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"Dunno about that event, but Mrs just wears whatever she'd wear to go out for a night out in and then a towel come dress down. No fancy outfit etc. " I’m probably hugely overthinking it! Do you take your own towel? Id be worried they wouldn’t have one that fitted around me and I don’t actually use them at home - Just a HUGE pink towelling dressing gown ?????? I also don’t go out to normal places so I don’t really have anything I’d wear that isn’t a big huge crazy salsa dress ???????? | |||
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"We went to the one people were not dressed up we felt very over dressed for the Occasion" See - this is what I’m wondering about!! thank you for letting me know xx especially as I’ll be alone it’s quite nerve wracking x | |||
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"Honestly there were ladies in jeans and I’m afraid we felt the guy’s made no effort at all walking around in hoodies and trainers it’s definitely not the night for us we now attend chams of a Saturday " What???? Hoodies and trainers?! oh my gosh! Yea - I don’t think I’d dig that either! Omg imagine me turning up in my jumpsuit jajajajaja! I will take a look at chams thank you xx | |||
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"People wear jeans and tshirts to our local club, as long as they are smart we don't see the problem. Depends on the night though. If play is a focus then who cares, if it's more social then I guess dessing up is nicer. " Well I’m so glad you told me this! I’d have been completely overdressed! Eeek | |||
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"People wear jeans and tshirts to our local club, as long as they are smart we don't see the problem. Depends on the night though. If play is a focus then who cares, if it's more social then I guess dessing up is nicer. Well I’m so glad you told me this! I’d have been completely overdressed! Eeek " It's full range from no effort to completely over the top. | |||
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 but if that's not your thing then a towel wrapped around you would be ok. Clubs tend to provide them but if you don't feel confident in the ability of a clubs towel to cover you, then you could get a towel just for club use. Snag have actually recently released bath towels for larger people, you could look on their website? Or maybe get one of those bath towels that Velcro's together! | |||
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"From experience most clubs are dress down only in the play areas (that means the area where all the rooms are, not just in the rooms) some clubs are dress down as soon as you get there so it depends where you're going really. As a bigger lady myself, my usual club 'outfit' is a babydoll. It's just like a very very short dress but if that's not your thing then a towel wrapped around you would be ok. Clubs tend to provide them but if you don't feel confident in the ability of a clubs towel to cover you, then you could get a towel just for club use. Snag have actually recently released bath towels for larger people, you could look on their website? Or maybe get one of those bath towels that Velcro's together!"Ok! Thanks for this - I don’t think I’d be happy with a towel - I’d feel like a frump! So I need to find something for the dress down area! I’ll have a look at baby doll things - I am So clueless when it comes to undergarments! So thank you! What do you wear on your feet? Heels really hurt me and I don’t think sliders would be the sexiest things to wear?? | |||
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"Nothing wrong with sliders. Our club most are bare foot but of see a variety of shoes. I object to people wearing high heels in the play areas as an accidental slip and you've put a while in someone else's foot! " I think heels are glorious!! I just can’t wear them because they hurt too much! | |||
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"Nothing wrong with sliders. Our club most are bare foot but of see a variety of shoes. I object to people wearing high heels in the play areas as an accidental slip and you've put a while in someone else's foot! " Hole not while!! | |||
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"Nothing wrong with sliders. Our club most are bare foot but of see a variety of shoes. I object to people wearing high heels in the play areas as an accidental slip and you've put a while in someone else's foot! Hole not while!! " I figured that’s what you meant | |||
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"I wear sexy all in one bodice with heels and hold ups "Okay!! So you can go to town with this!! I like it! X | |||
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"From experience most clubs are dress down only in the play areas (that means the area where all the rooms are, not just in the rooms) some clubs are dress down as soon as you get there so it depends where you're going really. As a bigger lady myself, my usual club 'outfit' is a babydoll. It's just like a very very short dress but if that's not your thing then a towel wrapped around you would be ok. Clubs tend to provide them but if you don't feel confident in the ability of a clubs towel to cover you, then you could get a towel just for club use. Snag have actually recently released bath towels for larger people, you could look on their website? Or maybe get one of those bath towels that Velcro's together!
Ok! Thanks for this - I don’t think I’d be happy with a towel - I’d feel like a frump! So I need to find something for the dress down area!
I’ll have a look at baby doll things - I am
So clueless when it comes to undergarments! So thank you!
What do you wear on your feet? Heels really hurt me and I don’t think sliders would be the sexiest things to wear?? "I wear sparkly flip flops I used to just go barefoot but my feet would be BLACK by the end of the night  | |||
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"From experience most clubs are dress down only in the play areas (that means the area where all the rooms are, not just in the rooms) some clubs are dress down as soon as you get there so it depends where you're going really. As a bigger lady myself, my usual club 'outfit' is a babydoll. It's just like a very very short dress but if that's not your thing then a towel wrapped around you would be ok. Clubs tend to provide them but if you don't feel confident in the ability of a clubs towel to cover you, then you could get a towel just for club use. Snag have actually recently released bath towels for larger people, you could look on their website? Or maybe get one of those bath towels that Velcro's together!
