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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi some advice would be great. thinking of going to this club with my hubby.

my hubby loves watching me with another guy rather than joining in.

is this something that would be frowned upon in the club scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, very common and I'll know you will all enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not at all, very common and I'll know you will all enjoy x"

thank you. never been to a club and tbh very nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still get nervous, mixture of excitement and fear of the unknown lol!!!! Just beside to enjoy as they are what you make of them xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still get nervous, mixture of excitement and fear of the unknown lol!!!! Just beside to enjoy as they are what you make of them xxxx"

I was thinking of trying a bbw night first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have never been to one of those before so not sure what turn out is like but every night always has a good mix of all shapes and sizes.....something to cater for everyone's needs lol!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi some advice would be great. thinking of going to this club with my hubby.

my hubby loves watching me with another guy rather than joining in.

is this something that would be frowned upon in the club scene?

"

You will be very popular at the club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hi some advice would be great. thinking of going to this club with my hubby.

my hubby loves watching me with another guy rather than joining in.

is this something that would be frowned upon in the club scene?

You will be very popular at the club "

why thank u

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hi some advice would be great. thinking of going to this club with my hubby.

my hubby loves watching me with another guy rather than joining in.

is this something that would be frowned upon in the club scene?

You will be very popular at the club "

why thank u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xotix is a brilliant club, very friendly, and you wouldn't be frowned on at all.

If never done a club before, might be worth going on one of there social nights, I believe the next one is in two weeks, but events listed on their website. Lots new people attend the socials as well as regulars. Each social becoming more and more popular.

Hope to see you there one day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Xotix is a brilliant club, very friendly, and you wouldn't be frowned on at all.

If never done a club before, might be worth going on one of there social nights, I believe the next one is in two weeks, but events listed on their website. Lots new people attend the socials as well as regulars. Each social becoming more and more popular.

Hope to see you there one day "

social sounds good we have to advanced plan as need to arrange sitters. we are going to social locally soon so hopefuly that will help too

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By *attoodannyMan
over a year ago

sheffield

i went to exotics last night really good club defo go again

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I agree with Dirtyeyes, XX is a great little club, very friendly, clean and modern. The social nights are a great night.

I hope you enjoy your first visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who is often at xotix I have to say that the regulars welcome new people with open arms.

I think people play in many ways. And it certainly won't be frowned upon.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

I've been thinking about visiting a club and quite like the look of xotic but not sure if I'm brave enough to go on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are quite a few new ladies that come along. All have come back again.

It to be fair is a good club with a friendly atmosphere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As someone who is often at xotix I have to say that the regulars welcome new people with open arms.

I think people play in many ways. And it certainly won't be frowned upon."

thanks for that i am nervous i must admit and wouldnt no what to wear lol.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth


"

thanks for that i am nervous i must admit and wouldnt no what to wear lol.

"

I think the not knowing what to wear is one of the main things that bothers me, particularly because I'm such a busty girl.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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thanks for that i am nervous i must admit and wouldnt no what to wear lol.

I think the not knowing what to wear is one of the main things that bothers me, particularly because I'm such a busty girl."

im.busty and have a large belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a big girl too. As are a few others that go.

I find that baby doll are good as the cover bits. And a little lace skirt to cover bits. To be honest. You can stay in a normal dress or outfit if you like. So just dress to be comfy.

You find people soon feel comfortable. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just come , were a good bunch and we love making newbies feel very welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a big girl too. As are a few others that go.

I find that baby doll are good as the cover bits. And a little lace skirt to cover bits. To be honest. You can stay in a normal dress or outfit if you like. So just dress to be comfy.

You find people soon feel comfortable. Xx"

i dont own a skirt or a dress. they really dont look good on me.

and the baby doll i own is see through lol.

im hard work lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perfect excuse to buy something new.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perfect excuse to buy something new.

"

i suppose but i really hate shopping. i have some lovely outfits from lovehoney but not confident to where them in front of loads of people on first visit.

dont get me.wrong im happy getting naked when i get started

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm seriously thinking of going to this club but I'm sooooooooooooooo nervous! Finding something to wear isn't really a problem, knowing what to do when I get there is tho! Is it just like going to a normal club but instead of having a sneaky kiss on the dance floor, it goes a bit (or a lot) further and only if you want to?

