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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Not really, we personally love the company of single guys and make it our mission to get to a Friday once or twice a month aswell enjoying nights they can't attend.

If couples don't like it though, why not opt for clubs that have Couples and Single Lady only nights? There's loads of choices of venues and events to suit everyone's preferred dynamics

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By *-HantsguyMan
over a year ago

Sunbury

I think it can also depend on the night you go. Some events are catered toward greedy girl nights so the venue may allow in more men or restrict the number if they want to get a lower ratio of men to women/couples. I’ve been to some clubs where people have not looked at what type of event is being held and got shocked at the number of guys attending so I would always say take a look first. Saying that I can attest that the “wanking dead” can happen and as a single guy it annoys me when guys can’t be decent and try to act like normal people. These people think they have paid for sex, not entry to a club.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I go to clubs for single men, never had an issue with been followed round personally. Just a no thanks seems to suffice.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "

20-30 single guys follow you around? Wow, we've clearly not got the same sex appeal you have. You must find it hard work being that popular with gents.

For us we sometimes get followed by a Gent or two. You clock them clock you sneaking off and off they go. Why is this a problem pre se? They're here to enjoy the club, see hot things and maybe join in like anyone else. It's your perogative whether you facilitate this or not. It's your perogative if you go to a private lockable room, a veiw only room, an open play space or a no single males area. It's your perogative if you let them join in or not. Now on occasion we have experience bad behaviour, guys who don't get the message, try to join in with getting permission, try to open private rooms or enter areas not for them etc. But it's rare. Most guys behave them selves. And in all fairness we've seen bad behaviour from ladies and couples to who sometimes seem to think they have more power to not behave. Part of club like is being able to tell anyone no thanks, you have to be a bit assertive.

We've been to couples (and single ladies) nights. On the whole they tend to have a different vibe, different crowd (couples and ladies wise) and just be a little lame. Single guys are a really valuable asset to the club scene. And the mark of a great club is the quality of the single guys it attracts/let's in. Plus a club full of quality single guys tends to also pull in the best numbers of single ladies (because contray to popular couples thinking most single ladies want a place with single guy and may predominantly be looking for single guys).

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club

20-30 single guys follow you around? Wow, we've clearly not got the same sex appeal you have. You must find it hard work being that popular with gents.

For us we sometimes get followed by a Gent or two. You clock them clock you sneaking off and off they go. Why is this a problem pre se? They're here to enjoy the club, see hot things and maybe join in like anyone else. It's your perogative whether you facilitate this or not. It's your perogative if you go to a private lockable room, a veiw only room, an open play space or a no single males area. It's your perogative if you let them join in or not. Now on occasion we have experience bad behaviour, guys who don't get the message, try to join in with getting permission, try to open private rooms or enter areas not for them etc. But it's rare. Most guys behave them selves. And in all fairness we've seen bad behaviour from ladies and couples to who sometimes seem to think they have more power to not behave. Part of club like is being able to tell anyone no thanks, you have to be a bit assertive.

We've been to couples (and single ladies) nights. On the whole they tend to have a different vibe, different crowd (couples and ladies wise) and just be a little lame. Single guys are a really valuable asset to the club scene. And the mark of a great club is the quality of the single guys it attracts/let's in. Plus a club full of quality single guys tends to also pull in the best numbers of single ladies (because contray to popular couples thinking most single ladies want a place with single guy and may predominantly be looking for single guys)."

Couldn't agree with you more!

We've had far more problems with couples and single ladies who believe they're entitled to act in ways that single guys would be banned for, they even joke about it as if poor behaviour comes with bragging rights.

We don't tarnish all with the same brush though.

There are plenty of wonderful single guys and their presence is whole heartedly welcomed and appreciated. It is totally a mark for the club on who is in and how they deal with "undesirables" (regardless of sexuality and gender) and we've tucked clubs off the list who let the idiots run rampant

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By *eltic connectionCouple
over a year ago

Manningtree

We find they fall into two types, the so called wanking dead who just follow you round to timid to talk or the over pushy ones who won't leave you alone and keep butting in when you clearly have no interest in them. Sometimes a polite no thanks is actually accepted but they often keep pushing their luck.

We very seldom find one who is chattybut very respectful of you. They are the ones we end up inviting to join us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem with single guys honestly. They always are friendly and talkative to us even when they watch us in the play room if we say no they don't kick up a fuss or push it.

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Heathrow

No its not annoying at all. Its actually quite flattering when guys follow us (Mrs) around. A physical compliment. Single/solo males in clubs are the reason we are there. Don't think we`ve ever had that number follow us though so perhaps not going to the right club. Definitely need more where we go. Do wish some of them would take the time to introduce themselves though sometimes rather than wait for us to visit a room and then try and get in without ever having spoken with us.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

A lot of clubs have night where it's couples only, and single guys allowed. Some couples go to both because they like group swap, and a bit of GG action. I you only like one, then only go to one.

But there is a legitimate need to add an extra man, or 5, occasionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "

We don’t mind that so much, it’s when the wave their cock in your face or jump across the sofa to try and get at you! Not cool

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By *oknickers coupleCouple
over a year ago

A Town called Malice

This subject comes up in different guises in the forum a lot .. “wanking dead”.. “pestering single guys” Etc

We,as a couple go to a local club to us & depending on our mood, go on a Friday night ( when single males are allowed) or Saturday night when after 7pm they’re not

When we go on a Friday night when single males are there we are looking for 1, 2 or more, But the main problem with SOME, not all, is that if we are “entertaining” 1 or more single males, you always get one that thinks because there’s play happening, they can just join in without even bothering to ask either me (male) or my wife if it’s ok, it’s like they see play happening and think it’s a free for all

Like someone said earlier, a lot of single males think they’re paying to get into a club and sex is a given, it’s not, they’re paying for the privilege of being in a club that MAYBE they’ll get invited to join in with a couple to play with them

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club

We don’t mind that so much, it’s when the wave their cock in your face or jump across the sofa to try and get at you! Not cool "


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club

We don’t mind that so much, it’s when the wave their cock in your face or jump across the sofa to try and get at you! Not cool "

We experience this on our first visit to a big club. I Mr was sat receiving a frankly first rate bow job on the couch from Mrs Misfit. I was very in the moment looking down at Mrs and enjoying everything I was seeing. Very quickly I became aware of a couple of guys in proximity watching and wanking, which is fine to be fair. However one guy seemed to be a bit too close for comfort. We'd not, indicated anything to them or even made any eye contact. Out of concern I looked up and he nearly had my eye out with it. The tip was literally a couple of inches from my face. I wasn't happy at all, give me some space FFS. I told him as much. To be fair he apologised and backed off but totally not cool.

