in that downmarket dive of a place.

Silverleigh is not exactly a place that anyone could claim as classy."

You’re entitled to your opinion, however I’m sure many would think your comment is rather harsh.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

If you want to arrange a day when I can meet you both there we can chat and then play. Trust me it’ll be my pleasure xx

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

It may not be “particularly classy” but it’s a nice play to stay and relax for a day or night , for a single man you can stay midweek for about £75 and use facilities from midday and leave at midday the next day , perfect for sunbathing, friendly people, nice pool, I would imagine a classy place with spa facilities would cost a lot more and you can’t get your kit off, It may be a little bit dated, but it has its fans I’m sure, I love it, a bit of table tennis in the garden, ideal for a no frills short stay 👌

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By *omAnne OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

London

So, if we go on Monday, will it be quiet or busy?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Mondays are usually just about the busiest days x

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By *ig daddy 1969Man
13 weeks ago

manchester


"100% what she said . As a single girl I went 2x to clubs and never got up the guts to ask anyone to play, "

What a waste x

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By *ustgo4it2000Man
13 weeks ago

sittingbourne

Anyone going today

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By *m A FuckerMan
13 weeks ago

kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent


"2 playrooms and a larger TV which shows porn

It hasn’t shown porn for a couple of years now.

You have to make do with Homes Under The Hammer to get you in the mood! "

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