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By *ornyindian2023 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Hey all.

I was just wondering if you could give some advice. So I've been to Pandora twice but the issue I have I dont know how to approach people to chat to them. I went earlier today and saw a couple i really wanted to speak to but (this is going to sound stupid) but I didn't know how to or what to say!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
37 weeks ago

Flagrante

How do you speak to people in a pub or a shop?

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By *ornyindian2023 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds

I see your point although I guess it's slightly different because of the reason I'd be approaching the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

But surely people don't start conversations with hi wanna fuck? Or is that the etiquette in clubs.

Surely a hello how are you, and see what reply you get is a starting point

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By *inkystar1Woman
37 weeks ago

Heathfield


"I see your point although I guess it's slightly different because of the reason I'd be approaching the couple."

It shouldn't be any different. Then at least you are chatting...talk about more can come later

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By *ornyindian2023 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"But surely people don't start conversations with hi wanna fuck? Or is that the etiquette in clubs.

Surely a hello how are you, and see what reply you get is a starting point "

That's true but heres the issue .. so today I walked in and saw a couple sitting at the bar, I wanted to chat to them but they seemed deep in a conversation I didn't want to seem rude by interjecting so I walked off

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By *ornyindian2023 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"I see your point although I guess it's slightly different because of the reason I'd be approaching the couple.

It shouldn't be any different. Then at least you are chatting...talk about more can come later"

That's true

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By *edWitch0000Woman
37 weeks ago

worthing

If they were deep in conversation they probably weren't looking to have anyone approach them at that time. You should look to see if anyone makes eye contact worthy you, smiles etc. People will give signals if they are interested in chatting to you.

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By *ink vixenCouple
37 weeks ago

Medway

The amount of times we have to approach guys in clubs because they won’t approach us is crazy.

We make eye contact, smile look as open as we can and still nothing.

Often we then get a message in Fab the next day saying they saw us and wished they’d said hello.

Go and say hello. Social confidence is attractive!

Please don’t wait till the Mr has gone to the bar or toilet.

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By *asygoingcouple1000Couple
37 weeks ago

all over

Compliments

Introduce yourself

Ask them if they have been before..

Should flow from there

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By *p4fun60Couple
37 weeks ago

Hampshire

It'll come with experience, being able to read the room is of the utmost importance- if a couple are in deep conversation then wait,if a couple look or maybe smile, take it as a invitation to introduce yourself, be polite & talk to both of them, not just one or the other,

if they don't seem that bothered then simply make your excuses & leave them to it, if the conversation flows, simply ask them what their dynamic is & what they're hoping for on the day,this is important as without it you could make yourself look like a fool, if they express an interest then press them on it but if you feel its not going anywhere or the conversation isn't flowing,dont cock block them any longer so for a definite answer simply say you're going somewhere to play & would they like to join you if it's a no then leave them to it but the ultimate nono for us is if a single guy just simply plonks himself next to us get his cock out & starts playing with himself,try not to be one of them lol & good luck with your mission if you choose to except it lol

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By *ornyindian2023 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Thank you all for the advice x

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By *omeplaywithus400Couple
37 weeks ago

Glasgow

I would honestly say dont overthink it . If you’re in a lifestyle club everyone is there for the same thing .

I’m a big believer in fake it till you make it . Confidence ( without being cocky) is a massive turn on . Deep breath, go over , introduce yourself and just read the room . I think the main thing to remeber is you have to be pretty resilient in the lifestyle as we can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re not successful dont take it to heart . It wasn’t meant to be.

Wishing you lots of luck . Once you do it once or twice it will get easier xx

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By *iss DevilWoman
37 weeks ago

Bedford

"Hi, my name is..." usually works well

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
37 weeks ago

Bathgate

I would always start with, hi do you mind if I join you?

You can always gauge from the reaction to that how it's going to go

Good luck

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By *ornyindian2023 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Thank you all for your advice, I've decided to give it another shot I plan to go again on Thursday!

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Your completely wrong there. People who go to clubs have one definite thing in common which is there in the same place at the same time.

We go in them to socialise and have absolutely no intention of doing anything as it doesn't interest us.


"I would honestly say dont overthink it . If you’re in a lifestyle club everyone is there for the same thing .

I’m a big believer in fake it till you make it . Confidence ( without being cocky) is a massive turn on . Deep breath, go over , introduce yourself and just read the room . I think the main thing to remeber is you have to be pretty resilient in the lifestyle as we can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re not successful dont take it to heart . It wasn’t meant to be.

Wishing you lots of luck . Once you do it once or twice it will get easier xx"

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By *omeplaywithus400Couple
37 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Your completely wrong there. People who go to clubs have one definite thing in common which is there in the same place at the same time.

We go in them to socialise and have absolutely no intention of doing anything as it doesn't interest us.

Haha love this take ,and very true . The lad said he wanted to chat with the couple no mention of anything else if you check the post . As you said people go to socialise . I perhaps worded that wrongly . But basically at a lifestyle club we’re all swingers or at the very least non vanilla and people must expect to be approached or socialise with others And it’s nice to be nice.

Maybe I should have said we’re all there with a positive view on ethical non-monogamy ,may have got my meaning across more clearly x

I would honestly say dont overthink it . If you’re in a lifestyle club everyone is there for the same thing .

