FabSwingers.com forum: Single guy at a club night

By *oggstarr OP Man
37 weeks ago

Calderfornia

Hi, so never having been, I was wondering what kind of experience a single guy would have at a club night? I'm up for chatting and meeting people, but get the impression that people who like to play get fed up with the number of single guys at club nights. Is this the case at busy Friday/Saturday nights, and/or themed events?

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By *hellebelleWoman
37 weeks ago

ashford

"Hi, so never having been, I was wondering what kind of experience a single guy would have at a club night? I'm up for chatting and meeting people, but get the impression that people who like to play get fed up with the number of single guys at club nights. Is this the case at busy Friday/Saturday nights, and/or themed events?"

From what I’ve been told and from own personal experience, it’s the whole wanking brigade that we get fed up with, oh, and those who make no effort in trying to start up a conversation and at least ask my name first before asking if I wanted to go fuck.

I think clubs and organized socials are a great way to meet people, even if nothing sexual happens it helps to verify you and show you’re a genuine person.

Just go and be a decent human being, make yourself approachable and not Pervy with your hand down your pants with an open mindset of nothing happening sexually and if it does, happy days.

Far too many guys expect to get their Willies wet just because they paid the entrance fee and sadly it’s not the case and really should put that money toward getting a working girl.

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37 weeks ago

I think clubs and organized socials are a great way to meet people, even if nothing sexual happens it helps to verify you and show you’re a genuine person.

Just go and be a decent human being, make yourself approachable and not Pervy with your hand down your pants with an open mindset of nothing happening sexually and if it does, happy days.

Far too many guys expect to get their Willies wet just because they paid the entrance fee and sadly it’s not the case and really should put that money toward getting a working girl.

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I agree, having recently visited a club for the 1st time in a long time I had a great time but think that was due to the fact I made the effort to talk to people before dressing down. I am generally a shy person but made the effort to chat with multiple people and was lucky enough to be allowed to go into one of the playrooms with a few people. Story is on here. Remember if chatting to a couple there are 2 people, sounds obvious but some guys seem to forget and try chatting up the lady. thats likely to get on the nerves of her partner.

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By *ev62Man
37 weeks ago

chatham

It baffles me I've sent 84 messages and not one person has said yes I'd like to meet just for drink to see the person you might be!! I don't class myself as ugly( though that's probably a type). You're asked to right epilogue having the wit of a poet to not even having a post read or replied I can say I've had 5 replies . Going to clubs as single.guyvyiuvwant to mix without being a pest trying to read body language . Don't get me wrong I've met some nice people but it's so difficult you forget that almost 5to 1 ratio literally . But we solder on tried getca plus 1 for local club everyone saying what a great night its going to be but couples only.

Which is fair enough . Rant over just wondered how others who have been on this scene longer cope.

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By *iss DevilWoman
37 weeks ago

Bedford

When I go to a club, I like to feel like I'm a person, not a set of holes to be fucked. And just because I chose to come to a club, it doesn't mean I will automatically fuck anyone and everyone.

My advice: talk to people, even those you are not instantly attracted to. Just "hi, my name is..." or similar is more than sufficient, you will very quickly get a feeling whether the other person/people are interested or if they are just polite. Don't throw your toys out of the pram if they choose not to invite you for a play after the chat - sometimes it's not easy to find the right words, other times they may not be getting the right vibe from you.

Also, don't just follow people around or do zoomies around the club just in case there is some action happening elsewhere that you might be missing out on. Plus, if it's a couple, do talk to both of them, not just the man.

I can give you an example from my most recent visit to a club in London - I went with my FWB so I wasn't too bothered whether I was going to play with anyone else or not. There were a few single guys around, most were just looking, even staring, one kept showing off his cock and wanking near us without saying a word. One guy talked to just me (not sure he realised I wasn't on my own as my FWB was at the bar) but I wasn't interested. Another guy asked both of us if it was ok to sit near us, then started chatting with us and we found a common topic. Eventually, he got invited for a play.

It is also important to be "in the right place at the right time"- sadly, it is difficult to give any pointers what that "right place, right time" could be.

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