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By *ylonnloverMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Well this is nice to know as a single male. Some interesting perspectives. I think a polite no thanks is all you need to say. And 90% maybe more would take that in the chin. Most men are used of knock backs. Its how it is for men. If the get arsey they shouldn't be in that club and are probably dicks in the outside world too.

That's interesting what _ubwife4u said that you wished the guys would come and talk first rather than just following to the room. What would be an ice breaker for a single male to come and say hello. I find it a lot harder to approch couples than single ladies. I feel like I need the approval of the male half first before I approach.

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Heathrow


"Well this is nice to know as a single male. Some interesting perspectives. I think a polite no thanks is all you need to say. And 90% maybe more would take that in the chin. Most men are used of knock backs. Its how it is for men. If the get arsey they shouldn't be in that club and are probably dicks in the outside world too.

That's interesting what _ubwife4u said that you wished the guys would come and talk first rather than just following to the room. What would be an ice breaker for a single male to come and say hello. I find it a lot harder to approch couples than single ladies. I feel like I need the approval of the male half first before I approach. "

I appreciate that approaching couples may seem awkward and indeed takes a huge chunk of courage. But I would suggest that the majority of couples (not all) who are there on a solo male night are interested in solo males. Obviously we are not all the same but for us, a gent being confident enough just to come over and introduce himself, ask us our names, compliment Mrs outfit ( without being pervy) ask questions about the club, or generally show an interest in us, as a couple, is all it takes to start a conversation. No different than in any other social setting I suppose. We usually find guys tend to stand near us, appearing to show interest in our conversation so when we notice, we always invite them to join us socially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guy here. Couples tell me that they prefer events where there are single men. That’s because of cliques.

As long as you are polite and respectful, everyone is happy.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
over a year ago

Cap d'Agde


"Like someone said earlier, a lot of single males think they’re paying to get into a club and sex is a given"

I only go to clubs as part of a couple, but I've been persuaded that how clubs treat single guys is part of the problem. If you charge them more, and put them in a grotty cupboard to get changed, then don't be surprised if they feel exploited.

And people who feel exploited tend to try and exploit others.

The best clubs treat single guys well, but limit numbers by a membership scheme.

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "
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This is odd. Most clubs have a fair ratio policy when comes to single men. If there were 20-30 single men when you visited the club, even with a 1:1 ratio 20-30 couples would be visiting the club on the same day. It appears that this club does not have any ratio policy, and to my knowledge, based on the clubs I visit regularly, the ratio is in general 2-3 couples for one single man. Therefore, a club to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like someone said earlier, a lot of single males think they’re paying to get into a club and sex is a given

I only go to clubs as part of a couple, but I've been persuaded that how clubs treat single guys is part of the problem. If you charge them more, and put them in a grotty cupboard to get changed, then don't be surprised if they feel exploited.

And people who feel exploited tend to try and exploit others.

The best clubs treat single guys well, but limit numbers by a membership scheme."

You have touched upon a very valid point. It’s how you are treated. I’m single, and it doesn’t matter if it’s a restaurant or a swinger’s club. If I’m badly treated by management, I walk away.

From my experience, the owner’s presence makes all the difference. The owner generally knows “customer is king”

When the owner is not there, the male staff are indifferent or sometimes worse to single men, while going out of their way to do favours for females.

Owner’s presence & good staff is the key. Customers are generally all right. There will always be the odd one.

And yes, as a single male, paying a little more is an acceptable discrimination. (Acceptable, because us men generally don’t spend on make-up and really nice clothes. Just a shower and clean everyday clothes)

But when you charge a single guy waaay too much, what signal are you sending, other than the obvious- you bought your way in, your entitled to demand sex.

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By *obbie111183Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Haha some good reading in here. To be honest one of the reasons I’ve never gone as a single male is that I don’t want to look like a total deviant (I am like) but perception is everything

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "

Never seen this in my life. 20-30 men following you around? Is your Mrs Jennifer Lopez?

I've seen a small group of men following a nice couple last time I went. They went into a room and closed the door. They had fun and invited one lucky guy as well. Pretty sure the hubby said no to another. Men will follow out of curiosity more than anything.

If you don't want single men then couples night is made for you.

Or just tell em to go away they usually do. Unless your wife is J-Lo and none of my recommendation applies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thing I dont go to swinging clubs. Last thing I want to go to is to a sausage fest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a single bi guy and like to attend clubs that hold bi days or events.one I've attended a few times seem to have loads of guys attending just recently and the majority are straight guys and yes as soon as a couple of woman turn up at the club/sauna they are like flies round shit and are constantly following them and hovering around blocking passageways so you can't get past.we are not allowed like this honest.but these guys are a joke it's like they've never seen a scantily dressed or naked woman before or they obviously arent getting any at hone and think any woman is desperate for sex who attends a swingers club!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This subject comes up in different guises in the forum a lot .. “wanking dead”.. “pestering single guys” Etc

We,as a couple go to a local club to us & depending on our mood, go on a Friday night ( when single males are allowed) or Saturday night when after 7pm they’re not

When we go on a Friday night when single males are there we are looking for 1, 2 or more, But the main problem with SOME, not all, is that if we are “entertaining” 1 or more single males, you always get one that thinks because there’s play happening, they can just join in without even bothering to ask either me (male) or my wife if it’s ok, it’s like they see play happening and think it’s a free for all

Like someone said earlier, a lot of single males think they’re paying to get into a club and sex is a given, it’s not, they’re paying for the privilege of being in a club that MAYBE they’ll get invited to join in with a couple to play with them

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I agree with your comment.i am a single male and often attend clubs or saunas and even if a couple or lady are playing I always stand a bit back from the action until they say it's ok for guys to join them.the amount of times I've seen guys suddenly rush forward if they start playing and I think for fucks sake stop or you will put them off.some couples don't mind but I've seen the couples or lady getting uncomfortable with the close proximity of guys cocks in their face and they've stood up and gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The club I attend holds a monthly bi day that's open to everyone and there's no membership.a lot of people seem to enjoy it but I've noticed more and more single guys turning up who seem to have the attitude of I've paid my money so should be entitled to fun and they will follow any couple around getting very close to them and if they sit down are often crowding them.if this club had a membership or limited the amount of single guys it might stop this,but then it could put people off attending and also the club probably aren't bothered how many single guys are there as it's money in the till

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By *estaftermidnightCouple
over a year ago

Chorley

Can't say we've ever had 30 guys following us. Usually a few at a time but most are respectful and will only join in when asked. Only ever had one problematic guy who was quite persistent even when told 'no' and I had to throw him at owner to get him out.

