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By *arry and Megs OP   Couple
over a year ago

letterkenny

We've been to a few socials and clubs and met and played with some fantastic people.

Our biggest problem is that when we meet a couple we really fancy we usually wind up talking until the early hours and by the time we get to the playrooms we're all ready to sleep lol

It's not that we're shy, we have no problem approaching people and starting conversations but we are shit at reading if they want to take it further and possibly don't want to make ourselves look stupid.

Is it just us or does everyone have the same problem ? We've met some seemingly experienced couples and almost stumbled into bed as they haven't been confident either but afterwards we invariably agree we should have had the sex first and the drinks after lol ?

Help ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been to a few socials and clubs and met and played with some fantastic people.

Our biggest problem is that when we meet a couple we really fancy we usually wind up talking until the early hours and by the time we get to the playrooms we're all ready to sleep lol

It's not that we're shy, we have no problem approaching people and starting conversations but we are shit at reading if they want to take it further and possibly don't want to make ourselves look stupid.

Is it just us or does everyone have the same problem ? We've met some seemingly experienced couples and almost stumbled into bed as they haven't been confident either but afterwards we invariably agree we should have had the sex first and the drinks after lol ?

Help ......"

We did have this problem initially and then we decided to just be more direct. We now just cut to the chase and see if they fancy a play.

Another couple we met on fab also challenged us to spot them in a club and without a word, walk up and snog them. Think within 5 minutes of being in the club the clothes were off and the fun in full swing.

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By *arry and Megs OP   Couple
over a year ago

letterkenny


"We've been to a few socials and clubs and met and played with some fantastic people.

Our biggest problem is that when we meet a couple we really fancy we usually wind up talking until the early hours and by the time we get to the playrooms we're all ready to sleep lol

It's not that we're shy, we have no problem approaching people and starting conversations but we are shit at reading if they want to take it further and possibly don't want to make ourselves look stupid.

Is it just us or does everyone have the same problem ? We've met some seemingly experienced couples and almost stumbled into bed as they haven't been confident either but afterwards we invariably agree we should have had the sex first and the drinks after lol ?

Help ......

We did have this problem initially and then we decided to just be more direct. We now just cut to the chase and see if they fancy a play.

Another couple we met on fab also challenged us to spot them in a club and without a word, walk up and snog them. Think within 5 minutes of being in the club the clothes were off and the fun in full swing."

I (Mr ) told Mrs we need to set a timer and if it goes off then it's yes or no time lol

She's not in agreement lol

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

I typically give it until the conversation meets that “will we or won’t we” point, 30 min or so then say, we’re grabbing a room, fancy joining us. If the answer is we’ll find you in a bit, everyone has an easy out, if they come it’s game time.

we’ve never had the former, but it gives all parties the opportunity to move on with their night.

Xx

K

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By *etro manMan
over a year ago

manchester

Hi how about asking if the people you’re interested in asking them if they are interested in finding a quiet area somewhere and ask if they want to get comfortable or say the sauna jacuzzi etc but but maybe go naked you would know if the guys are interested lol girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been to a few socials and clubs and met and played with some fantastic people.

Our biggest problem is that when we meet a couple we really fancy we usually wind up talking until the early hours and by the time we get to the playrooms we're all ready to sleep lol

It's not that we're shy, we have no problem approaching people and starting conversations but we are shit at reading if they want to take it further and possibly don't want to make ourselves look stupid.

Is it just us or does everyone have the same problem ? We've met some seemingly experienced couples and almost stumbled into bed as they haven't been confident either but afterwards we invariably agree we should have had the sex first and the drinks after lol ?

Help ......"

Think this might get more responses if it was in the swinging help and advice section, or the swingers club section

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By *arry and Megs OP   Couple
over a year ago

letterkenny


"We've been to a few socials and clubs and met and played with some fantastic people.

Our biggest problem is that when we meet a couple we really fancy we usually wind up talking until the early hours and by the time we get to the playrooms we're all ready to sleep lol

It's not that we're shy, we have no problem approaching people and starting conversations but we are shit at reading if they want to take it further and possibly don't want to make ourselves look stupid.

