You could go to a club 100 miles away and meet those you hoped to avoid as they had the same thought.
You could be local or at the distant club and all is well and suddenly half way through the night in walks...
Then comes the issue of going somewhere miles away .... how do you explain your night away to the family opposed to a few hours away....
To myself, as a single person this all seems very stressful indeed.
I think in your position I'd consider having that long overdue discussion at home as to whether or not to keep the family unit intact for the kids but as adults, both give each other space to pursue your own lives....I know of such arrangements that work.
What makes me wonder about the "awkward encounters" with friends, neighbours etc. is the fact that should they mention anything, are they then not also "confessing" their "naughtiness" too?
To be honest, if it worries you that much I guess you will have to knock the one or other on the head or have a frank conversation with your wife.
As has already quite rightly been pointed out, just imagine bumping into your wife, even better, 200 miles from home!
Whilst you stew over this and carry on with it fearfully, how about being clear as what to do "if the unthinkable happens"? I guess that is essentially the purpose of your post. A general "brainstorming" session.
As such, my immediate advice would be act normal. If and when you bump into "Fred and Wima", lol, why not break the ice with something full frontal like,
"Hey, great to see you here. I wish I'd known, you could have given me some advice as to the event nights...."
....or some other completely matter of fact small talk....
How on earth are they going to make things public about you without incriminating themselves?
Sorry to not being able to help more, as I say, myself being single, this is one thing I never have to think about, that said, meeting the boss might be daunting, there again, me being my own boss there's no issue....unless I look in the mirror and see myself. Lol.
Maybe that is what you need to do, look at yourself and evaluate what is ultimately more important for yourself.
Either that or think of how to deal with certain groups of folk you fear bumping into.
One of the main reasons I have repeatedly left relationships and found myself single is that I have unfortunately only ever found ladies I had feelings for yet unfortunately they weren't happy with my lifestyle. Ultimately, I have made the decision or rather the ladies concerned made it for me by not being prepared to accept my life style. Yeah, "life style choices".
One thing on my mind is that your lack of photos - which is self explanatory - makes it obvious to others that you are playing without consent, that is of course unless you claim you cannot show your identity due to your work.....but hey....I am now digressing and that is another topic for another thread.....
Good luck. I understand you...but only to a point. Without intentionally ending on a negative, from my personal experience and observations, there is never a "perfect crime", you can be as careful as you want, plan ahead (remember my advice ? "oh, fancy seeing you here, let's have a drink....") and think things through meticulously, unfortunately it's most often the most silly thing that catches us out... something totally unrelated can lead to a chain of unbelievable events.
MY advice. Totally "ME/MINE" and bear in mind I don't actually know what you have to lose in material and emotional values, I would have a really frank discussion with your wife.
What can happen...you lose out or she accepts, or the marriage and sex life picks up! So many possible outcomes and not bad.
I hope this helps alongside all the other advice and opinions.  |
