FabSwingers.com forum: Jaydees on bi-nights...?

By *tsJustUs2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Bury St. Edmunds

I had a quick scan of previous chats and couldn't find anything relating to this specifically. So what's it like on a bi night? We have only been on a Saturday and it's always busy. Does it get busy? I (male) am not bi - but my wife is curious and likes to dabble, so will this ostracise us as a couple?

Do many straight couples go?

Will there be other

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

If you look up Spicy's bi night, more may come up

I go regularly, used to go with now former friends, but now go with my straight partner. We very much enjoy the atmosphere of the bi night, and I very much enjoy watching some bi male play. My partner is only into women, but he is bi-friendly, doesn't mind seeing male on male action.

However, I cannot stress enough, Spicy's bi night is geared towards bi and bi-curious men rather than women as women can play bi on any club night, whereas bi male play is usually frowned upon on a typical night. Therefore, if bi male play is something you would rather not witness, I'd advise against going to a bi night. But if you, like my partner, are bi-friendly, then you will be welcome.

We find the atmosphere of those parties to be very relaxed.

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By *oppingcandieCouple
over a year ago

Huntingdon Peterborough

Hi op not quite a true reflection as bi male play is not frowned upon on normal club night's jaydees has always and will always be an inclusive club

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Hi op not quite a true reflection as bi male play is not frowned upon on normal club night's jaydees has always and will always be an inclusive club

I did not mean by the club, I meant by some (minority!) club goers. Sometimes I have seen (in a few different clubs) people not being happy with male on male play even on a specific bi event

. I guess you just can't help some people...

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By *luefire2Couple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here

We want to try the bi night at Jaydees so will give ut a go in November.

Other bi nights we have attended haven't really been that "bi". Husband is a genuine bi guy and we really want to find a club where it is actually bi, not single straight guys pretending to be bi.

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

"Hi op not quite a true reflection as bi male play is not frowned upon on normal club night's jaydees has always and will always be an inclusive club

I did not mean by the club, I meant by some (minority!) club goers. Sometimes I have seen (in a few different clubs) people not being happy with male on male play even on a specific bi event

. I guess you just can't help some people... "

We've been at a club on a bi night where a couple complained that there male on male play and they didn't want to see 'that sort of thing'. I'm guessing they didn't do their research before attending.

Bi night at JayDees is really good. Tbh any night at JayDees is really good

Ms x

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By *alladegaMan
over a year ago

Huntingdon

"We want to try the bi night at Jaydees so will give ut a go in November.

Other bi nights we have attended haven't really been that "bi". Husband is a genuine bi guy and we really want to find a club where it is actually bi, not single straight guys pretending to be bi."

You should absolutely try Jaydee's Spicy bi night then.

No-ones pretending there

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

In a scene where women are often assumed bi until proven otherwise every night is kind of bi night for women. So bi nights generally translate to bi men nights. They are in reality mainly aimed at setting an environment were openly male on male action is normal and you can reasonably make the assumption that the guys in are gay or bi. Naturally with some of the attitudes and norms still on the scene its lovely for bi guys and bi guy couples to have a space where they can safely and openly indulge in their desires in a supportive environment.

As a rule of thumb bi nights are for couples who are both bi or one is bi and the other bi supportive/freindly (I.e. is supportive and not bothered by any same sex action). So as long as the male in a couple has no problems being close to and seeing male on male action and is OK with potentially being approached by males I'm sure you be OK to visit. If Mrs would feel more comfortable at a specific bi event with other females I get that too. However ask is this the best night for you as a straight male bi female couple when female same sex action is normalised and supported any night?

I think there is a concern with bi nights that if too many straight male couples attend it has the potential to affect the vibe and thus the enjoyment and sense of freedom for the bi and gay guys attending. So I sort of understand why someone people may be dubious of any straight males attending. However I'm sure most are fine as long as your behaviour and attitude is freindly, supportive and totally unphased.

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