....problem was where to get hold of him

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I don't go to clubs unless I am meeting someone there for that reason.

Clubs primarily rely on single men paying rip off entry fees and membership to keep running, do they can get heavily discounted couples and single women.

Swingers clubs for single men are probably the least pleasurable experience they can encounter.

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

The reality is that for quite a lot of the time at clubs there is little play , certainly open play. So if a couple go for a stroll round the rooms then single guys will often follow, they naturally would like to watch and even better be asked to join in.

The vast majority of singles guys we've met are very respectful , they have made the effort to go to a club and get slated for wanting to get involved. If you don't want single guys go on a couples night.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "

Doesn't bother me if I am with a partner.

I know I will be enjoying sex.

Far worse is when you are one of the single blokes and in potential competition with the others!

As for being followed, I have a favourite memory of a companion of mine being asked by the girl behind the counter "Why are all these men following you?" to which she replied "They're not following me, they're following my arse".

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By *ragon007Man
over a year ago

london


"The reality is that for quite a lot of the time at clubs there is little play , certainly open play. So if a couple go for a stroll round the rooms then single guys will often follow, they naturally would like to watch and even better be asked to join in.

The vast majority of singles guys we've met are very respectful , they have made the effort to go to a club and get slated for wanting to get involved. If you don't want single guys go on a couples night. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started out going to clubs as a single F and then met someone and went as a couple. I have had 2 incidents with single guys, in diff clubs. 1 handled it amazingly (The Attic) and the other club couldn’t give less of a shit (Libs)

That said, I’ve had plenty more occasions when the female of couple has grabbed at me, or not behaved appropriately! No one is arsed when it’s a woman tho

I think guys get a rough deal here a lot of the time and that’s really sad because there are a lot of gems out there!

(The irony of me posting this on my 2nd profile that I use for chat rooms so I don’t get an inbox full of idiots is not lost on me!

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

We have been followed but it doesn't really bother us. If they get annoying we just wander to the couples room.

We once put on our status that we were going to a particular club and changed our mind last minute. A few weeks later we got some unexpected free time so we did it again and went to the club. Around 11pm a guy came wandering in and made a beeline straight for us. He said 'are you badcherry', we replied 'yes'. He then said 'ah you have turned up! You put on your profile that you were coming a few weeks ago but didn't show so I wasted my entrance fee'. We were like...er oh right... we're just going to our locker we'll be back soon.. we left, quick. Like who the hell does that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have been followed but it doesn't really bother us. If they get annoying we just wander to the couples room.

We once put on our status that we were going to a particular club and changed our mind last minute. A few weeks later we got some unexpected free time so we did it again and went to the club. Around 11pm a guy came wandering in and made a beeline straight for us. He said 'are you badcherry', we replied 'yes'. He then said 'ah you have turned up! You put on your profile that you were coming a few weeks ago but didn't show so I wasted my entrance fee'. We were like...er oh right... we're just going to our locker we'll be back soon.. we left, quick. Like who the hell does that "

That’s a bit creepy

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"We have been followed but it doesn't really bother us. If they get annoying we just wander to the couples room.

We once put on our status that we were going to a particular club and changed our mind last minute. A few weeks later we got some unexpected free time so we did it again and went to the club. Around 11pm a guy came wandering in and made a beeline straight for us. He said 'are you badcherry', we replied 'yes'. He then said 'ah you have turned up! You put on your profile that you were coming a few weeks ago but didn't show so I wasted my entrance fee'. We were like...er oh right... we're just going to our locker we'll be back soon.. we left, quick. Like who the hell does that

That’s a bit creepy "

Very creepy yes, only time we've felt a bit creeped out in a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We actually don’t visit clubs unless we think there is a significant number of single guys going. We want choice and prefer single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never seem to be a problem, happy to put On a show for them and they are always respectful and never come close

At the end of the plenty of rooms out of bounds to them if you don’t want their attention

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"

Swingers clubs for single men are probably the least pleasurable experience they can encounter."

I can’t agree more! Swingers clubs have been the worst part of my swinging life experiences over the last 10 years. I would never recommend the club scene to a mate

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By *aughtyLittlePicsCouple
over a year ago

Belper

We love putting on a show, it’s a real boost to our confidence to see people enjoying us having fun and when the right guy is there it’s been really nice to invite them to join us.

There have been times when it’s all a bit too much - and yes I think we’d like it a little more if some where a bit more communicative but every time someone has done something without psrmissson they have apologised in a sincere way so on the whole we get it.

I like think couple only nights are the way too go if it’s too much for you and maybe just hope that new single men to the scene get a better introduction… we often feel than some single men have missed out on a lot of fun because they were just too pushy - just relax enjoy and wait to be invited in

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"

Swingers clubs for single men are probably the least pleasurable experience they can encounter.

I can’t agree more! Swingers clubs have been the worst part of my swinging life experiences over the last 10 years. I would never recommend the club scene to a mate

"

Totally opposite here. We have met loads of guys in clubs and had lots of fun. The last guy we met was on his first ever night out in one and had never even heard of fab. We would definitely recommend a club night to new guys.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i go to clubs that allow more men i disslike couples only nights and for me n hubs the worse in clubs are fb couples / singles who go as couples they are never in tune with each other .... the worse men in clubs are (not all of course) male halfs of couples who are entitled pricks because they are part of a couple normally the wife is off have loads of fun and hes not they are by far the worse ... single men generally are great ..

youll always get the odd idiot but thats man or woman and dont forget single men pay to keep clubs afloat loose the single men and many clubs wont survive

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "

It's quite simple don't go!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"

Swingers clubs for single men are probably the least pleasurable experience they can encounter.

I can’t agree more! Swingers clubs have been the worst part of my swinging life experiences over the last 10 years. I would never recommend the club scene to a mate

Totally opposite here. We have met loads of guys in clubs and had lots of fun. The last guy we met was on his first ever night out in one and had never even heard of fab. We would definitely recommend a club night to new guys. "

I can only speak of my experiences of being a solo guy in various clubs (that's 8 different clubs, to a total of 19 visits now). A couple of great visits, a couple I really wouldn't want repeating, and most just 'ok'.....

