FabSwingers.com forum: Attending club as a single M

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello Fab sexy people

I have been to VA a few times with my ex partner and want to visit again potentially to see if I can find someone who might be interested in me (dating)

Do you think it’s a good idea ? Would it work? Is club the right place for this ?

Lastly a request, would someone partner up with me so that I am not sitting there alone. I find it hard to start a conversation but once welcomed I can manage

By *f ya wantMan
over a year ago

Rothwell

I don't think this is a good idea. It does happen but I think its very rare!

By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

A club can be a good place to meet a club-going partner (it worked for me, and a fair number of other people I know). But I wouldn't go there with the intention of finding someone. Go because it's it's a good place to be, enjoy the company of the other people there, and let whatever happens happen.

Also, I would suggest not going with someone else. When I was going on my own, I was forced to make the effort and talk with other people. That effort paid off, and not just in the boost to my confidence in learning that I could. If you've got someone already, and think you can't be sociable on your own, it's too easy to be lazy.

By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

On my own experience single women attending clubs are not interested on finding a partner or boyfriend. They enjoy the freedom to socialise and play to whoever they want without the constraints of being attached to a man. Having said that you never know, but in your case I would have very low expectations.

By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

OP, when I go to a club on my own (hardly ever as I don't drive), I am not looking to meet someone there for a relationship, I'm going to have fun. And I'm quite sure I'm not the only one like that.

Also, I find VA quite difficult on the socializing front. The music at the bar has been way too loud on a few occasions I have been there, and the play areas (maybe with the exception of the hot tub) are not ideal places to have a chat with someone.

On the subject of "pairing up with someone"- I get the struggling to start conversations but in my opinion, it would be even harder for you to strike a conversation with someone else if you have company. Bite the bullet and go on your own? One problem, though- as far as I'm aware, VA is at capacity for single men membership, there might be a waiting list.