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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

Hey my lovely other half has stepped back for a while though work but she’s given me full permission to play so long as she gets the details I’m a relaxed drama free guy thinking about trying a club I’m in Oxford so probably touch Swindon or abfab/kestrels Heathrow i think would be good, I’m keen but nervous and would love a lady chaperone for company and to help each other along this daunting path!! Take care all xx

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple
39 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

Hi OP

I hope you find someone but don’t be too down-hearted if you don’t. When I was attending lots of clubs, I hardly ever chaperoned a newbie

It can sometimes be a weird dynamic if it’s a guy I don’t know. Taking someone to a club for the first time is quite a responsibility- they’re generally nervous and, as their host, you have to accommodate that. In the past I’ve ended up with guys who either I don’t fancy (awkward since, no matter what they say, they almost always want to fuck) or they’re too nervous to have sex but also too nervous to be left alone.

I’m not saying this applies to you but it can be a bit like taking a new skier skiing: you’re looking after them on the nursery slopes when the reason you go skiing is to race down the black runs. You kind of wish they could have got themselves through the nervous-newbie stage!

So, if you don’t find anyone, you’ll have to be brave and go, repeatedly, alone until you get to know people. View it as a six month project and have very low expectations at first.

My male friend’s top-tip is to stay right to the end. He says a lot happens in the last hour.

Have fun.

Dee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

Great thanks very helpful thanks Dee xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

I think ideally i would like to find a fellow club virgin looking for company but equally an experienced lady would be great but i will certainly take on your advice and that of your friend thank you x

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By *cottish guy 555Man
39 weeks ago

London

Go to a club by yourself and possibly meet someone who will become a club buddy for future excursions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
39 weeks ago

Good idea thanks mate

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
39 weeks ago

Worcester


"I think ideally i would like to find a fellow club virgin looking for company but equally an experienced lady would be great but i will certainly take on your advice and that of your friend thank you x"

The thing is, there’s no reason for a female “club virgin” to go with a man she doesn’t know to a club.

I mean firstly it’s cheaper for her to go alone. Secondly when you sign up for joint membership she’ll have to share her details with you if you’re going together. And thirdly, as pointed out about, it makes it really awkward.

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By *oiluvfunMan
39 weeks ago

Penrith


"

My male friend’s top-tip is to stay right to the end. He says a lot happens in the last hour.

"

That's a great tip! I've rarely made it past 11 o'clock/midnight, as it's usually obvious by that time who is coupled/grouped up, and not looking for a solo guy. May have to try toughing it out later in future lol....

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
39 weeks ago

Chippenham


"

My male friend’s top-tip is to stay right to the end. He says a lot happens in the last hour.

That's a great tip! I've rarely made it past 11 o'clock/midnight, as it's usually obvious by that time who is coupled/grouped up, and not looking for a solo guy. May have to try toughing it out later in future lol...."

Definitely second that. All of the people who are there to just socialise go at midnight leaving the others to have fun.

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By *oiluvfunMan
39 weeks ago

Penrith


"

My male friend’s top-tip is to stay right to the end. He says a lot happens in the last hour.

That's a great tip! I've rarely made it past 11 o'clock/midnight, as it's usually obvious by that time who is coupled/grouped up, and not looking for a solo guy. May have to try toughing it out later in future lol....

Definitely second that. All of the people who are there to just socialise go at midnight leaving the others to have fun. "

To be fair, in my experience, it’s usually around 11pm that people are making their way to the play rooms, so if I’d not made any connections by that time, I’d leave. I hate that feeling of being a solo guy hanging around the playrooms hoping someone will take pity on me. Too many people go on about the ‘wanking dead’, so I avoid looking like one of those guys at all costs…..

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By *rgasm4u69Man
39 weeks ago

Warrington

I'm a club virgin and looking for either a F or Cpl to show me the ropes on my 1st visit to a local club.

Please DM

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By *ifemale32GGWoman
39 weeks ago

Telford

For a single F like me in a club I will be ready to play again after you are going home so if you leave at 11 you’ve missed my second wind! No point going to a club night and only playing once - could have done that at home and saved myself the drive!


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My male friend’s top-tip is to stay right to the end. He says a lot happens in the last hour.

That's a great tip! I've rarely made it past 11 o'clock/midnight, as it's usually obvious by that time who is coupled/grouped up, and not looking for a solo guy. May have to try toughing it out later in future lol....

Definitely second that. All of the people who are there to just socialise go at midnight leaving the others to have fun.

To be fair, in my experience, it’s usually around 11pm that people are making their way to the play rooms, so if I’d not made any connections by that time, I’d leave. I hate that feeling of being a solo guy hanging around the playrooms hoping someone will take pity on me. Too many people go on about the ‘wanking dead’, so I avoid looking like one of those guys at all costs….."

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By *oiluvfunMan
39 weeks ago

Penrith


"For a single F like me in a club I will be ready to play again after you are going home so if you leave at 11 you’ve missed my second wind! No point going to a club night and only playing once - could have done that at home and saved myself the drive!

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Haha! Well I would be happy if I only got to play just the once, on a club visit. I’m currently 3 plays for 19 visits. I really should have saved myself the drives…..

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