Ok! Thanks for this - I don’t think I’d be happy with a towel - I’d feel like a frump! So I need to find something for the dress down area!
I’ll have a look at baby doll things - I am
So clueless when it comes to undergarments! So thank you!
What do you wear on your feet? Heels really hurt me and I don’t think sliders would be the sexiest things to wear??
I wear sparkly flip flops I used to just go barefoot but my feet would be BLACK by the end of the night "Good call, I wear white EVA Birkenstocks most of the time as I kept losing anything that didn’t stand out. Shoulder strap little bag for the essentials. As for clothing, a kimono, or slightly see through short, short sleeve button top could be a good idea, or even just something silky or satiny. But I’d recommend wearing what you feel comfortable and sexy in, if you need to find a different club for that, then so be it. Better to feel good about yourself and have a good time than feel uncomfortable and awkward. If you’d rather not strip not much at all, then maybe a themed night could be the answer if you can dress well to the theme x Easy | |||
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" I wear sparkly flip flops I used to just go barefoot but my feet would be BLACK by the end of the night "Yea - I wouldn’t cope with bare feet with my sensory issues I can’t handle flip flops but there must be some elegant sliders around! I am now on the hunt for sparkly sliders hahahaha x | |||
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" Good call, I wear white EVA Birkenstocks most of the time as I kept losing anything that didn’t stand out. Shoulder strap little bag for the essentials. As for clothing, a kimono, or slightly see through short, short sleeve button top could be a good idea, or even just something silky or satiny. But I’d recommend wearing what you feel comfortable and sexy in, if you need to find a different club for that, then so be it. Better to feel good about yourself and have a good time than feel uncomfortable and awkward. If you’d rather not strip not much at all, then maybe a themed night could be the answer if you can dress well to the theme x Easy "Birkenstocks!! What a great idea! And yea, I mainly don’t want to feel awkward! Waiting for a theme night is an excellent idea! Thanks xx | |||
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"I always imagined that everyone at a swingers club was at least undressed down to their underwear, I didn’t realise everyone is fully dressed most of the time. So are their lockers in the play areas to put your clothes and belongings in when you get undressed? Obviously I carry my wallet, phone and keys in my jeans/trousers, so if I took my trousers off I’d ideally like to be able to lock them away somewhere so that everything I’m carrying in them is safe. " The one I went to years ago had lockers so I’d imagine they do yes xx | |||
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"Don’t forget to get some cards made up with your fab profile name on so that you can give one to the people you meet to help them remember your profile name when they verify you afterwards. " I don’t like verifications. Prefer to keep what I get up to to myself x | |||
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"Wife dresses as if just going out on the town just treat most clubs like a nice pub until dress down time and then it's a simple black satin wrap and heels, works for her x" Yea / I was thinking after I investigated that a green silky wrap thing would suffice actually! Thanks x | |||
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"I always imagined that everyone at a swingers club was at least undressed down to their underwear, I didn’t realise everyone is fully dressed most of the time. So are their lockers in the play areas to put your clothes and belongings in when you get undressed? Obviously I carry my wallet, phone and keys in my jeans/trousers, so if I took my trousers off I’d ideally like to be able to lock them away somewhere so that everything I’m carrying in them is safe. " We thought that as well, but I suppose the way to describe it is ‘dress to impress’. When we’ve been to club meets in the past, Dee has often worn a wrap over style dress and heels, the dress giving flexibility for anyone that wants to get the benefit of her figure. | |||
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"I We thought that as well, but I suppose the way to describe it is ‘dress to impress’. When we’ve been to club meets in the past, Dee has often worn a wrap over style dress and heels, the dress giving flexibility for anyone that wants to get the benefit of her figure. " I’m really glad I asked now because I’ve had a lot of varying answers and now know a bit more what to expect xx | |||
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"I We thought that as well, but I suppose the way to describe it is ‘dress to impress’. When we’ve been to club meets in the past, Dee has often worn a wrap over style dress and heels, the dress giving flexibility for anyone that wants to get the benefit of her figure. I’m really glad I asked now because I’ve had a lot of varying answers and now know a bit more what to expect xx " Just wear what you feel comfortable in, what works for you ! | |||
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"I Just wear what you feel comfortable in, what works for you !" I very rarely feel comfortable in anything and this is new to me - hence me asking the question in the first place but now I have some info I can make informed decisions x | |||
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"My wife usually arrives in a smart evening dress but being an exhibitionist that never stays on for long. Most of the evening in clubs it’s just a pair of thigh boots. Nothing else." Good on your wife!!! I have an inner exhibitionist who would like to one day do the same but I am not there yet as my outer body doesn’t yet match what my inner one does (FOR ME!) So I’m hoping I get there again one day. At home / around people I love and am comfortable with I am a naked person too x | |||