I worry that I'm too picky and need to be attracted enough to want to go further with someone. I might find myself sitting there like a lemon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The regulars are great at this club.. and will introduce themselves to newbies.. and there is always something going on somewhere..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to XX last night and it was the first time I'd been to a club and I was really nervous. Soon got chatting to people though, and although I thought I'd probably just sit in a corner and watch what happens, I was soon enjoying some naughty fun Everyone was friendly and made me feel relaxed and at ease, and I'll be going to the next social there, if not to another event before then

I highly recommend it ladies

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

The more I think about it the more I think it's the place for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I went to XX last night and it was the first time I'd been to a club and I was really nervous. Soon got chatting to people though, and although I thought I'd probably just sit in a corner and watch what happens, I was soon enjoying some naughty fun Everyone was friendly and made me feel relaxed and at ease, and I'll be going to the next social there, if not to another event before then

I highly recommend it ladies "

I highly reccomend you come back too :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know fine well that I will lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know fine well that I will lol "

good :P ill pay for you to get in again too :P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I went to XX last night and it was the first time I'd been to a club and I was really nervous. Soon got chatting to people though, and although I thought I'd probably just sit in a corner and watch what happens, I was soon enjoying some naughty fun Everyone was friendly and made me feel relaxed and at ease, and I'll be going to the next social there, if not to another event before then

I highly recommend it ladies "

sounds great fun. but still wondering weather i be better suited to a bbw night. will have to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

sounds great fun. but still wondering weather i be better suited to a bbw night. will have to see"

I wouldnt worry... I find that even on bbw nights there is a huge mix of sizes...

As they dont not let the slimmer ladies in... Love yourself first..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

sounds great fun. but still wondering weather i be better suited to a bbw night. will have to see

I wouldnt worry... I find that even on bbw nights there is a huge mix of sizes...

As they dont not let the slimmer ladies in... Love yourself first.. "

thats true.

i need a lady to come shopping with me for club wear.

carnt really ask my friend to go with me as she does not no i do this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"good :P ill pay for you to get in again too :P"

Thank you but you don't have to do that, besides you might want to take someone else next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"good :P ill pay for you to get in again too :P

Thank you but you don't have to do that, besides you might want to take someone else next time "

ssh you! simon says!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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i need a lady to come shopping with me for club wear.

carnt really ask my friend to go with me as she does not no i do this lol "

ebay is my best friend shopping wise.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ssh you! simon says!!"

ooh you getting dominant with me now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ssh you! simon says!!

ooh you getting dominant with me now "

hehe well who knows whats next xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

i need a lady to come shopping with me for club wear.

carnt really ask my friend to go with me as she does not no i do this lol

ebay is my best friend shopping wise.. lol"

i brought stuff from there a.few times.. but im.so.fussy but have ti admit i do love my.hand made corset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hehe well who knows whats next xx"

Now I'm intrigued

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i brought stuff from there a.few times.. but im.so.fussy but have ti admit i do love my.hand made corset "

Some very sexy stuff at Simply Be

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i brought stuff from there a.few times.. but im.so.fussy but have ti admit i do love my.hand made corset

Some very sexy stuff at Simply Be "

thank you...... have been on there and not suited to my shape unfortunatley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thank you...... have been on there and not suited to my shape unfortunatley "

Well it looks like you've already got some very nice outfits, just put a little skirt on with one of them, that's what I did last night. I wasn't comfortable enough to go without it on my first visit either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we can always do "lets shop for club wear" girls day out

Would be amusing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"thank you...... have been on there and not suited to my shape unfortunatley

Well it looks like you've already got some very nice outfits, just put a little skirt on with one of them, that's what I did last night. I wasn't comfortable enough to go without it on my first visit either "

i dont own a.skirt. im.a size 22/24 but have strange shape tummy due to surgery its hard to explain not.seen anyone like it on here. and it makes.it hard to wear skirts and dresses. some corsets dont help either i need to buy from a shop really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we can always do "lets shop for club wear" girls day out

Would be amusing. "

as long as.go pub too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we can always do "lets shop for club wear" girls day out

Would be amusing.

as long as.go pub too "

we can do our best impression of Ladies that lunch too..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we can always do "lets shop for club wear" girls day out

Would be amusing.

as long as.go pub too

we can do our best impression of Ladies that lunch too.. "

i aint no lady so would have to be a.dam good impression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we can always do "lets shop for club wear" girls day out

Would be amusing.

as long as.go pub too

we can do our best impression of Ladies that lunch too..

i aint no lady so would have to be a.dam good impression "

I am always being told what a lady I am.. so just follow my lead..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we can always do "lets shop for club wear" girls day out

Would be amusing.

as long as.go pub too

we can do our best impression of Ladies that lunch too..

i aint no lady so would have to be a.dam good impression

I am always being told what a lady I am.. so just follow my lead.."

that must be wear im going wrong must be too common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perfect excuse to buy something new.

i suppose but i really hate shopping. i have some lovely outfits from lovehoney but not confident to where them in front of loads of people on first visit.

dont get me.wrong im happy getting naked when i get started

"

If it helps I wear a simple black dress when I go, and take something to change into later. First time I went the dress stayed on all night. A lady wore leggings and a sparkly top on Saturday. Where what you feel comfortable in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm seriously thinking of going to this club but I'm sooooooooooooooo nervous! Finding something to wear isn't really a problem, knowing what to do when I get there is tho! Is it just like going to a normal club but instead of having a sneaky kiss on the dance floor, it goes a bit (or a lot) further and only if you want to?