I’m a big believer in fake it till you make it . Confidence ( without being cocky) is a massive turn on . Deep breath, go over , introduce yourself and just read the room . I think the main thing to remeber is you have to be pretty resilient in the lifestyle as we can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re not successful dont take it to heart . It wasn’t meant to be.

Wishing you lots of luck . Once you do it once or twice it will get easier xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Again your wrong,

You say we're all swingers. Were not swingers and we don't approach anyone either.

We go to clubs to meet with friends who happen to be swingers and socialise. Clubs happen to be safer than going into town where's threat of violence.


"Your completely wrong there. People who go to clubs have one definite thing in common which is there in the same place at the same time.

We go in them to socialise and have absolutely no intention of doing anything as it doesn't interest us.

Haha love this take ,and very true . The lad said he wanted to chat with the couple no mention of anything else if you check the post . As you said people go to socialise . I perhaps worded that wrongly . But basically at a lifestyle club we’re all swingers or at the very least non vanilla and people must expect to be approached or socialise with others And it’s nice to be nice.

Maybe I should have said we’re all there with a positive view on ethical non-monogamy ,may have got my meaning across more clearly x

I would honestly say dont overthink it . If you’re in a lifestyle club everyone is there for the same thing .

I’m a big believer in fake it till you make it . Confidence ( without being cocky) is a massive turn on . Deep breath, go over , introduce yourself and just read the room . I think the main thing to remeber is you have to be pretty resilient in the lifestyle as we can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re not successful dont take it to heart . It wasn’t meant to be.

Wishing you lots of luck . Once you do it once or twice it will get easier xx "

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By *omeplaywithus400Couple
37 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Again your wrong,

You say we're all swingers. Were not swingers and we don't approach anyone either.

We go to clubs to meet with friends who happen to be swingers and socialise. Clubs happen to be safer than going into town where's threat of violence.

Wrong again !!! I’m not biting . I was simply offering advice to someone from a good place . I was trying to be polite and correct my wording so I did not offend you. I’m quite sure you are the minority with regards to clubs and their clientele. Appreciate that may be due to circumstances outwith your control . However, generally people in swingers clubs are swingers or have an interest in the lifestyle . Probably best you do you , we will do us ….. and the other likeminded people at clubs hahah.

Have a lovely weekend and don’t take things so seriously x

You’re completely wrong there. People who go to clubs have one definite thing in common which is there in the same place at the same time.

We go in them to socialise and have absolutely no intention of doing anything as it doesn't interest us.

Haha love this take ,and very true . The lad said he wanted to chat with the couple no mention of anything else if you check the post . As you said people go to socialise . I perhaps worded that wrongly . But basically at a lifestyle club we’re all swingers or at the very least non vanilla and people must expect to be approached or socialise with others And it’s nice to be nice.

Maybe I should have said we’re all there with a positive view on ethical non-monogamy ,may have got my meaning across more clearly x

I would honestly say dont overthink it . If you’re in a lifestyle club everyone is there for the same thing .

I’m a big believer in fake it till you make it . Confidence ( without being cocky) is a massive turn on . Deep breath, go over , introduce yourself and just read the room . I think the main thing to remeber is you have to be pretty resilient in the lifestyle as we can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re not successful dont take it to heart . It wasn’t meant to be.

Wishing you lots of luck . Once you do it once or twice it will get easier xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

We are in a minority and it doesn't bother us in the slightest that we are.


"Again your wrong,

You say we're all swingers. Were not swingers and we don't approach anyone either.

We go to clubs to meet with friends who happen to be swingers and socialise. Clubs happen to be safer than going into town where's threat of violence.

Wrong again !!! I’m not biting . I was simply offering advice to someone from a good place . I was trying to be polite and correct my wording so I did not offend you. I’m quite sure you are the minority with regards to clubs and their clientele. Appreciate that may be due to circumstances outwith your control . However, generally people in swingers clubs are swingers or have an interest in the lifestyle . Probably best you do you , we will do us ….. and the other likeminded people at clubs hahah.

Have a lovely weekend and don’t take things so seriously x

You’re completely wrong there. People who go to clubs have one definite thing in common which is there in the same place at the same time.

We go in them to socialise and have absolutely no intention of doing anything as it doesn't interest us.

Haha love this take ,and very true . The lad said he wanted to chat with the couple no mention of anything else if you check the post . As you said people go to socialise . I perhaps worded that wrongly . But basically at a lifestyle club we’re all swingers or at the very least non vanilla and people must expect to be approached or socialise with others And it’s nice to be nice.

Maybe I should have said we’re all there with a positive view on ethical non-monogamy ,may have got my meaning across more clearly x

I would honestly say dont overthink it . If you’re in a lifestyle club everyone is there for the same thing .

I’m a big believer in fake it till you make it . Confidence ( without being cocky) is a massive turn on . Deep breath, go over , introduce yourself and just read the room . I think the main thing to remeber is you have to be pretty resilient in the lifestyle as we can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re not successful dont take it to heart . It wasn’t meant to be.

Wishing you lots of luck . Once you do it once or twice it will get easier xx "

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