It's all down to who you meet on the night, wherever you go

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"i go to clubs that allow more men i disslike couples only nights and for me n hubs the worse in clubs are fb couples / singles who go as couples they are never in tune with each other .... the worse men in clubs are (not all of course) male halfs of couples who are entitled pricks because they are part of a couple normally the wife is off have loads of fun and hes not they are by far the worse ... single men generally are great ..

youll always get the odd idiot but thats man or woman and dont forget single men pay to keep clubs afloat loose the single men and many clubs wont survive"

We never go to couple only nights because they are more like a social club than a swinging club. Our main problem in clubs is the unicorn hunting couples, I (mr) was literally kicked off a bed by one once we left sharpish. We can smell them a mile away now so dont have that problem anymore. Best part about being a couple though is it doesn't matter if you dont find anyone on the night because you can always play with each other . We love playing with each other in a club anything else is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit, I do feel sorry for MF couples. I went to a bi event at Northwich, most guys were more interested in following around and watching MF couples play than guys play.

Guys pushing each other to try and grope the women even though they were not invited.

Not good.

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By *ivelaughlove16Couple
over a year ago

norfolk/Suffolk border

Some very interesting comments on this thread .The club we attend does limit single guy numbers and also have a membership scheme .Never had any issues with anyone pestering etc , we appreciate guys coming to chat to us and hopefully if they are able to hold a normal conversation things may progress from there.

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By *aul_j80Man
over a year ago

Bloxwich


"We have been followed but it doesn't really bother us. If they get annoying we just wander to the couples room.

We once put on our status that we were going to a particular club and changed our mind last minute. A few weeks later we got some unexpected free time so we did it again and went to the club. Around 11pm a guy came wandering in and made a beeline straight for us. He said 'are you badcherry', we replied 'yes'. He then said 'ah you have turned up! You put on your profile that you were coming a few weeks ago but didn't show so I wasted my entrance fee'. We were like...er oh right... we're just going to our locker we'll be back soon.. we left, quick. Like who the hell does that "

Was the fella expecting you to pay a refund? I guess he has a personality like syphilis.

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By *etsgoexploring3Man
52 weeks ago

Teesside

Lot of really interesting comments. As a single male what puts me off is the idea of going along to a club and just finding a whole load of other guys and being in the herd. Some of comments on here seem to show that is the experience, or did those people just go with a pre-conception that they were going to play?

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

It's best single men don't go to a swingers club anyway because they get charged the top premium price just to get in while women and couples get in at a much cheaper price or in some cases for free and there's no guarantee that a guy is gonna get anything so he be wasting his time and money

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By *apperleymanMan
52 weeks ago

Nottingham

This is a commonly recurring thread..

Single males are the lifeblood of a lot of clubs, they are the magic money tree that keeps clubs afloat..

Yes, keep the ratios that work for the club.

Yes, have rules and challenge bad behaviour.

But I find some couples behaviour towards single males stinks, like somehow they’re better and from talking to a lot of folk it seems that, in a lot of cases, male halves of couples are the worst behaved..

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By *adCherriesCouple
52 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest


" there's no guarantee that a guy is gonna get anything so he be wasting his time and money "

Don't think that's going to a swinging club mentality... maybe AW mentality.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Not really, we personally love the company of single guys and make it our mission to get to a Friday once or twice a month aswell enjoying nights they can't attend.

If couples don't like it though, why not opt for clubs that have Couples and Single Lady only nights? There's loads of choices of venues and events to suit everyone's preferred dynamics "

There are many Forum Posts regarding the topic of “single men”.

What I have noticed is that it’s mainly only the single men giving negative comments regarding single men.

It’s a kind of “virtue signaling “. Those horrendous single men- I’m not like them. Yes, I believe you Mr. Virtue Signaling Single Man.

You rarely find couples and even rarer single women posting negative comments regarding single men.

That’s because:

A) Women know how to take care of themselves in these situations .

B) Only an absolute idiot would annoy someone that they are interested in.

C) Club management know how to deal with this.

From my experience, and backed up by comments from couples - couples often prefer single men because of negative vibes from other couples.

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By *landAnnCouple
52 weeks ago

Inverness


"Lot of really interesting comments. As a single male what puts me off is the idea of going along to a club and just finding a whole load of other guys and being in the herd. Some of comments on here seem to show that is the experience, or did those people just go with a pre-conception that they were going to play?"

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Tried to PM you but outwith age range, have some info you may like. ??

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By *uckslut and MCouple
52 weeks ago

Poole

Nope, we don't find it annoying at all. We mostly attend gg nights. So need the single guys. And reg club nights, I'm / we're always looking for quantity. Still trying to get my target of 50 in one night.

But we can and do say ' no thank you' to some.

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By *ookingforfun1970Woman
52 weeks ago

no knickers


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club

20-30 single guys follow you around? Wow, we've clearly not got the same sex appeal you have. You must find it hard work being that popular with gents.

For us we sometimes get followed by a Gent or two. You clock them clock you sneaking off and off they go. Why is this a problem pre se? They're here to enjoy the club, see hot things and maybe join in like anyone else. It's your perogative whether you facilitate this or not. It's your perogative if you go to a private lockable room, a veiw only room, an open play space or a no single males area. It's your perogative if you let them join in or not. Now on occasion we have experience bad behaviour, guys who don't get the message, try to join in with getting permission, try to open private rooms or enter areas not for them etc. But it's rare. Most guys behave them selves. And in all fairness we've seen bad behaviour from ladies and couples to who sometimes seem to think they have more power to not behave. Part of club like is being able to tell anyone no thanks, you have to be a bit assertive.

We've been to couples (and single ladies) nights. On the whole they tend to have a different vibe, different crowd (couples and ladies wise) and just be a little lame. Single guys are a really valuable asset to the club scene. And the mark of a great club is the quality of the single guys it attracts/let's in. Plus a club full of quality single guys tends to also pull in the best numbers of single ladies (because contray to popular couples thinking most single ladies want a place with single guy and may predominantly be looking for single guys)."