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"My wife usually arrives in a smart evening dress but being an exhibitionist that never stays on for long. Most of the evening in clubs it’s just a pair of thigh boots. Nothing else. Good on your wife!!! I have an inner exhibitionist who would like to one day do the same but I am not there yet as my outer body doesn’t yet match what my inner one does (FOR ME!) So I’m hoping I get there again one day. At home / around people I love and am comfortable with I am a naked person too x " That’s the great thing about this type of scene. All types are welcome and a women who is enjoying herself is much sexier than someone with a lap dancer body and a poor attitude. Go for it | |||
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"Greetings ladies, gents & all those others inbetween and around about. The last and only time I went to a club was YEARS ago and I had a fitter figure & I was with my partner at the time so I felt safe and happy and confident we chose our outfits together so we coordinated… Now I do know that the sexiest thing a woman can wear is confidence and bring her seduction mindset. I also know that other people find my current body attractive: I just don’t - So saying “just love yourself / don’t worry etc” isn’t going to help me because I’m not worrying about others views of me - I’m worrying about how I feel in myself. I could wait like a year until I’m happier with my body (which I’m contemplating doing) OR I could just go to a club and get the fuck over myself - Just to socialise first probably but you never know. SO my question is this: What the heck do women wear to clubs these days? (So I get an idea) Is BMFC a dress down event? Like, Can I wear like a long trousered red jumpsuit say and keep it on everywhere until / if I choose to go into a room with someone and can I just let them undress me instead? Do I need to wear heels or can I wear converse? I’m not a lingerie person - I think it looks amazing on others but I am wierd about textures and things on my skin … (unless it’s the tongue or hands of an exceptional gentleman jahahaha) I'm generally a naked person BUT I will be a single woman alone who’s never been to a club alone before so I can’t see myself being fine with just stripping and walking around nuddie so maybe I need to buy some underwear that I feel comfortable in?? So - if everyone can tell me what you wear / what you like seeing others wear / how people tend to approach one another / things to expect - I’d appreciate it. I don’t drink alcohol so there won’t be any Dutch courage to take the edge off and I want to feel relaxed and happy and I’m sure I will do once I get there - but it would be nice if people gave me somet to picture of what it’s like first… the website obv says what the dress code etc is but that’s very different to real peoples actual experiences. Also - any other really good events to go to let me know. I’m in Cheshire but drive. Thanks so much!!!! Joan of Ark
"SO many questions, so I will try to address each of them What the heck do women wear to clubs these days? - We try to ensure that the ladies who attend BMFC parties choose outfits that THEY feel comfortable in (which I can see for you, is the main issue as you have a lack of self confidence) This therefore means that ladies wear a huge variety of outfits, from club wear (sexy little lycra type dresses) to the LBD, to Lingerie/Corsets, to Fancy Dress Is BMFC a dress down event? - We currently host our parties at 2 venues, and neither of those operate a 'Dress Down Policy' Can I wear like a long trousered red jumpsuit say and keep it on everywhere until / if I choose to go into a room with someone and can I just let them undress me instead? - 100% YES Do I need to wear heels or can I wear converse? - Comfort is key here!! - Wear what you feel comfortable in! I’m not a lingerie person - Dress for you, not for others 
I don’t drink alcohol - music to our ears!! - too many guests use alcohol to boost their confidence but often dont know when to stop!
I hope you find the courage to come out to join us, as the feedback we often hear is that our female guests wish they hadnt wasted too much time overthinking things and that they had joined us sooner
Dont over think it - theres plenty of fun to be had and loads of new friends to meet - just take the plunge
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" At home / around people I love and am comfortable with I am a naked person too x That’s the great thing about this type of scene. All types are welcome and a women who is enjoying herself is much sexier than someone with a lap dancer body and a poor attitude. Go for it "Yep!!! I agree wholeheartedly! I am just a huge overthinker and very anxious - I’ll probably get there and not give two shits and happily walk around naked after my 3rd time… it’s getting over the hump coz I’m going alone and am scared of creeps… the one time I went to a club it was full of creeps walking around wanking (well - 4 of them) and one made some very lewd comments about me and told Me To relax and I wanted to Vomit… really put me Off and I had a man with me so I thought I’d be protected and I wasn’t. | |||
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"… I hope you find the courage to come out to join us, as the feedback we often hear is that our female guests wish they hadnt wasted too much time overthinking things and that they had joined us sooner Dont over think it - theres plenty of fun to be had and loads of new friends to meet - just take the plunge "Oh yay thank you for everything you said! Yes - I think it is confidence and I’m scared as I had a bad club experience once and never went back. BUT that was then and this is now and if I don’t go I’ll never know! Knowing I can wear my jumpsuit all night is good for me! I will attend! Maybe not this month but definitely April | |||
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" … the one time I went to a club it was full of creeps walking around wanking (well - 4 of them) and one made some very lewd comments about me and told Me To relax and I wanted to Vomit… really put me Off and I had a man with me so I thought I’d be protected and I wasn’t. " To be clear here - I’m not necessarily saying there’s anything wrong with walking around wanking - I just found it really odd PERSONALLY as there were only 5 couples there that night and they kept themselves to themselves or chatted and then played together (I had Lots of interesting conversations !!) but the 4 single men in attendance were (in my eyes) pouncing on everyone and walking around in a group naked and wanking really freaked me Out and I never went back. That was nearly a decade ago though | |||
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