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Single guys in a club....how do you initiate play with a couple???

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By *orderboyblue OP   Man
52 weeks ago

Scottish Borders

I know the obvious, include all in your conversation, not just the lady but when and how do you propose play?

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By *apperleymanMan
52 weeks ago

Nottingham

Totally depends on the situation but I usually drop a couple of hints in the conversation.

Having said that it is sometimes difficult to read - there’s been times when I’ve thought that I am definitely in there to be told ‘not for us’ and other times when I’ve chatted thinking no chance only to be invited to a room minutes later..

I find being friendly, non pushy and easy going helps.

Btw the couple probably often made their minds up before you’ve even initiated conversation.. sometimes they may go off for a chat beforehand to make sure they’re both ok with the situation..

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By *ysonfuryMan
52 weeks ago

Stockport

I'm not great initiating contact in a club. If I approach a couple I'm never sure whether I'm mithering. If I sit waiting for contact there is a very good chance it won't happen. I just take the approach that I will have a friendly chat and see where it goes. To be honest rarely go to a club now on my own. If I go it will be with someone or to meet someone. Happy fabbing

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By *ink vixenCouple
52 weeks ago

Medway

Drop her some compliments, bit of flattery and see where that goes.

Swear to God the amount of guys we chat to that wander off and she says “I have no idea if he fancies me”

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By *apperleymanMan
52 weeks ago

Nottingham


"Drop her some compliments, bit of flattery and see where that goes.

Swear to God the amount of guys we chat to that wander off and she says “I have no idea if he fancies me”"

The ancient art of flirting without being creepy.. it is a fine line..

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By *ink vixenCouple
52 weeks ago

Medway


"Drop her some compliments, bit of flattery and see where that goes.

Swear to God the amount of guys we chat to that wander off and she says “I have no idea if he fancies me”

The ancient art of flirting without being creepy.. it is a fine line.. "

Yeah that’s true but we do try to be open and approachable.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I find it a little awkward approaching couples in a club,I suppose what's the worst that can happen "sorry you're not for us" kind of statement

I'll just have to keep trying

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
52 weeks ago

Leicester

We are always happy to approached and chatted to be a single guy in a club providing he's not too pushy. After all what have you to lose - worst that can happen is that we'd say "no thanks" in a polite way. A nice touch we've found with some guys is after we've chatted for a while they will get up to get a drink or go to the loo to give us a minute or two to talk between ourselves and decide if/how we want to take things further

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Do the helicopter thing with your cock. Works every time.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
52 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

I can’t speak for everyone, but if we’re looking for single men we happily open conversation/make eye contact and smile to indicate that we’re open to play.

If you’re getting the vibe that you need to butt in, impose yourself, and insert yourself into our night, we’re not your target market.

That said, if we want a single guy evening, we tend to do greedy girl nights/use fab to get meets. There’s little need to go to clubs for MFM. We tend to go to clubs for swing/couple meets/orgies.

We hope you find what you’re looking for

Xx

Ms

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
52 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry


"Do the helicopter thing with your cock. Works every time."
every. Single. Time!

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

When you get chatting, compliment her. Something nice and genuine if possible. Then if you're interested in sex with her find a way to let her know. ( again not "I want to ruin your pussy" unless she has just requested that of you explicitly)

Then give them some space to discuss. I'm going for a drink, happy to swing back if you'd like etc.

If they're interestedthey might say do you want to find a room or they might ask you to come back.

Just one way of many.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

Just chat and be friendly as you would normally in the pub. The vibes and signals should be clear enough either way.. a few drinks fair helps with the inhibitions or initial nerves but don't get d*unk, obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago


"Drop her some compliments, bit of flattery and see where that goes.

Swear to God the amount of guys we chat to that wander off and she says “I have no idea if he fancies me”"

They all fancy you ! Gorgeous ! X lol

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By *ragon007Man
52 weeks ago

london

Chatting does work but it’s nice when you get picked out of 29 lol

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
52 weeks ago

Tamworth

Literally just chat! Add in flirty lines.

Personally, I'm more attracted to guys that also speak properly to the Mr, include him in conversations. Don't be afraid to be abit silly and have a dance etc.

At clubs though, I like guys to ask the Mr if he thinks I'm interested in play. Each guy who we've hooked up with had a quiet word with him in the bathroom, outside etc... just a quick "do you think she's interested?" (He knows when I am lol and I've usually told him or given him the code, we have little codes to eachother for alsorts of things in clubs). Then ask about our dynamic, stops any unwanted surprises.

Roll with how it's going and enjoy the club as if it was any other bar/club/pub

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By *ndypandy69Man
52 weeks ago

Telford

Be polite... respect personal space...a casual compliment re dress or look.. response will determine what's next. Body language indicates interest. Remember chatting to a couple in jacuzzi at Chams - general light-hearted chat, then she stretched and her breasts were visible above the water..I was facing her and jokingly said I struggled to concentrate with that view in front of me and she said well if you come and sit next to me you won't have that distraction. I swapped places with hubby and next thing I knew her hand was around my cock...she was much younger and beautiful, but keeping it light-hearted and non pushy meant I hot the jackpot. See too many ladies spooked by pushy guys who then call them prick teasers!!

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By *i3188Man
52 weeks ago

Just outside Spalding

Easy …… WAIT to be asked or encouraged to join them .

Pretty obvious really !!

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By *eddfmyd11Man
52 weeks ago

Towcester


"Literally just chat! Add in flirty lines. "

That's what I'm not good at - no idea how to flirt and I've only ever got with people if they approached me

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By *entleman JayMan
52 weeks ago

Wakefield

I haven’t been as a single guy in a lot of years. When I did go as a single, I used to do that very old fashioned thing. I talked to them. lol.

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By *entleman JayMan
52 weeks ago

Wakefield

I wouldn’t spend too long talking. They may not be interested in single guys at all.

I’d say, “I’ve enjoyed meeting you tonight, if you are looking for a single guy I will be around later”

Then I’d leave them too it. I wouldn’t want them to feel uncomfortable by hovering around for too long.

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By *entleman JayMan
52 weeks ago

Wakefield

I once started dancing with a hotwife. Her husband wasn’t interested in dancing. She invited me to play later.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I’ve only been to a club once as a solo male and I shit my pants on that occasion

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By *eddfmyd11Man
51 weeks ago

Towcester


"I’ve only been to a club once as a solo male and I shit my pants on that occasion "

I've only ever been as a single male, I don't have anyone else to go with

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By *udandBryanCouple
51 weeks ago

Boston

We prefer guys to introduce themselves and - if they're interested - just ask outright.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago


"I wouldn’t spend too long talking. They may not be interested in single guys at all.

I’d say, “I’ve enjoyed meeting you tonight, if you are looking for a single guy I will be around later”

Then I’d leave them too it. I wouldn’t want them to feel uncomfortable by hovering around for too long. "

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
51 weeks ago

Back of the bins.

Make sure you chat to people in the early part of the evening and if you then approach a couple whilst they’re playing make sure that they are both aware you’re doing it. A couple of times Frankie has been going down on Kitty, she has got her eyes closed, the guy has got really close to whisper in her ear and it’s made her jump. Frankie has had no idea this has happened and it’s caused them to assume someone has overstepped and they have reacted defensively!

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