Absolutely this

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Some very interesting comments on this thread .The club we attend does limit single guy numbers and also have a membership scheme .Never had any issues with anyone pestering etc , we appreciate guys coming to chat to us and hopefully if they are able to hold a normal conversation things may progress from there. "
I like your comment.i like attending swingers clubs and saunas from time to time and have enjoyed the majority of them.i agree that the better run clubs do limit the number of single guys that attend.sone people may say that's discriminating,but when there are loads of single guys in a club and ones with no membership,then sone guys,no all,will follow the couples around in a herd like sheep because they think "oh look a woman ,I'm going to have sone fun".I'm a single guy but find guys acting in that way really off putting and the guys who will always try to open a closed door too.the best fun I've always had is when I've given a couple or lady space and then politely asked if its ok to join them if they look like they may be interested.if they say no thanks or not at the moment I say ok no problem ,enjoy your evening and leave them to it.standing around a couple who are just sitting chatting or looking to see what the place is like and openly wanking or rubbing their cocks is just so desperate I find.

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By *os19Man
52 weeks ago

Edmonton

As a single guy I always make sure that when chatting to a couple that I am also involving the male in the conversation as sometimes the male part of the couples will want some sort of reassurance that his partner is going with a nice respectful guy or wants a nice respectful guy to join them.

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By *t0600Man
52 weeks ago

elvedon

I’m visiting one for the first time Friday as a single male . I plan to attend with no intention of having fun just a good time and a good social tell me if I’m wrong but I think that’s the best approach

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By *ickedwillyCouple
52 weeks ago

Bangor

That’s the right attitude _t0600

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By *os19Man
52 weeks ago

Edmonton


"I’m visiting one for the first time Friday as a single male . I plan to attend with no intention of having fun just a good time and a good social tell me if I’m wrong but I think that’s the best approach "
. That is the correct approach.When I attend my local club normally on a Friday it’s the end of my working week. I go with the intention of having a night out and the attitude of no expectations no disappointments if any naughty adult fun happens then it’s a bonus.Enjoy your Friday night.

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By *t0600Man
52 weeks ago

elvedon

Thanks il look forward to it

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By *ink vixenCouple
52 weeks ago

Medway


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "

Not at all.

It’s surely a compliment to the lady and allows her a choice of playmates if she’s in the mood.

There’s no need to feel threatened.

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By *ty31Man
52 weeks ago

NW London

It's one of the reasons I prefer not to go to Greedy Girl type nights/clubs, I dislike that "pack" mentality.

But I understand that everyone has their own preferences which is why it's a good idea to do some research and maybe ask some questions before deciding what club/event to visit

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By *exy4youxxWoman
52 weeks ago

Pontefract


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "

It's annoying also when their is lots of couples and not enough single males and the couples who complain they can't get a single female chat with all the other couples and ignore the single females

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By *oiluvfunMan
52 weeks ago

Penrith


"It's one of the reasons I prefer not to go to Greedy Girl type nights/clubs, I dislike that "pack" mentality.

But I understand that everyone has their own preferences which is why it's a good idea to do some research and maybe ask some questions before deciding what club/event to visit "

I’ve never been to a Greedy Girl style event, because of that ‘pack mentality’ aspect you refer to. However, at least there will be ladies there who actually want single guys in the club, which is rarely the feeling I receive on ‘normal’ club nights…..

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By *exy4youxxWoman
52 weeks ago

Pontefract


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club

20-30 single guys follow you around? Wow, we've clearly not got the same sex appeal you have. You must find it hard work being that popular with gents.

For us we sometimes get followed by a Gent or two. You clock them clock you sneaking off and off they go. Why is this a problem pre se? They're here to enjoy the club, see hot things and maybe join in like anyone else. It's your perogative whether you facilitate this or not. It's your perogative if you go to a private lockable room, a veiw only room, an open play space or a no single males area. It's your perogative if you let them join in or not. Now on occasion we have experience bad behaviour, guys who don't get the message, try to join in with getting permission, try to open private rooms or enter areas not for them etc. But it's rare. Most guys behave them selves. And in all fairness we've seen bad behaviour from ladies and couples to who sometimes seem to think they have more power to not behave. Part of club like is being able to tell anyone no thanks, you have to be a bit assertive.

We've been to couples (and single ladies) nights. On the whole they tend to have a different vibe, different crowd (couples and ladies wise) and just be a little lame. Single guys are a really valuable asset to the club scene. And the mark of a great club is the quality of the single guys it attracts/let's in. Plus a club full of quality single guys tends to also pull in the best numbers of single ladies (because contray to popular couples thinking most single ladies want a place with single guy and may predominantly be looking for single guys).

"

Definitely hit nail on head especially with the last bit

Plus a club full of quality single guys tends to also pull in the best numbers of single ladies (because contray to popular couples thinking most single ladies want a place with single guy and may predominantly be looking for single guys).

Depending on how my vibe is going I do look for both couples and single males but when I'm in club just full of couples and VERY limited single males it makes me feel like I am being forced to play with couples like their sex toy and that's a massive turn off for me

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Been to a club where gangs of single guys could wander about without question, was quite intimidating and certainly not for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Unfortunately a lot of singles behave in an awful way which makes it difficult for the good ones.

We had a terrible experience last week with one single in particular who thought it was his right to tell me to take my clothes off so he could get a better view of the show I was putting on with my partner in a cinema room. He continued with his behaviour, won’t go into all the details here and then two other younger guys joined in with him.

Clearly they don’t get out much out!!

I’m not sure where in a blokes brain it is ok to behave like that, and it’s definitely not going to get them anywhere near the action.

Step back, observe and wait….if you’re not pushy and are respectful, you are more likely to get an invite.

Basically, don’t be a dick!

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Unfortunately a lot of singles behave in an awful way which makes it difficult for the good ones.

We had a terrible experience last week with one single in particular who thought it was his right to tell me to take my clothes off so he could get a better view of the show I was putting on with my partner in a cinema room. He continued with his behaviour, won’t go into all the details here and then two other younger guys joined in with him.

Clearly they don’t get out much out!!

I’m not sure where in a blokes brain it is ok to behave like that, and it’s definitely not going to get them anywhere near the action.

Step back, observe and wait….if you’re not pushy and are respectful, you are more likely to get an invite.

Basically, don’t be a dick!

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exactly ??

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By *f.I.Like.It.I.Do.ItCouple
52 weeks ago

Keighley


"No its not annoying at all. It’s actually quite flattering when guys follow us (Mrs) around. A physical compliment. Single/solo males in clubs are the reason we are there. Don't think we`ve ever had that number follow us though so perhaps not going to the right club. Definitely need more where we go. Do wish some of them would take the time to introduce themselves though sometimes rather than wait for us to visit a room and then try and get in without ever having spoken with us. "

100% this. We enjoy single men and are looking for them in clubs, but we like a bit of conversation. We are unlikely to ask one to join who we haven’t even chatted to

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By *litterbabeWoman
52 weeks ago

hiding from cock pics.

