FabSwingers.com forum: Group Fun Vibe Killers

By *f ya want OP Man
over a year ago

Rothwell

Has anyone experienced this? Over the years at clubs, there have been a few occasions where someone (usually a single male, or male half of the couple) has ruined the vibe of an orgy by making a cheesy commentary of the proceedings.

Once had a guy who sounded like Alan Partridge, going "oh yes, look at those wonderful breasts, twist the nipples and turn them from brown to red, oh yes" in a Partridge voice

And also the times where there's just too many puns, and it ends up feeling like a carry on sketch. I totally understand that a bit of humour is crucial in making the female(s) present feel a bit more comfortable, but when it goes overboard it's a bit of a passion killer.

I'm bi, and also visit gay saunas. There is such a huge difference in vibe between swinging clubs and saunas. There is almost no dialogue at all at saunas, just straight up action, which sometimes can feel a bit too cold. I guess I want something in the middle lol.

Have you got any stories of group fun being tainted by one of the attendees?

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Yep, quite a few... Though not spoiled by the attendees, just by-standers.

Most recent ones:

1) me and my partner were playing on a bed at a club, bed that is very centrally located and has sofas on both sides of it so people can watch. There was a man sitting on one of the sofas who decides to discuss his experience in European clubs, in plenty of details, with a couple sitting near him. This club does have a very good social area where you can discuss those things.

2) same as in 1, me and my partner were playing on the bed when we heard noises coming from a corner of the club. It was a very loud male voice humiliating guys wanting to fuck his partner- along the lines of "you're not man enough to fuck her" etc. I get that people have different kinks, but I am sure half the club could hear him! My partner calls him "The Director" and we avoid him as much as we can.

Also really loud sex noises are off-putting for me. Again, I get that some people are loud when they cum, but there is loud as in throws of orgasm and there is loud as "look at me, I'm having such a fantastic time". Most of the time it's very easy to tell who is who.

On the topic of saunas- I used to go to a sauna near me as I enjoy watching bi men, but I hated the fact there was expectation to play without even saying "hi".

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By *f ya want OP Man
over a year ago

Rothwell

On the topic of saunas- I used to go to a sauna near me as I enjoy watching bi men, but I hated the fact there was expectation to play without even saying "hi". "

Was that the Greenhouse by any chance?

Yes I agree with the loud shaggers, the main culprits always seem to be in a private room.

With regards to the fella talking about European clubs, at least he was talking about something related to swinging, and not IKEA or Homebare or something I guess

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, it was Greenhouse but the one in Luton, not Darlaston.

And that's true, they could have been discussing what they are having for Christmas dinner or similar.

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By *andW4funCouple
over a year ago

Kent

We have wondered whether this is like a weird way people are protecting themselves against a more intense and wonderful experience— like they are scared of it and so instead start pretending they are on a Benny Hill sketch….or like it would be safer suddenly to discuss double glazing or their mortgage…

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By *f ya want OP Man
over a year ago

Rothwell

"We have wondered whether this is like a weird way people are protecting themselves against a more intense and wonderful experience— like they are scared of it and so instead start pretending they are on a Benny Hill sketch….or like it would be safer suddenly to discuss double glazing or their mortgage…"

Lol glad I wasn't the only one thinking this! As I said, a little bit of humour is fine to make everyone at ease, but when it feels like the 2 Ronnie's I do lose some hardness lol

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Yep exactly this with some people. "Humour" is a deflection protection mechanism.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

One thing I've seen a few times is the group vibe being severely dampened, if not killed, by one lady out of several obviously making it about her and wanting to be the centre of attention. Perhaps moaning or squirting over and over and talking like it's a competition or even before play at a house party talking like she is an expert on every single topic that comes up. Can just see other ladies gradually leaving her to it and going elsewhere.

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