Is it just us or does everyone have the same problem ? We've met some seemingly experienced couples and almost stumbled into bed as they haven't been confident either but afterwards we invariably agree we should have had the sex first and the drinks after lol ?

Help ......

Think this might get more responses if it was in the swinging help and advice section, or the swingers club section "

I just realised that a minute ago lol

Maybe admin can move it

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just ask.

We've always asked or been asked outright... "do you want to play?", "do you want to join us in X room?" Etc. It's not a big thing, if you're in a club, asmuch as most just go for drinks, socials etc there is also the small expectation that play might happen. So it's best to just to clear with your intentions, everyone knows where they stand and if you're met with "maybe later" type responses, you've kinda got your answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been to a few socials and clubs and met and played with some fantastic people.

Our biggest problem is that when we meet a couple we really fancy we usually wind up talking until the early hours and by the time we get to the playrooms we're all ready to sleep lol

It's not that we're shy, we have no problem approaching people and starting conversations but we are shit at reading if they want to take it further and possibly don't want to make ourselves look stupid.

Is it just us or does everyone have the same problem ? We've met some seemingly experienced couples and almost stumbled into bed as they haven't been confident either but afterwards we invariably agree we should have had the sex first and the drinks after lol ?

Help ......"

This is the virus forum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I typically give it until the conversation meets that “will we or won’t we” point, 30 min or so then say, we’re grabbing a room, fancy joining us. If the answer is we’ll find you in a bit, everyone has an easy out, if they come it’s game time.

we’ve never had the former, but it gives all parties the opportunity to move on with their night.

Xx

K"

Ooooo I like that !!!

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By *andMXXXXCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"We've been to a few socials and clubs and met and played with some fantastic people.

Our biggest problem is that when we meet a couple we really fancy we usually wind up talking until the early hours and by the time we get to the playrooms we're all ready to sleep lol

It's not that we're shy, we have no problem approaching people and starting conversations but we are shit at reading if they want to take it further and possibly don't want to make ourselves look stupid.

Is it just us or does everyone have the same problem ? We've met some seemingly experienced couples and almost stumbled into bed as they haven't been confident either but afterwards we invariably agree we should have had the sex first and the drinks after lol ?

Help ......

We did have this problem initially and then we decided to just be more direct. We now just cut to the chase and see if they fancy a play.

Another couple we met on fab also challenged us to spot them in a club and without a word, walk up and snog them. Think within 5 minutes of being in the club the clothes were off and the fun in full swing."

You’re welcome looooool xx

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

It sounds to me as though you’re the sort of people who like to go with the flow and let things happen naturally rather than trying to force a situation which I think is a cool way to be and how I tend to live my life to be honest.

You’re obviously very good company if it’s common for couples to want to spend a long time chatting with you so you should see that as a positive rather than a negative. I’m sure the sex is a lot better after taking the time to get to know each other properly and getting comfortable with each other than it would have been if you’d have spoken for a short period and rushed into having sex too soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find that if people are engaging with you for long periods of time in a club environment then they're intersted.

I would honestly just maybe be a little more direct, reach out be flirty etc with your chat. If that doesn't work then simply ask if they would like to come to a room with you.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been to a few socials and clubs and met and played with some fantastic people.

Our biggest problem is that when we meet a couple we really fancy we usually wind up talking until the early hours and by the time we get to the playrooms we're all ready to sleep lol

It's not that we're shy, we have no problem approaching people and starting conversations but we are shit at reading if they want to take it further and possibly don't want to make ourselves look stupid.

Is it just us or does everyone have the same problem ? We've met some seemingly experienced couples and almost stumbled into bed as they haven't been confident either but afterwards we invariably agree we should have had the sex first and the drinks after lol ?

Help ......

We did have this problem initially and then we decided to just be more direct. We now just cut to the chase and see if they fancy a play.

Another couple we met on fab also challenged us to spot them in a club and without a word, walk up and snog them. Think within 5 minutes of being in the club the clothes were off and the fun in full swing.

You’re welcome looooool xx "

Haha, amazing game, so glad you suggested it and let us play!

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By *arry and Megs OP   Couple
over a year ago

letterkenny

Thanks all xx

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