If single guys didn't go I wouldn't go, but in order for there to be some kind of connection that could lead to some intimate touching, we need to have been able to hold a decent conversation between us.

If that doesn't happen then my mind or body would not be in 'connection' mode.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
52 weeks ago

manchester


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club "

The wanking dead is why we would never attend a night with single males.

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By *adCherriesCouple
52 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest


"Been to a club where gangs of single guys could wander about without question, was quite intimidating and certainly not for us."

Thats the clubs fault for letting in to many and not policing their event properly.

We only attend nights with single guys. We find couples nights quite boring with more unicorn hunting couples than anything else.

Cupids as some great nights with single guys and Alchemy is another.

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By *t0600Man
52 weeks ago

elvedon

When you read that some people don’t even go because of single males it must be bad

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

For that reason I'm a fan of keeping single guys locked in a separate part of the club that only couples can enter to play but not the other way round. The number of times we had to tell guys to stop touching or fingering my partner was enough to put us off. That's also the reason I like TG, the crowd there doesn't feel invited to play without permission.

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By *ucker68Man
52 weeks ago

Nutbourne

Even as a single male I completely agree with the original poster.

I went to what was supposedly a Bi Party at the ME1 Suana in Rochester on Saturday night but sadly it was anything but!

Instead it was filled with an overwhelming majority of straight men who were like a feral pack of wild dogs on heat following any single woman around like it was the first time they'd ever seen a member of the opposite sex!

As soon as any woman went into one of the cubicals or play areas they'd all stand around in a group by the door salivating like teenage boys in the desperate hope she'd open the door and invite them in.

Out of the approx 100 there on Sat night, I would hazzard a guess that around 4 of them were bisexual - the rest straight including one who told me "I'll smash your fucking head in bruv" after I very discreetly suggested I'd like to suck his cock!!

It really was a troupe of utter desperados living in hope of a little pussy and a truly pathetic sight to witness!

There may have been a few bi couples there but they tended to stick to themselves or chat together in the jacuzzi and who can blame them!

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By *ornucopiaMan
52 weeks ago

Bexley


"Even as a single male I completely agree with the original poster.

I went to what was supposedly a Bi Party at the ME1 Suana in Rochester on Saturday night but sadly it was anything but!

Instead it was filled with an overwhelming majority of straight men who were like a feral pack of wild dogs on heat following any single woman around like it was the first time they'd ever seen a member of the opposite sex!

As soon as any woman went into one of the cubicals or play areas they'd all stand around in a group by the door salivating like teenage boys in the desperate hope she'd open the door and invite them in.

Out of the approx 100 there on Sat night, I would hazzard a guess that around 4 of them were bisexual - the rest straight including one who told me "I'll smash your fucking head in bruv" after I very discreetly suggested I'd like to suck his cock!!

It really was a troupe of utter desperados living in hope of a little pussy and a truly pathetic sight to witness!

There may have been a few bi couples there but they tended to stick to themselves or chat together in the jacuzzi and who can blame them!

"

Oh, come on! Did you seriously expect it to be different?

In case you have not been to such events before, that's how they normally are. If they weren't they would be differently patronised.

Quite often it is a case of 'the more the merrier' and no need to even say anything, just take your turn, shoot your load and fade away. If this never happened, that behaviour wouldn't have become learned. Not saying it is right or wrong. just observing how it is and how men behave. that's why there is a market (at least once a month).

Full marks, however for your narrative style. keep it up. Could go down well on other sub fora!

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By *ucker68Man
52 weeks ago

Nutbourne


"Even as a single male I completely agree with the original poster.

I went to what was supposedly a Bi Party at the ME1 Suana in Rochester on Saturday night but sadly it was anything but!

Instead it was filled with an overwhelming majority of straight men who were like a feral pack of wild dogs on heat following any single woman around like it was the first time they'd ever seen a member of the opposite sex!

As soon as any woman went into one of the cubicals or play areas they'd all stand around in a group by the door salivating like teenage boys in the desperate hope she'd open the door and invite them in.

Out of the approx 100 there on Sat night, I would hazzard a guess that around 4 of them were bisexual - the rest straight including one who told me "I'll smash your fucking head in bruv" after I very discreetly suggested I'd like to suck his cock!!

It really was a troupe of utter desperados living in hope of a little pussy and a truly pathetic sight to witness!

There may have been a few bi couples there but they tended to stick to themselves or chat together in the jacuzzi and who can blame them!

Oh, come on! Did you seriously expect it to be different?

In case you have not been to such events before, that's how they normally are. If they weren't they would be differently patronised.

Quite often it is a case of 'the more the merrier' and no need to even say anything, just take your turn, shoot your load and fade away. If this never happened, that behaviour wouldn't have become learned. Not saying it is right or wrong. just observing how it is and how men behave. that's why there is a market (at least once a month).

Full marks, however for your narrative style. keep it up. Could go down well on other sub fora!"

Mate, I have been to plenty of other venues hosting Bi Parties where the vast majority of males there have been bisexual and hence enjoyed loads of bi fun with both sexes.

From your comments, these clearly aren't any parties that you have frequented!!

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
52 weeks ago

Cap d'Agde


"For that reason I'm a fan of keeping single guys locked in a separate part of the club that only couples can enter to play but not the other way round. "

We went to a club like that, and it was the worst behaviour we've experienced from single guys. The single guys area was deeply scary to visit.

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By *anary57Couple
52 weeks ago

near lowestoft

We been to both, couples only and nights that allow single men.

We definitely prefer the latter.

Yes we've had the occasional problem but in general the single men have been very polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

My other bug bear is clubs that organise "couples-only nights with select few single men allowed to attend" Not a couples-only night then.

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By *ornucopiaMan
52 weeks ago

Bexley


"

Mate, I have been to plenty of other venues hosting Bi Parties where the vast majority of males there have been bisexual and hence enjoyed loads of bi fun with both sexes.

From your comments, these clearly aren't any parties that you have frequented!! "

I've been to ME1.

I was going to say 'For a start' but in fact the other way round. Been going to parties since 186 so seen quite a few variations on the theme.

Granted, you were hoping it was going to be bi and that of course was the ticket the straight guys were using to get in.

I'm surprised that there wasn't any opportunity to find bi action. When I have been there, in fairly recent times (those Saturdays haven't been going for that many years) I have seen couples there who I know to be bi at least one way or four.