I worry that I'm too picky and need to be attracted enough to want to go further with someone. I might find myself sitting there like a lemon!

"

Hi, In a way its like a normal pub, everyone arrives dressed in normal nightwear worn for a pub, they chat and mingle in the social area, around about 10 ish, ladies start changing into sexier outfits, and people then make their way upstairs.

I personally have never seen no raunchiness going on in the social area, upstairs or jacuzzi, whole different story lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perfect excuse to buy something new.

i suppose but i really hate shopping. i have some lovely outfits from lovehoney but not confident to where them in front of loads of people on first visit.

dont get me.wrong im happy getting naked when i get started

If it helps I wear a simple black dress when I go, and take something to change into later. First time I went the dress stayed on all night. A lady wore leggings and a sparkly top on Saturday. Where what you feel comfortable in "

my problem is im a jeans type of girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm planning on going to the Derby social with my hubby at the end of April. We have never been to a club before and have no idea what to expect. We have no intention of playing on our first visit we'd just like to observe and see how we like it.. But.. we have a few questions.

What do men wear?

Do many people take alcohol or stick to soft drinks?

What kind of age range usually go there?

All advice would be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm planning on going to the Derby social with my hubby at the end of April. We have never been to a club before and have no idea what to expect. We have no intention of playing on our first visit we'd just like to observe and see how we like it.. But.. we have a few questions.

What do men wear?

Do many people take alcohol or stick to soft drinks?

What kind of age range usually go there?

All advice would be great "

Hi,

Men wear trousers and shirt usually.

A lot take alcohol (I do), but soft drinks have to be purchased from the bar.

age range anything from 25 onwards, good mixture of couples, single ladies, with just right amount of single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perfect excuse to buy something new.

i suppose but i really hate shopping. i have some lovely outfits from lovehoney but not confident to where them in front of loads of people on first visit.

dont get me.wrong im happy getting naked when i get started

If it helps I wear a simple black dress when I go, and take something to change into later. First time I went the dress stayed on all night. A lady wore leggings and a sparkly top on Saturday. Where what you feel comfortable in

my problem is im a jeans type of girl "

Wear jeans or pair black trousers, no one will think anything of it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perfect excuse to buy something new.

i suppose but i really hate shopping. i have some lovely outfits from lovehoney but not confident to where them in front of loads of people on first visit.

dont get me.wrong im happy getting naked when i get started

If it helps I wear a simple black dress when I go, and take something to change into later. First time I went the dress stayed on all night. A lady wore leggings and a sparkly top on Saturday. Where what you feel comfortable in

my problem is im a jeans type of girl

Wear jeans or pair black trousers, no one will think anything of it lol"

now thats what i wanted to hear with a low cut top

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

Sounds good to me too

I'm thinking a nice matching bra and knickers with something over the top as well for later.

Do they provide towels and if so are they a decent size? Thinking I might take my own huge fluffy towel that wraps all the way around my ample body

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds good to me too

I'm thinking a nice matching bra and knickers with something over the top as well for later.

Do they provide towels and if so are they a decent size? Thinking I might take my own huge fluffy towel that wraps all the way around my ample body"

good idea take myself a large towel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xotix is a fantastic cool there are loads of sexy peeps and iv made alot of friends there and I did find a fantastic lady there to and I know Cali and civic and dirty very well civic mess me mate x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get this thread as the poster will not attend a club !! Even though xotic is a great club with great friendly people and Cali is a credit to the club for meeting and greeting the newbies x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't get this thread as the poster will not attend a club !! Even though xotic is a great club with great friendly people and Cali is a credit to the club for meeting and greeting the newbies x"

excuse me how do u no what I will and wont do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't get this thread as the poster will not attend a club !! Even though xotic is a great club with great friendly people and Cali is a credit to the club for meeting and greeting the newbies x

excuse me how do u no what I will and wont do?

"
because I've met you !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't get this thread as the poster will not attend a club !! Even though xotic is a great club with great friendly people and Cali is a credit to the club for meeting and greeting the newbies x

excuse me how do u no what I will and wont do?

because I've met you !!!"

u met me last summer. people change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't get this thread as the poster will not attend a club !! Even though xotic is a great club with great friendly people and Cali is a credit to the club for meeting and greeting the newbies x

excuse me how do u no what I will and wont do?

because I've met you !!!"

ive always wanted to try a club and circumstances dont always permit me to go and not had anyone to go with.

is that a crime. please dont judge me

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