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By *sus82 OP   Man
over a year ago

do people get and how do people deal with anxiety when attending a club ,

as a single male i find it really nervous going to a club by myself , i didnt attend an event purely because my nerves got the better of me , one on one meets im fine... its the larger group meets i struggle with ...

i know i should just get on with it and go but does anyone have any tips or suggestions

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Go to club's more and the nerves will lessen. The more you do something the less nervous you'll be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many men seem to have a huge issue with this.

If I i as a single female can do it surely you can. It's like anything the more you do it the easier it becomes.

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By *sus82 OP   Man
over a year ago


"So many men seem to have a huge issue with this.

If I i as a single female can do it surely you can. It's like anything the more you do it the easier it becomes. "

i get that, it will become easier , plus also as a single female you are usually welcome everywhere e, thanks to certain males , i feel we can get tarnished with the same brush ... i guess the grass is always greener on the other side , i was just hoping someone else would have the same experience.

i mean i really wanted to go but i got halfway there and bottled it as i thought i would walk in and just stand there

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By *sus82 OP   Man
over a year ago


"Go to club's more and the nerves will lessen. The more you do something the less nervous you'll be."

yeah i get that and the first step is the hardest, i find major public areas difficult etc

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By *olaTvEssexTV/TS
over a year ago

Essex

I go to clubs on my own the nerves are a buzz. Best advice go with expectations, treat it as a social occasion like going for a drink in a pub.

When you think about it what is there to actually be nervous about?

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

Just go, and chat to people say, hello, introduce yourself, everyone in there was a newbie once, let them know it is your first time (if going on the tour didn’t give it a way).

Everyone will know what you are going through.

Also talk to the staff, be friendly both to the men and the women, they may be able to point you in the direction of friendly people or people who may like you.

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By *ixiekissesWoman
over a year ago

Happy place


"do people get and how do people deal with anxiety when attending a club ,

as a single male i find it really nervous going to a club by myself , i didnt attend an event purely because my nerves got the better of me , one on one meets im fine... its the larger group meets i struggle with ...

i know i should just get on with it and go but does anyone have any tips or suggestions "

I think if you are seeing it as "a larger group meet" rather than a social night out and see what happens, it isn't helping you.

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