Hope that helps, Pal.

Suggest your post your experience in an ME 1 thread and see what ensues.

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By *omNMan
52 weeks ago

london


"Isn't it annoying when you go to a swingers club as a couple and you see around 20-30 single men, and they follow you everywhere around the club

The wanking dead is why we would never attend a night with single males."

I simply like the ‘wanking dead’ description hahaha

I saw them in many occasions.. and is very disappointing and disrespectful in the same time. But who can blame a head acting like a monkey in the search of satisfying its emotional desire ..

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By *oxy jWoman
52 weeks ago

somerset

single men are the least of problems in clubs by far the worse are male halfs of couples full of entitlement because they are part of a couple they just think no one will say no to them and they can do as pleased .... d*unk / merry single women are a pain too ... and fb couples are normally so far apart its obvious

most single guys are fine those wanking dead are normally the club regulars who go often keeping the clubs afloat with the over inflated prices while women are free .... single men are just easy targets yes there are some real assholes but to say its just single guys nope couples and women can be too

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By *mmaleiaWoman
52 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’m hopefully going to my 1st club next month, this post has made it more daunting

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By *omNMan
52 weeks ago

london


"single men are the least of problems in clubs by far the worse are male halfs of couples full of entitlement because they are part of a couple they just think no one will say no to them and they can do as pleased .... d*unk / merry single women are a pain too ... and fb couples are normally so far apart its obvious

most single guys are fine those wanking dead are normally the club regulars who go often keeping the clubs afloat with the over inflated prices while women are free .... single men are just easy targets yes there are some real assholes but to say its just single guys nope couples and women can be too "

Wow! That is a point I never considered. That is ever more disturbing.. than the wanking dead..

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By *heekyDemandCouple
52 weeks ago

Leicester


"I’m hopefully going to my 1st club next month, this post has made it more daunting "

Some of these examples are the extremes and the outliers, the vast majority are good, friendly, sexy people

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Even as a single male I completely agree with the original poster.

I went to what was supposedly a Bi Party at the ME1 Suana in Rochester on Saturday night but sadly it was anything but!

Instead it was filled with an overwhelming majority of straight men who were like a feral pack of wild dogs on heat following any single woman around like it was the first time they'd ever seen a member of the opposite sex!

As soon as any woman went into one of the cubicals or play areas they'd all stand around in a group by the door salivating like teenage boys in the desperate hope she'd open the door and invite them in.

Out of the approx 100 there on Sat night, I would hazzard a guess that around 4 of them were bisexual - the rest straight including one who told me "I'll smash your fucking head in bruv" after I very discreetly suggested I'd like to suck his cock!!

It really was a troupe of utter desperados living in hope of a little pussy and a truly pathetic sight to witness!

There may have been a few bi couples there but they tended to stick to themselves or chat together in the jacuzzi and who can blame them!

"
I attended bi event at Northwich sauna this month and ok I was only there a few hours from opening,but in that time it was very much similar to your experience.loads of single guys.nearly all seemed straight and exactly the same when a woman or couple did turn up acting like they'd never seen a woman before and about 20 or more following them everywhere and getting there cocks out thinking something was going to happen.

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By *lowhandsallyCouple
52 weeks ago

South -

Never had a proplem with single guys at all..

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By *t0600Man
52 weeks ago

elvedon


"I’m hopefully going to my 1st club next month, this post has made it more daunting

Some of these examples are the extremes and the outliers, the vast majority are good, friendly, sexy people "

Yeah I also feel it has made it a lot more daunting haha

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By *rudiesCouple
52 weeks ago

here

What clubs this then

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
52 weeks ago

tf1

I go to clubs for the very reason to meet single guys. I’ve had far more problems with the male out of a couple thinking they can touch without asking.

I remember one single guy in Chams and it was his first time. He was a complete pain and rude. I told the staff and he was refused membership.

Single guys do far better if they engage in conversation and say hello.

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By *ickedwillyCouple
52 weeks ago

Bangor

Well said and completely true

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

The only time I've been to a club it was me that was followed about by these 2 couples !! I was just scoping the place out as it was my first time lol .. sat down and they say each side of me .. unfortunately I wasn't attracted to either of the ladies, bit em on the 'fabulous' side for me .. all comes down to physical attraction / attractiveness, which shouldn't be surprising...

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"single men are the least of problems in clubs by far the worse are male halfs of couples full of entitlement because they are part of a couple they just think no one will say no to them and they can do as pleased .... d*unk / merry single women are a pain too ... and fb couples are normally so far apart its obvious

most single guys are fine those wanking dead are normally the club regulars who go often keeping the clubs afloat with the over inflated prices while women are free .... single men are just easy targets yes there are some real assholes but to say its just single guys nope couples and women can be too "

Facts are you get dick heads whatever they are

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
52 weeks ago

Ipswich

Well we're off to VA Bi night in April and hoping for some single guys to show up (respectful ones) as we want a bi MMMF, so need a couple of extras. But we have had occasions when they just expect to be asked into our play. Thankfully we've only experiences eager, but will back off when declined.

Have seen times when people do get hounded though, in hope and expectation

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By *ove2Couple
52 weeks ago

colchester


"I go to clubs for the very reason to meet single guys. I’ve had far more problems with the male out of a couple thinking they can touch without asking.

I remember one single guy in Chams and it was his first time. He was a complete pain and rude. I told the staff and he was refused membership.

Single guys do far better if they engage in conversation and say hello. "
We agree with .it's always nice to have a conversation. Some men think that walking around with there cocks out will get them somewhere. It's so off putting

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By *heekyDemandCouple
52 weeks ago

Leicester

Horses for courses though, most nights out we do couples only but occasionally we will want to be around a healthy supply of horny single guys. All the usual etiquette still applies but having a few single guys can be really hot.

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By *elkieWoman
52 weeks ago

Durham

If I’m out solo, I’m looking for single guys or girls or maybe couples. If I’m out with a partner, I’m almost certainly looking for single guys to join us. It’s not hard. Smile and say hello in the bar and in the play room, make eye contact with me. It can be that easy

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

20 or 30nsingle men following Mr sounds like a great night haha

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By *erri AnneTV/TS
52 weeks ago

Shannon and Costa Blanca

It’s funny that it’s a single guy that started this thread

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By *moothstaffspeepsCouple
52 weeks ago

Stafford

We like putting on a show whilst they watch us, no touching allowed makes it quite fun

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By *octor ProdMan
52 weeks ago

working Overseas

The single male thing is not as bad as the poster makes out.

I've been going to clubs for 20 years and there has always been a small number of single males who follow women/couples around; touching and trying locked doors. But if anything, over the last 20 years clubs have got better at policing this type of behaviour and i have seen people kicked out of clubs because of it.

I think we single males on the whole aren't that badly behaved, and the only groups I see following couples/single females around and normally where the couple/female is a regular who is known for enjoying group fun and where the single males end up playing with them

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By *unlovin72Man
52 weeks ago

BARNSLEY

I have been to clubs and if I am walking round and see a open door I will watch or if sat I will make eye contact and say hello and chat but never touch without permission it's all about good manners they cost nothing but the bad eggs always spoil it for the good ones

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By *lik and PaulCouple
52 weeks ago

cahoots


"I’m hopefully going to my 1st club next month, this post has made it more daunting

Some of these examples are the extremes and the outliers, the vast majority are good, friendly, sexy people "

As regular club goers we would agree with this.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
52 weeks ago

Sheffield


"I’m hopefully going to my 1st club next month, this post has made it more daunting

Some of these examples are the extremes and the outliers, the vast majority are good, friendly, sexy people

As regular club goers we would agree with this."

Same, I’m a regular club goer who goes for single guys. X

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By *reenleavesCouple
52 weeks ago

North Wales

It depends on the guy, really. If he's on his own, looking a bit lost, we'll go over and say hi. We'll make it clear from the start we're not looking to play tho. We've made a few friends that way

If the guys have grouped together, it can be more of an issue. In one club, they would gather at the top of the stairs that lead down to the play areas. Anyone heading down would generally pick up an unwanted tail from one or all of them. One time, we changed our minds half way down the stairs and came back up. They suddenly stopped and started examining the wallpaper or carpet with great interest We've never found them to be a real problem tho. Just odd when they follow but don't try and communicate with you.

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By *ib_ertineMan
52 weeks ago

Glasgow/Edinburgh

"out of concern I looked up and he nearly had my eye out with it"

Brilliant thread

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By *inglemenapplyhereCouple
52 weeks ago

Ely

I like the single guys!

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By *exy4youxxWoman
52 weeks ago

Pontefract


"It depends on the guy, really. If he's on his own, looking a bit lost, we'll go over and say hi. We'll make it clear from the start we're not looking to play tho. We've made a few friends that way

If the guys have grouped together, it can be more of an issue. In one club, they would gather at the top of the stairs that lead down to the play areas. Anyone heading down would generally pick up an unwanted tail from one or all of them. One time, we changed our minds half way down the stairs and came back up. They suddenly stopped and started examining the wallpaper or carpet with great interest We've never found them to be a real problem tho. Just odd when they follow but don't try and communicate with you.

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I don't take any of that nonsense and refuse to let anyone try intimidate me they get shut down and told straight away to back off or lose their private possessions

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By *ifemale32GGWoman
52 weeks ago

Telford


"Even as a single male I completely agree with the original poster.

I went to what was supposedly a Bi Party at the ME1 Suana in Rochester on Saturday night but sadly it was anything but!

Instead it was filled with an overwhelming majority of straight men who were like a feral pack of wild dogs on heat following any single woman around like it was the first time they'd ever seen a member of the opposite sex!

As soon as any woman went into one of the cubicals or play areas they'd all stand around in a group by the door salivating like teenage boys in the desperate hope she'd open the door and invite them in.

Out of the approx 100 there on Sat night, I would hazzard a guess that around 4 of them were bisexual - the rest straight including one who told me "I'll smash your fucking head in bruv" after I very discreetly suggested I'd like to suck his cock!!

It really was a troupe of utter desperados living in hope of a little pussy and a truly pathetic sight to witness!

There may have been a few bi couples there but they tended to stick to themselves or chat together in the jacuzzi and who can blame them!

Oh, come on! Did you seriously expect it to be different?

In case you have not been to such events before, that's how they normally are. If they weren't they would be differently patronised.

Quite often it is a case of 'the more the merrier' and no need to even say anything, just take your turn, shoot your load and fade away. If this never happened, that behaviour wouldn't have become learned. Not saying it is right or wrong. just observing how it is and how men behave. that's why there is a market (at least once a month).

Full marks, however for your narrative style. keep it up. Could go down well on other sub fora!

Mate, I have been to plenty of other venues hosting Bi Parties where the vast majority of males there have been bisexual and hence enjoyed loads of bi fun with both sexes.

From your comments, these clearly aren't any parties that you have frequented!! "

I agree - so many bi men at Chams on bank holiday Mondays that I have stopped going to them as I didn’t feel like I was attracting any attention at all!

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By *d4fun73Man
52 weeks ago

Shipley


"Even as a single male I completely agree with the original poster.

I went to what was supposedly a Bi Party at the ME1 Suana in Rochester on Saturday night but sadly it was anything but!

Instead it was filled with an overwhelming majority of straight men who were like a feral pack of wild dogs on heat following any single woman around like it was the first time they'd ever seen a member of the opposite sex!

As soon as any woman went into one of the cubicals or play areas they'd all stand around in a group by the door salivating like teenage boys in the desperate hope she'd open the door and invite them in.

Out of the approx 100 there on Sat night, I would hazzard a guess that around 4 of them were bisexual - the rest straight including one who told me "I'll smash your fucking head in bruv" after I very discreetly suggested I'd like to suck his cock!!

It really was a troupe of utter desperados living in hope of a little pussy and a truly pathetic sight to witness!

There may have been a few bi couples there but they tended to stick to themselves or chat together in the jacuzzi and who can blame them!

Oh, come on! Did you seriously expect it to be different?

In case you have not been to such events before, that's how they normally are. If they weren't they would be differently patronised.

Quite often it is a case of 'the more the merrier' and no need to even say anything, just take your turn, shoot your load and fade away. If this never happened, that behaviour wouldn't have become learned. Not saying it is right or wrong. just observing how it is and how men behave. that's why there is a market (at least once a month).

Full marks, however for your narrative style. keep it up. Could go down well on other sub fora!

Mate, I have been to plenty of other venues hosting Bi Parties where the vast majority of males there have been bisexual and hence enjoyed loads of bi fun with both sexes.

From your comments, these clearly aren't any parties that you have frequented!!

I agree - so many bi men at Chams on bank holiday Mondays that I have stopped going to them as I didn’t feel like I was attracting any attention at all! "

Think you would like it up here, decadence and pandoras are great clubs. You would definitely get some attention!

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